Grace Flannery
1951 - 2020
M. Grace Flannery
April 22, 1951 - October 3, 2020
Grace Flannery passed away October 3, 2020 in Novato California with her wife by her side. A long-time social activist and leadership coach, Grace was loved and admired by friends, family, and colleagues throughout the world. Her highly successful practice was built entirely on word-of-mouth as clients would share appreciation for the great skill and empathy Grace utilized to help them develop "unlikely allies", successfully navigate serious challenges, and create equitable, impactful organizations.

Grace began her career in the physical sciences but her passion for fairness led her to shift her focus to the social justice arena, including civil rights, women's rights, LGBTQ rights, inclusion of people with disabilities in the workplace, and more. Grace founded her company Leading Spirit in 2001 to bring services to leaders in non-profit and public benefit organizations. More recently, she also co-founded Quantum Culture, whose model of Power and Privilege represents a bold new approach to diversity, inclusion and belonging.

Grace is the fourth of ten siblings and treasured being part of two large clans, her father's Flannery family and the Lesperance family on her mother's side. Although born in Michigan, she spent most of her youth in New York and has kept in close touch with family and friends through many gatherings, visits, and reunions. One of Grace's greatest joys was to be reunited in 1999 with the daughter that she had given up for adoption and to see her incorporated into the family. They formed a close and loving relationship that grew to include a grandson in 2009.

After receiving her master's degree in physical chemistry from the University of Illinois at Urbana, she moved to California and spent the remainder of her life living in the San Francisco bay area, where she met her wife, Glenda Humiston. They were married in October 2008 at their home in Novato. Grace and Glenda loved to host friends and family for cozy visits as well as large parties and blended together a diverse array of communities. Grace's ready humor, joy of life and caring soul were a magnet for friends and colleagues from many walks of life.

In addition to her work as a Professional Certified Coach, Grace volunteered for many organizations. Of those she particularly found deep meaning and personal fulfillment working with birth mothers through the On Your Feet Foundation, which she recently helped to transform into MPower Alliance. In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made to: Other options Grace supported include her work with the LGBTQ+ community through or to Planned Parenthood:

Grace was preceded in death by her parents and brother Paul. She is survived by two brothers and six sisters, her wife, Glenda, her daughter, Meghan Mahoney and grandson Griffin, as well as numerous nieces, nephews, and cousins. Various virtual celebrations of Grace's life will be held the last week of October by the different communities she belonged to and a more permanent memorial will be announced at a later date.
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You were accepting, loving,and Kind and I will miss you.
Your warm smile and kind heart are what will be remembered most.
November 11, 2020
I loved having you as my coaching teacher Grace. Your spirit lives on in my heart. God speed. Love, Laura
Laura Fenamore
November 3, 2020
Dear Glenda and family,
sending my condolences for your loss of such a beautiful person and activist. Grace was a moving voice in birthmom's rights and fight for support and recognition and she is truly missed. It was an honor to serve with her on the OYFF committees and board. I'm sending my thoughts and a big hug to Glenda who also stood right beside Grace in her honor and steadfast attention to us birthmom's especially the 'Seasoned Sistas'
Konami Chisholm
konami chisholm
October 26, 2020
Dear Glenda and family, My husband, Neil, and I were some of your/her loving eclectic community. Our marriage a year and a half ago @ 77 and 78 was influenced by her work with us. Such a loss she is to us and our daughter and their professional alliance with Grace in the CO human services world. You have our deepest sympathy as our grief over her loss likely pales in contrast to you and others. How blessed we all are to have known dear Grace.
Ginny Storjohann Scarlett
October 12, 2020
Dear Glenda, my deepest condolences. I am greatly saddened to hear of our beautiful Grace's passing. She was the best, a true a gem, and a cherished friend to me. We bonded over her kitties, wine, backgammon, cheese, fabulous steaks and veggies and endless other things. She was a true friend who always had an open ear when we talked for hours, and she always gave me her honest, caring opinions.

Glenda, you are in my thoughts and when you are up for it, let's get together and reminisce about the joys of our dearest Grace.

My heartfelt condolences to Meghan and Griffin too. I know you two meant the world to Grace.

xo Faith xo
I've added a few photos from your wedding day. I hope they can be seen alright.
~Remember, all the happy memories of your time with Grace will always be with you. ~
October 10, 2020
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