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Sharon Robin Kaufman
Sharon Robin Kaufman, 73, died peacefully in her home in San Anselmo, CA on April 2, 2022. Sharon was born at Mt. Zion Hospital in San Francisco in 1948 to Dr. Bernard Kaufman, a person of note in the San Francisco medical and Jewish communities, and Shirley Kaufman, a world-renowned poet. After graduating from Lowell in 1966, Sharon received her undergraduate degree in Anthropology from UC Berkeley, followed by a master's degree from the University of London. Sharon would become one of the first PhD candidates from a joint UCSF/UC Berkeley program in the burgeoning field of Medical Anthropology. Her dissertation became her debut book, The Ageless Self (1986), which, after being reviewed positively on the front page of the Sunday edition of the New York Times Book Review, launched her distinguished career. Sharon was a brilliant writer of medical narrative following in the style of Oliver Sacks, authoring three more books – The Healer's Tale (1993), …And a Time to Die (2005), and Ordinary Medicine (2015) – and countless published articles tackling such subjects as the changing culture of U.S. medicine, aging and end-of-life, and the medical-industrial complex. Sharon was a Professor Emerita of Medical Anthropology at UCSF and Chair of the Department of Anthropology, History and Social Medicine. She served on the Ethics Committee of UCSF Medical School. As part of her work, Dr. Kaufman (her professional title, which she insisted nobody use) flew to major cities on five continents to give standing room only lectures in some of the world's largest university auditoriums. She mentored hundreds of students and influenced thousands of practitioners in the medical profession, and became widely recognized as one of the world's foremost experts in her field.
Sharon's vocational achievements were eclipsed only by her family life. In 1972, she married Seth Kaufman (no relation), a commercial real estate broker with midwestern charm, who wooed her by writing her a letter every day while she was studying in England. She didn't reply every day, but in an apocryphal anecdote, she penned Seth the line "I love you more than chocolate itself". Her daughter Sarah was born in 1978, and her son Jacob followed in 1981. While the family would make trips together to New York, Israel, France, and Italy, Sharon's most treasured vacation memories were forged just a couple of hours north up the coast at Sea Ranch where the family spent 40 years' worth of Thanksgiving and summer breaks counting starfish and collecting seashells. She loved nature; on any given weekend she could be found on the myriad hiking trails in Marin County. A perfect day for Sharon was walking around Lagunitas Lake or summiting Mt. Tam, accompanied by a friend or four with whom she would discuss life's most fascinating mysteries, with a bar of dark chocolate in her hip pocket.
She died as she had lived: with dignity, class, and surrounded by loving family.
In addition to Seth, Sarah (husband Avrami), and Jacob (wife Marlese), Sharon is survived by her sisters Rabia van Hattum and Deborah Kaufman, her grandsons Benjamin (age 13) and Lev (age one), and a bevy of nieces, nephews, first cousins, second cousins, third cousins, and chosen family members, all of whom she deeply adored.
The family will be doing a private graveside service. If you would like to honor Sharon, please consider remembering her by donating to the Gay Becker and Sharon Kaufman Memorial Fund, UCSF Department of Humanities and Social Sciences, Campus Box 0850, 490 Illinois St., Floor 7, San Francisco, CA 94143.

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Published by San Francisco Chronicle from Apr. 4 to Apr. 8, 2022.

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Lisa Harris Fehling

December 29, 2024

I am so sorry to hear about this-two years afterwards. I was a very young girl when I was offered a position in the Kaufman household to occasionally watch over a three year old Sarah in exchange for a basement room in Noe Valley of SF. Seth and Sharon were a hugely loving force in my life at that time. Jacob just born. Sharon struggling with her PHD, but on the verge and knew so freaking much about aging. Seth a successful real estate agent. I moved on and, you know how life is, 45 years go by like that. So sad we weren´t able to reconnect over the years. Sharon was a wealth of knowledge in my life.

Tarrin Dougery

April 11, 2022

I will miss Sharon and spending time with her twice a week, for years on the tennis court. She would always say...."I´m just so happy to be here!" She truly appreciated life and movement so much. She always talked about hikes with her grandson, Sea Ranch every year with her family, and her excitement for writing and all of her lovely friends and colleagues she reconnected with that inspired her. I miss our tennis and our conversations Sharon....I enjoyed them so much.

Janelle Taylor

April 6, 2022

As one among many whose lives were enriched by her brilliance, kindness, and lively interest in the world, I will miss Sharon enormously. I will hold her memory close, as a shining example for how to be as a scholar, a teacher, and a person. Her memory surely is a blessing. My sincere condolences to the family.

Kira Foster

April 5, 2022

Sharon was a kind and encouraging mentor to me and many other graduate students. Her classroom was a safe, welcoming space for real discussion and learning. I always thought I'd get to have another conversation with her. May her memory be for a blessing.

Hanna Rifkin

April 5, 2022

I have fond memories of hiking with Sharon, and the excitement when she would share the dark chocolate she'd carried to the top of the mountain with the group. It is an honor to have been in her life.

Anne Rosenthal

April 4, 2022

Sincere condolences to Sharon's family. Sharon was a towering figure in the field of medical anthropology as well as a warm and generous human. She will be dearly missed.

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