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Stephen Rarig

1951 - 2024

Stephen Rarig obituary, 1951-2024, Cayucos, CA

BORN

1951

DIED

2024

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Stephen Rarig Obituary

Stephen Rarig
04/21/1951 - 07/28/2024
Stephen Joseph Rarig, aka Baño
April 21, 1951-July 28, 2024
If you had met Steve Rarig, well, you never would have forgotten him. He had a way of filling the room with his loud laughter and boisterous words from the moment he walked in. Truly, Steve was one of those people who "never met a stranger." He had the happiest blue eyes and they lit up the most when in the presence of any of his grandchildren, who meant the world to him, as he meant the world to them.
Steve grew up on the same street as most of his cousins in Lafayette, California, which made for a fun and memorable childhood. The Rarig's spent many summers at the family cabin on the Truckee River in North Lake Tahoe, near the Olympic Valley. Lifelong friendships developed with neighboring Von Der Ahe and Kudrna families as Steve and his siblings spent their days playing on the river, enjoying their own swimming hole, fishing, kayaking and hiking places like Big Chief, Shirley Lake, and Painted Rock. In winter, the family returned to the cabin, where they built makeshift ski runs on the mountainside, nurturing their love for downhill skiing. Throughout the years, these rich family traditions carry on allowing the younger generations to bond with past generations.
Steve was a mischievous child, and his antics often got him into trouble. One incident involved throwing a banana peel at his Spanish teacher, which led his parents to enroll him in De La Salle, an all boys Christian Brothers high school. After graduation, Steve attended UCSB, where he earned a bachelor's degree in Geography while also pursuing his next outdoor passion-surfing. During college he formed lasting friendships with his roommates, sharing memories of surfing and hiking in the mountains behind Santa Barbara. He remained close with John Ritter, Dave Seifer, and Bill Koch, friends who continued to gather each year to spend time at the famous surfing spot, Cardon, Mexico. It was here that Steve acquired his favorite nickname, Baño, which stuck with him throughout his life.
Surfing brought Steve a sense of serenity and meditation. After college, he and his brother John sojourned to Switzerland to learn the technique of Transcendental Meditation from the Maharishi Mahesh Yogi. They returned to the U.S. with the knowledge to teach others this meditation technique. Steve was deeply spiritual and faithfully started out each morning with meditation to keep him calm and grounded. Upon returning to the states, Steve and his elder brother John started working for their father Jack, who managed Moran Pipe and Supply, a wholesale plumbing supply business and building warehouses serving parts of California and Nevada. This career path led the brothers to the surfing town of Cayucos, California.
Steve was loyal, generous, hardworking, fair, and honest – traits that helped him build a successful commercial construction company, Rarig Construction, with his brother John in the early 1970's. A few years later, they were joined by their younger brothers, Nick and Chris Rarig. Rarig Construction remains a thriving business to this day helping shape the central coast, which was a source of great pride for Steve. When Steve retired in March 2021, his son Stephen became a partner in the company alongside Chris Rarig and Chris's son, Michael Rarig. Steve was highly respected by those who knew him, including Rarig employees, various local contractors, developers, and officials at the County and City levels, with whom he collaborated on numerous projects.
Steve loved living in Cayucos which he constantly referred to as paradise. He and his then wife, Patricia Facer, raised their three children, Kevin, Kellie and Stephen where they have many fond memories growing up on the ocean. Steve was an amazing father who always attended his kid's school and sporting events. He never passed up a moment to be present in his family's life and show his love and support every step of the way.
In 2004 Steve met his love, who lit up his life, Dawn Borst, and together they have spent twenty wonderful years enjoying their Central Coast lifestyle. After retirement, they traveled to many places, including visiting Dawn's extended family in Denmark, scuba diving in Honduras, Fiji, Hawaii and Catalina Island. They also visited Italy, Croatia, and Ireland, where Steve and Dawn explored the ancestry of his mother's family, the Morans. Always together, Steve and Dawn enjoyed snow skiing, camping, and music festivals, always with an eye on spending time each year with family and friends at the Tahoe Cabin.
Steve had many nicknames but one of his most treasured was 'Papa'. A name that brought him great joy and happiness. Being 'Papa' was a role that he stepped into naturally and fully embraced with his grandchildren.
Steve Rarig passed away at home on July 28, 2024, at the age of 73, from metastatic liver cancer with his family by his side. He is preceded in death by his parents, John and Virginia his siblings John (Laurie Leary), Nick (Tami) and Nancy. He is survived by his life partner, Dawn Borst, sons Kevin Drake and Stephen (Brittney) and daughter Kellie (Dave), grandchildren Nikko, Bradley, Lily, Tristan and Boden, brother Chris (Patti), sisters-in-law Tami (Nick) and Laurie Leary (Dave), as well as many cousins, nieces and nephews.
Steve leaves behind many people who loved him, a smile as big as the moon and Irish eyes that sparkled like the stars.
A private celebration of life will be held, September 28, 2024, at 3:00 pm at their home in Cayucos followed by a paddle-out the next day on September 29, 2024, at the north side of the Cayucos Pier at 9:00 am.

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Published by San Francisco Chronicle on Aug. 22, 2024.

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Alex Cook

September 22, 2024

Baño!

One of the most generous, kind, humble, and delightful humans you could have the privilege of spending time with. He and Dawn treated me like family during my too few visits to Cayucos. He will be soooooo missed. But I´m hoping our paths will cross again, as they did during our surf trips to Cardon, Mexico. Much love to him, Dawn, and the extended Rarig family.

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john ritter

September 17, 2024

Steve ~ Bano
just the Best , Wonderful , Generous, individual you could ever meet . A close friend since the early 70's , we shared so many smiles & adventures riding waves, skiing & snowboarding, hiking &climbing ....
Steve's heart was full of love for family & friends. His love for Dawn just Overflowing ...

All our lives have been totally enriched by knowing this remarkable man.
Thank You my good friend.

A Hui Ho - Until we meet again.
john & kathryn

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Sue Black

August 31, 2024

My husband and I met Steve and Patty in 1999 When we bought the house next door. Then we met Dawn. She was his special person and later the love of his life. They had 20 wonderful years together. I will miss him dearly with his smile, twinkly blue eyes and laugh, He always made you feel welcome. I am right next door should you need some one to talk to, Sincerely Sue Black



















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Barbara Metcalf

August 28, 2024

Barb and Dave Metcalf- we were just getting to know you! Taken too soon! Much love

Bruce and Nancy Badrigian

August 27, 2024

When the Rarig boys moved to Cayucos, I remember how well they fit right in with the rest of us Yahoos. They were hard-working and hard-playing (tennis, basketball, softball, surfing) young men who were competitive, friendly, and fun-loving. Steve soon met Dawn, and I remember being overjoyed that they found each other and began a 20-year romance. Steve´s father Jack and my wife´s (Nancy) father, Jim Doud, played football at St. Mary´s College. Steve´s love of family set an example for all of us, and the Rarig parties were only eclipsed by their generosity and loving spirit. Steve will be missed, remembered, and loved by all of us for a long time.
Bruce and Nancy Badrigian

Teri J Hulbert

August 26, 2024

Dawn, my high school, buddy and longtime friend, you know I share in the pain of Steve´s loss. I love you, my dear friend,

Teri McBroom Willison

August 25, 2024

Steve was always so generous and welcoming, he had a huge warm heart. Truly gone too fast and way too soon.
My heart breaks for the Rarig family and my dear friend Dawn. The emptiness and loss you are going through must be all consuming
I hope you find comfort in sharing with friends and family the fond memories and stories of your time with Steve. Sending heart felt Hugs and tears.

Love you
Teri

Genevieve Jacques

August 25, 2024

I feel so thankful as a close friend of Kellie´s to have grown up knowing Steve and the Rarig family. Endless wonderful memories have been had over the years and I could not be more thankful to have been a part of such a wonderful, loving man and his family So glad I got to visit with Steve and Dawn and Kellie and her family right before the 4th of July.

Ed & Patty Hoffman

August 25, 2024

To Dawn and the Rarig family - we knew Steve through our friendship with Dawn. He was a delight to be around, great smile and laugh, sheer love for his family, Dawn and his friends. So sorry for everyone's loss, gone way to soon.

Brett Tilly

August 24, 2024

I knew Steve through my long-time family friend Dawn. I was lucky enough to know him, share wine, food and great conversations with him while relaxing on the deck taking in the amazing views. He was never short on words, stories and laughter.
I remember Steve getting us all together to take chairs down to main street the day before the Doo Dah Parade.
Steve had a specific spot planned and when we got there he instructed us to put a rope surrounding our chairs to secure our spot.
If you were lucky enough to know Steve, you know why everyone who knew him loved spending time with him.
Steve was truly a great guy and the life of the party.
Rest in peace, you will truly be missed!

Cindy Joslyn

August 23, 2024

Steve was the most memorable character I have ever known. Definitely one of a kind! He will always be missed by the Crazy Eights.

Suzanne Hutchinson

August 23, 2024

I knew the Rarigs growing up in Lafayette. I was the awkward teen friend of Nancy´s! Steve was so kind to me in those years! I remember him very fondly after so many years! Suzanne Sabatte Hutchinson

Frank Johnson

August 23, 2024

Every moment spent with him has been one of a kind. Golfing and fishing together was a rare experience. Never ever forgotten.

Tamara Keene

August 22, 2024

I had the pleasure of working for the Rarig's at their construction company for a total of 8yrs. While I have a place in my heart for all the brothers, Steve was always kind to me and a very fair person. He had a very large personality and will be missed by many. I was very sad to hear of his passing. He is among his brother and sister and mom and dad in heaven. Peace to all of you...gone to soon.

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