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Paula Mettler Obituary
Age 62 of Horseheads, NY passed away on Friday April 18, 2008 at The Arnot Ogden Medical Center after an extended illness. Paula was born in Queens, NY on November 19, 1945 the daughter of the late Paul Edward Phelan and Mary Ann Skiladany Phelan. Paula is survived by her loving and devoted husband Douglas Albert Mettler; daughter: Christina M. Butler & Frank Todzia of Baldwinsville, NY; sons and daughter-in-law: Robert P. Butler of Springfield, Ohio and Andre P. & Tina Phelan of Watertown, NY; sister and brother-in-law: Maria & Alan Benedict of Eastchester, NY; brother: Michael Phelan of Garrison, NY; step-sons and their wives: Mark D. (Diane) Mettler of Dallas, PA, Gregg D. (Margo) Mettler of Quakertown, PA, and Shawn T. (Barbara) Mettler of Stroudsburg, PA; 18 grandchildren; 2 nieces, 3 nephews, several cousins, and a host of caring friends. Mrs. Mettler was a graduate of Queens Vocational High School in Queens, NY. Paula worked for AT & T until she retired in April 1990. Mrs. Mettler wanted to add "what a great life she had, and the reason being, her marriage to Douglas A. Mettler. The many years spent with him opened her eyes; that there could be a person or persons in this world whom could be so compassionate and considerate." During all the trials and tribulations which arose in their marriage, Doug was always there to care for Paula. With such dedication she always said "how lucky she was." At Mrs. Mettler's request there will be no calling hours. Interment will be in Forest Lawn Memorial Park in Elmira, NY at the convenience of the family. Arrangements are entrusted to the Lynch Funeral Home 318 West Broad Street Horseheads, NY.
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for Paula Mettler
Tony Krivitski
April 14, 2023
Yes, I still think of you, Paula. . .same age as my Dad's demise. . .
Kim Skinnell
April 24, 2008
Doug,
I am sorry to hear of Paula's passing. I remember Paula coming in for check ups at Dr. Bowen's office. She was a wonderful person and even when she wasn't feeling well, she always had kind words to say. Just know that she is watching over you now and is healthier than she has ever been.
God Bless!
Barbara Moyer
April 22, 2008
Doug & family
I am so sorry to hear of Paula's passing. Doug, I saw first hand each time you came into the doctor's office how much you complimented each other with love, care and respect of each other. Paula always had something nice to say even when she came to be taken care of she left having made us feel better. I know you will miss her but know she is in a far better place and with a new pain free body. May the thought that you will meet again give you comfort and peace at this time and in the weeks and months ahead. I know only of you her family because she talked so lovingly about you all and always looked forward to times she was planning to come and visit you. Please know that you all will be in my thoughts and prayers during this time.
Billie Sue Doan
April 21, 2008
Doug, i'm sorry for your loss, i took care of paula several times on 4T at arnot. She's watching over you now. She's in a better place. She will not be hurting anymore
Josephine Muncy
April 21, 2008
Doug and family, I am sorry to hear of your loss. I know she is in a better place with no pain. I will miss her kind words and smile. Doug you take care now. I'm hoping to make a trip north towards the end of the year. I will check with you when the time gets close to see if you are not busy or will be at home. Please feel free to email me. Always with the fondess memories.
Richard and Louise Miller
April 21, 2008
Doug and Family, we are so sorry to hear of Paula's passing. We know all the things Paula said about you in the paper have to be true. We will pray for you and your family. Your neighbors on Elizabeth Avenue
Anthony "Matt" Krivitski
April 20, 2008
Ah, Jeez! "Ant-Knee" is sure going to miss your great E-mails! I'm glad we got a chance to talk on phone recently! Wish now that I had visited Corning & Horseheads last Winter as I had planned. . .Carpe Diem! Any of my "City Cousins" (& we were all about the same age!) wanting to get together to talk & grieve & celebrate Life as we knew/know it? My Mom, "Aunt Libby", was the 1st to tell me when I called her yesterday evening, followed by "Aunt Trudy's" E-mail. My sympathies to Doug & all our ever-diminishing family!
Tina Scott
April 20, 2008
Doug and Family,
My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. I was just talking to friends about the wonderful time we had at the cottage. Take care and God Bless.
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