David Codey Durkin
1970 - 2021
BORN
1970
DIED
2021
FUNERAL HOME
Codey & Jones Funeral Home
54 Roseland Ave
Caldwell, NJ
David Codey Durkin Beloved family man, worked as APM Terminal longshoreman; 'always made everything fun' with his Irish charm and quick wit David Codey Durkin passed away on July 27, 2021, at his home in Florham Park, NJ. David was born on December 5, 1970, at St. Mary's Hospital in Orange, NJ, to Raymond and Joan Durkin. Dave was more affectionately known as D-Man, DD, Double D, and Super Dave, among other monikers. Dave grew up in Maplewood, NJ, and was the fourth of five children who were all one year apart. Thus began a wonderful childhood in his Maplewood-South Orange Community and undeniable lifelong bonds with all that lived there. Dave's family home was widely recognized as the 'D-House'. A warm and joyous place where all were welcomed. Dave graduated Columbia High School in 1989 where he starred in both basketball and lacrosse, earning All-American honors in lacrosse his senior year. Dave played in the North/South All-American High School game at Johns Hopkins in Maryland where he scored 3 goals and assisted on 3 others propelling his team to a one goal victory. Dave attended Montclair State University where he continued his lacrosse prowess and broke several points' records. Dave worked for the last 18 years on the piers as a Longshoreman for APM Terminals. He was a proud member of ILA Local 1804-1. His co-workers often described him as loyal, kind, and hilarious. Dave had an incredibly infectious smile, a bellyaching laugh and a personality bigger than life. A quick wit with that gleaming Irish charm, people always gravitated to Dave at gatherings. Dave brought people together with his humor. He lit up a room like no one else could and would quickly become the center of attention by holding court; telling jokes and sharing stories of hilarity. Dave always made everything fun. Dave was also very kind and will always be an indelible blessing to this world. Dave had that gift of making other people feel great in his presence and that is one of the greatest gifts a person can possess. Dave was that one in a million person that comes along once in a lifetime but leaves a mark for eternity. Dave was an absolute legend, "honest to God, no crossies". But above all, nothing in the world mattered more to Dave than his love for his four beautiful children: Jack, Ryan, Elizabeth & Claire. Dave would always burst with pride when talking about his children's milestones and accomplishments. This is where he will be missed most. Dave is survived by his wife Allyson Rhatican Durkin and his mother Joan Codey Durkin; his devoted siblings Raymond Jr., Christopher (Danielle), Timothy (Joanne), and Maureen Holleran (Matthew). Dave also leaves behind his adoring nieces and nephews as well as numerous loving cousins. Along with his faithful Durkin & Codey aunts and uncles, especially his godparents, Raymond Codey and Anita Codey Grady. Dave rejoins his beloved father Raymond Sr. and will again be able to engage in great conversation about sports, history, and politics. Relatives and friends are invited to attend a visitation for David at the Codey & Jones Funeral Home, 54 Roseland Ave, Caldwell on Friday, July 30th from 4-8 PM. A Funeral Mass will be celebrated at Our Lady of Sorrows Church, 217 Prospect St. South Orange on Saturday at 10 AM. Cremation will be held privately. To share a condolence with the family please visit www.codeyjonesfh.com In lieu of flowers, donations to Seton Hall Prep "The Brendan P. Tevlin '13 Memorial Field Fund", 120 Northfield Avenue, West Orange, NJ 07052 or Good Vibes & Easy Living Foundation, 25 Lombard Drive, West Caldwell, NJ 07006 would be appreciated. Codey & Jones Funeral Home 54 Roseland Avenue Caldwell, NJ 07006 (973) 226-6696
Published by The Star-Ledger from Jul. 28 to Jul. 30, 2021.
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54 Roseland Ave, Caldwell, NJ
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31
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Our Lady of Sorrows Church
217 Prospect St. , South Orange, NJ
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Ron, Lisa Brown & Family
August 3, 2021
RIP Dave, you were always cool; my sincere condolences to his family.
Peter Rach (CHS '89)
July 31, 2021
Our hearts abs prayers go out to all of you. Your amazing brother will rest in heaven
Deborah abs richard delvecchio family
July 30, 2021
We are deeply saddened to hear of Dave's passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with the entire Durkin family.
The Quinn Family
Other
July 30, 2021
RIP Dave and condolences to the entire Durkin family. I remember playing baseball with Dave on our Durkin and Codey baseball team as kids. I will always remember his sense of humor. Rest in peace.
Craig Helmstetter (classmate class of '89 CHS)
School
July 30, 2021
Scott, Dana, Lila & Jack
July 30, 2021
Love and support to the Durkin family. My Sincere Condolences. Rest in Peace Dave. May your Memory Be a Blessing.
Garnet Hall
Friend
July 30, 2021
When ever I saw David with his brothers and family you could feel the love, see the smiles and hear the laughs. What a smile David shared with everyone..may his shine of his smile always be in the hearts of everyone he touched. My love and prayers are with all the Durkin-Codey family.
Philomena McEnery Salgado
July 30, 2021
Joan and family, my heart aches for your loss. I´m sending love, hugs, and prayers that time will help and your broken hearts will begin to mend. Until you meet again.....
Patti Cohrs
Other
July 30, 2021
It just seems like yesterday when our Moms where sitting at the Maplewood Pool watching their kids enjoy the water and playing with friends. Very sorry to learn that Dave has passed. My thoughts, heart and prayers are with the Durkin Family. Until we meet again my God hold you in the palm of his hand. With great sadness and deepest sympathy Love and Hugs to you all Theresa Tevlin Dolan
Theresa Tevlin Dolan
Friend
July 30, 2021
So sorry and saddened for your loss. May it comfort you to know that our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time..RIP
Debbie silbernagel fonseca
Family
July 29, 2021
I´m struggling to find the words to express the sadness I feel for a truly beautiful and big hearted family. My sincerest condolences - love and prayers to you all.
Angela Stefanelli-Longo and Family
School
July 29, 2021
RIP Dave. You were a great athlete and an all-around superb individual. I'll miss texting you during NFL games! RIP MY FRIEND
Chris Townsend
Friend
July 29, 2021
We are so sorry for the loss of Dave. We wish peace for the Durkin family.
Michael Prout
Friend
July 29, 2021
Dave I will miss our daily texts & laughs we got from them. I hope you are at peace & your family finds comfort in their memories of you as I will. You are missed & loved.
Pat McKell
Friend
July 29, 2021
What a beautiful tribute to a true gift of a man. He shall be missed by all...we enjoyed every second we spent with him. Sincerest condolences to all that loved him. Dana, Ladd, Owen, Milo & George
The McGuffey Family
July 29, 2021
This is very sad news. I´d gotten to know Dave ( aka Double D ) over a dozen years from school activities with the boys & watching youth sports. We got along well & he was a great guy with a good sense of humor whose primary focus was his children. He´ll be missed by all those who knew him. My sincere condolences & prayers to his family.
Sean Conley
July 29, 2021
Dave and his family was a great friend to our family since I was born. Always a smile on his face and a joke to tell. We are deeply saddened by the loss. Dom DeLuca and Family
Dominic
Friend
July 29, 2021
I am just speechless about this sudden and shocking loss. My heart goes out to all of David's family and in particular his children, especially Elizabeth and Claire who at 5 1/ 2 in this month have just suffered more loss than any child ever should. May his memory be Eternal...
Vivian Demas
Friend
July 29, 2021
Joan, I can't tell you how sorry we are about your loss. Your family is in our thoughts and prayers. Belenky Family
Stan Belenky
July 29, 2021
My condolences and prayers to all Dave´s family and friends. He was always like a big brother as we were all growing up. His friendship with my brother Tim was one of a kind. He will surely be missed.
Meghan Foley Northen
Friend
July 29, 2021
I will cherish the countless hours over the years we spent together standing on the fence watching our sons lax games together....talking about life...politics and everything under the sun. You were one in a million and I will miss you terribly. Rest easy my dear friend.
Christian Narag
Friend
July 29, 2021
To the Durkin Family so sorry for your loss.Great Family Love you all.
Kathy and Buddy Brannagan
July 29, 2021
So sorry for your loss, condolences .Dave always had a smile on his face so friendly.hr could be a pain in school asking for the answer but he would smile and laugh and all was good against n prayers and condolence to his family.
Ann Marie lyons
July 28, 2021
We are shocked and saddened by the news of Dave´s passing. The Durkin family are in our thoughts and prayers.
The Kerr´s
July 28, 2021
My condolences for your loss. May the lord guide and keep you all.
Narda Chisholm- Greene
School
July 28, 2021
I´m so sad to hear this news. We´ve been friends for years and I loved him very much. God bless his family and especially his beautiful children.
Barbara Jean Simon
Friend
July 28, 2021
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