Joseph Calvin Heap II

1947 - 2021

New London - After a fierce battle with COVID-19, Joseph Calvin "Joe" Heap II peacefully passed away April 11, 2021, with his family at this side. Joe was born in Ware, Mass., April 15, 1947. He married Marjorie Ealahan at St. Joseph's Church Feb. 7, 1967. He was a graduate of New London High School in 1966, attended Northeast Louisiana State College, and later received an associate degree from Mitchell College.

Joe worked in sales for many years, was in the printing business and then was appointed a deputy sheriff. The title changed to state marshal several years later. He performed those duties for a combined time of 38 years. He was a civic-minded individual serving as chairman of the Republican Town Committee; he also served on two Charter Revision Commissions and on the Planning & Zoning Commission for 22 years, including as chairman.

He was predeceased by his parents Joseph C. Heap and Helen F. Heap. Joe is survived by his wife of 54 years, Margie; their two sons, Shannon (wife Mary) and Patrick (wife Erin-Kate); his sister Martha Shoemaker (husband Scott); and his brother Timothy Heap (significant other Shoshona). Joe had several grandchildren whom he dearly loved: Connor Heap, Erin Heap, Sean Heap, Lily Heap, Fiona Heap, Jack Mailhot, and Katrina Von Kriegenbergh. Joe also loved all the nieces, nephews, grand-nieces and grand-nephews.

Joe took great pride in being a New Londoner and he loved his town, its people and the river that flowed by it. He was known for "checking the beach" during hurricanes and/or a late-night drive to make sure it was still there. He loved sailing and truly loved New London's Sailfests. He spent many hours in discussion, usually during a lunch or dinner, discussing plans to ensure New London's success and ensuring a bright future. He was a man who celebrated and cherished life, community and family. His favorite way to celebrate would be by throwing large house parties or by having his close friends and family gather for large dinners, either at home or one of his numerous beloved restaurants. The front porch, decorated with Christmas lights year-round, was his kingdom, and he would often hold court there. Often joined by governors, mayors, lawyers and, more often than not other, New London legends - Barbara and Tommy Major, Harold Arkava, Mike Buscetto and Mark Christiansen to name a few. There was always a place on his porch and in his heart for any person with a good heart.

He is often referred to as a "salt of the earth" kind of guy. He had high expectations for his town, his friends, his family and his food. He was an opinionated guy and honest. You always knew where you stood with Joe. He was not one for holding back how he really felt. He was a true one-of-a-kind and genuine individual. He always had a soft spot for the underdogs, the ones who are struggling. For this reason, in lieu of flowers or edibles, please send donations to the Anchor Scholarship Fundation at 280 Montauk Avenue, New London CT 06320. This scholarship will go to a student each year who graduates last in their class at New London High School (as Joe did). He always believed that people could, with support, raise themselves to overcome any barrier. That is why he would often be so generous with his time, knowledge, food, home, wisdom and love.

Joe was in some ways a trendsetter and not one for some traditions, often creating his own. For this reason, at Joe's request, there will be no funeral services. At his request, there will be a party to honor his name to be announced at a later date. He always believed it was important to take the time to be with friends and family to honor and celebrate life, love, a good drink and great food. "Here is to the memories! Here is to creating more!" His father would often say to us all, and he would echo throughout his life, "keep fighting the good fight."

Byles Memorial Home, 99 Huntington Street, New London, CT 06320. Please visit www.Byles.com to sign the guestbook or share a memory.