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1963
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2021
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Ruth Oates Obituary
Ruth was preceded in death by her late parents, Norman and Hannah Oates and her older sister, Nancy Oates Darnell.
Ruth grew up in Mystic surrounded by her large loving family of five brothers and two sisters. She enjoyed watching and participating in many sports, but her favorite was baseball. When her health permitted, she competed in the Special Olympics where she excelled and was very proud of her winning medallion collection.
Ruth Oates is survived by her siblings, Norman Oates of Vernon; William "Bill" Oates and his wife Nancy of Encinitas, Calif.; Phillip "Phil" Oates of Wyoming, R.I.; John Oates of Griswold; Christian "Chris" Oates of Mystic; and Sandra Graziano Oates of Winter Park, Fla.; as well as and many nieces, nephews, and cousins.
The family wishes to express our sincere gratitude for the kindness Ruth received from her many caregivers over the years. We acknowledge, and are grateful for, the compassionate care they provided.
A graveside memorial service will be held at 11 a.m. Monday, July 19, at Ledyard Union Cemetery (Section: Quakertown 2) located at Colonel Ledyard Highway, Ledyard, where Ruth will be laid to rest next to our dearest mother, Hannah M. Oates. In lieu of flowers please make generous memorial contributions in her name to Journey Found (journeyfound.org). Byles Memorial Home, 99 Huntington St., New London is assisting the family. Please visit www.byles.com for directions or to share a memory.
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Charlie Samuels Jr
July 17, 2021
Sandra, My Condolences to you and your Family. My Prayers for all of You.
Ed Harris
July 17, 2021
I love and cared for Ruth Oates. She inspired me to quite smoking. The memories I have with her will forever be in my heart. It was a pleasure spending time with her. She had such an amazing spirit and a smile that would light up the room. Ruth you will forever be missed but never forgotten.
Phillip Oates
July 15, 2021
Thanks to all for the kind words and memories of Ruth. Team Oates has lost another player. Heart delivered thank you to all her caretakers including those in our family—looking at you John & Sandra. Ruth, stay in the bleachers, love brother #3
Cindy Bogue Howard
July 15, 2021
Sending my condolences to Ruth’s family. I have fond of the Oates family
Marian Buchanan
July 14, 2021
I was sad to learn of Ruth’s passing. The last time I saw Ruth was at Nancy’s service. Hannah and Norman are rejoicing to be reunited with their beloved daughter. A loss for the family here but the heavens just got an angel. Love to all. Marian Buchanan
Colleen Watrous-Crosby
July 14, 2021
I am so sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences.
David Garland
July 14, 2021
I will always remember taking Ruth to a Red Sox vs Yankees game at Fenway Park right before the playoffs started. We sat in the bleachers and ate nachos and cheered as loud as we could for the Red Sox. The Boston sports world lost one of it's biggest fans...I'll miss you Ru-Ru.
Carrie Bancroft
July 13, 2021
I loved caring for REO. So many fond and fun memories. We shared the love of sports among other things. Boston sports of any kind except the Patriots lol. Her laugh was infectious and when she was in a laughing mood everyone one was too. She will be greatly missed. Rest in peace always.
Tracey Walker
July 13, 2021
I am so very saddened by Ruth's passing. She was a long time member of our Journey Found family. It was our privilege to care for her and we will miss her greatly.
Sarah Schwarz
July 13, 2021
The first time I met Ruth in 2005 I knew she was going to give great stories to tell. She was like a favorite Aunt you never want to say good bye to. May her memory keep me going as she peacefully rests.
July 13, 2021
You will forever be missed.
Love You Always,
Jessica Rivera
Kathleen Oates
July 13, 2021
Sending my condolences to the family. I have so many fond memories of Ruth, may she RIP
Love
Kathi Doyle Oates
Stacy Harden
July 13, 2021
I took care of Ruth. She was a very strong woman. My heart is broken. We will miss Ruth Elizabeth Oates always. My condolences.
Sandra Oates
July 12, 2021
My heart is broken.....
Love you forever Lil Sis.
Always your Big Sis
Sandra Oates
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