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Jay Flaxman Obituary
Mr. Flaxman was born in The Bronx, NY on March 27, 1929. Jay was a family man who was most happy when surrounded by those he loved and they returned his love in full measure. Jay was a veteran of the Korean War. After his discharge he worked for The Record Hunter In New York City and later opened and managed The Record Hunter in Westport. He took great pleasure in serving the citizens of Westport and enjoyed guiding them in making their selections. He called on his vast know-ledge of classical, pop and folk music to help them make good choices. He created a welcoming environ- in the store and was generous to young and old who visited him for advice and companionship. He was later employed by the Westport Transit District and once again enjoyed the comradery of Westport. He loved Compo Beach, bike riding, family campouts, folk dancing and working out at the Westport YMCA.
He is survived by his beloved children: David Flaxman, Jennifer Lividini, Paul Flaxman, Rachael Flaxman, and his "other" children Marion Joey, Jen, Todd. and Krista. He was proud and happy to be the grandfather of Chris, Amy, Nicole, Joseph, Trevor, Emma, Eva and Jacob. He was blessed with three great grand-children: Colby, Conner, and Carter. He is also survived by Anne Flaxman, ex-wife and best friend.
Cherishing his memory are his sister, Frances Wetzstein, niece Wendy Gemelle, nephew, Roger Gemelle and his cousin, Barbara Macieski. Arrangements are under the direction of the Spear-Miller Funeral Home of Fairfield. To sign an online guest register please visit www.SpearMillerFuneralHome.com
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Memories and Condolences
for Jay Flaxman
T J SAVAGE
January 11, 2021
R.I.P. JAY
Jane Ams
January 21, 2010
Dear Mrs.Flaxman, David, Jenny, Paul and Rachael,
I want to send my condolences to all of you for the loss of Mr. Flaxman. As a friend of Jenny's, he was one of the fathers who really was fun with us! What great times we had going to the Record Hunter and being able to stand behind the counter and act cool like we owned the place!! Remember this was the 60s, so we saw lots of interesting people come in!!
Of course later when I rode the Minnibus, and it was a MAJOR mode of transportation for us... it was great to see Mr. Flaxman's smiling face greeting us as we got on and off.
His bright smile and good nature will be forever etched in my memories of growing up. My best to all of you-
Jane Davidson Ams
January 18, 2010
I had so many memories and wonderful times with Jay....camping,holidays, volleyball, etc. We enjoyed hours of friendly banter and sports conversations. I will miss him. My thoughts and prayers are with his family.
Steve Hyman
Shelley Ford
January 18, 2010
Although we have never met, I wanted to offer my deepest sympathies. You can turn to the Holy Scriptures for help. For Psalms 34:18 assures us that God is near to those broken at heart and saves those crushed in spirit. He will certainly comfort your heart.
Margaret Drickamer
January 17, 2010
Mr. Flaxman was a special guy and a patient I am not likely to forget. We loved to exchange quips as well as symptoms and advice. He so appreciated the support of his family and shared much about you. I miss him. Sinclerely, Margaret Drickamer, MD (Va Hospital)
Phoebe Shaw
January 17, 2010
During junior high, Jay's red and white minibus carried me from downtown to Old Mill Beach. Behind the wheel Jay was warm, paternal, teasing. Once Jay told me that he always let his kids explore and make their own mistakes, i.e. falling out of trees. As a parent, I've thought of this many times.
Rachael, did you fall out of trees? Are you glad? Do your kids?
Many thoughts-
Phoebe Shaw
January 17, 2010
My thoughts are with the whole Flaxman family during this time. I am so sorry for your loss.
Karen Frey Jacobs
jimmy land
January 16, 2010
He will be missed. he was always helpful and kind to everyone,
Jimmy land
January 16, 2010
Sweet man with the warmest hug you can imagine we will miss him very much. love to all the family.
Truly,
Carly Gemelle
Joanne Johnson
January 16, 2010
I'm so sorry for your loss, my heart goes out to you David & Marion, and the rest of the family.
January 16, 2010
To all of Jay's family
We have such fond memories of Jay back in the 80's we went on many campouts
together, played volleyball and went on many hiking trips organized by Jay.
He was fun to be with and so knowledgeable.
He is a very dear man and will be greatly missed.
Our prayers are with you all.
Lisa and Alan Keyworth
January 16, 2010
My heart is aching for the entire Flaxman family. I feel honored and blessed to have met and spent just a little bit of time with Jay and know that his family loved and adored him.
From the bottome of my heart you will all be in my thoughts and prayers.
Riva Avrick
Valerie Kanter
January 15, 2010
Dear Ann, Rachael, Jennifer, Paul, David, and family--I send love and sympathy. There are so many treasured memories of Jay. I will always remember him as a friend with a warm and open heart. Blessings.
Ellen Woodward
January 15, 2010
To Anne and family -
My sincerest condolences - I'm so sorry for you're loss. I hope fond memories will help you through the time ahead.
January 14, 2010
Dear Jennifer and Family,
Our deepest sympathy to you and your family for the loss of your father. I know he was important to you and he will be dearly missed.
Your old friend, Debbie Perretti Mahedy
January 14, 2010
Dear Rachael, Our condolences to you and family for the passing of your father. We pray for his soul and the families he left behind. May the gathering of your friends and family to honor him give you some comfort. We are thinking of you. The Kleibers, Marisa, Andy, Keane and Nicholas (Oakland, Ca)
Jenny Randall
January 14, 2010
Dear Flaxman Family,
I am so sorry to hear about Jay.
He will be missed in the office.
Thinking of you all in your time of sorrow.
Jenny L. Randall
from Southport Smiles
Rachael Flaxman
January 14, 2010
Thank you to all who have expressed their sympathy. It is a great comfort to us.
Jalna Jaeger
January 14, 2010
To the Flaxman family,
My sincere sympathy on your loss.
Jay was a friend at the record hunter, a fellow folk dancer, and my bus driver.
I will keep you in my prayers,
Jalna Jaeger
T.J. Savage
January 13, 2010
Paul, Jennifer and Rachael I am sorry to hear of the passing of Jay
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family
Carla Gannon
January 13, 2010
Paul and family, I am terribly sorry for your loss. I hope fond memories help carry you through these difficult days ahead. XOXO
Richard Gannon
January 12, 2010
Paul, We are sorry to hear of the loss of your father. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Beth and Jay
January 12, 2010
Thinking of all the Flaxman's, with so much affection, sympathy and prayers, in this hour of your loss of a dear man. What a joyful and full-of-life person Jay was. It is our honor to have known him and to have known you with him in your lives. We grieve with you.
Bob Avrick
January 12, 2010
David to you and your family,my Deepest sympathies. I will always have wonderful memories of your father.
Sharron Danforth
January 12, 2010
My dear old friend, Jay. What fond memories I hold of our days driving the mini-buses in Westport. I always enjoyed our conversations because Jay was such a wise man of vast interests and knowledge. Of course, he always had a book with him. It's so sad to lose Jay too soon. My deepest sympathy goes to his children, Anne, his grandchildren and his great-grandchildren. Rest in peace, Jay
The Staff of Spear-Miller Funeral Home
January 12, 2010
Offering our deepest condolences during this time.
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