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Defarra Gaymon Obituary
Bostick-Tompkins FH has been entrusted with the arrangements.
Mr. Gaymon died July 16, 2010. Affectionately called Dean, he was born in Topeka, Kansas, the beloved son of George and Mattie (Dozier) Gaymon.
A graduate of Montclair High School in New Jersey, he continued his education and graduated from Benedict College in 1980 with a degree in Business Administration/Finance. Defarra did his post graduate studies in Human Resources/Clinical Psychology at Liberty University and completed the Southeastern Management School Program at the University of Georgia, the CUES CEO Institute program at Wharton School of Business at the University of Pennsylvania, Cornell University and Darden School of Business at the University of Virginia. A leader in the financial services arena, with more than 25 years of experience, Defarra served as vice president of Lending at Palmetto Health Credit Union and later with SC State Credit Union where he served as the first African American Vice President of Operations. Mr. Gaymon was currently serving as President/CEO of Atlanta City Employees Credit Union.
A proud member of Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity, Inc., Mr. Gaymon was a member of Suwanee Parish United Methodist Church in Georgia.
He is loving survived by his wife, Mellanie D. Gaymon; his precious children, Defarra D., Jade A., Jillian M. and Dale M. Gaymon; his loving parents, Reverend Dr. George and Mattie Gaymon; his caring sister, Kelly D. Armstrong; brother in-law, Lt. Col. Williams Armstrong; special nieces, Jenna, Jasmine & Jessica Armstrong; uncle, Deacon Eddie (Tarra) James; aunts, Cassie (Louis) Oliver, Nancy Gaymon, Pearl Williams, and Wyomia Dozier; father-in-law, Bernest Peoples; mother-in-law, Aileen Izenberg; a host of other loving relatives, fraternity brother, and dear friends, all of whom will miss him dearly. www.bosticktompkinsinc.com
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Memories and Condolences
for Defarra Gaymon
Shirley Smith
July 17, 2023
In loving memory of a wonderful person. We miss you and love you always.
R.I.H
August 20, 2010
I am sorry for your loss. May God comfort and strengthen you in the days ahead.
shirley smith
August 13, 2010
My heart goes out to the Gaymon Family
My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
Mr. Gaymon was the best Pres/CEO for the 25 years I have been employed with the CUA. He was my mentor, coach, interior decorator, Mr. GQ and most of all my Friend.
He will always be a part of our family at the C.U.A.
He will truly be missed but not forgotten.
May God Bless and Continue to Give you Strength!!!
John Hope
August 6, 2010
To Mellanie, children & the entire Gaymon Family: My deepest sympathy and prayers are with you now and always. Dean was a great person, long time friend and Fraternity Brother. Mellanie remember all the good times we all shared, may you find peace, and strength during this most difficult time.
Robert & Lois Gaymon
August 5, 2010
August 5, 2010
To: The family of Defarra
We hope knowing that you're thought of in a kind and loving way, will help to ease your sorrow and bring you peace today.
Prayerfully,
Joseph & Bernice Gaymon
August 3, 2010
To the family of Defarra
Our thoughts and prayers are with you in
your time of grief. May your memories
bring you confort.
Joseph & Bernice Gaymon
August 3, 2010
Our thoughts and prayers are with yhou in your time of gried. May your memories
bring you comfort
Michele Gaymon
August 3, 2010
My thoughts and prayers are with you. I am so sorry for your loss. Although I did not know you personally, you are my family nonetheless. Again, May God bless you during this time.
Teresa Heape
August 3, 2010
Our thoughts and prayers are with your family. We are so sorry for your loss.
Barry & Teresa Heape
August 2, 2010
Mellanie, I remember watching your husband at work. He was obviously very concerned about his son and his affection towards you was heart warming.
God bless you and your family,
Love, Dawn Garrison
August 1, 2010
July 30, 2010
Melanie:
Please accept our deepest and most sincere regrets on the untimely passing of Mr.D. Best wishes for a "grounded" recovery for you and the children.
Uncle Sam Lisle &Vern (Texas)
Lynette Washington
July 30, 2010
My Sympathy & Prayers are with the Gaymon Family. You will All stay in Me & My Family's Thoughts & Prayers
Lynette Washington
Lynette Washington
July 30, 2010
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
More great memories of Dean!
July 29, 2010
Jackie Yasin
July 29, 2010
Dearest Melanie,
I was saddened to hear about the loss of your husband. Please know that I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
Sincerely,
Jackie Yasin
(Killian Elementary)
PAMELA PARKER
July 28, 2010
I AM A RESIDENT OF NEW JERSEY AND I SPEAK IN BEHALF OF MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS YOU HAVE OUR DEEPEST CONDOLENCES.
GOD BLESS
July 28, 2010
On behalf of Deffarra's Childhood summer friends from Andrews, we were deeply sadden by his death. Mrs. Mattie and Kelly know that our hearts weeps along with yours.
The Children of Ceola Cumbee, Jr, Ev, Peggy and Felitcha Andrews,SC
Angela Jenkins
July 28, 2010
Mellanie and family,
We are so very sorry for your loss. We are glad that we were given the chance to meet Dean and enjoyed the conversations that we had with him. You and the Gaymon family are in our thoughts and prayers.
The Jenkins Family
Marion Hope
July 27, 2010
Dear Melanie, children & family,
Remember the good times and the love you shared. My heart goes out to you and your family.My prayers are with you as always. God bless you with love.
Dan and Sarah Krueckeberg
July 27, 2010
Dean's friends in Colorado will miss him greatly. We pray for all his family and friends around the world that they will find peace and comfort in these trying times.
"My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow Me. I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish, no one can snatch them out of My hand," The Gospel of St John Ch 10 Vs 27-28
Kate Evans
July 27, 2010
I did not know Mr. Gaymon, but wanted to tell you that you've been very much in my thoughts. I pray that your family will find peace in time. Dean will live on in your loving hearts.
sherry D
July 27, 2010
To the Gaymond Family My deepest sympathy, my sincere prayers and thoughts are with you and your family during this diffcult time.
Brenda Jackson
July 27, 2010
To The Gaymon Family,
My condolence to you for the lost of a great son, brother, uncle and most of all a great friend of mine. I will continue to keep you in my prayers.
B Sesley
July 26, 2010
My prayers are with the Gaymon family. May God comfort & strengthen you during these times.
Tonya Haun
July 26, 2010
Dean will always be special to those of us who knew him personally and professionally. Our prayers are with the family Dean loved so much.
James Taylor
July 26, 2010
Mrs. Gaymon,
Please know that my family and I are deeply saddened by your loss. While I only knew Dean for a short period of time, he was like a relative. I say this because of the impact he had on my son, Jay, who said "Mr. Gaymon treated me like I was his son." Just know that we are in the Morning Brooke subdivision and I will treat DeFarra like my son, too.
God Bless You and Your Children,
Jim and Wandy Taylor
Verelne Mitchell
July 26, 2010
As the days and weeks pass, and as you return to life's routine, may you continue to feel comforted by the love and support of family and friends.
Monique Cunningham-thomas
July 26, 2010
I just recently met Mr. Gaymon at an event on June 3, 2010. I must say that I was excited, because I felt I had just met a new friend. His personality made me feel as though we had known each other forever. I was saddened to here that when I first met him that would be the beginning and end of a friendship. I am gratefull to God that I was able to meet and know a nice guy as him even though it was just for one evening.
As the days and weeks pass, and as his family and friends return to life's routine, may you continue to feel comforted by the love and prayers of others like me.
May God's Grace & Peace be with you all through these difficult days ahead.
Monique Cunningham-Thomas, Owner/Sales
Your Special Event
"The Event & Catering Specialist"
Rhonda Dunn-Butler
July 26, 2010
Dear Mellanie, Mr. and Mrs. Gaymon, Kelly and Family,
I am so sorry seems inadequate as a descriptor to express my sympathy. My prayer is that you let the profound grief of losing Farrie wash over you for as long as it has to and that you come out hole and experience joy once again. "A healing heart is strengthened by love and memories…"
God bless you and keep you in His protective care.
Rhonda Dunn-Butler and Family
formerly of Montclair
Rashid & Lauren DeShong
July 26, 2010
Kelly and Family,
We send our deepest condelences through these words. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
EDWARD GRIFFIN
July 25, 2010
To the Gaymon Family,
The only tue and living God whom we serve never has and He never will make a mistake. Please allow God at this time draw you closer to Himself. Hide these words of comfort, courage and grace in your hearts.
Romans 8:18 I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. (NIV)
Serving Him,
Edward Griffin
Jill James-Vega
July 25, 2010
My prayers are with your entire family. I did not know Dean personally, but I am a Montclair Mountie and alot of people I know speak very highly of Dean. I am so sorry for your loss. May God keep you. He never gives of anything we can not handle. May God continue to comfort your family. God bless.
Kimberly Brooks
July 25, 2010
Kelly Gaymon and the Gaymon Family,
Words cannot truly express our deepest
sympathy for you and your family at
this difficult time.
Dean will be missed by many...
May the Lord comfort and
continuously guide you
on the road ahead.
Kimberly Brooks & The Brooks Family,
formerly of Montclair, NJ
The Township of Montclair, New Jersey Mourns One of It's Finest "MOUNTIES!"
Grange "Peggy Rutan" Habermann
July 24, 2010
One of our fondest memories of Dean during our trip to Poland.
Samantha Smith
July 24, 2010
Jami Ransom
July 24, 2010
My prayers are with you at this very sad time. May you find peace and strength in God and loved ones. Jami Ransom - Montclair, NJ (School Friend of Dean).
The Hart Family
July 24, 2010
Our thougts and prayers are with the Gaymon Family. May his wife and children find comfort in his love for them. God will see you through.
The Blythewood High Cafeteria Staff
July 24, 2010
No bond is as great as that between a parent and child. Our deepest condolences are with you as you grieve.
Brenda Parks-Brown
July 24, 2010
The entire Gaymon family while in Montclair became our family during the drill team phase, class reunions etc. We truly lost a good man a trailblazer for other men to follow.
The class of MHS 1980 will miss You. I won't be able to comment on your facebook :-(
Brenda Parks-Brown
July 24, 2010
Farrie I will so miss you, sending email to you at work to just say hello ans ask how the family is doing. Melanie and family our prayers are with you.
July 24, 2010
May your family be at peace knowing that you are in the masters hands now.
Peace and blessings from an alumni.
July 24, 2010
My deepest sympathy, my sincere prayers and thoughts with you and your family during this difficult time. ...
Kendra E.Upson~ Williams
Benedict College Class of 1989
July 24, 2010
We love you, we appreciate you, and we thank God for you.
Mr. Marion A Black
Ms. Eleanor Haywood Taylor
Mr. & Mrs. D'Anthony & Katrina Taylor Parks
Atlanta, GA
July 24, 2010
Our prayers our with you and your family.
Darlene Jones & family
July 24, 2010
Mellanie, Kelly and the entire Gaymon Family,
I am so very sorry to hear of this incredibly tragic loss. Dean was a wonderful, kind spirited man who's light always shined. It was my honor to call him my friend.
Please know that you remain forever in my thoughts and prayers!
Melissa (Tinsley) Cates
Nancy Pearson-Smith
July 24, 2010
In the quiet moments,
when hurt is hard to bear...
May love become
your shelter and
may the beauty of
precious memories
be your comfort.
You are held in gentle
thought and prayer
Sheriff Larry Williams
July 24, 2010
Will keep your family in prayer during these difficult times.
Ivadella Walters
July 24, 2010
With deepest sympathy, our thoughts and prayers are with you.
From Credit Union Family and Friends
Martell Walker
July 24, 2010
Pastor Gaymon, Thinking and praying for your family. God is good all the time.
The Brack Family would llike to offer its condolences, Dean was a good brother, we were students at Benedict College.
Cecil Brack
July 24, 2010
Sharon Himes
July 24, 2010
To:The Gaymon Family, May God be with you
and your Family, Dean and I went to Benedict together, There was never a dull moment around him. He will truly be missed But his memories and will live in our hearts forever.
Peace and Blessings
Sharon L. Himes
Charlotte, N.C.
July 24, 2010
To Mellanie and Family, Rev and Mrs. Gaymon and Family,
We are deeply saddened, and are keeping you in our prayers at this time of loss. Our family saw how Dean touched so many people's lives as he mentored and helped so many others. May God's love and peace continually comfort you. Please know our hearts are with you in deepest sympathy.
Eleanor and Lacey, SPUMC, Duluth, GA
July 24, 2010
We are so very sorry for your loss. God Bless You!!
Fred and Bunny Jones
July 24, 2010
My prayers are with you and your family. (Acetra Gibson-Dendy) Granddaughter of Willie and Maggie (Gaymon) Durant
The Drew-Peeple Family
July 23, 2010
The LORD is near to those who have a broken heart, And saves such as have a contrite spirit.
Psalm 34:18
Though we may not understand why this tragedy occurred we know that truth and justice will prevail and that God is with you. Stay strong in your faith because it will bring you through. You are in God's loving arms and are lovingly being held in prayer.
... what is it to cease breathing, but to free the breath from its restless tides, that it may rise and expand and seek God unencumbered? Only when you drink from the river of silence shall you indeed sing. And when you have reached the mountain top, then you shall begin to climb. And when the earth shall claim your limbs, then shall you truly dance.
The Prophet
SSG Edward & (Nadia) Walker
July 23, 2010
Keeping your family in our thoughts and prayers during this time of sorrow. Continue to trust God and put Him first in all You do.
Rasheda Walker
July 23, 2010
Pastor Gaymon and Family, my thoughts and prayers are with each of You. The Word (Bible) says in Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are called according to his purpose.
Continue to keep your hand in God's hand.
Edith Lacey
July 23, 2010
Our condolences to you and your family. May the Lord grant you peace and you go through this difficult time of bereavement.
lavita rocha-alves
July 23, 2010
Our prayers and thoughts are with you during your time of sorrow. May God keep his arms wrapped around you and bring you comfort and strength.
SFC(Ret)Joao & Lavita Rocha-Alves
Fayetteville, NC
James L. & Esther S. Gallieshaw
July 23, 2010
We pray that the good memories bring you comfort.
CHARLES HAWKINS
July 23, 2010
MAY GOD BLESS AND COMFORT YOUR FAMILY AS YOU DEAL WITH YOUR LOSS.A GOOD MAN INDEED.R.I.P. HAWKINS FAMILY
Dorian McDuffie
July 23, 2010
Know that you are in the hearts of the McDuffie family during these difficult times.
SCOTT THOMPSON
July 23, 2010
WE LOST A GOOD MAN. RIP THOMPSON FAMILY NEWARK,NJ
July 23, 2010
while i didn't have the pleasure of meeting mr. gaymon, i feel we have lost a remarkably talented and gifted member of our community....rip
ve
Jason Smalls
July 23, 2010
My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
Darlene Nowlin
July 23, 2010
To the Gaymon Family, My thoughts and prayers are with each of you during this very difficult time. May you find comfort in your faith knowing that you will see him him once again. Respectfully, Darlene Ellis Nowlin and Mrs. Doris Ellis formerly of Montclair, NJ.
July 23, 2010
Kelly Gaymon and the Gaymon Family,
It is during times like this that only God can give you stregnth, peace and courage. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless!!
Warm regards,
Margaret "Shmoo" Mack
Montclair class of 1984
Helen
July 23, 2010
R.I.P.
Gary & Janice & Family Hayes
July 23, 2010
Gaymon Family, Our hearts go out to your family. You are in our thoughs and prayers. God will give you what you ask and need of. May you find peace and love in the precious memories of Dean.
Louella Williams (Vicki W. Mother)
July 23, 2010
Gaymon Family, There is nothing to hard for God, HE will order your steps. Praying for all of you. When someone you love becomes a memory, those memories become treasures. Be blessed.
July 23, 2010
Kelly Gaymon and Family,
It is at times like these I know that only God can give you and your family peace, stregnth and courage. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. God bless!!
Warm regards,
Margaret "Shmoo" Mack
Montclair High 1984
Charlotte Smalls
July 23, 2010
We would like to express our heartfelt sympathy to the Gaymon family. We are sincerely praying that God would give you strength and comfort at this time.
From the family of one of your former students,
The Smalls
Robert & Pearl Brailsford Thomas
July 23, 2010
Our prayers and thoughts are with you.
Kellie White
July 23, 2010
Kelly & Family,
Words can not express my heart felt sympathy for the loss of a good man. He was one of Gods kindest creations. Lifting you all up in prayer.
Kellie White
Dr. D.L. Grant, Sr.
July 23, 2010
Rev. Dr. and Mrs. Gaymon and the Entire Gaymon Family. We are praying for you during your time of sorrow.
From:
Rev. Dr. and Mrs. D.L. Grant, Sr.
Office of Church Relations
Benedict College
and Members of Calvary Baptist Church
Pinewood, SC
July 23, 2010
My prayers and heartfelt sympathy go out to the Gaymon family. May you find comfort to know that you are so deeply thought of. May the Lord, give you the added strength that is so greatly needed today and for the upcoming days. Prayerfully yours, Betty G. McFadden
Tonya Thompson
July 23, 2010
Gaymon Family,
I extend my sincere condolences to the family. Dean was loved and respected by many in the credit union industry. His commitment and dedication to serving the credit union community was greatly appreciated. We will miss working with him. May God provide comfort and peace during this difficult time.
July 23, 2010
Although no words of sympathy can ease the pain you bear, just know that we all care and love you. Whatever you need just know that we are there. Bonnie and Tiers Poitier
MICHAEL SPIVEY
July 23, 2010
THEY THAT WAIT ON THE LORD SHALL RENEW THIER STRENGTH..THEY SHALL MOUNT UP WITH WINGS OF EAGLES THEY SHALL RUN AND NEVER GET WEARY WALK AND NOT FAINT
MAY GOD COVER THE ENTIRE GAYMON FAMILY AND COMFORT YOU IN HIS BOSOM DURING THIS DIFFICULT TIME..ALWAYS REMEMBER TO MOVE FROM HURT TO HOPE WE ALL KNOW WHERE DEFARRA IS NOW
CALL IF YOU NEED ME
ON THE VICTORY SIDE
REV. MICHAEL A. SPIVEY
NEW SHILOH BAPTIST CHURCH
BALTIMORE , MD (FORMERLY FROM ST PAUL BAPTIST MONTCLAIR NJ
Sharon Wyatt
July 23, 2010
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
Robin Vaughn
July 23, 2010
Eddie and I enjoyed the friendship cultivated while in Columbia with Dean and the Gaymon family. We treasure the times we spent together. Please accept our sincere condolences.
Robin Vaughn
Cynthia Woodard
July 23, 2010
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow. And remember death leaves a heartache that no one can heal but life leaves a memory that no one can steal.
Michelle Johnson
July 23, 2010
To the Gaynon family, we are so sorry for the loss of such a good Man. My Husband Nebraska & I have know the Gaymon family for quite sometime. Pastor Gaymon, your family is in our thoughts and prayers.
Mr. & Mrs. Nebraska Johnson Jr
Chester, South Carolina
Angie Reese
July 23, 2010
I pray that GOD gives your family a PEACE that only comes from him. Dean and I graduated from Benedict College together and we have some of the same friends. He knew how to brighten your day.
May GOD continue to Bless and Strengthen your family!
Edward & Vicki Walker
July 23, 2010
Gaymon Family, you are and will be in our thoughts and prayers. Hold tight to your memories for comfort. Death leaves a heartache no person can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal. Dean always had a kind word and will be greatly missed. Continue to trust in God.
David & Margie Harrison-Long
July 23, 2010
Our thought and Prayer's are with The Gaymon family. Remember all the great things that Dean stood for, and let them bring comfort to the family.
Fran Parker
July 23, 2010
We pray that you all find solace and strength as you celebrate and affirm the life and legacy of Dean's love and devotion to his family and community.
July 23, 2010
To the family God will take care of you. The road ahead looks long and lonely, but always remember the beauty and love of Defarra. Will be misssed but not Forgotten.
Sincerely, Ruby (Dot) DesChamps
Kimberly Cooper
July 23, 2010
Defarra you will be truly missed. My prayers are with the family. May God give you the strength to fight for his honor while going on.
Please know the community supports the family.
God Bless.
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