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Michael Duffelmeyer Obituary
He was also the son of the late Edward and Ruth (Geer) Duffelmeyer of Valhalla, N.Y.
Mickey graduated from Springfield College, Mass., in 1967. For over 33 years, Mickey taught physical education for the Mount Pleasant Central School District, in Thornwood, N.Y., and coached football, basketball, baseball and golf to generations of school children over his long career.
Mickey also enjoyed pheasant hunting, boating, golfing and camping with his family and friends, and playing the drums.
He was a member of the Christadelphian Ecclesia of Westerly.
Besides his wife Ann of 40 years, he will be sadly missed by his daughter Heather Woodward and her husband John, and three grandchildren, Brianna, Chase and Alexa of York, Pa. He is also survived by his brother Edward "Jit" Duffelmeyer of Danbury, Conn., his sister Wendy Smutok of Whalen, Mass., and several nieces and nephews.
A Service of Remembrance will be held on Monday, Feb. 28 at 6 p.m. in the Buckler-Johnston Funeral Home, 121 Main St., Westerly, R.I.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to L.A.C.E.S. (Life and Change, Experienced Thru Sports) at www.lacesport.org
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for Michael Duffelmeyer
leslie Richard Peterson
February 21, 2025
The CAPTAIN.....HE led by example, we all wanted to follow him....I think during the early stages at VHS, he along with Coach Cheira, Coach DiGorgio, Paulo, Marty Carl, Rusty Terry... and others, we're the strength of our success....GOD BLESS HIM, AND ALL THE OTHERS, who have gone home. Didn't realize it then, but that was the BEST TIME OF MY LIFE...
Peter Hommel
February 21, 2025
Many beers and burgers at the Cabin Restaurant. Taconic Babe Ruth all-star team. Lost to Portchester 1 zip in the regional final. My younger brothers JV football coach at Westlake HS. Valhalla AC Rec. basketball. RIP Mickey.
leslie Richard Peterson
February 9, 2025
He was the Captain during the early years of VHS. His raspy voice and leadership, helped inspire those that followed him. He was a true competitor and a great teammate... he will be missed....Regards Les
Peter Hommel
February 21, 2022
Lot's of great memories my good friend. I will never forget you.
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John Paulo
February 21, 2020
Duffelmeyer family/Mickey/ Wendy and Jitterbug: Iwill never forget the good times and sometimes bad times spent growing up in Valhallla with the Duffelmeyer family. We would play outside all day then go into the basement of the Overlook house and get an ice cream. Badminton in the back yard. Walking to elementary school every day, playing with our dogs. When I moved to Valhalla from White Plains. I was not an athlete but thanks to Mickey being a leader amongst us kids I became a pretty good athlete as did Mickey. We played hoops everyday out in front of the Overlook house. Jit was the biggest person I knew and Wendy so pretty. You parents were great and treated us kids as their own. We all played three sports but Mickey was the inspiration. I know Mickey never knew what It felt like to be sacked during football season as he was our quarterback and I was one of the lineman to protect him. Mickey taught a lot of kids good things and they/we/I will never forget . Till we meet again Mickey GOD BLESS
Steve Broege
March 15, 2011
As a kid I watched Mickey ice skate near my home on Blenis Place. Watched him play football, basketball and baseball. He could do it all. Wanted to be just like him.
March 10, 2011
Uncle Moose was a great role model growing up. One of the coolest, most admired and a true inspiration to me. He always made me feel proud to be his nephew and to be a Duffelmeyer.I will always remember my Dads brother as a great all around person who was well loved by many.I wish there were more people like him.
He will forever live in my heart.
Jim Duffelmeyer
March 4, 2011
Dear Brother, I will always remember the great times we had growing up. I was always so proud of you and I will miss you, I Love you so much. Forever Jit
gina
March 2, 2011
So sorry to hear about Mickey. As someone who taught with him for a zillion years, this has just really affected me, even though I haven't been in touch since we both left Westlake. So sorry to hear this news.
Jo Anne Buonassisi Lanza
March 2, 2011
To Mick's Family
We went to VHS together. He was a great sportsman and a nice person. He touched alot of people's lives.
God Bless you and may you have a wonderful trip on the Viking ship to heaven.
Blessings
Jo Anne Buonassisi Lanza
Doreen Kirwin-Bentson
March 2, 2011
So sorry to hear about Mickey. I was a student of Mickey's in Middle School and always respected his support and encourgaement of his students to be the best they could be - He will be missed! They say the greatest gift we can all leave behind is impacting the life of a child - well he has done that!
Rolf Brandt
March 2, 2011
Dear Wendy and Family, I'm so very very sorry about your loss.I fondly remember Mickey trying to teach this Soccer playing young kid how to take a proper snap and correctly throw a Football.Even way back then he had the makings of a good coach! Rolf
March 2, 2011
I am so very sad to hear of Mickey's passing and my thoughts and prayers are with his family. I will always remember the great all star baseball teams we played on in our mid teens that started our close friendship that developed in the late sixties and early seventies and the countless pitchers of beer we consumed at the Log Cabin Restaurant. Mick, you will be greatly missed but I know you are doing what you always loved and playing in that big ballfield way up in the sky.
Rest well my friend,
Peter Hommel
Peter Liller
March 2, 2011
I am so saddened by the passing of "Coach Duff", what a great guy, he touched us all at Westake, my condolences to his family.
Cindy Piebes Flynn
March 1, 2011
So sorry to hear about Mickey's death. He remains a part of great memories from Westlake. We all had such a crush on him. He was a great guy.
March 1, 2011
Very sorry to hear of the passing...Mr. Duffelemeyer was my phys ed teacher and golf coach for many years. My thoughts and prayers go out to him and his family. -Mike Vitolo
March 1, 2011
Coach Duff: Was a great coach and man. I hope he knew what a positive impact he had on many of us who played for him or had him as a teacher. He was fun, knowledgeable, an inspiration-- because he was great athlete and very supportive. He will be missed.
John Murphy
March 1, 2011
Ed
My sincere condolences for the loss of your brother. I do remember him when I worked in Shopwell in Thornwood.
Your old friend,
John Murphy [email protected]
John Selinka
March 1, 2011
My thoughts go out to the Duffelmeyer family. He was my physical education teacher at Westlake Middle School and my basketball coach. I have fond memories of those years. He was one of my all time favorite teachers.
March 1, 2011
Duffelmeyers' I am so very sorry to hear the sad news. Mickey truly made the world a better place. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Margie Dix Mathewson
Ron Coccaro
March 1, 2011
I am saddened to hear of the passing of Mickey. He was my varsity football coach in 1977, and I have very fond memories of him. He was a decent man, a well liked teacher and great coach to play for. He always treated his players fairly and with respect. If you worked hard and gave 100% he always gave you an opportunity to play and succeed, and for that I am grateful. My thoughts and prayers are with your family
Frank Gentile
February 28, 2011
Mickey was a year or two above me at Valhalla High School. He Was a wonderful person and one of the best Drummer's I had the privilege to play with. RIP Mickey, Your in God's Band Now!
Frank Gentile
bob mcintosh
February 28, 2011
Ann,Heather,Jit,Wendy, and family: Iam so sorry to hear about Mickey. Mickey coached me in JV football at Westlake HS. My mom and dad were got friends of mickey's mom and dad. my prayers go out to the family.
bob mcintosh
bob mcintosh
February 28, 2011
Ann,Heather,Jit,Wendy, and family. So sorry to hear about Mickey. Mickey coached me in JV football at westlake HS. My mom and dad were good friends with Mickeys mom and dad. Peace and prayers.. ill lite a candle at church for you and mickey
bob mcintosh
February 28, 2011
Ann,Heather, Jit, Wendy, and Family: So sad to hear the news. We will remember Mickey and all the Duffelmeyers with fond memories. Peace and prayers to you all. Love Ellen and Steven Basso
Susan Riley Dean
February 28, 2011
I attended Valhalla High School with Mickey. We also grew up in the same neighboorhood. In the late 80's I began working at Westlake Middle School and again was able to reminisce about Valhalla with him. He loved being up on all the news. He will be missed by many. My heart goes out to his family.
February 28, 2011
Dear Ann, Heather and all of the Duffelmeyer family,
What a loss- what a great guy!!! I have such fond memories of working with Mickey- he was great with his students, his athletes and his colleagues. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you at this most difficult time.
Betsy Groat
John Paulo
February 28, 2011
Page 4 Unfortunately as time went by we drifted apart. The fond memeories and love for you will never be forgotten you and your family will always be in my heart and on my mind. Good by old friend
John Paulo
February 28, 2011
Page 3 Mickey taught me back in 1961 how to drive a three speed car. He would sit on the floor and work the clutch so I did not stall the car. His car had an expired inspection sticker and when he drove by a Police Officer he would stick his hand out of the window to cover the expired inspection.
John Paulo
February 28, 2011
Page2. I was so proud of you when you graduated from Springfield and started teaching. I will never forget the great times we had at your house with your brother sister and parents and the Backus family. I know you passed on your leadership traits that you had
back then while teaching. You were the only H.S. quarterback to never get sacked thanks to the great line you had in front of you. Love you brother and I will see you in another world.
John Paulo
February 28, 2011
Mickey: I will never forget after moving from White Plains to Valhalla you accepted me and taught me how to live in the Country. We did a lot of things together for a long time. In the back woods at Ed Hasteys, on the field and on the court. Many a day I spent eating you Parent's ice cream in your basement. Hunting in the back woods with a slingshot and stick. Sleeping in our homemade wood tent behind the Buschini's house. Walking to #1 School every day and learning with Mr. Hall.
Gladys Suessle
February 28, 2011
Dear Ann, Heather and Family,
I have many fond memories of Mickey from our many years at Westlake. His smile brightened the day.
I pray that Our Lord will give you the strength and peace to get through this sadness, as only He can. Believers will see each other in Heaven one day!
In His Love,
Gladys :)
Linda & Chuck Sliter
February 28, 2011
Dear Ann,Heather and all the Duffelmeyer family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. We have been the best of friends forever. Mickey will be missed. Love Linda and Chuck
Ann Herz
February 28, 2011
I had the pleasure of going to Valhalla High School and watching Mickey play basketball. Then, as luck would have it, I was fortunate to work with Mickey as a colleague for many years at Westlake.
In this difficult time, I hope that all the wonderful memories he created with family and friends are a comfort.
Bruce Buschini
February 28, 2011
Dear Ann, Heather and family. Mickey will be missed in my heart. Being part of the extended family and growing a couple of houses away, things that I remember about my cousin: listening to Mickey banging on the drums, watching the cousins playing street basketball, sometimes they would allow me to play, but they would help teach me about the game, lastly the subtle pranks Mickey would pull on me in my youth.
Mickey will be truely missed.
Love; Cousin Bruce
February 28, 2011
.I was supposed to be going with the JV football team in the 10th grade, but I ran alongside Mickey to be with the varsity. Coach didn't know it until practice was over,but I made the team,because Mickey was the leader and inspiration of that time. Don LaVar, ( Florida )
Roger Wylie
February 28, 2011
Mickey will be miised by those who had the chance to either play with him, play for him or just be around him. He was always a leader. I am sadden by his passing but my heart is lifted up know that I had spent some time with him in the pass. I wish the best to his remaning friends and family.
Roger Wylie
February 27, 2011
Dear Ann, Heather, and family. Please know that we esteem Mickey as a strong and gentle friend, as well as a brother in Christ. We will remember him very fondly, as so many, many others will whose lives he touched. And most important of all, he is remembered by his Lord and ours. With love in Him, Esther & Jim
February 27, 2011
Dear Big Brother, my friend, my protector and advisor, I love you and will miss you more than you know. Rest in peace Mick. Love Wendy
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