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Michele DeSantis Obituary

Michele "Mike" DeSantis, born in San Giacomo d'Acri, Calabria, Italy, passed away early morning Oct 5th, 2020 at home surrounded by his wife, Cristina, daughter Giuseppina "Josie" Panciera, and son Giuseppe "Joey" DeSantis.
He is predeceased by his son, Francesco "Frankie" DeSantis, brothers Angelo, Giuseppe, and Luigi, mother and father, Carmela and Francesco DeSantis, as well as many beloved aunts, uncles, and cousins.
He leaves behind his wife Cristina, daughter Josie and son-in-law Mike Panciera, son Joey and daughter-in-law Sue DeSantis, and daughter-in-law Linda DeSantis, wife of the late Frankie. He leaves his grandchildren: Chelsea DeSantis, Melanie DeSantis, Cristina Panciera Medeiros and her husband Brandon, Julia Panciera, Heather DeSantis, and Benjamin Calitri. He also leaves his sister Connie McGuire, and brothers Eddie DeSantis and Sal DeSantis, and many beloved nieces and nephews. He was known as Papi, Uncle Mike, and Nanu. With a love for all, friends outside the family also affectionately knew him as Uncle Mike or Nanu.
In 1955, he left Calabria with his parents and siblings, taking the SS Flotta Roma to America to settle on Oak Street before raising his family on Batterson Ave. He was married to Cristina for 62 years. While living in Calabria, he would walk through the mountains from Santa Maria la Fiumara to la Comuna to visit her. He serenaded her again on their sixtieth anniversary. He worked the land of his garden for more than sixty years, and created his paradise of fig trees, tomatoes, gagomile, silver dollars, and, of course, hot peppers, that resembled the hills of his homeland. The back door and picnic table were always open for a shot and a beer.
He loved sitting down to big, loud, meals at home with the whole family. He loved to "scream" for ice cream with his grandkids! He was always smiling and joking around.
For 42 years and twelve days, he worked at the American Velvet Company in Stonington, Connecticut, in addition to working many other odd jobs over the years, including landscaping and running the Hilltop Social Club with his father, Francesco. After retiring he became chauffeur for his granddaughters, bringing them to and from school and sports practices, never missing a game.
He was a fourth degree member of the Knights of Columbus, the Narragansett Council, selling many winning 20/20 tickets and recruiting many members. He was a devoted parishioner of Immaculate Conception Church, where he was also a eucharistic minister and altar server.
His favorite pastimes were beating his brothers at a game of bocce, playing pitch with fellow Knights after meetings and at the Cally Club on Tuesday nights with his sons and brothers, hollering at his grandkids over a game of Briscola or scopa, watching the Game Show Network and Steve, funging in the woods of Ashaway and Connecticut, making soupie and homemade wine with the family, and of course spending days in the sun tsapping in the garden.
Visiting hours are omitted. Funeral Mass and burial are private. The family respectfully requests no flowers. In Mike's memory, please consider a Living Tribute tree planting at www.alivingtribute.org Gaffney-Dolan Funeral Home, 59 Spruce St., Westerly is in care of the arrangements. For online condolences please visit www.gaffneydolanfuneralhome.com

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by The Westerly Sun on Oct. 7, 2020.

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Alan Caolo

October 21, 2020

My condolences to the entire DeSantis family - Joe, I'm very sorry for your loss . . .

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Maureen Nelson

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October 13, 2020

Josie, Joey, and family. So sorry for your loss. Lou Murano

Lois Alice

October 12, 2020

To my Dear Friend Cristina & family
I just heard of Mike's passing,. I am heartbroken. I have no words to describe how profoundly sad I am at hearing the news & my most heartfelt condolences go out to you & your family. Mike was a great, great man ... a fabulous husband, father, brother, uncle, grandfather, friend & man of God with tremendous faith. He has now gone home to our Heavenly Father where he will rest in peace in the arms of our Lord. He will rejoice in our Lord & be comforted by all those he loved that have gone before him. He will rest in peace & await the arrival of all those who love him dearly. He'll be waiting at the gates whenever he knows of your arrival Cristina.
My heart is just broken & I'm sorry I can't be there to come see you & talk about Mike. I've been planning to come back home to Westerly for a visit, but Covid has made it impossible at this time. When I can finally get up there, I'll call you so we can visit for a long while.
Please extend my sympathies to your entire family. I hope to see you very soon in 2021.
I love you Cristina & my daily prayers will be with you!
Lois Alice

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Cidalia DeSantis

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Jeanne Morrone Stavros

October 9, 2020

To the DeSantis family,
So sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I grew up in the neighborhood and knew the entire family. Mike was a truly nice guy and a part of a wonderful neighborhood. May your memories bring you peace and comfort now and always.

Adelmo Intrieri

October 8, 2020

Deepest condolences to the entire DeSantis family.
-Adelmo Intrieri, Raven DiMario

Kathy Dreher

October 7, 2020

Dear DeSantis family,
I am so sorry. Please accept my condolences. I loved seeing Mr. DeSantis in my office. We enjoyed many conversations around gardening . I have some garlic perennials he gave me. He was the sweetest, kindest man. I will miss him so much.

Michael Dipollino

October 6, 2020

My sincere condolences to the DeSantis family on the passing of their Husband, Father, Brother and Grandfather. May Michael Rest In the Peace and Comfort of his Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. May your Father, Mother and Brothers welcome you into your Eternal Rest and May God Have Mercy on Your Soul. RIP my cousin!!!

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