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Memories and Condolences
for Bennie Callaham
Esther Callaham-Mahgoube
October 3, 2008
Just thinking and reminiscing of you
Hi sweety, I’ve been missing you.
Everyone is doing well. Your memories are simply fabulous. I cannot imagine how much more wonderful you could have made things, if you were still here. Your legacy too lives on. Thank you for so much that you left with us. We are doing all that we can to be certain that God’s work is being done, and that He is pleased with us. Your daughters are growing well and are safe, and all of the nurturing that you placed in Brandonn is continuously being developed.
Not only are you in my memories, but also among the many on my daily prayer list. I also pray that when God calls me home I will see all of my loved ones, especially my mother, my father, my grandmothers, Frankie and you. Pray that God will daily teach me to continue to be the wife, the mother and grandmother that He would have me to be. Pray too that He will straighten my path when He feels that it is not the path that He has chosen for me. I love you babe,
Just a prayer away,
Love Mom
Nykea Callaham
August 15, 2008
Wow! Ben it has been 1 year and about 4 months since we said, "see you later." Words can not express the impact you have had on my life. You helped me to grow in ways that I could only dream of. You taught me what it means to be a good wife and a good Christian. Those are two things that I will keep with me forever. You also taught me to be strong...and boy have I needed that strength!
I constantly remember that you are the reason why I chose my career path and to tell you the truth I'm excellent at it. I got my license and my master's is almost done...thesis still not finished even though, you will be happy to know, I just decided to finish yours :) So really it will be our thesis. I have so many goals and aspirations that I have yet to reach, but my strength and the motivation that you gave me will get me through.
I think about the saying, that some people are in your life for a reason, season, or a lifetime and it truly means so much to me. We found each other again at a time that God saw fit. We both needed someone for reasons that only he knew at the time. For that season we were unequivocally a winning pair! I wouldn't trade the time we spent for anything in or out of this world.
Ending, I want to THANK YOU for Kyla. She is the light of my life. She is intelligent, beautiful, funny, and she embodies you in so many different ways. She is surrounded by you at all times and to her you are very much alive in spirit. I guess that is one of the many joys of being a pure and innocent 2-year-old. You were truly a gift from God and I will never forget you and all the things we learned together and the things that you taught me. Continue enjoying your eternal life with Christ and keep a spot warm for me :)
Sincerely and with overwhelming Love,
Kea
K'tia
April 21, 2008
Time goes by so fast, but I still miss you as if it were yesterday. I'm sorry to just getting a chance to sign your book. I'm still amazed of the impact that you had and still have on people...your guest book is still being viewed and signed a year after you went to be with our Heavenly Father. Kavan and I are blessed and I'm back in school working on my Master's degree, and as I promised I'm not going to let you down. I just finished viewing the pics that Aunt Esther just put up and I began to cry when I got to the one of you in the wheelchair leaving the hospital, and then I ran the slideshow again, and while I was crying, I noticed something, in every last picture you were either smiling or had a peaceful look on you face...GOD is good Bennie and he's faithful. Even in your situation and battle you were at peace and encouraged others. I miss you so much and I regret all the time that I took you and the time we had together for granted. I will never make that same mistake again. Please know that I love you and I'm glad that you were in my life, and I'll make you proud! I love you Nukie:)
Esther Callaham-Mahgoube
April 17, 2008
Happy anniversary son. What a glorious day to celebrate, what a wonderful time in your life. I miss you sweetheart. I miss you sooo much. It’s such a strange filling that a child moves from this earth before his mother. However, it is not strange at all about God’s plan. His vision is so enormous that it takes us such a longer period to see and understand. I’m grateful for the 27 years that God game me on this earth with you, because He truly didn’t have to share you that long. I’m thankful to my parents and my mother-in-law (grandma Callaham) for nurturing and instilling in me the admiration of Christ and allowing your father and me to instill the same in you. We are very proud parents. There is not one moment in your life that we regret, other than the fact that we could have had more time together. I admire you. I admire you, because you took a stand for Christ. I admire you because you allowed Christ to live in you. You grew from your mistakes. You helped others to grow from your mistakes. That’s a testimony. You reached out to youth in helping them to find their way. You helped me to grow as a parent. I am thankful to you for that. You supported me in everything. I will never forget all that you have done for me, and how you were always there for me. I thank you for helping me to raise your baby brother and sister. I am grateful for that and God will bless you for that. I pray that every moment that you were able to share with those that crossed your path, there was a lesson learned. I pray that your spirit will always be with your wife and your children and that you will always watch over them and with God’s help protect them.
Son, I have a lot of preparation. This world has changed so much, even in the short time since you left. Pray for us, here on earth, that God will permit us to do ten times as much as you have done. Pray that we will have the strength and courage to live justly before God, and that we will become committed to His work. Pray that we will become committed to education, for that is the key to success. Pray that we will study His word continuously, without seize and that His light will shine in us that when men see us they will know that Christ abides in us.
I get so lonely for your presence at times, but I am reminded by Gloria Copeland that it is God’s desire that we do not weep and morn for those that have come to be with Him, but that we live and rejoice, and do His will. Thank you, for earthly family that God ordained you with.
Son, rest in peace and enjoy your new home. I have to go now. I’ve gotta get busy! I have a lot of work to do here on earth. I shared with God my gratitude for the wonderful years that we shared. I love you baby.
Always in my heart,
Mom, April 17, 2008
Charra Gardner
April 17, 2008
Hey Bennie,
As I sit at my desk and think that you have been gone from our lives for a year it is hard for me to grasp. You may be gone from us, but you have certainly not been forgotten. Although you were only in some of our lives a short period of time, you touched us in so many ways that I could never put it into writing. You were more than just a man that married my cousin, you were my brother in Christ, my friend and you had become a special part of my family. I miss you so much and although it still hurts I know that God had other plans for you other than here on earth.
We Love You and Miss You
Korita Jones
April 17, 2008
Hi Bennie...it has been a year since you left us. We miss you. You may be gone from this earth, but you are certainly not forgotten. Continue to rest in peace. We will see you soon!!!
Ebone Taylor
April 16, 2008
Bennie I have been thinking about you a lot and the times we shared. I also think about the great things that you accomplished and the people that you touched. Whenever I feel like giving up in school I think about you and the talks we had. Since I have been working at the YMCA I have realized how wonderful children are and how important it is to be a great role model to them like you are. Since I’ve been away at school I don’t see Kyla that much anymore but when I do see her she reminds me of you, she looks like you more and more each day. I know you are in Heaven serving God like you were serving him while you are here on Earth. When I sit at my desk at school I look at the quote, “Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery and today? Today is a gift. That’s why we call it the present” on my wall, it reminds me to be strong and live my life to the fullest. I Love You and Miss You Bennie
Brandi Dancey
March 28, 2008
To The Callaham Family:
The year is approach us fast and it will be time to remember a wonderful man that the brought joy to so many lives. Bennie you give me my beautiful niece and I thank you for that. Bennicia will be my remembance of you her smile and laugh. She look more like you everyday and act like you to. Well i hope you are up there doing a wonderful job for the lord in savior because you have service him well on earth. Callaham Family my god keep you close to his heart because he have your son, brother, husband and friend in keep sake
James Walker
February 28, 2008
Bennie you are missed so much by many family members and friends. I think about you alot, all I can hear is your words from our last conversation, "just keep on doing what your doing." That is what I am continuing and everything is going good. Kyla and Nykea are here with a great family to keep them as strong as an ox. I know you are in heaven having a ball and pray to meet again one day. R.I.P. Bennie
brandonn callaham
February 11, 2008
hey wats going on brah i was at school and decided to write u cause i truly miss a lot i have so much to tell u. im doing well in football im using everything u taught to my advantage. im almost finish with this juco school and everything went great i got my grades up and have coaches loving me i will sign this year coming up but i still have to choose a school i like rutgers, penn state, v tech and syracuse but believe u will push me in the right direction. And this year i wore 16 because u had 15 in college but u said always be one better then u so im trying my hardest. U will always be inside of me leading me to greatest and the finer things of life. Im sorry if i ever screwed up or embarrased but my act has straighten out now and i've turned out to be a great young man. My first words to were i LOve u and my last words to u were i Love u So whatever happens that will neva change. OOOOO i also pick up on your good looks thanks mane ill talk to u later. LOve you
Chris McMullen
January 19, 2008
Whats up coach? HOw is it on the other side man. Man im still doin this navy thing ya know. YOu know coach...Ill never forget that one piece of advice you gave me. THanks man..
Bernell Holmes
January 10, 2008
Happy Birthday Bennie!! May you forever Rest in Peace. I am praying for your family.
Your friend,
Berdie
Esther Callaham-Mahgoube
January 10, 2008
Oh how I miss you son. Oh, how I love you son. My heart is so heavy, but I will be strong and go on.
Last night after my prayer, it was 12:05, Brandonn said mom, I was sitting here talking to my brother. I told him happy birthday. He answered me with, "thank you man." He said he asked you what you wanted him to get you. You said Bran, you know you're not going to get me anything. Brandonn laughed. He misses you so much… so very much…..
We all miss you sweetheart. But, I never thought it would be so much. I never thought it would be so hard.
I love you sweetie.
Happy Birthday!
Mom
Shay Singleteary
January 10, 2008
Happy Birthday Bennie...
Oh how I wish I could pick up the phone and call or text you those words. I know you are enjoying this day in His kingdom. I remember you today and always. You will forever be missed.
Always
Dawn Thomas
January 10, 2008
HAPPY BIRTHDAY BENNIE!!!!!!!!!!
It's been a while, I always have a story to share even though you've already heard it because your watch everyday. Two days ago I reminded Bennicia that your birthday was coming up soon and she told me as quick as a whip that my daddy doesn't have birthdays any more, and I had to tell her that because your not here in the present you still have a birthday and we will celebrate it. It's weird because when your so use to things they end and you have to break yourself out that habit, like with Christmas you would come over and watch Nicia open her presents and you on one end and I on the other would be snapping pictures for Nana to have. that was truly hard that I didn't even take any pictures not that I didn't want to it was cause Christmas just didn't feel right, yes it is Christ birthday it still didn't feel right. And now today is your birthday and I have to change again not talking to you on the phone. You reminding me that my birthday was coming up and me telling you yeah because your getting old . Oh how those little girls are growing up missing you so very much. Again Happy B-day Bennie
Ashley Hunter
January 10, 2008
Happy Birthday Bennie! You are truly loved and missed!
Tim Crumpler
January 9, 2008
Coach Calli I miss u very much.I have figured out why i love the number 2 so much,its because u get to see heaven once in life but me meeting u was like a great glimpse of heaven so i wear the number two with pride knowing that i will get to see two people in a place that i wanna be and thats U and God in Heaven.Sometimes i think about u soo much that i slip up and say ur name even when the conversation doesnt concern u but i miss u man u are a large part of who i am and how i look at life.I want to be a strong man like you,but anywayz happy B-Day coach i love u Brah
Bridgette Callaham
January 9, 2008
Hey Ben,
I can't believe that it's been almost a year since your return to heaven. Christmas was weird without you being around. I miss being able to call and talk to you about nothing. All I could think about today was that you would be 28 tomorrow. I am so used to sending you a birthday card that I actually went to the store to look for one and then I came to a realization, you are no longer on Earth. But that won't stop me from celebrating your birthday on January 10th of every year. Happy Birthday Ben! I love you!
Sharon & Ebone Taylor
January 8, 2008
There was an emptiness in the Charity household as we celebrated
Christmas together. Although Kyla and Nykea were with us, our family was incomplete not hearing your calm voice or seeing your smiling face. Even though you were not with us long, you left an everlasting impression. Kyla does not understand but I know she misses you because when we talk about you she looks around like she is waiting for you to walk in. Sometimes I really believe she is talking to you especially when she is misbehaving and I tell her your daddy is watching you. She looks up to heaven and carry on her own conversation. We always tell her daddy is in heaven with the angels and you are watching over her. We will continue to tell Kyla how great her father was and that you loved her very much! I know you are in God's kingdom teaching the children and they are loving every minute of it. Your spirit will always remain with us!
Until we meet again!!
The Charity Family
joie howell
December 28, 2007
Bennie I Miss you so much. Christmas Has come and gone.Your face ,I did not see,your voice, I did not hear, but your spirit was here with me. I thank God for the small period of time he shared you with me and my dear grand baby Kyla will always remind me of you, everyday. Missing you And Loving You Forever, Your Mother-In-law
Joie
Bennie & his winning smile
December 17, 2007
Bennie, Nykea and girls (Bennicia & Kyla)
December 17, 2007
Bennie, Bridgette & Kyla
December 17, 2007
Bennie, Jr, Bennie, Sr, Kenneth(father-in-law), brothers Rodney & Brandonn
December 17, 2007
Nyke and Bennie with his dedicated nursing team
December 17, 2007
Bennie, his sister Bridgette & brother Brandonn as they prepare to leave the hospital
December 17, 2007
Bennie & Nykea
December 17, 2007
Nykea & Kyla
December 17, 2007
Bennie and Kyla as he battled his leukemia
December 17, 2007
Bennie and Kyla taking a nap
December 17, 2007
Bennie and college buddies on vacation
December 17, 2007
Bennie at Armstrong High School
December 17, 2007
Bennie and Bennicia
December 17, 2007
Bennie at his high school prom
December 17, 2007
Bennie, graduate of VSU
December 17, 2007
Bennie & the Virginia State Trojans
December 17, 2007
Bennie's 2 girls; Benniecia & kyla
December 17, 2007
Bennie, Jr's 1st car, a fox 1988
December 17, 2007
Bennie Jr(4) and Bennie Sr
December 17, 2007
Esther Callaham-Mahgoube
December 17, 2007
Today, December 17, 2007, marks eight months since Bennie’s home going. It’s an interesting feeling, and one that is so hard to grasp. Seems like a dream or more like a nightmare. However, it is real. Bennie is no longer with us. I know that is difficult for his wife and children, thus my prayer is that God will walk with them and protect them.
I have learned the secrete. There is nothing that I can do with my feeling of loss. I must depend solely on God to lift my spirit and to help me to move on. For, He has never let me down. When I reflect back on my life, I recall how God has always been there for us. And, He will continue to be there. Just two weeks ago, I was able to enjoy some of the greatest happiness that Bennie has given me. I had the opportunity to give one of my granddaughter’s love. We sat on the floor and played games. We ate pizza and oatmeal. We sang songs and clapped hands. Then we laughed and we read stories. It reminded me of the baby that Bennie once was. What a simple gift from God. Now, we must all learn the secret. We cannot depend on others to make us happy or to help in easing the pain of the loss of loved ones, but only God in his infinite wisdom can we depend on. We must trust Him and… pass the secrete on. Thank you son, for every lesson you taught. I love you, forever.
Mom
Korita Jones
October 25, 2007
Ben...I still cannot believe you are no longer physically here. It still seems like a bad dream that I wish I could wake up from...but I can't. Both KJ and I still think about, talk about and miss you dearly. He recently found a picture of the two of you and when we move...I am going to have it blown up and framed. You two looked so handsome in that pic! I am confident that God is taking care of you and you are in a place where you will experience pain and suffering no more. We love you Ben and are always thinking of you, the beautiful family and legacy you left here on earth. Continue to rest in peace.
Esher Callaham-Mahgoube
October 11, 2007
“A Thank You Note From Mom”
It was April 17th, 2007 that Bennie departed this life, and it feels like as though it has been many, many years. I miss the friendship that I had with Bennie. I miss my son. As often as I say to myself: “get over it”, I just cannot seem to accept that a major part of my life has left me. I think what hurts most as a mother is when your child reaches out for help and you know there is nothing that you can do. It hurts when that time of departure arrives, you see that one tear rolling down his face, and you don’t have the words of consolation to say to him. Later you begin to imagine what your child was feeling as that tear rolled down his cheek. Each time I think about that moment, I find it difficult to hold back my tears. I pray each day that I will soon join him and have peace.
When I reflect on the inspiration that Bennie was in my life, I must acknowledge how grateful I am. I must share with the world how he made my life so much more pleasant. I am especially grateful for the role model that Bennie was to his brother and sister and many other youngsters. I am thankful because he was the oldest child and that he sacrificed so much for his brother and sister. I am thankful for the fatherly role that he took on with his brother, and how he struggled to help Brandonn find his path. I’m thankful that his major dream for Brandonn is in the making and that he is in the school that he selected for him. Bennie I want to, again, tell you how much I love you and feel your spirit in everything that we do. Thank you for what you did for your baby brother, Brandonn.
On Sunday, Brandonn completed his ceremony as a blebe at Valley Forge Military Academy & College. He starts on the football teams and is number 16. Brandonn said he is very proud to be your brother and is grateful for all that, you taught him. He said he will always love you and keep you with him.
Love Mom 10/11/07
Karen Hicks
October 10, 2007
It is so wonderful to read all of the awesome things everyone has to say about Bennie! His life is truly a testimony. To Nykea and family; may God continue to strengthen you. I will keep you all in my prayers.
HHS Student
October 6, 2007
Coach Cali,
It seems like I see you everyday. Although physically you're not on this earth, there are so many reminders of you still here that would lead one to believe that you were here. In reality, you are still here. Many of us that miss you everyday have dealt with that reality. The lessons you've taught are still being learned. The love you gave to so many is still being felt. I charge your family and special friends who think of you, and love you so much to ask themselves WWBD? (What Would Bennie Do?)
To your wife, mother, brother, sister, and daughters; I pray everyday God is holding them in his arms.
God bless you and I'll see you soon.
kid3
October 5, 2007
it was so hard for me. coach was like a father to me that never had. he always been there for don't matter.i'll still can't believe that he was gone. i wish he was still here to see how i'm doing with my life... rip coach i miss you and i will alway love you kid3
Dawn Thomas
August 29, 2007
It's hard not to remember someone who was and still is a big part of many lives. Our daughter turn 7 on the 22nd of August and the spirit of you filled the room with all the family that showed up to celebrate the 7th year of Miss Bennicia Callaham life on earth. We had her party in the same place that we had celebrated her 4 year old birthday. She shared with me that she was so happy that she turned 7. Thanks to everyone who came out and those who was unable to be there thanks for the many wishes that was sent.
Esther Callham-Mahgoube
August 28, 2007
“Memories from mom”
On August 21st, I celebrated my first birthday without my son Bennie, on August 22nd, my granddaughter Bennicia celebrated her first birthday without her daddy. It was a memory that neither of us will ever forget. I missed him greatly. Each night before Bennicia goes to bed she prays with her daddy on her prayer cloth and kisses his picture goodnight. Even though we miss him greatly, we grow stronger each day when we remember all that he has left behind to help others. More than the finances, Bennie has left the education and that knowledge that has allowed au to grow. As mom, I want to thank him for all of the young fellows that he has nurtured and placed in the path that will mode their careers, and especially for how Bennie has prepared his baby bother for life. Thank you, Bennie. We will forever remember and love you.
Mom
Esther Callaham-Mahgoube(mom)
July 27, 2007
In My Pocket
I have memories in my pocket.
They rattle among the change.
My memories of you are treasures I carry wherever I go.
They are stored in bits and pieces, parts of a beautiful whole
They give me comfort when I think I am alone.
Yes, I have memories in my pocket, like so much other stuff I keep there.
But of all the treasures I have, it’s the memories of you that are the most precious.
joy smith
July 17, 2007
Mr.Callaham is what i knew you as u were my history teacher and made sure i got my work done in class and made sure i understood what it was that i was supose to do and if i didnt get it u made sure u took the time to help me if need be i want to thank you for all of your help and making me a better person. i will always remeber you and miss you. i will always keep the award i got from you with your signature on it thank you so much Mr. Callaham.
K'tia Hicks
June 18, 2007
...I really don't know where to begin...my heart still hurts, my crying spells have decreased but they haven't gone away...i miss you bennie so much, you were more than my godbrother, you WERE my brother. yesterday on father's day i spent the day with kyla and bennicia, and they are so beautiful. bennicia has your spirit, and kyla is definitely your twin and they are both full of the love and warmth that you possessed. i know that your are enjoying your new position in heaven and please give my mommy (aunt melba) and my grandma( aunt chrisitne) a big hug and kiss for me and let them know that i'm holding it down for kavan. kavan, kyla, and bennicia, had so much fun playing together yesterday they kept hugging each other and running around and it reminded me of the way we used to be as little kids running around and playing. I miss you so much bennie and I love you more than you will ever know. I promise that I won't let you down. I love you so much Knookie, and Happy Father's Day to the best father ever! I love you, K'tia
Dawn Dancey-Thomas
June 14, 2007
I know this is early, but I wanted to send this out while it was on my mind. Happy Fathers Day Bennie. Bennicia talks about you all the time and also she is having a hard time because she's worry that she can't tell you Happy Fathers day, but I told her she can. Then she heard someone call her name and she thought it was me, but I let her know that it wasn't me and she said oh than it was my Dad and I just smile because she loves her dad.
CAVIN CALLAHAM
May 26, 2007
TO THE FAMILY OF BENNIE CALLAHAM,
WITH DEEPEST SYMPATHY FROM THE FAMILY OF CHARLES ARTHUR CALLAHAM EVEN THOUGH WE BARELY KNEW YOU ITS TOUCHING AND HEARTWARMING TO SEE THE MANY LIVES THAT YOU HAVE TOUCHED IN YOUR LIFETIME WISH WE COULD HAVE HADTHE CHANCE TO KNOW EACH OTHER.
Korita Brown
May 24, 2007
Bennie...it is still hard for me to believe that you are gone. Both Kevin and I miss you so much. As our wedding approaches, I think about how hard it is going to be without you there. I know that you will be there in spirit and I try to comfort myself in knowing that, but it is hard. I know that we are never to question God's work, but I still can't help but wonder "why". God had a bigger and better plan for you...I am confident in that. I pray that your family finds peace and comfort in the days to come and that you and I will meet again. Until then...rest in peace sweet angel. You may be gone, but you are certainly not forgotten.
Darren Britt
May 24, 2007
Its been longer than a month now....i believe goin on 2 months. Coach Calli's STILL in my head. it just dont seem real. i can look at all his pics, and just say, "i can imagine him doin dat". He was a person who everyone should have gotten a chance to meet. But since everyone didnt, i'm just glad that i'm one of the ones who did have the chance to talk to him and be his friend.
"Coach Calli.....u will always be missed. got me up at 1:41 in da mornin writtin to u. Just wishin to see ya face 1 more time mayne! But i know u feelin better now, and u in a safer place than here. Just give us all a favor and keep ALL of us out of trouble iight? Love you Coach!!!"
~Twin1
Shay Singleteary
May 18, 2007
It's been a month since Bennie has been gone. I truly miss my friend. I regret so much that I did not make it to the hospital to see him before he passed and also that I didn't stay in contact as often as I should have once he told me he was sick. Bennie and I had been friends since middle school and kept in contact over the years. To know that that phone call will never come again is really hard to fathom right now. My thoughts and prayers are still with Nykea, Bennicia, Kyla and the rest of the Callaham family.
We will forever miss you Bennie!
Derrick Britt
May 17, 2007
Coach,
I miss you alot. but knowing your in a better place watching us, is a good thought. u will always b with me, in the classroom, on the field, and everywhere else i go. your a special person, and i enjoyed everything you've done for me and everyone else youve touched. you will be missed, but you're still loved. coach, youve done your part, and the entire time, we told you, "hold on and be strong coach". and you've done it. mann, i cant believe it..... i think, and its not even believable. but coach, my main point is, i luv u, and thanks for making me a better person, a great man, and a better individual.
luv you coach
i miss u alot more and more each day... youstill are a very special person, and you've got me t dis [oint in my life, and i thank you
Dawn Dancey-Thomas
May 17, 2007
It's been a month and a great man has went to start a wonderful job with the Lord as his new boss. Bennie you are truly missed here on earth but I know your doing your best at the job put before you. Bennicia and the rest of your family seem to be holding up, but I know they have there moments. On Yesterday Bennicia said something that really brought tears to my eyes.
Here is what happen:
We were riding in the car headed to pick up my sister and it was raining outside. She said to me mom why is it raining and I just let her know that these were god's tears and he's washing away the a lot of germs so people wont get sick, I just tried to give it to her in a way she could understand, she said oh and than fell silent. She started shaking her head and I asked her what's wrong, (We have to give these children of today much credit because kids do say the darnedest things.) She said umm Daddy and god are crying, I ask why was dad crying and she told me because he didn't get to kiss everybody and then I fell silent trying to understand what she said. And then it came to me that she 's having dreams that your kissing everyone you know. She misses you so much.
So I say to you Thank you Bennie for giving me this little girl. Because she shows so much of you in her everyday. I will do my best to help her grow up the way you and I see fit.
Your Missed
Dawn
Katie McCulley
May 16, 2007
I just found out that Bennie passed away....just a few minutes ago. My heart hurts so much right now. I took care of Bennie at MCV when he was first diagnosed. He was truly an amazing person and a wonderful father. I remember when Kyla was born and his wife was sending him pictures of her on his phone & he was so excited to show everyone.
Im wondering why this had to happen to him and his family, but im guessing it was for a reason. Everything happens for a reason.....He's just one more angel that we all have looking down on us.
My thoughts and prayers are with the family. He put up a long and hard fight & never took that smile off of his face. Please stay strong through these hard times.
Love always-Katie McCulley
Esther Callaham-Mahgoube
May 14, 2007
" Message from mom "
Today marks day 28 of my son's passing. It is amazing with the calls and letters that the family is receiving on behalf of Bennie. It is so evident that many people loved him and that he has had a tremendous impact on the lives of others. The telephone calls that I received on mother’s day were so very encouraging. Many had a difficult time in holding back the tears, while some still have questions as to why Bennie. Nevertheless, God had a plan for Bennie. Some of the calls were young adults saying that they were inspired by Bennie’s life and had decided to return to on Sunday to say happy mother’s day, and to say that she had a dream of her dad and that she missed him.
Please remember Bennie’s younger brother Brandonn in your prayers as he goes forward these days. He’s feeling moments of emptiness, which I’ve assured him will soon pass. God will unquestionably give him strength, as he relies on all that his brother has taught him as well as remembers the example that he set before him.
My daughter and daughter-in-law are flying to New York to have an after mother’s day week with me. I’m excited about that and looking forward to the visit.
Let us remember the lives that all of our loved ones and friends have lived. Perhaps we can grow from some of their practices. Perhaps we can lend a helping hand to help someone in need.
Much love to all
Mrs. Esther Mills Callaham-Mahgoube(Bennie’s mom)
Sheila Allen
May 9, 2007
To the Callaham Familly,
Please accept my heartfelt sympathy at this difficult time. Your husband, son, father, and brother was truly a kind and respectable young man. When ever he came into my office at VSU - he always had a smile and a kind word. A Smile that I will always remember! Keep the faith and God will see you through these difficult times.
Mr. & Mrs. Bennie Lee Callaham Jr.
Nykea Callaham
May 5, 2007
Over this year I have learned what true love means, what it feels like and how to give it. I have learned the true meaning of faith and strength. I lost my soul mate and now I have learned what it truly feels like to hurt. I accept death and I trust God, I would never question his decisions. He blessed me with a fulfilling marriage that was so amazing that the only thing more I could have asked for is time. My marriage was one that most people will never experience in a million years of companionship. Together we found and experienced love, excitement, humility, trust, humor, happiness, pain, loyalty, honesty, commitment, frienship, family, unwavering faith, courage, struggle, new life, and death. God answered my prayers with Bennie and he continues to answer them daily. I continue to pray for peace, strength, discernment and to be able to continue the awesome work that my husband began here on Earth.I do my very best to stay strong for my family and I know that Bennie would want me to be happy, so sometimes I hold back the tears and at other times I just let them go. Like they say "With time all wounds are healed". Live each day like it may be your last, always make sure that the people you love know it, never wait until tomorrow to say I apologize, living with regret is worst than living with fear! Bennie I LOVE YOU, and boy do I MISS YOU, and I can not wait until we are reunited again.
Denise Webb
May 2, 2007
To the Callaham Family: I am so saddened to hear about Bennie's death. I remember when our kids were little, playing together at Bellevue Model School, David & Bennie, Koren & Bridgette, I was always so impressed by Bennie's manners, character, & integrity. I always knew he would grow up to be a fine man. Take comfort in knowing that your son, husband, brother and father touched & inspired many lives in a positive way. May God give you peace and strength in this very difficult time. You are in my thoughts and prayers. - Denise Webb (mother of David & Koren Webb)
Nykea Samuels-Callaham
May 2, 2007
Bennie & Nykea
Bennie,Jr., Bridgette & Brandonn
Brandonn & Bridgette Callaham
May 2, 2007
Big brother,
We miss you.Words can not express just how much we miss you. We will forever cherish the memories of you.
Love Bridgette & Brandonn
Daddy & Kyla
Kyla Callaham
May 2, 2007
Daddy I miss you. Daddy I love you.
Love Kyla
Daddy & Bennicia
Bennicia Callaham
May 2, 2007
Daddy I miss you and I know that you are in heaven. I love you. I will be a good girl.
Bennicia Callaham
Bennie in the dorm at Virginia State University
May 2, 2007
Bennie,Jr. and mom
Esther Callaham_Mahgoube
May 2, 2007
I thank God for you son, yet I miss you so.
"Bennie and mom"
Esther Callaham-Mahgoube
May 2, 2007
"God Help Me Through The Days,
I Truly Miss Him, from mom."
Today is day 15 of my son's death, Bennie Callaham (Knoonky). I have returned to New Jersey and I am back at work. The burden is heavy and my heart is heavy. I can't seem to hold back the tears. I miss him so. I miss his smile, I miss his gentle voice, I miss his calls during the day, while I'm in class teaching. I miss going in my office and getting his messages, I miss our late night talks. I miss his sharing his daily growth and the relationship that he was experiencing with God. I miss our laughs, I miss our arguments, I miss him saying: “Ma, I know you're in bed, but I just wanted to talk.” I miss him saying: “Ma, I’m so tired.” I miss him telling me how much he loved me, and how much he has learned as I talked to him, as he grew. I miss him telling me how much he loved his wife. I miss him telling me how much he appreciated his sister Bridgette for coming from New York to be with him. I miss him telling me that he had to scold his baby brother Brandonn for not taking out the trash and that he told him he was going to respect his home and do exactly as he told him to do. I miss him telling me that he told his baby brother that he was going to be a responsible man, not just a man. I miss him telling me that he wanted his mother and father to have a relationship with his wife. I miss him telling me that he knew he was chosen by God. I miss our talks about the trial of Job. Oh God, I miss him. I miss him, I miss him.
Even though I understand and accept Gods' choosing of my son, it’s so very hard to hold back my tears for his absence. My heart is so, soooo heavy. My tears are too many, my face is too sad, Lord my walk is too slow. I need you Lord, now.
I pray that God will soon ease the pain and help me to move on. Please pray with me.
Esther Callaham-Mahgoube (Bennie’s mom
The New St. Mark Church Pastor Samuel Dunlap & First Lady Barbara Dunlap
May 1, 2007
The New St. Mark Church Family are praying for your family and you know that God is able to sustain you for his grace is sufficient for you.
God Bless You
Bennie L. Callham, Jr
Esther Callaham-Mahgoube
April 30, 2007
"Thank you from Bennie's Mom"
I am a mother, a teacher, a grandmother a godmother, an aunt, and a wife. A godmother for 30 years, an aunt for 37 years, a grandmother for 6 years, a wife for 29 years, and a mother for 27 years and 9 months. These are all womanly roles that God has granted me the ability to hold. I trust that I have been pleasing in His sight thus far in fulfilling these duties. Since I accepted Christ in my life, it has been my desire to please God. When I fall short, I ask that He place me back on track and make me aware of my shortcomings.
Mrs. Esther Callaham-Mahgoube (Bennie’s mother)
“Thank you for the Testimonies on behalf of my son, Bennie, Jr. (Knoonky).”
When I hear the testimonies given on behalf of my son Bennie, It makes my heart rejoice. I feel as though I can stand upon the highest mountain and shout praises to the Almighty. Thank you God for such an angel. I will continue to pray for his soul that as it travels, it will perhaps reach close to that level in which the prophets souls are stored. God have mercy upon his soul. I pray to God that my soul will be as my child’s. I pray for humbleness, peace and for mercy. I continue to pray to God for closeness of family, which was Bennie’s constant prayer. God I pray that the enemy will flee from amongst us. I pray that the lives that Bennie has touch will go forward and uphold an intimate relationship with God. I pray that the young men and the male friends that Bennie connected with will be great men, great fathers & husbands, and that they will be pleasing in God’s sight. I pray that the young ladies that Bennie connected with will be young ladies, respectable mothers, great wives, and also pleasing in God’s eyesight. I pray for my other children and my two grandchildren. God help me to teach them. God draw them closer to you each day. Show me what to teach them as times have so changed since Bennie was a child. God I continuously pray for the gift of discernment. God help me to be the wife that you would have me to be. Help me live pleasing in your sight. Help me to be there for children in need. God help me.
Thank you for my eldest sister Rev. Charlene Mills-Watkins, who stood in my place as aunt/mother, while I was in New Jersey working. God thank you for Bennie’s sister Bridgette, who put her education on hold to help her brother care for his two children, God please do not forget her. God thank you for Brandonn, who gave Bennie the opportunity to first experience fatherhood. God thank you for Nykea Samuels, Bennie’s wife who stood by him through his trial for better and for worse. God thank you for Bennicia & Kyla, his children who gave him joy and helped us to see the joy that a little child can give. God thank you for the young people who were so touched by Bennie, thank you for his friends that made him laugh, and for the saints of God that prayed for healing, endurance and the will of God. God thank you because I understand Bennie’s death, and I accept Bennie’s death, because you said it in your word, and because I kept my promise to you, that is if you gave me a normal and healthy child, I would give him back to you. Lord he’s yours.
And last but not least, God I thank you for the enemy, because again he strengthened a soul. This is another battle that he did not win. On the emergency room table, Bennie said: “Ma, my soul is still in tack. God told satan not to touch my soul, and he did not. My soul is still with God.”
Thank you family and friends of Bennie Lee Callaham, Jr. (Knoonky) for all that you have done; the food, the monies, the flowers, the fruits, the housekeeping, the babysitting, the transportation, the listening, the love, and the peace and the understanding. May God keep peace with you.
Mrs. Esther Mill Callaham-Mahgoube (Bennie’s mother)
Jena'y Nelson
April 30, 2007
To the Callaham family,
Mr. Callaham was, still is, and will always be, a very significant person in the lives of the Henrico Warriors. Though many of us didn't know him personally, his presence at Henrico High School has changed us forever. He will be forever missed. We will be eternally grateful to God for letting us borrow one of his best angels. God Bless
April 29, 2007
to the family of coach calli I send out my deepest sympathies he was a good man. I graduated from Henrico years ago and everytime I went back he always had words of encouragement to say. LOVE U COACH AND MISS U!!!!!!
John Tyson
April 29, 2007
Dear Callaham Family,
Please accept my heartfelt sympathy at this difficult time. I feel fortunate to of had the opportunity to coach with Bennie at HHS. He was always so well liked by the players and respected by the parents. We will all miss him at the field, but know that he has finally crossed the plate and is at Home with the Lord.
During this difficult time, may your hearts be filled with courage and God's promise of eternal life and peace everlasting,
Coach Tyson
Yvonne Jones
April 27, 2007
Nykea,
You and your family have our deepest sympathy in the loss of your loved one. Please contact us if we can help you in any way.
Brownie Troop #147
31st. Street Baptist Church
Yvonne Jones
April 27, 2007
Nykea, we share in your grief.Look to the heavens for strength and God will pull you through. Weeping may endure for a night but joy will come in the morning.Remember all the love you both shared.
Kimberly & Yvonne Jones
SHARON TAYLOR
April 25, 2007
Nykea, Kyla, and family
We love you and pray for you and the family. Remember weaping endures for a night but joy comes in the morning. Although we knew Bennie for a short time, he will be truly missed. He became part of the Charity family and was an inspiration to all who met him. We may not have been there with you in body but in spirit we were with there every step of the way. Nykea, you have been very strong during these trials and tribulations, you kept the faith and never gave up. Stay strong and keep your hand in the master's hand and he will walk with you. He will never forsake you or leave you. Nykea, always remember the goods time you and Bennie shared and always show Kyla and Bennecia pictures of their father so they will never forget him. Nykea I love you and if you ever need anything or just want to talk, I'm just a phone call away.
Ebone & Sharon Taylor
Alonda Jackson
April 25, 2007
2 Nykea,Kyla,Bennicia & Family:
Mah Heart Goes Out 2 All Of You.Callaham(Cali)Was A Great Teacher,Coach,And Friend.He Always Gave Good Advice and was a help for tha young at Henrico.I would miss him more and more he will always be in our hearts,he's in a safe and better place now and will alwayz be lookin down on us.R*I*P COACH CALI~A WARRIOR 4 LYFE~
Ashley Hunter
April 25, 2007
Aunt Ester, Bridgette, Brandonn, and Family! My heart is pouring out for you and your great loss. Nukie, (as we called him when we were little), will truly be missed. I remember the good times we all had growing up together on Broad Street. Those were the days. He was like a big brother that I never had. When I went off to college at VUU he was right down the way at VSU keeping a very close eye on me making sure I did what I was supposed to. Remember all the good and keep those memories close to heart. I am not going to tell you not to cry or feel sad, but what I can tell you is to be proud that you had such a WONDERFUL son, brother, and for me, friend! So, peace and blessings and may God's grace smile upon you as Nukie looks down from above!
joie howell
April 25, 2007
Nykea,Kyla and Necia,
Words can't express what Im feeling.I love you'll and will miss
Bennie so much. From day 1 iwas there for you. I remember the sunday you took him to the doctor. Kia, I'm feeling very selfish that Bennie's gone,but I know he's gone to be with the Lord. I will always be there for you & My Ky.
I love you very much
Step Dad Ad, Ma &Charity
God won't leave you,he's with you in the mist of the storm.He's with you when it's peaceful & calm.
Retana Comeaux, Henrico High
April 24, 2007
My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
Nicole Hamilton
April 24, 2007
When we all get to Heaven what a day of rejoicing that will be. When we all see Jesus we'll sing and shout the victory.
God is so good and he makes no mistakes. He called a wonderful person to Heaven to help carry out his plan that he has. So rejoice in the Lord knowing that the gates of Heaven has opened and Lord has said to Bennie welcome my son, job well done on Earth my good and faithful servant. Job well done.
May God continue to bless you and your family.
Benisha Wilkins
April 24, 2007
My Deepest Sympathy Goes Out To The Callaham Family. I Have Known Bennie since Fairfield Day Care to Armstrong High (C/O 98). He has always been a nice person & my prayers are with you.
Mie' Mie' Mayfield
April 24, 2007
My prayers are with the family.
Gena Jones
April 24, 2007
Kia,
My heart goes out to you at this difficult time. I only met Bennie once, but from all I have read and heard he was a special person. Keep your head up and lean on those that love you and support you.
marsha charity
April 24, 2007
This is so hard for us right now. We only knew you for a little while. We just can't beleive you're gone. You really did bring sunshine in our family. You are an inspiration to our all of your classmates and please don't forget your teams. GO WARRIORS!!!! We will never forget you. Each time we look at your daughters Bennecia and Kyla we will see your smiling face. WE LUV YOU ALWAYS GRANNY AND AUNT HOOKS
Courtney Esinhart
April 24, 2007
I am truly saddened by this news. There have been few patients that have touched my life in medical school as Bennie has. From that first day in December 2005, I was able to witness the strength and compassion of Bennie and his wonderfully supportive family. I am so fortunate to have spent time with you again this past October. To Nykea and the rest of the family (and I think through the course of a year and a half, I met most of them) I extend my sincerest condolences. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I feel blessed to have met you and been a part of the journey. You have made a lasting impression on me and I will never forget you.
Steven UNIT 8 Smith VREC
April 24, 2007
TO THE CALLAHAM FAMILY, While I didnt know coach Callaham personally, I feel the loss of a family member and friend. You have my deepest sympathy. While we are in pain and our hearts our heavy, we know our loss is heavens gain.
shannon hargrove
April 24, 2007
Hi this is one of coach bennie callaham students from 3 years ago he was my teacher for 2 year I want to condolences to the family.
Dannie & Kathryn Martin
April 24, 2007
Our condolences go out to Mr. Callaham's family at this time. We sincerely feel your loss. Whenever we had to meet with Mr. Callaham at school, he was always pleasant and considerate. He was special because of the concern and genuine interest he showed in our son during some difficult times. Without question, he was a credit to Henrico High. He will very much be missed.
Kim Shaw
April 23, 2007
There are so many words that one wants to say. But what can you say? Coach was the best! The struggle is over now, no more pain or sorrow. You will be missed but only for a short little while because we all shall see you again in heaven.
Thomas Coffey
April 23, 2007
Esther,
I know that you and your family are hurting right now but as the Lord says'Joy comes in the Morning'.He will be there to dry your eyes and take your hand. If The Lord brings you to it he will bring you through it.There is a bright side somewhere. And that somewhere is Heaven. Keep the faith.
Tony Jefferson
April 23, 2007
Coach Callaham:
You were a great man and you still are. I know that GOD called on you for a reason. He needed somebody strong in heaven. I know this is not our final goodbye. This is more like a see you later. You taught me so many things. I felt like I have known you my whole life. I KNOW THAT GOD IS HAPPY WITH THE WAY YOU LIVED. YOU NEVER DID ANYTHING TO HURT ANYBODY. R.I.P AND YOU WILL BE A STRONG WARRIOR IN OUR HEARTS!!!!!!!!!!!111
Lalita Yeldell
April 22, 2007
My love and prayers go out to the family during this difficult time.
April 22, 2007
Nykea and Family,
You are in our thoughts and prayers. May God continue to provide you with strength and love.
Mr. & Mrs. G. Oliver & Sons
Charmaine Jones (cousin)
April 22, 2007
My beloved cousin Bennie was an angel on Earth, and now he is victorious in Heaven. Peace be unto Nykea, Kyla, Benicia, and all of our family and friends. Through our faith, we are at peace knowing that Bennie is now in the Kingdom of God.
Tynika Donald
April 21, 2007
I would like to send my condolences to Kea, Kyla, and to all the Callaham family and close friends. I can say it was truly a blessing to know Bennie, even if only for a short time. He will be missed, but I know he is in a better place. Rest in peace Bennie.
Amonie Robinson
April 21, 2007
I want to give my sorrow and tears for Coach Callahams family and friends. God does everything for a reason and he put Coach Callaham in a better place. Mrs. Callaham keep your head up and be strong for your kids. I love you guys god bless.
Barbara Williams
April 21, 2007
I pray that God grants you peace and understanding of his plan. Your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
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