PETER STANLEY
STANLEY, Peter von Schilling, died Tuesday, February 7, 2012 at Sitter & Barfoot Veterans Care Center in Richmond, Va. The son of Sara von Schilling Stanley and James Selwyn Stanley, he was born in Richmond on September 20, 1938. He attended Fay School in Southborough, Mass., and Woodberry Forest School in Orange, Va., and graduated from Governor Dummer Academy, now The Governor's Academy, in Byfield, Mass., and from Harvard College in 1961 with a degree in psychology. After serving in the Army in Vietnam on a special assignment to study the psychological effects of guerrilla warfare and at Walter Reed Army Medical Center training monkeys for space missions, he became a stock broker, working at various times at Merrill Lynch, Wheat First Securities, Branch Cabell, and Scott & Stringfellow. For several years he was also an alcoholism counselor with Region X in Charlottesville. A lifelong musician, he hitch-hiked with his guitar and sleeping bag around the U.S. collecting folk songs wherever he could find them, admitting that the best source was the Library of Congress. He engendered his love for music in all who heard him sing and play his guitar and banjo, inspiring four generations of family, friends and audiences, while living in Richmond and Rapidan, Va., and homesteading in Talkeetna, Alaska. An avid outdoorsman, he and close friends reached the summit of Mt. McKinley in 1985, and with family and friends canoed rivers and lakes in Virginia, West Virginia, Canada and Norway. He was also an enthusiastic hiker and runner. Peter is survived by his wife, Virginia Armistead Williams Stanley of Orange, Va.; their three sons and daughters-in-law, Christopher von Schilling Stanley and his wife, Angela, George Dandridge Williams Stanley and his wife, Brooks, James Selwyn Stanley II and his wife, Ann, all of Richmond; his sister, Meredith Stanley Scott and her husband, Alfred, of Richmond; his brother, James Dowdell Stanley of San Jose, Calif.; his half-sister and half-brother, Ingelise Joan Stanley and Thomas Eric Stanley, both of Copenhagen, Denmark; five grandchildren, Tyler von Schilling Stanley, Emma Dandridge Stanley, Elizabeth Marshall McGuire Stanley, Alex Harper Stanley and Jane Armistead Stanley; and two stepgrandchildren, Avery Quinn Loinette and Reese Camille Loinette; along with his beloved nieces and nephews. A memorial service will be held at Emmanuel Episcopal Church, Rapidan, Va., on Saturday, February 18, at 11 a.m. There will be a reception after the service at the Rapidan Volunteer Fire Department. The family asks that, in lieu of flowers, contributions be made to the VCU Parkinson's Disease Center, P.O. Box 980539, Richmond, Va. 23298-0539, or to Hospice Community Care, 10128 W. Broad St., Suite J, Glen Allen, Va. 23060.


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Ginnie, I am so sorry to hear of Peter's passing. I heard it at church this week and was sorry that I did not know sooner. Even though I did not know Peter very well, I heard him play at the 4 County Players Theater in Barboursvilee and Iknew what a dear man he was because of our friendship. Please know that you and your children are in my thoughts and prayers. Sue Brown (Madison, VA)
Sue Brown
February 26, 2012
Ginnie, I am so sorry to hear of Peter's passing. I heard it at church this week and was sorry that I did not know sooner. Even though I did not know Peter very well, I heard him play at the 4 County Players Theater in Barboursvilee and Iknew what a dear man he was because of our friendship. Please know that you and your children are in my thoughts and prayers. Sue Brown (Madison, VA)
February 26, 2012
Dear Virginia - It has been many, many years since I have seen you and shared those morning walks around our neighborhood and UofR. I was looking for someone else's obituary today and happened on Peter's. How shocked and sad I am. I cannot believe it. Know I am thinking of you and your boys and remembering those times long ago. I was in Rapidan a few years ago and asked a shopkeeper your phone number but you were not at home. With love and care, Barbara
Barbara Melton
February 20, 2012
Love and prayers from your extended family at St. John's in Hampton. We will remember Peter and you in our worship tomorrow.

Rest eternal grant to him, O Lord; and let light perpetual shine upon him. May his soul, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen.
Rev. Anna Noon
February 18, 2012
Dear Virginia,

Please know that you and your whole family are in my thoughts and prayers during this time of great loss. Normally I would write you a note, but as we are on St. Barths until March, this will reach you much sooner. I send you my deepest sympathy and my love. Hope to see you in April at our St. C's reunion. Much love, Nancy Conkle Swann
Nancy Swann
February 15, 2012
All my love and sympathy to Virginia and her family. So much of the happiness of my youth is due to Peter, and Jimmy, and Meredith and the friendship with my siblings and me.

I send my love Betsey Pinckney Apple
February 15, 2012
Ginnie, I am so sorry for you in the loss of Peter. I thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family at this time. Hugs, Cindy Bickel
February 13, 2012
Our thoughts and prayers are with all the Stanley family at this time.
Linda Heilbron
February 12, 2012
Chris, we are so sorry to hear about your Dad. Our thoughts and prayers are with the entire family. May God wrap His loving arms around all of you and give you strength, peace and comfort. I know your Dad will be greatly missed.
George and Sheila Hughes
February 10, 2012
Virginia and family:
My thoughts and prayers are with you as you go through your grief journey. What memories you all must have. Use them to help celebrate Peter's life.
Moppy Atkinson
February 10, 2012