Raymond F. Kalendek

Raymond Kalendek Obituary

DELMAR Raymond Francis Kalendek, 72, beloved husband, father, grandfather and friend, on October 6, 2004, peacefully closed his eyes at home and went to be with the Lord. Ray was an extremely devoted and loving family man. His life revolved around his family and his home. Always an active man, he took pleasure in many interests. He enjoyed gardening, woodworking, reading, traveling, candle making, Yankee games and being Mr. Fix It. Most of all, he treasured time spent in the company of his family and his two dogs, Scruffy and Mandy. The tremendous loss and grief will be forever embedded in the hearts of those who love him. He leaves behind his wife, best friend and companion of 38 years, Patricia Brady Kalendek. He remains father and best dad in the world to Raymond G. Kalendek of Delmar, Shelley Bennett Kalendek of Albany, Michelle Schoeller of California, James Bennett Kalendek of St. Johnsville, Marcy Rollis of Clifton Park, Beth Kalendek, who lived at home and Kathleen Kalendek of Averill Prk. Ray, Papa was always very involved with his grandchildren's lives including school and sport activities. His grandchildren that loved their Papa so very much are Alexandra and Andrew Rollis, Cody and Michaela Mosley, Raymond and Ashley Kalendek and Nichlaas and Tiffany Brouwer. Ray was very fond of his sons-in law, Stephen Rollis, Kenny Schoeller, daughter, Kathleen's life partner Michael Mosley and Shelley's fiance, Billy Gerard. He will also be mourned by Robert Ford, his closest friend of 67 years. He will be greatly missed by adopted family members, Mark Burke, Sr. and son, Markie. Born July 6, 1932 in Albany, N.Y., Ray was the son of the late Raymond C. Kalendek and the late Antonina (Jane) Kalendek. He attended school at the former St. Ann's Academy. He served his country faithfully in Germany during the Korean War. After 27 years of employment with the Capital District Transportation Authority, he retired in 1996 as a supervisor/trainer. He held many offices in the Bethlehem Elks Lodge #2233 and was Past Exalted Ruler in 1985. He was a member of the American Legion Post #1040. A Mass of Christian Burial will be offered 10 a.m. Tuesday at St. Thomas the Apostle Church in Delmar. Friends and relatives may call at the Applebee Funeral Home, 503 Kenwood Ave., Delmar on Monday from 4 to 8 p.m. Interment will be in Our Lady Help of Christians Cemetery, Glenmont. Contributions may be made to American Heart Association, 400 New Karner Road, Albany, NY 12205.

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Published by Albany Times Union from Oct. 8 to Oct. 10, 2004.

Memories and Condolences
for Raymond Kalendek

12 Entries

Michael Reinhart

May 26, 2005

Kathy,Beth and family,

Im so sorry to hear of your dads passing, he was a great guy, a few times when I fixed your cars I would bring them to the house drop them off and sit with him for a bit and shoot the stuff, he was a cool guy, I wish I read the obits 7 months ago I would have been there for you guys, Take Care, Mike

Nicole Sherman

January 22, 2005

Dear Beth & Family,

I am so sorry to learn that your father passed away last fall. I just recently found out and wish that I had known sooner as I don't live local anymore. I hope that you and your family are doing well and I am here whenever you need a friend to call or get in touch with. I hope that I hear from you soon, please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. You're such a dear friend and person and I didn't know your Dad very well, however, I did know that you very much enjoyed his company and friendship, and always spoke very highly of him. My heart really goes out to you Beth.

In deepest sympathy,

Nicole Fiato/Sherman

Marcy Rollis

October 13, 2004

Thank you all so very much for writing in my dad's guest book, attending the wake, funeral, sending cards, flowers, baskets, food, etc. My dad would have been so proud of the way his family and friends came together to celebrate his life. He was a good man and a great father. He was extremely faithful to his wife, children and grandchildren. He took great pride in his home and we have a lot of memories (great memories) around the pool of my parents home. My dad was always there when we needed him & to be honest even when we didn't think we did! He was always there to listen & offer suggestions when we weren't sure what to do. My dad loved my children, Alex & Andrew, very much. He was so proud of them & who they were becoming. I shared my faith with my dad on many occasions even up at the Word of Life this past July. He was always willing to sit & talk with me about God and Heaven. Although my dads leaving us is extremely painful, I saw God's grace & blessings throughout this entire last week. My mother, sisters, brothers, brother-n-laws, husband, children, neice and nephew and family friends, Mark and Bobby, all were brought together over the past 6 days in a way we never were before. The closeness that we all shared would have brought tears to my dad's eyes. It is a bond we will forver hold onto. My dad loved getting together with the family for parties and holidays. He loved having all the kids & grandchildren around & of course lots of food. He helped my husband, Stephen, and I pick out our home in Clifton Park this past spring. He was so proud of us & our new home. He came faithfully when we first moved in to hang pictures, trim bushes, give advice on landscaping, etc. I still have so much to do.. not sure how I will ever get through everything without my dad. In closing I will say that he was an excellent provider, dedicated husband, grandfather (Papa) and the best dad in the world. I will forever miss you Raymone (my nickname) part of my heart will always be gone & my memories will carry me until I see you again. I will continue to make you proud of me as I continue this journey as a daughter, sister, mother, wife and friend. You gave me the tools needed to succeed in all of the roles I hold - thank you dad - I am forever grateful for having you in my life. I will never forget you. Love, your daughter, Marcy Kalendek Rollis

Greg and Jacqui Schnapp

October 12, 2004

Pat, and to all of the Kalendek family,

What a beautiful tribute to your dad and husband was displayed today. Ray was a great guy. His life was built around each one of you, and he left you all well equipped to carry on and continue to make him proud. Know that he will be called to heaven's window to look down on you. Remember all that he taught you both in word and in deed. I will always be grateful to God, to Ray and to Pat for the wonderful gift of my dearest friend Marcy. You're are all in our thoughts and our prayers.

Dolly Goyer

October 12, 2004

Dear Pat and Family,

I am so sorry for your loss. Ray was a great guy and I am sure he will be missed by many, including those at CDTA. The memories you have will comfort you in time.

Kelly Fahrenkopf-Cirilli

October 10, 2004

Pat and Family,

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Just remember time will help with the pain and memories are a wonderful thing.

Sara Huther

October 10, 2004

Kathy and family,

I am so sorry for your loss. I have so many wonderful memories of growing up in the Kalendek home. You are in my prayers.

Lucy Gould

October 10, 2004

Beth and Family,

I am so sorry. I have so many wonderful memories of your father. I know what a special relationship you had with him. Please know that I am thinking of you and your family. You are in my prayers.

Kathy Mather and John Richardson

October 8, 2004

Kalendek Family,

We are deeply sorry for your loss. We have been friends with Kathy and Mike for a many of years. We got the pleasure to meet Ray and Pat for the first time this summer at Kay's. In the few minutes we met Ray he seemed like a truly great person. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you.

Kathy and John

Michelle McCoy-Vita

October 8, 2004

I remember Ray living across the street, working with us girls through our barbie battles and walking my "friend" to the corner to meet me after school. I hold those fond memories of all the good times on Catalpa Drive close to my heart. God may take away our loved ones, but he leaves with us those memories that we can hold in our hearts forever. My thoughts and prayers are with the entire family. Ray can now join Mr. Gaylord, Popeye and my dad and watch over all us as we continue through our journey of life.

PAULA EGO

October 8, 2004

10-8-04

DEAR PAT & FAMILY:

I WAS SHOCKED AND VERY SORRY TO HEAR OF YOUR LOSS. MY SINCERE SYMPATHY, LOVE AND PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU ALL NOW AND WILL ALWAYS BE.

WE HAD A LOT OF GOOD TIMES TOGETHER, BOWLING, CARDS ETC. HE WILL TRULY BE MISSED BY ALL.

THE LAST TIME I SAW YOU BOTH WAS IN COLONIE CENTER WHEN I HAD BARB OUT CELEBRATING HER BIRTHDAY.

YOU BOTH LOOKED GREAT. IF THERE IS ANYTHING AT ALL I CAN DO PLEASE DO NOT HESITATE TO CALL ANYTIME DAY OR NIGHT. I'M LISTED IN THE BOOK SAME PLACE.

MY LOVE PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU ALL IN THIS MOST SORROWFUL TIME.

THOUGH I WOULD LIKE TO MAKE THE WAKE I'M SORRY I WON'T BE ABLE TO MAKE IT.

TILL THEN TAKE COMFORT IN ALL THE HAPPY TIMES AND REMEMBER HE WILL ALWAYS BE WITH YOU. LOVE IS THE TRUTH - IT'S BOND WILL NEVER SEPARATE US. HE IS JUST A THOUGHT AWAY. THO SUTTLE YOU WILL SEE SIGNS OF HIM BEING THERE.

PLEASE DO NOT HESITATE TO CALL.

LOVE,PRAYERS AND GOD BLESS YOU ALL

PAULA EGO