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Sheila Otto Obituary

Otto, Sheila Ann
DELMAR - Sheila Ann Otto (nee Reilly), a beloved wife, mother, grandmother, and friend, passed peacefully at her home on November 13, 2022. She was 76. She approached her illness as she did her life - with dignity, courage, conviction, and humor.
Born in Orange, N.J. to Frank and Winifred Reilly, Sheila received an exemplary Catholic education at St. Patrick School, Bayley-Ellard High School, and Trinity College in Burlington, Vt. While in college, Sheila met her husband Frank, a student at the neighboring University of Vermont. Shortly after graduating, they married and embarked on a four-year teaching adventure in St. Croix, U.S.V.I.
A SUNY Albany fellowship brought Frank and Sheila to the Capital District, where they initially made several lifelong friends at the Meadowbrook Apartments and began a family. Following years as a stay-at-home mom, Sheila earned a nursing degree from Maria College and began what was to be a 29-year career at Albany Medical Center (A.M.C.). During her initial 11 years as a critical care nurse, Sheila developed an interest in medical ethics and subsequently joined The Center for Medical Ethics.
As a bioethicist, she compassionately advocated for patients and their families. She intersected with, and influenced the careers of many students, nurses, residents, and attending doctors. The regard in which she was held was evident when she returned to A.M.C. as a patient and some of those individuals became part of her care team. Sheila ultimately became the institute's director of Consultation Services and an assistant professor of Medicine at Albany Medical College. During her tenure, she also earned a bioethics and medical humanities certificate from Columbia University, where she loved the weekly train ride from her window seat along the Hudson River.
Sheila was a valued and unwavering friend to people from all areas of her life - college, A.M.C., book clubs, and neighbors. Renowned for her straightforwardness, she was always available for a civil and lively conversation, ideally with the accompaniment of a glass of wine. She loved traveling with friends to places such as Vietnam, Cambodia, Turkey, and Greece, as well as her annual trips with "the girls" to St. Maarten, Aruba, and the Jersey Shore. The eve of the COVID-19 pandemic found her in Morocco, where her upbeat, "all will be okay" attitude almost left her stranded in the Sahara Desert.
An avid reader, Sheila enjoyed many genres of literature, whether with her friends in her book club or leisurely reading in a beach chair on Spring Lake on the New Jersey shore. She was a lover of theatre and relished introducing her grandchildren to Broadway.
In addition to her husband, Frank "Paco," Shelia is survived by her son, Alexis of New York; daughter, Pilar and son-in-law, Peter Chapman of Yardley, Pa.; grandchildren, Susanna and Henry, and many loved friends.
A celebration of Sheila's life will be held at 11 a.m. on December 2, at the Colonie Country Club in Voorheesville.
In lieu of flowers, please consider a contribution in Sheila's memory to the Alden March Bioethics Institute through the Albany Med Foundation.
To leave the family an online condolence please visit applebeefuneralhome.com.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by Albany Times Union on Nov. 20, 2022.

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Teresa A Meade

February 14, 2025

I remember Sheila as a kind soul with an acerbic wit. Being with her was always fun. My best to Paco, Pilar and the family.

Teresa A Meade

November 27, 2022

Paco and Pilar,
Andor and I just heard the news and are so very, very sorry about Sheila's death. She was a wonderful live wire and I enjoyed every conversation with her, both in person and over email. We are out of the country and cannot make the memorial service but hope to see you later in the year. When my sister died at a too young age, someone told me: "You have no choice. You love, you grieve. But a life without love is unthinkable." Sheila was an enthusiastic and lovable live-er of life. She will be missed.

Cheryl Randall

November 23, 2022

Dear Paco,
We were devastated to learn of Sheila's illness, and her passing. We will never forget your kindness as neighbors on FGR! Sheila was a wonderful woman who inspired all who knew her!
Our deepest sympathies,
Cheryl & Bill

Michael F. Ryan

November 21, 2022

Paco - It has been many years since we have seen each other but, starting at the Cape, I have always held Sheila in the highest regard. I am not surprised by all she accomplished and gave. For me, she will always be smart, sassy and beautiful. My heart goes out to you and your family. - Mike Ryan, Rutland.

David Hoffman

November 20, 2022

My condolences to the family, Sheila was a presence and someone I learned a lot from. I´ll always appreciate those lessons.
David Hoffman

Cornelius J Milmoe

November 20, 2022

I am sorry to hear about Sheila's death. When Alex and I moved to Albany in 1974, Sheila was Alex's first friend. When we moved to Delmar, they remained close and when we moved to Delmar, one reason was to be close to the Ottos. Pilar was one of Anne's first playmates. We left Albany in 1985, and time and distance eroded the close friendship of the Milmoe and Otto families. The sweet memories of Sheila and the Ottos as close friends and neighbors from 1974-85 remain and will be cherished forever.

TAMMY STALEY

November 20, 2022

I am so sorry for your loss. I had the honor of being on the Nursing Ethics Committee at AMC with Sheila. She was a compassionate leader for our patients. I learned so much from her. May she rest in peace.

Marty DeLaney

November 20, 2022

Sheila was a great friend to me in Delmar when our children were very young. Definitely a straight talking woman who knew exactly what to say. She was admired for her wit, intelligence and laughter. I´m blessed to have known her and I wish peaceful memories to her family.

Cindy Seay

November 19, 2022

I always had the greatest respect for Sheila. She could discuss hard topics with a warm smile and a guiding hand. Not just for the clients but the nursing staff as well. I am so very sorry for your loss. Fly high Sheila

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