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Kathleen H Brakefield
Earlier today
My Pap Pap was one of the most important people in my life. He was loving, protective, and principled, all the things you´d hope a grandfather would be, but he was also so much more than that. He was funny, thoughtful, full of stories, and always ready to explain something so that you could understand it just the way he did.
Some of my happiest memories are at the farm he owned, where I´d spend hours riding in the trailer of his lawnmower, collecting rocks, climbing cherry trees when I wanted a snack, or just walking through the fields. That farm became my happy place. Even now, when I need calm or clarity, I can close my eyes and go back there. I can still feel the warm breeze, hear the hum of the locusts, and sense his presence like I did on all those weekends growing up.
When I was little, I wished with all my heart every birthday for a horse and one day, he brought Beauty, a Tennessee Walking Horse, to the farm. He taught me how to ride, and I´ll never forget how much that meant to me. It was like a dream come true, and it was because of him.
Pap Pap also had a great love for John Wayne movies (it was through him that I discovered my favorite actress, Maureen O´Hara). He could quote entire scenes, and he admired those characters deeply. I remember once, while we were watching a movie, John Wayne lit a cigarette, and he scolded the screen: "Put that cigarette away, it´s going to kill you far too soon!" That moment stuck with me because it summed him up so well. He cared so deeply...not just about people, but about the choices they made. He wanted the people around him to understand right from wrong, to respect authority and responsibility, and to make good decisions. That was such a core part of who he was.
When I was 18 and preparing to go to architecture school, he took me on a drive. At the time, I thought maybe he didn´t believe I could do it. That he thought I was just a girl trying to do a "man´s job." Years later I talked to him about how I became an architect anyways. He told me that he wasn´t trying to discourage me. He just wanted to make sure, I was sure. That I understood what I was getting into and that I was making the right choice for me. And when he saw the first building, I helped design, no one was prouder than he was.
He supported me when I felt like I had no one else. He could always sense when I needed a laugh, or a story, or a moment of guidance. I will miss his lectures, his laughter, and the way he always had a story to make a point (the kind that stayed with you long after it ended).
Pap Pap gave me strength, comfort, and a belief in myself that shaped who I am. I will carry him with me always in my memories.
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