Margaret Ann Shade
Margaret Ann Shade – March 19, 1928 to November 14, 2020
Ann Shade was born in Tulsa, Oklahoma, on March 19, 1928 and passed away after a long term illness at home in Dallas surrounded by family on November 14, 2020 at the age of 92. She was a longtime resident of Tulsa. She moved to Dallas in 2015 to be near her family.
Ann will be greatly missed most especially by her family and will be dearly remembered by her family as a sparkling and delightful light who illuminated, inspired and supported all of us to live our lives as joy filled as hers. Her love nourished and guided us. Her attitude enlivened us. Her spirit will live on in us and we will be forever grateful for her presence in our lives.
In life, she was devoted, quick witted, fun, loving, wise, resourceful, courageous, persevering, gracious and grateful. She was frugal, but loved things that shined. She enjoyed eating, but really loved cooking for others. She was an avid reader, but also a gifted note writer. She was the perfect balance. Towards the end of life she continued to imbue all those qualities combined with a kind and cheerful spirit. She kept us laughing to the end! We adored her – she was the best of mothers and a beloved "Gamma", as known to her grandkids. They were her greatest joy.
She married Raleigh W. Shade on May 2, 1953 and they were married 41 years until his death in June 1994. She missed him every day, but continued to live a full life thanks to her wonderful friends and family. Her dear friends, provided her life with laughter and camaraderie, especially after Raleigh's passing.
Ann was a graduate of Tulsa Central High School. She graduated from the University of Oklahoma school of journalism with honors in 1950, where she was a member of Pi Beta Phi sorority and was awarded the Outstanding Journalism Student. After graduation she worked for Procter & Gamble in Chicago. While there she started dating Raleigh, who was visiting Chicago and shortly thereafter she moved back to Tulsa and they married.
She was very active in the Tulsa community having co-chaired the 1970 PGA Championship at Southern Hills Country Club, where she was a longtime member. She also chaired the Candlelight Ball, and served on committees for the Tulsa Heart Ball, Tulsa Opera Ball, Junior League of Tulsa Pro-Am Golf Tournament and the Junior Board of the Children's Home. She was also a longtime member of First Presbyterian Church of Tulsa.
She was predeceased by her husband, Raleigh Wallace Shade; her parents, Pauline and Raymond Jarrett and her brother, Ray Jarrett. She is survived by her son, Bill Shade, of Kansas City, Missouri; her daughter, Julie Musselman, and her husband, Jim Musselman, of Dallas, Texas; her son, Mike Shade, and his wife, Leslee Shade, of Granbury, Texas; and her beloved grandchildren, Katherine Kruger, David Kruger, Shelby Shade, Molly Shade and Sam Shade; as well as her nephews and niece and their spouses, Jenny and Charlie McNamara, Mary and Raleigh McNamara, Steve and Mary Kevin McNamara, of Tulsa, Oklahoma, Marcy and Jim Jarrett, Enid, Oklahoma and Ellen and Mark Horrell, Ft. Worth, Texas. She is also survived by her great grand dogs, Ivy and Charlie, that kept her company on a daily basis.
We wish to thank her dedicated and loving caregivers: Keith Wofford, Nadia Mora, Joy M. Otto, Norma Miller and Melissa Mama. We are also grateful to Dr. Raymon Aggarwal of Dallas who cared for her with intelligence, integrity, kindness and concern.
Funeral arrangements: Sparkman Hillcrest Dallas. Private family burial at Rose Hill Mausoleum, Tulsa. In lieu of flowers or donations, we ask you to remember her with a smile.
There are people who carry life's burdens,
Their own and some others beside;
There are people who stand in their places,
And who stand there whatever betide.
When the Kingdom is calling for workers,
Or the city is crying for men,
Or some cause is seeking supporters,
These people will answer just then.
There are two kind of people—you know them,
As you journey along on life's track—
The people who take your strength from you,
And others who put it all back.
—Rev. Ralph Spaulding Cushman https://www.dignitymemorial.com/funeral-homes/dallas-tx/sparkmanhillcrest-funeral-home/2251
Published by Tulsa World on Nov. 22, 2020.