Kathy Sue Bodnar

Kathy Bodnar Obituary

BODNAR
KATHY SUE BODNAR (Age 53)

Of Nokesville, VA died Saturday, July 21, 2007. She was a member of Greenwich Presbyterian Church, Nokesville. Mrs. Bodnar is survived by her loving husband, Albert Bodnar; two sons, Jacob Bodnar and Alex Bodnar, both of Nokesville; her mother, Rita Frederick, of Florida; four sisters, Karen Vail of Michigan, Lori Notestine of Florida, Kris Frederick of Florida and Linda Carter of Texas; and one brother, James Frederick of Ohio. A Memorial Service will be held 11 a.m., Thursday, July 26, 2007 at Greenwich Presbyterian Church, 15305 Vint Hill Road, Nokesville. Pastor Donald M. Meeks, officiating. Condolences may be sent to:

www.piercefh.com.

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Published by The Washington Post on Jul. 24, 2007.

Memories and Condolences
for Kathy Bodnar

7 Entries

Debbie (Thomeczek) Smith

October 14, 2024

Kathy and I were best friends throughout our time at Carroll High School. I loved her family and saw them often. We were inseparable. After graduation we went to celebrate in Florida and when we returned we moved in together. We did lots together for many years and still visited each other through our early 20s. She worked at the base and we had many great memories that we shared. We got back together again before you moved to Virginia. I also lived in Bellbrook and I visited a couple times there. I met her boys but never got to meet Al. She was always so funny and I really miss our friendship. We did communicate every Christmas with a card and a note telling each other about what we did that year and how our families were growing and life as a mommy, wife and friend. After not receiving those letters at Christmas I found out she had passed and sent her brother a message since I knew he would remember me and found out what happened. I still get very emotional when I think of our friendship and wish I would have stayed closer to her. She truly was the one friend that I can say my life revolved around for many years. I loved her little green Volkswagen. I had four children so our lives were both very busy with keeping our family that number one concern. James left me a beautiful message in my email telling me about her and what I missed in her life and was very emotional and said he would get back with me at a later date. I just wanted to let everyone who loved Kathy (all her siblings, her beautiful family, you and so many friends) know Kathy was someone that you could always laugh with, party with and love to spend time with. We all have the beautiful memories that each of us shared with her to treasure. I will put a couple pictures of her and I during those special years we shared soon.

James Frederick

July 30, 2007

As offered Jul.26 at the service:

Kathy S. Bodnar was a multi-dimensional woman. She could be trendy and homey; outgoing, yet very personal. She could be sweet and she could be sassy. I would like to share with you the dimension of Kathy that I know.

I was struggling with how to process all that has happened especially because at the age of 53, it seems like there should have been much more time for Kathy. I was talking with a friend of mine who lost his uncle to what seemed to be a premature death. He said that at the time, someone offered the comforting idea that although it may not seem like it, his uncle HAD accomplished what he was supposed while here on earth.

I refused to believe that the same was true for Kathy. But after thinking it over; I think it is actually true. She accomplished what she was supposed to:

She showed me how to live with passion. Although she was a small woman – she lived life in a large way. She lead the way for me and her younger siblings around school, dance lessons, babysitting and more adventurous things like boating, water skiing and flying. And now she has forged the way for us to heaven.

She demonstrated to me what it means to be outgoing. She never met a stranger. She offered equal-opportunity friendships, with no filters. It didn’t matter what socio-economical class you were from – you were good enough for her. It struck me the other day that she was truly non-judgmental. When she said anything about anyone it was more in the spirit of observation versus criticism.

Kathy loved meeting people. Recently she told my partner that the best part of the jobs she recently held was meeting and talking with people from all walks of life. Kathy was inquisitive – always seeking out new experiences & knowledge. I remember her asking me hundreds of questions about every aspect of my life.

She succeeded to show me that almost no situation or subject matter was too serious to have fun. Kathy was truly fun-loving – bringing laughter to everyone. Sometimes she could be a bit of a prankster and a bit mischievous. When I was a teenager, she would take me and her dog named “Sunshine” to Woodland Cemetery, a beautiful spot in Dayton Ohio overlooking the city. Where often Sunshine would chase ducks around the pond and end up in the water with them, bringing a delightful lightness to what could be a “heavy” setting.

My sister Lori recently told me the story of how as young girls, she and Kathy were taking tap dance lessons, which they didn’t care for much. They had been to our church festival where they had picked up these small toy metal clickers, as a prize at the “fish pond.” Kathy had the brilliant idea that that they could fool their instructor and just pretend to be tapping if they moved their legs while clicking the clickers. Well, it didn’t work, and in classic style, it was Lori that was busted by the instructor, not Kathy.

She could laugh at herself as well. And even recently when she was in Ohio we both laughed about the time, years ago, that she discovered Elle, the fashion magazine. She said I found this new magazine called “Ellie”, not knowing the French pronunciation. Of course she loved that magazine, Kathy had a bit of a fetish for fashion & trend and often expressed herself that way.

She accomplished to demonstrate her personal style and creativity. No occasion was too small to seriously consider what to wear. She loved to see and to be seen. She was comfortable camping in nature or sipping a latte in a trendy coffee shop.

Another creative outlet for Kathy was cooking, exploring gourmet techniques and recipes that would intimidate the rest of us. This passion was born out of her drive to make a comfortable and nourishing home for Al, Jake and Alex. This was her prime passion, love and devotion. It came before all else. She was generous to the point of being selfless.

Kathy accomplished to show me how to listen and comfort. She was often my Rock and I have cried on her shoulders on many occasions.

So she accomplished a lot. She accomplished to be an authentic and loving daughter, sister, wife, mother and friend. Exactly as God would have it be – is enough. Quite an accomplishment.

In closing I want to share the card she sent me for my birthday last week, which for me is a bit symbolic. It represents for me her philosophy on life. It features an image of a dog running free in an idyllic setting. The caption reads: Celebrate – like someone forgot to lock the gate.

Thank you

Kathy in Ohio, June 2007

July 29, 2007

Amy (Button), Kevin, Sam and Max Nourse

July 27, 2007

Al, Jake and Alex,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May Kathy live on with our memories and in our hearts.
With deepest sympathy,

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Lisa

July 26, 2007

Kris, just wanted to let you know my mother and I are thinking about you and your family at this time. You take care of yourself.

Jeffrey Button

July 25, 2007

My families prayers and thoughts are with Rita, Al, Kathey's sons, and all family members. God bless all. Jeff, Rhonda, Jeffrey, and Morgan Button.

Billie-Jean Holmes

July 24, 2007

Al and Family: There are no words -- for I would say them all to your family if the words would help ease some of your family's sadness. No hugs -- for I would give them a thousand times over if that would help to break even a little of your grief. There is nothing -- and I feel so helpless -- that I could say other then that I truly whole-heartedly have your ENTIRE family in my prayers. If I could find a man that loved me even as much as 1/3 of how much you loved Kathy -- for she was your sun, moon, and stars -- I would feel like I am the luckiest woman in the world. So I offer prayers from my family -- Sirrena (daughter), Bobbie (sister), and myself.

Billie-Jean Holmes
Former SAF/XCOS Administrative Asst but always a friend

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