Thomas Lawrence Samose
1946 - 2021
Thomas Lawrence Samose
Thomas Lawrence Samose, longtime resident of Westport/Weston died Sunday October 24th of natural causes. Tom was born on January 31, 1946 in Manhattan to Morton and Audrey Samose. When he was 8 years old, his family, including his brother Richard (predeceased) moved to Westport where he attended the public schools. Upon graduation from Staples High School he attended Columbia University where he received a bachelor's degree in philosophy followed by a master's degree in social work from Fordham University. It was this degree that led him to many, many years as an LCSW family counselor working out of his small office on Whitney Avenue, eventually, calling his practice "Nature's Way Counseling." Through his unique approach to counseling, Tom impacted hundreds and hundreds of individuals and families, with many saying that he literally saved their lives. Forever known as Uncle Tommy to nephew Jason Samose of Oak Park CA; nieces Emily Samose of Washington, D.C. and Bonnie Fitzpatrick of Townsend, MA, they remember his many words of advice and memorable sayings such as "expectations are inversely proportional to serenity" and always trying to live by his analogy of life being a river which ebbs and flows. He was great Uncle Tommy to Jason's children, Nathan, Julia and Luke Samose and Bonnie's children, Caitlin and Abigail Fitzpatrick. He was cousin to Stephen Langenthal of Manhattan with whom he remained close along with his wife Alba and their daughter Carla with regular dinners in New York. Tom is a United States veteran, having served in the Army. Perhaps most importantly and reflecting the name he gave to his counseling practice, Tom was a lover of and advocate for the great outdoors; hiking Mt. Katahdin in Maine, canoeing down many New England rivers and traveling throughout the U.S. and internationally to canoe and explore. It was this love that led him to create the Machias Outing Club where he led canoe and camping trips and travel excursions abroad in its later years. Having run the NYC Marathon several times, Tom also held a Machias Outing Club Resolution Day race on New Year's Day throughout the '80s. Tom was important to many and a memorial/celebration of life will be celebrated at a later date. Please visit the following for updates: or In lieu of flowers, please consider a donation to an organization that promotes the outdoors in Tom's name. As we mourn this terrible loss, perhaps we can take comfort in one of Tom's favorite sayings: "In the folly of man lies the wisdom of God."
Published by Westport-News on Oct. 27, 2021.
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We send love and deepest condolences to everyone who was profoundly touched by Tom. He was an important part of our world and we are sorry not to be able to join you today. Yes, we all know Tom rocked on the dance floor (we were in high school together), he was cool, handsome, kind and, ok, my heart fluttered a bit when we talked. But that is not how we remember Tom. One brief story for us speaks to his essence. More than 30 years ago when we were in the throes of grief over the deaths of two of our children, Tom rescued us. We live in Minneapolis but somehow Tom heard of our pain. Every day for the better part of a year, he checked in with us by phone. Every day. We talked; sometimes listened. Maybe a 5 minute call. Sometimes he said, you sound better today than yesterday. He was our lifeline -- patient and utterly without judgment. He jumped into our hole and dragged us to our feet. When he knew we would get better he slipped away. Our paths crossed occasionally in the years after, a funeral, reunions, a wedding. How ever could we thank him. It is enough to say today, Thank you, Tom, for showing us the way. Love, Dan and Margaret Shulman Minneapolis
Dan and Margaret Shulman
December 9, 2021
Please join us for a celebration of life for Tom Samose on Saturday Dec 11. More information and a request for RSVP can be found here:
Emily Samose
November 29, 2021
Nicole Tillson & Jonah Sikorsk
November 14, 2021
I knew Tom back in the 1970's when we were both twenty-somethings in Westport. I recall his sense of humor, his sense of caring and wry laughter. I am so sorry he is gone.
David Bryce
November 9, 2021
Tom and I practised together at the Norwalk YMCA pool at six in the morning during my sophomore year - his freshman year at Staples. I remember him as a lovely warm person and the best of company in those wee hours of the morning. I am sad to hear of his passing, too young, but a full well lived life nevertheless.
Constance Milbrath
November 2, 2021
Aimee, Jimmy, Brody, Blake
November 1, 2021
Ah, Tom. Last saw you a week ago. I wished I knew it was the last time. Thanks for the laughs, the sage advice, and for being so passionate about freedom, honesty, and the River. Godspeed and I hope you meet Thoreau
Laura Pitaniello
October 29, 2021
I am heartbroken to hear of Tom´s passing. He was an incredible mentor/friend and will be greatly missed.
Aimee Nastu
October 27, 2021
You saved our lives too, Tom. Always "the Gu" This was true love.
Sidney Symington and family
October 27, 2021
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