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Dorothy McIlwaine Obituary
She was the wife of the late John J. Derrig Sr. and the late Russell L. McIlwaine.
Born in New York City, the daughter of the late Gustav and Ann (David) Martin, she spent her youth in New York, lived many years in Fall River and then Norfolk before moving to Falmouth.
Mrs. McIlwaine worked at The Social Day Activity Center, an Alzheimer's Care Center in Foxboro, for several years. She was a member of the Fall River Country Club, the Quequechan Club, the Fall River Women's Club and the Order of the Eastern Star.
She loved her family, her cats, crossword puzzles, going to the beach and the Red Sox.
Mrs. McIlwaine will be remembered as an avid reader, a great cook, and most of all, a wonderful mother and friend.
Surviving are her daughters, Diana D. Behn and her husband, Barry N., of Mashpee, Deborah D. Maguire and her husband, Liam A., of Falmouth and the late John J. Derrig Jr. and Paula D. Gagne. She was the grandmother of Eric J. Behn, Sarah B. McGahan, Tracy D. Herland, Caroline and Deborah L. Derrig, Dawn M. Gagne, Jennifer G. Aguiar, Rory D. and L. Shea Maguire and the late Adam M. Behn and John J. Derrig III. She is also survived by 10 great-grandchildren and a great-great-granddaughter.
Her funeral will be held Thursday, Sept. 4, 2008, at 11 a.m. in the Doane, Beal & Ames Funeral Home, 160 W. Main St., Hyannis. Visiting hours are Wednesday from 4 to 7 p.m.
In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to Royal Nursing Center Activities Center, Attn. Karen Souza, 545 Main St., Falmouth, MA 02540, or People for Cats, P.O. Box 422, West Falmouth, MA 02574. Burial is in St. Joseph's Cemetery, Falmouth.
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Karen Souza
September 2, 2008
Dear Debbie and Diane And Family,
Just a note to tell you that my thoughts and prayers are with you all. I will surely miss Dot's beautiful smile and quick wit. Thank you so much for giving us at Royal the pleasure of getting to know your Mom. I will miss our visits of "Java" and her reminiscing of her childhood in N.Y. and talking about "her Girls." But please know that everytime you have a cup of "Java" with a Jelly dounut at the beach she will be right there with you and "ALWAYS" in your hearts.
With my Love,
Karen S.
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J S
September 2, 2008
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, ""I welcome you.""
It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man.
God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......""My day was not in vain.""
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.
And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
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The Staff of Doane Beal & Ames Funeral Home Funeral Service Incorporated
September 2, 2008
We wish to extend our deepest sympathies at this difficult time.
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