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Nancy Palmer Obituary
Mrs. Palmer was born in Hyannis, the daughter of the late Francis and Irene (Drew) Lahteine. She grew up in Centerville and graduated from Barnstable High School in 1974. She also graduated from Cape Cod Community College and University of Massachusetts in Amherst. While at UMass she was a member of the IGU sorority.
Nancy worked as a real estate agent for Century 21 Reagan Realty in Falmouth and as a waitress several nights a week at Paul's Pizza in Falmouth.
Over the years she was active in local politics, ran several campaigns for local candidates and served on the Falmouth Republican Town Committee. She had been an active member of the PTO of the Mullen Hall School in Falmouth. She was lovingly known as Aunt Nancy to all her nieces and nephews.
Besides her husband, she is survived by her son, Adam D. Palmer; twin daughters, Margaret E. and Elizabeth I. Palmer, all of the home address; a sister, Betsy Trobaugh of Gainesville, Fla.; and two brothers, Victor Lahteine of Plymouth and Drew Lahteine of Sandwich.
Funeral services will be held on Monday, Oct. 22, 2007, at 11 a.m., at the First Congregational Church, 68 Main St., Falmouth, with burial to follow at Crocker Park Cemetery in West Barnstable. Visiting hours will be at the Chapman, Cole & Gleason Funeral Home, 475 Main St., Falmouth Center, on Sunday from 4 to 8 p.m.
In lieu of flowers, donations in Nancy's memory may be made to the Rockland Trust Bank, 20 Davis Straits, Falmouth, MA 02540 on behalf of the Palmer Children Benefit Account.
For online guest book, directions and obituary please visit www.ccgfuneralhome.com.
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Deborah Stusse Dottridge
October 25, 2007
Dear Michael, Adam, Margaret, Elizabeth and Nancy's family,
Be Still
Be still like the grass on a melancholy summer day
Be still like desert shrub.
Be calm and you will hear your loved one speak, in the stillness, in the calm, their love resounds.
If you are still this promise I make, you will hear the voice of your loved one helping you along your way.
For Nancy's children, the love for and from your mother will live on in your hearts and fond memories forever. My deepest sympathy to Mike in the loss of your wife. To Nancy's family, remember your love and always stay together and please look after her children and stay close with Michael and the children as they need their aunts, uncles, cousins, family and friends. The love and support from family is a wonderful gift. My thoughts and prayers are with you. This is such a hard time. I'm finding it difficult to find the words to express the sadness and loss I feel for you. I am so sorry.
I graduated with Nancy from BHS, I haven't seen her since high school.
She was a very nice person.
Megan Kiley
October 25, 2007
To Michael, Adam, Margaret and Elizabeth, and the entire Palmer family - I was so sorry to hear of your loss. Nancy was a wonderful woman and will not be forgotten. My thoughts and prayers are with your family during this difficult time.
Liz Hamelin
October 24, 2007
It was so wonderful to see Nancy at our IGU reunion in May. She was the same happy and fun girl she was in college. She had so many accomplishments. Her husband and children should be very proud. Condolences to Victor and the rest of her family.
mary craig
October 23, 2007
To the Palmer Family
I would like to extend my deepest sympathies to your family. I knew Nancy thru the falmouth school system our oldest children attended grade school.together.She will be greatly missed by all.
MAY GOD BE WITH YOU IN YOUR TIME OF NEED.
the craig family
mary, james, jimmy and alexandra
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Suzanne Gonsalves
October 23, 2007
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."
It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man."
God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.
And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
©Copyright 1998-2007
Scott and Laura Nickerson
October 23, 2007
Dear Michael and Family:
Laura and I are very sorry for your loss and our thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time. Nancy always brought a smile to everyone she met. We are both sorry we could not attend but we were out of town on a family emergency. If you need anything or we can help in any way, please let us know.
Elisabeth Luke
October 22, 2007
Dear Palmer family, I was a sorority sister of Nancys and haven't seen her in close to 30 years, but I have a smile on my face just thinking of her. Halloween one year, she dressed as a Christmas tree complete with lights and extension cord, plugged herself in and brought laughter to all around her. What a terrific wife and mom she must have been. God Bless all of you. Elisabeth "Buz" Luke
Adrienne (DiBello) Baumann
October 22, 2007
Michael and Family,
My deepest sympathies for your loss - I had the privilege of working with Nancy at Tourco when I arrived on Cape Cod in 1997 and remember her as a vibrant, delightful expectant mother of twins! What a joy her baby shower was and how excited we all were to finally meet Margaret and Elizabeth...Adam was so proud, too! May the love and memories shared by so many bring you comfort at this very difficult time. Blessings to you all!
Sally and Philip Hopkins
October 22, 2007
Mike, Adam, Margaret and Elizabeth - We are very saddened by the news of the loss of Nancy. She would always greet us upon our arrival in Falmouth for our vacation from Chicago and give a wave and a hello everytime she was visiting her in-laws. She was a ball of energy, always upbeat and involved in so many things. My Mom, Ida Simenas, would also update us on the news of all the Palmers. We were always amazed by all that Nancy did. Our hearts go out to you and the 3 children.
Judith Selleck
October 22, 2007
Nancy was always fun and cheerful. I enjoyed knowing her when she was involved in the tourism industry. I will miss seeing her and her uplifting spirit!
Bernice Dixon
October 22, 2007
Dear Michael and Family:
I was so sorry to hear the sad news about Nancy's passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you all during this difficult time. Hugs to you Mike. I wish I could make everything better.
Crystal Mendes - Ostine
October 22, 2007
You are in my thoughts and prayers. I worked with Nancy several years ago at Tourco, and she was truly a good person. She was loving, friendly and always had a nice word and smile on her face. She also brought many smiles to those of us who were fortunate to work with her.
Kristin Baljon
October 22, 2007
From kindergarten through high school and even registering to get married, it was always great fun being with Nancy. I am deeply saddened. 33 years off Cape have not diminished my happy memories of Nancy. My sympathy to her family and to everyone who loved her.
Josie McBrien
October 22, 2007
Dear Palmer Family,
I was in IGU sorority with Nancy and saw her at an IGU reunion this past Spring. She was happy, laughing, and so proud to tell us about her children and family. She was always upbeat and smiling - we will remember her that way. My prayers are with you.
Meg Mulhern
October 21, 2007
As we look back to our high school memories with Nancy, we most remember her laugh and her irreverent sense of humor. Did anyone have more friends than she did? If you'd told her back at Barnstable High School that she would move to Falmouth (!) and become such a vital part of its community, she'd have said "yeah, right!" We know Falmouth realizes how lucky it was to have inherited this gal, who'd left her mark on Barnstable as well.
Her light went out too soon. Our thoughts and prayers are with her family.
Ann McConnell Everson (Marstons Mills, MA) and Meg Mulhern (Boise, ID)
Kerry and Ernie(pokey) Medeiros
October 21, 2007
Mike and family,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time. It was always nice to see Nancy when we would get over to Paul's Pizza. She was a great person.
Elaine Joseph
October 21, 2007
I am so sorry hear of the loss of Nancy. She was a wonderful person.
Nancy will always be remembered for her smile and warm personality. My deepest sympathy goes out to her Family.
Falmouth will not be the same without her.
David & Kathy Pina
October 21, 2007
David & Family, all of the family,
She was the light bulb in a dark room. She warmed your heart with her smile and entusiams. We will always remember how she made everything just a little more exciting, like a bus ride back from a speach tournament, when her and David stopped the bus on 195, and got off to fast dance to an oldie but goodie on the radio the kids loved it and her.
Our hearts go out to you at this time of sorrow just as heavy.
Love David & Kathy Pina
Kim Farnham
October 21, 2007
The Palmer Family, Victor, Betsy, and Drew: My heart goes out to you and your families. Nancy left a wonderful legacy of hope, happiness and deep friendship with anyone who had a chance to meet this lovely shining light! I loved that Nancy Jean from the minute we became friends on Longview Drive she will live in my heart forever! Much Love, Kim Farnham
paula kenworthy-salt
October 21, 2007
to the palmer family my deepest sympathy to you all, i went to school with nancy for a lot of years,we had many happy days togather and over the years it was nice to run into her and talk about all the good times,nancy will always be in my heart paula.
Jay Whitney
October 20, 2007
Dear Michael and Family,
I am so sorry. Nancy will be greatly missed but leaves a legacy of many happy memories for so many people with her smile, laugh and great sense of humor. She was a big part of my life at UMass. With deepest sympathy to you and your family,
Jay(Hollingshead)and Kent Whitney
susie callahan
October 20, 2007
hi JUST SAW HER NAME ON THE OBIT OHMY GOD ICALLED MY BROTHER TO ASK IHOPE IT WAS NOT TRUE WELL IHOPE MICAHEL AND THE KIDS KNOW HOW A GREAT WIFE AND MOM THEY HAD IWILL MISS NANCY IN THE STORE WITH ALL HERSTUFF AND HER GREAT SMILE IWILL MISS HER TEASING ME AND SAYING ARE YOU ON BREAK OR JUST LOAFING IN THE STORE SHE WILL SAY TO ME YOU ARE DRIVING ME NUTS OR ILLTELL YOUR BOSS LOL
October 20, 2007
To the Palmer Family; Victor, Drew & Betsy
I have known Nancy since elementary school,and she was one of those people that everybody liked! She was truly the heart and soul of the Class of 1974, had great school spirit, and was always supportive of all of her friends. I remember seeing her years later when we were planning our 20th class reunion, and she hadn't changed at all. My deepest condolences to all of you.
Bill Dooley
Ann and Jack Aylmer
October 20, 2007
Michael....To have known her was to have loved her. We are collectively crushed with her loss....in spite of the realization that we will all be together once again, most likely in a better place..... Our thoughts and prayers are with you and the children. Nancy's smile and her caring personality will live in our memory forever! Bless you all...
Ann and Jack Aylmer
Cyndi Williams
October 20, 2007
Though we had not seen Nancy in many years Tim and I have very fond memories of her from our days at the Sheraton Regal..Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Cyndi & Tim Williams
Dennis O'Brien
October 20, 2007
Michael, Adam, Margaret, Elizabeth, Betsy, Victor, and Drew my thoughts are with you all at this very sad time. I know Nancy will be greatly missed by all of you, and also by the many, many friends she made in her life.
My sincerest sympathies to you all,
Dennis O'Brien
Nicole Doherty
October 20, 2007
Dear Adam and the Palmer Family,
I wanted to send my deepest condolences as you go through this difficult time in your life. Please know that my prayers are with you now and always.
Sincerely, Nicole Doherty (Adams' 8th gr. Algebra teacher)
Sandy & Dwain West
October 20, 2007
Words can not adequately express the loss felt by all of us who were touched by Nancy. We will all miss her larger than life personality, warmth and laugh. She truly was extraordinary. May your memories comfort you through this difficult time, we are thinking of her entire family and wish you peace through this time of overwhelming sadness.
JOANNE DREW
October 20, 2007
THE LOSS OF NANCY IS SO GREAT THAT WORDS DO NOT COME EASY.WHEN I GOT THE NEWS OF HER PASSING , THE FLOOR FELL OUT FROM UNDER ME.I KEEP GETING FLASHBACKS OF OUR TIMES TOGETHER. SHE WAS ALWAYS THE CENTER OF ANY OF OUR GATHERINGS AS A FAMILY, AND THAT WILL BE SO MISSED.
I AM TRULEY SO BLESSED TO HAVE HAD NANCY AS A PART OF MY LIFE. GOD MUST HAVE NEEDED A STRONG VIBRANT ANGEL IN HEAVEN.DEAR GOD HOW I WILL MISS YOU.
TO MICHAEL, ADAM, ELIZABETH, AND MARGARET
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