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for Paramjit Kalsi
moises galvan
January 31, 2008
Pami and Ravinder:
were some of the best people I have ever known; kind smiley, true at heart.
I personally worked as a day laborer with theme both. waiting to get hired at fourth and Hearst in Berkeley. standing in that corner ,it sure wasn't easy.yet they kept a big heart open to possibilities, to change, to play,have fun and win at the same time.
I'll miss them for ever. I love them both so much! when I get to my pictures I will post one that I have of Ravinder.
Mark Brown
January 27, 2008
We were fortunate enough to have visited their restaurant for dinner one week prior to their deaths. We had just flown into town to visit some friends in Richmond and, on the way to their house, we stopped for dinner at Sahib. It had also been one of the last places we had visited a year prior when we visited our friends before. There was something about the restaurant that drew me back. The food was excellent, as was the service. But it was the smile on the taller brother’s face that made this a truly special place. What struck me was the combination of grace, warmth, and spiritual awareness mirrored in that smile.
Reading the testimonials on the Contra Cost Times guestbook, I now realize that I was not the only one touched by the deep humanity of these brothers. Their lives speak glowingly of the Sikh faith and bring honor to the Sikh community.
May their memory be for a blessing to all who knew them.
Niki Smith
January 11, 2008
I didn't know about all of this until tonight. I haven't been able to get through the last couple of times I called, but I don't watch the news so I was ignorant to what happened. Paramjit used to come out to say hi every time I picked up an order and had a sweet smile like a little boy. I am glad to see that these men touched so many people with their gentle and friendly natures, but it will take me a while to sleep tonight knowing that this has happened to them. I am so sorry for their family.
Anna Shoop
January 11, 2008
Paramjit, with the sweet smile and warm eyes, you will always be remembered. My prayers and best wishes go to the Kalsi family.
Gina Golec
January 11, 2008
Pammi & Ravi-
I was so sadden to hear about the loss of these two special brothers. I got a call from the girls down out the bank I used to work for and they told me what happened. I can still picture the two of you coming into the bank and you would only wait for that special teller. You would always come by my desk to say hi. Pammi would nod and smile & Ravi was more talkative. Then you opened a restaurant right down the street from our house. You invited me and my husband to come over and sample the buffet. It was delicious food. We would come in to get take-out and you would always offer us something to drink. You will be deeply missed!! Our heart goes out to your family at this time and in the days ahead.
Lorraine Acuña
January 7, 2008
The world is a sadder place without the smiles of Ravi and Pammi. You both will be sorely missed by everyone in our community. You not only brought us warmth and gentleness but great tasting food as well.
May you rest in everlasting peace.
titania
January 6, 2008
The last time I visited the Sahib restaurant, while I waited for my usual to-go order, my two-year-old son was restless and wanted to walk around, and he did, all around the restaurant. And while I watched my toddler explore the restaurant and watched the brothers' reactions to my son, I realized that although I went into the restaurant to get something to eat, I wanted to have my son interact with the brothers just so he could be around such gentle, kind men. What a blessing they were! May they be at peace.
Roger & Kelly Suarez
January 5, 2008
This is a horrible thing to have happened in our community. Our thoughts and prayers are with the family.
Don Zimmerman
January 4, 2008
I always swore that I would get the ingredients of the spice mix that Pammi used. Everytime I asked he would smile and turn away to do another task. Paramjit and Ravinder were just plain good people, they never tried to make people think they were good, they were just good.
I can only hope that one day I will meet their souls again in their new bodies. Pammi and Ravi I will be looking for you.
y
January 4, 2008
Dear Kalsi Family,
I was truly shocked and saddened by the way these dear men's lives were taken. I have been going to the restaurant for quite a few years. Both men were both so warm and welcoming, and the food was good too. I will always remember Ravi's sparkling eyes and smile. They will be missed very much. My thoughts are with you during this difficult time.
Katherine Hanway
January 4, 2008
Dear Family and Friends of Ravi and Pami,
The loss of these two men is not just a blow to the community, but to the world as a whole. Kind, gentle, friendly, modest, and such role models of quiet spirituality and hard-working self-sufficiency. After first meeting them at the restaurant, I would run into them at Home Depot (where we would share the status of our latest home-remodeling projects) or Costco and always be greeted immediately by Ravi's warm smile and sparkling eyes, then Pami's shy, brief smile and nod. Such warmth and immediate friendliness is a rare commodity and we are all poorer for its loss. Condolences also to Pauline who worked alongside them at the restaurant--I wish I could contact her to give her a hug and know she's okay. May everyone find comfort in their memories of these two outstanding brothers.
Anna N. Bolla
January 3, 2008
Thank you, Pammi, for the happy times we shared at Sahib. You & Ravi were our friends, and for a long time your restaurant was like a second home to us. Your calm demeanor and charitable sense of humor will remain with us forever.
I spent my 30th birthday at Sahib, along with a large group of family and friends. Ravi & Pammi were gracious and welcoming, as always.
My love and condolences to the Kalsi family at this difficult time.
Monica Olivares (Oliver)
January 2, 2008
Pami,
Thanks for sharing your gentleness and kindness with me, as well as with my family and friends. We are all so shocked and saddened by this terrible fate you and Ravi have suffered. We pray for your souls and for justice. Our hearts go out to your family and fiancee.
r dalbosco
January 1, 2008
I am deeply saddened for what has happened to Ravi and Pami. They were a meaningful part of our neighborhood, their restaurant was a great asset to our community and they were some of the nicest people one could ever meet. I am shocked and changed by this senseless act and thinking of their family's great loss. Rest in Peace, friends...
SARAH GAINES
January 1, 2008
I WENT INTO THERE RESTURANT A FEW YEARS BACK AND HAD SOME WONDERFUL TASTEING FOOD SOMETHING I NEVER HAD BEFORE IT WAS WONDERFUL. MY HEART BREAKS AT THIS SENSELESS ACT OF VIOLENCE. THE FAMILY HAVE MY DEEPEST CONDOLENCES.
Tambi and Valerie
December 31, 2007
Dear Kalsi Family and Friends,
We just learned about the tragic loss of Ravi and Pami. Our hearts ache at the senselessness and violence of what has happened. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Nathan Krieger
December 31, 2007
This sort of inexplicable violence shocks and saddens me. Nobody that knew these two men could have done such a thing. Sahib's restaurant was a bright light in the area. The food was delicious and Ravi, Pami, and Pauline were very friendly. My wife and I had our wedding rehearsal dinner there.
Before we became regulars and knew their names, Ravi was known simply as the "funny man." When asked how much a dinner was he might respond with something like, "oh I don't know, two or three hundred dollars." Pami on the other hand was very serious and sober, but never anything but welcoming.
They'd been talking for months about how they were selling the store. They planned on taking a vacation from their long days in the restaurant and then committing themselves to construction. The date however kept getting pushed back. 3-4 weeks. 40 days. At the end of the month. Sadly, it seems to have come too late.
With their passing, a bright light has been extinguished. They will be missed both for their savory fare and their warm hearts.
lynne tilsen
December 31, 2007
To The Kalsi Family and Friends,
Thank goodness I had the honor to know both Ravi and Pami. We all became very good friends over the course of many carpentry jobs.
They treated me and my family with great respect and humor. I am very sad to know that this happened in our commuinty and pray that your family will lean on fond memories of you and the knowledge that you touched so many lives in such a positive way.
Regan Richardson
December 31, 2007
Two of our former neighbors, hard-working brothers who were a credit to their community-why? We are all sickened by this senseless tragedy and their families and friends are in our thoughts. We anxiously await justice for them.
Susan Wilshusen
December 31, 2007
These kind and generous men did not deserve to have their lives ended by this senseless violence. There will always be an empty spot in our lives now. And we will never have that wonderful food again. Our love and prayers to the family and friends.
norah collins cline
December 31, 2007
my prayers are with the brothers and their families. i am sadden that they had to leave this world in such a violent way. i can't find reason for this kind of loss. they lived life on this planet, loving, working hard, practicing peace, and loving their god.
god bless them, their families in india and their friends and family here in the bay area.
Vishnu Jadulal
December 30, 2007
My deepest condolences to Great Friends. I am at a loss.
Kathleen McKinley
December 30, 2007
This is so shocking and saddening. I started eating at Sahib shortly after Ravi and Pami opened. The two brothers were so different: Pami so quiet and serious and Ravi always joking. My heart goes out their family and friends.
Lovejeet
December 30, 2007
After hearing about your nature on the television and reading it in the newspaper I have come to conclusion that you were a pure and great soul on this earth whose life was cut short. I hope you rest in peace and I will pray that your family is able to get through this hard time with the help of Waheguru.
Donna Gibson
December 30, 2007
My heart is saddened at such at community loss.
Pammi and Ravi were as brothers to me.
Better for having known them, i will never be the same.
They were so gracious and humble with their achievements.
I enjoyed many hours sharing Pammi's remodeling skills.
Pammi and Ravi's desire for perfection was evident in all they did.
Bless you Pammi.
Barbara McClain
December 29, 2007
I'm truly saddened by the senseless violence that took your life, Paramjit. Thank you for the wonderful food and cordial service when my family, friends and I visited the restaurant. Rest in peace.
Josh Gressel
December 29, 2007
I want all the family in India to know that many of us in California came to know these two decent men as the warm, gentle loving men you sent to us in the U.S. I'm very sorry for the senseless violence that took these wonderful men's lives. They were warm and welcoming to me and my family in their restaurant many times. It was one of our favorite restaurants. They will be sorely missed by the community.
Jennifer Tieman
December 29, 2007
I am deeply saddened at this tragic news. I spent many a fine hour at the restaurant, and always felt sincere hospitality and kindness. Your families and loved ones are in my thoughts.
Darrel Hess and Nora Norback
December 29, 2007
We loved the Sahib restaurant and ate there many times. There was a gentleness and playfulness there that made us feel at home. We extend our deepest sympathies to the families for this great loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
mp
December 29, 2007
Pami-you will be missed. Your generosity and friendly warmth. I pray your family and the Sikh community will find justice as to why this senseless and violent loss would happen to two kind and generous people.
KULDEEP SIDHU
December 29, 2007
It is very sad moment for their family and my heart goes to them. These things should not happen to nobody. MAY GOD FILL THE VOID FOR THE FAMILY.
L M
December 29, 2007
This is a shock to all who have experienced the kindness and decendy of Ravi and Pammi and everyone at Sahib. Our condolences to their families. Prayers from your loyal customers, Don and Lauri.
Wendy S
December 29, 2007
Pammi & Ravi were so gracious and kind. I got to know them as a customer over their 5 years with the restaurant. When my friend was dying from stomach cancer they let her come eat with me for free. They always had warm smiles. We talked, joked, laughed. I'm so sorry they are gone, I'll miss them!
Sally Meeks
December 29, 2007
Pami--Your quiet, warmth and wonderful food will be greatly missed. My condolences to your family and friends. The sadness and shock will be with us all, along with the fond memories.
Ishwar Sitaula
December 29, 2007
My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
Peggy Stein
December 29, 2007
Pami and Ravi,
My heart is in pain from hearing this terrible news. I loved you both so very much. I wanted you to come and stay with us in Vegas like we planned. I will never stop missing you in my life. I'm sorry I didn't get that last phone call in.
Peggy and Jan
lanette
December 29, 2007
My heart goes out to you at this time and in the days ahead.
Krishna & Carolyn Gopalan
December 29, 2007
Dear Pammi and Ravi,
Our hearts are shaken with grief with the news that you have left us so suddenly. We will never be able to forget your hospitality and kindness. We pray for your family in India. Good bye our dear friends!
Woujie and Michael
December 29, 2007
Pami, your gentleness and hospitiality was unusual in a mean and hurried world. We are so saddened by your untimely passing.
Andrea and Stephen
December 29, 2007
Paramjit, We loved your cooking. You were always in the background and we only saw you from a distance. We are so sorry. You and Ravi were such good people. May your journey onward be free from suffering.
Catherine Taylor
December 29, 2007
I will miss seeing you both. I will miss laughing and eating great food
in your restaurant. You both took so much interest in my work and were
always warm, kind, hardworking people. I am so sad about this horrific crime. Peace and love to your family.
Anil Kapur
December 29, 2007
My deepest sympathies go to the family. Although, I had never been to Sahib, I am so glad that the brothers could fulfill their wish to run a restaurant.
Annu Kumar
December 29, 2007
My Best Friends of ten years are gone. They were like My brothers. We used To hang out together, Eat at their restuarant. Let their spirits rest In peace. I am totally devastated and Left with Grief. Please Lord Help Their Family cope with this Tragic Situation.
Marcia Lindsay
December 29, 2007
My sympathy goes out to the family. I was just there for dinner last Saturday and was looking forward to taking a friend who's in town for dinner. I could not believe it when I saw it on TV. May the memories of them ease your pain through difficult times.
J P
December 29, 2007
I get my haircut at Tommys next to Sahib's & have seen the brothers many times, my condolences to the family-
Kevin Bewick
December 29, 2007
My deepest condolences to all family members and friends.
Jeff Finder
December 29, 2007
My condolences to the family, friends and community for this senseless act. As a patron of their restaurant, I stopped by the vigil tonight. This is so senseless and too sad.
Hertz Equipment Rental
December 28, 2007
Paramjit Kalsi, it was a delight to known you and your brother. The both of you brought cheer to our store. It was nice knowning the both of you. Paramjit & Ravinder; the both of you will never be forgotten.
Carole Toebe
December 28, 2007
We were deeply saddened to hear of this outrageous act to such lovely members of our community. We love the restaurant and the great people that introduced us to Sahib. I hope all people unite against such senseless violence
Leslie T.
December 28, 2007
Pami:
We will miss you and Ravi so much. Your warmth and welcoming hospitality are rare these days. Your smiles and warmth are what brought us back to your restaurant as well as your excellent food. I am glad you were able to live your dream. May the God(s) bless both of you.
M. Dunston
December 28, 2007
I only met you a couple of times, I made some ballons for you and remember the purity and light in your eyes and smile. You will be missed dearly, Pami and Ravi.
sabrina chibani
December 28, 2007
Pomi,
I discover so many taste in your place. My head is full of beautiful and precious feeling,
Thaks for your inconditionnal smile,
Sabrina,
Mary Davis
December 28, 2007
Farewell you sweet gentle man. My prayers are with your family, friends and community.
Joe and Jessica Takano
December 28, 2007
We were greatly saddened by the loss of Ravi and Paramjit. We will miss their smiles and kind words, which made our visits to their excellent restaurant even more enjoyable. Our deepest sympathies to their family.
Matthew Matsuoka
December 28, 2007
This is such a sad day. Paramjit and Ravi were so kind and so undeserving of a violent passing. I will always remember them. My deepest sympathies to the Kalsi family.
Donh Casi
December 28, 2007
I am so, so sorry to hear this. My friends and I almost came in, yesterday afternoon, and I'm sorry we didn't. We used to eat at their restaurant, and truly enjoyed their food and their company.
This is not acceptable in our town.
John Robertson
December 28, 2007
Dear Kalsi family,
I am a regular customer of Sahib and have enjoyed the food for the last two years. I am heart broken to hear about this senseless crime in our community. Although I did not know the family well, I was always treated well when I visited the restaurant and I appreciate the positive contribution your family made to Richmond. I will pray that you find justice and peace to mend your hearts.
With much love,
John Robertson
Mike Pas
December 28, 2007
I never ate there but I get my hair cut next door at Tommie's.
Invariably as I would pass the resturaunt one of the brothers would spot me, smile and wave.
That was an ongoing sweet gesture of humanity that I shall miss now.
My condolonces to the family.
Nora Hale
December 28, 2007
My deepest sympathies to the family and friends of Pami and Ravi. I have never in my life met such sweet and gentle men. I enjoyed their friendly and distinguished service and wonderful food at Sahib many many times. Their presence in the neighborhood will be greatly missed.
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