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Andrew J. Laughlin

Andrew Laughlin Obituary

Laughlin, Andrew J.
9/4/85-12/23/07
For 22 years I only knew how to share my life, my hope and even my birthday with you. Now it all seems empty, except for when we feel your desire, even from heaven, for us to be happy. We miss you every moment and hope there are Happy Birthdays in heaven.

Love Mom and Dad.

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Published by Rochester Democrat And Chronicle on Sep. 4, 2008.

Memories and Condolences
for Andrew Laughlin

Sponsored by Friends and Family of Andrew Laughlin.

56 Entries

Pamela D'Hont

February 6, 2017

Just reading your autobiography and I haven't cried that hard in ages. I too had teenage sons and worry that something will happen to them constantly. I'm so sorry for your loss. My heart aches for you.

John Emrys Joseph

December 23, 2013

Today It is 23 December 2013! It has been almost 6 years since I recieved your Liver as a Christmas Present on the 24th through the 25th of December 2003. Much has happened over the years since then! I have personaly lost family members over the years and also still go to the hospital in New York and the Veterans Hospital in Northport NY. Now I Volunteer there when I am able working with the Veterans and trying to give something back to the Wounded Warriors since I also was a Veteran. I sometimes wonder if I am Worthy! But I try to take each day as a brand new day! Thank You Andrew and Your Family for your living donation!

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Trina Laughlin

December 23, 2009

Dear Family and Friends,

Many of you may visit this site today. It is hard to believe that two years ago at this moment, those of us who could be there and who loved Andy were gathered in an ICU waiting to see if there would be a miracle. Although we did not know it then, God did provide us with a miracle. He set Andy free from a body and mind that would have never been the same because of the injuries he sustaained.

Since that time the Laughlin and the Sanders families have continued to become the blended family that they would have had Andy's life not been taken.

Today both families have gathered at the Laughlin home in Florida. We have arranged to make and serve food for approximately 150 people less fortunate than ourselves this holiday season. We will be serving a meal at The Lord's Table in Fellsemere, Florida. In some small measure this allows us to honor who Andy was here on earth, and give him cause to celebrate from his amazing vantage point in heaven.

We are honored to continue Andy's legacy by continuing to do good works in his name.

Knowing that he is remembered is so important to us, so any of you who visit on these pages in the next few days; please leave a message for us. It means so much to us.

We ask that you...

Do not stand at his grave and weep,
He is not there, He does not sleep.
He is a thousand winds that blow,
He is the softly falling snow.
He is the gentle showers of rain,
He is the fields of ripening grain.
He is in the morning hush,
He is in the graceful rush
Of beautiful birds in circling flight,
He is the starshine of the night.
He is in the flowers that bloom,
He is in a quiet room.
He is in the birds that sing,
He is in each lovely thing.
Do not stand at his grave and cry,
He is not there. He did not die.

Andy lives in each of us who smile when we hear his name, and those who realize i am pushed to do better because I had a son, brother, friend named Andy.

We pray for each and every one of you this holiday season.

with deep fondness,
Trina Laughlin

Trina Laughlin

September 4, 2009

Dear Andy,
Today we would have celebrated twenty four years with you. You would have been at the entryway to the rest of your adult life. Instead we were blessed with only twenty two years of you with us physically, and the remaining two years where we can only feel you, and celebrate with you, with the passing of a gentle breeze, or the sun shining through the flowers of a hisbiscus tree, or the snow that falls on the nose of a goldent retriever, or the sensation of walking into a mist that makes me smile. I continue to miss you beyond words. The tears I cry have become private and silent, yet tears all the same. I wish we could celebrate both our birthdays together today, as we always did. Instead we will go to places where we know you are. We will visit you in our lovely "Andy's Garden", we will bring rose petals to your resting place at St. Pius, we will go to the Planetarium where we will look through a telescope and see the beautiful star that Kristen has had named after you. We will send you wishes of a happy birthday that you now celebrate in the Kingdom of Heaven with your grandparents, and Uncle Donald, and others who you have met and befriended; and mostly you will celebrate in the loving arms of God the Father, Jesus the Son, and the amazing Holy Spirit. Happy birthday my darling boy. I love you, I miss you, and I await the day you are there to greet me.

All my love,
Mom

Trina Laughlin

May 10, 2009

My Dearest Andy,
Mother's Day was always such a wonderful day for me. It was wonderful because each year I would see the growth within human beings that I was proud to call my children. Imagine my delight on Mother's day in your twenty second year of life. I was fortunate enough to have both you and Kristen home. Both of you were accomplished, loving, kind hearted, independent and on pathways to all that life would have to offer you both. Seven months later you were gone. I cannot say, I wish I would have known, because nothing...absolutely not one thing would have been different in our relationship. Every moment we spent together in those twenty two years, was full of absolute simplistic unconditional love. It has been seventeen months since you have been gone. For some, there had been an expectation that time would make this pain less deep. The expectation is false. While some days are tolerable, and there is some spiritual balm that makes it feel less intense, there are clearly others where there is not. On days of importance, like today, Mother's Day, the intensity runs so deep. Kristen, Dad and I will go to visit you today. It is a cold and dreary day, yet we will be together planting and decorating your grave with hopes for warmth and summer. We took Ethan for the first time yesterday. He gently kissed his hand and placed it on your picture. We explained that this place is where Andy now rests. He believes it was a portal of some sort that you went through and now live in the sky with God. It happened to be a beautiful day yesterday and the sky was particularly blue. He now believes that your beautifuly blue eyes are what helps to color God's sky.

On this Mother's Day and everyday, I continue to miss you with an agony that is often only recognizable to me. I love you with all my heart, and will meet you one day for a reunification. Until then, please know that I continue to love on Mother's day, Kristen and Geoff. It is just that when we are all together, your absence is so palpable.

All my love,
Mom

Kristen Laughlin

January 6, 2009

Hi JEJ,
I wanted to thank you so much for writing on Andy's guest book. You hadn't checked the box to allow those who view the Guest Book to contact you via email so I assume you wanted to remain anonymous. I hope it doesn't bother you that I use this tool to communicate how much it touched my family as we huddled around my mother's laptop on the anniversary of Andy's death and read together your very touching words.

I'm sorry it has taken us so long to post anything but I wanted to make sure you knew how much your words were our most treasured Christmas gift this difficult Christmas.

They typically walk a fine line when organ donation takes place to maintain anonymity when it is desired on the part of the family or recepient, but I just wanted to let you know our family is open to any and all communications you would want to send.

We're so glad that Andy being a part of you could save your life as similarly Andy being a part of us has saved ours. We know how long and hard the journey must have been. We hope that you and your family had a wonderful holiday season and Happy New Year. Cheers to wonderful new days to come.
Sincerely,
Kristen
(Andy's Sister)

JE J

December 23, 2008

To Andrew And His Family

I am truly sorry that I had never known you when you were alive. From all the newspaper articles, and information that was written concerning your life. You were the kind of person, which I was a few years ago when I was your age. Over the years I was involved in Emergency Services, until I contracted a virus. Which destroyed my liver a few years back? I hope by writing this letter here that this will not upset anyone since transplants are usually not known.

I WANTED TO THANK YOU AND YOUR FAMILY FOR THIS AMAZING GIFT THAT YOU GAVE ME ON 24TH OF DECEMBER. I received your liver in the early morning hours in a Manhattan hospital. I was not in very good shape at this time, and your precious gift made me survive to live.

Because of this living gift I am alive today. Currently I am still taking each day as a new day during my recuperation. I still have situations to overcome which comes with a renewed. There is not a day that goes by that reminds me that I would not be here except for you and your family.

Last year at this same time I had lost my younger brother to a heart attack. My family had also donated the gift of life to other families. I unfortunately was not at his funeral do to I was in the hospital. He had had a difficult life but was always helping people anyway he could. His gift helped a couple of families we found out later on in the year

Once again I wanted to Thank You and your family for this gift of life. I wish your family all the peace and happiness in the years to come. I know this is a difficult holiday for all involved. We just have to take each day as it comes by us to we all meet again in the next life.

God Bless

JEJ

Trina Laughlin

December 23, 2008

My Dearest Andy,
I have dreaded this one year mark. Somehow in my brain I have come to believe that there is nothing magical that can be done after one year. I can no longer wrack my brain about how I can turn the clock back, or slow your car down, or get rid of the black ice. After one year I am forced to accept that this gaping hole in my heart will remain there forever. I am forced to accept that the heaviness I walk with every day will be with me until we meet in heaven. I have however learned many other things this year as well. I have learned that you are with me every single moment of every single day. I have learned that you were loved by many, who have become permanent parts of our life. I have learned why you loved Lisa so much, and have come to love her as well. I have learned to see and hear you in new ways. I have seen your picture in the sky. I have received pennies from heaven from you. I have felt your presence, right beside me, holding me. I continue to hear about the good works you accomplished in such a short lifetime.

Today we received a message from EJ from Long Island. EJ thanks us for the liver you gave him. We were blessed to receive such a note. You have brought yet another person into our world that validates your legacy, your goodness, and your generosity. On such a horrible anniversary, what a wonderful note to receive.

Today I saw the dolphins jump. The sun glistened on the water. Today I was surrounded by Dad, Kristen, Lisa, Mike, Maria, Jacque and Sandy. So many of the people who loved you were gathered together, just because of you, and the wonder of you.

Kristen handed out Willow Tree ornaments to each of us. They were of a boy with a golden heart. As I cried and began to say, "I used to have a boy with a heart" it dawned on me...now everybody has you. You shine down from the heavens, like the sun that shown down on the water. You are there to embrace a larger world. I am so grateful that you were at one time my boy with the golden heart.

I love you my angel. I choose to look at today, as your "birthday" into heaven, not your day of death. So happy birthday my boy with the golden heart.

All my love, all my live, and then some,
Mom

December 23, 2008

Andrew,

I am truly sorry that I never met you when you were living. From the information and newspaper articles that I have read about you.

You were the kind of person I was a few years ago when I was your age. I was involved in emergency services till I became sick.

I WANTED TO THANK YOU AND YOUR FAMILY FOR THE AMAZING GIFT THAT YOU GAVE ME ON DECEMBER 24th. I received your gift of life, and received a liver Transplant in Manhattan NY on the 24th.

Because of this living gift I am alive today. Currently I am still taking each day as a new day during my recuperation.

Last year at this same time I had lost my younger brother to a heart attack. My family had also donated the gift of life to other families.

Once again I Thank You and your family for this gift of life. I wish you all peace and happiness in the years to come.

God Bless

EJJ

Lisa Sanders

December 23, 2008

Dear Andy,
I can't understand how an entire year has passed without you physically by my side. A year without seeing your big beautiful smile. A year without hearing your deep infectious laughter. A year without feeling your kind gentle touch and a year without hearing you tell me you love me. Every single day feels like a nightmare I can't wake up from and I miss you every second of every day. You truly turned my entire world upside down and taught me how beautiful love is. I had no idea how quickly and how deeply I would fall for "the cute guy in class." Our lives have intertwined before our inevitable meeting in a random group project in a random elective class. There is no denying we were meant to meet and in the process you changed my life and myself for the better. I always said it took me 21 years to find you and although I was only given 7 short months on this Earth, I can't wait for the day I'm given eternity with my soulmate. Beacause that's what you are Andy Laughlin, the one person I was meant to spend forever with and I know that day will come. I know that because I trust in the ring you bought me on your last day on Earth: past, present, and future. I trust in you and your promise to me on our last night together that everything will be ok. I trust in our love and the fact that our love is unconditional. You will forever be with me for I will take you with me in every step I have left in this life's journey. I will love you forever and beyond and know you are always up there watching and waiting...

When I look to the sky,
something tells me you're here with me
And you make everything alright when you are here.
When I feel like I'm lost,
something tells me you're here with me
And I can always find my way when you are here.

Jacque Cypressi

December 23, 2008

Dear Andy - up until now I couldn't do this but that's changed. This has been one of the loneliest years in my life - you know I was always crazy about you but I honestly never expected this - looking back on it from this perspective I can see you were hearing me the whole time. I believe, without a doubt, that you facilitated finding the house for your folks here in Sebastian - I know it's helped them but I believe it's helped me even more. Short of having you show up in the flesh, having your mother, dad or Keek at the door unexpectedly is the best feeling. We miss you every single day. Sandman will never be quite the same - you made a wonderful addition to our lives and I can see you hugging him with the 3 tap hug and saying "hi jac" just as if it was 5 minutes ago. Today we'll go out on the water and think about you and be grateful you came into our lives and know you're here in spirit. We love you. Jacque & Sandy

Maria & Mike Sanders

December 23, 2008

Dear Andy,
It has been exactly one year ago today since you left this world to be with Our Father in Heaven. It has been a difficult 12 months because we all miss you so much. We often share our memories of you. We think of us trimming the tree last year, all with our Santa hats on that Maria made us wear. And those miserable lights that just wouldn't cooperate, and how you cheerfully went back to the store with Lisa to get new ones. Then the week before how we all went to the Philharmonic to see the Holiday Pops concert. It was so wonderful to be together and enjoying the sounds of the season.
We miss your warm smile, your great sense of humor, and your friendly competitiveness playing board games.
We know you are with us watching over us. We love you.
Merry Christmas Andy.

Michael Zappia

December 23, 2008

This time of year will always be hard to get through for those of us that knew Andy. Always remember his smile, his laughter, and his positive outlook, and that can get you through life a little easier. He is watching over us. He is missed.

Andy is the man that we all knew,
Who left us to soon, at 22.

His eyes so blue, his smile so big,
With so much hair, you’d swear it’s a wig.

We’d laugh at him for being so whitey,
While he just laughed, at Bruce Almighty.

As a kid, he thought he was wolverine,
Always trying to be so lean & mean.

The athlete he was, he even won states,
If he wasn’t in the ring, he was lifting weights.

Online he was known as McLaughman 54,
Who made us laugh; only wanting more.

As a businessman, he knew what held the key,
Education from Aquinas to Gannon to UB.

Linell & Andy, as yin & yang,
They were apart of the Aquinas gang.

Mark would call him his Buddy Buddy,
They would find the time to play & study.

With Lisa as his girl,
Andy was the clam, Lisa the pearl.

As a boy, he was Mom’s little prince,
Which he carries that title, ever since.

The man we all knew as a saint,
Who gave his time, and loved to paint.

He was the one who rang the bell,
Who in turn, would party like hell.

On the weekends he would sometimes sit back,
Enjoying a Red Dog, or a shot of Jack.

The Bears was his one and only team,
When Urlacher came through, it was really Andy, it seems.

Camping was great at Darien Lake,
From rocking to Petty to grillin’ the steaks.

Taking pictures to him, was a lot of fun,
As long as he held out two fingers & a tongue.

The name game, he would like to play,
From Rooney to Ange to even AJ.

The man who gave us his strength & love,
Is now watching us all from up above.

Kristen Laughlin

December 19, 2008

In about 30 more minutes I'll leave the office to board a plane home. But it's not the home I've always known. We have a new home in Florida where the sun shines brightly on our memories of you, and the grey darkness of last December is left in New York.

In 30 minutes I board a plane for home, just like I did this time last year. But this year it won't be your smiling face meeting me as I deplane to drive me home with tales of college, antics, laughter, and sneaky ways of figuring out what to get me for Christmas.

In 30 minutes I board a plane for home, and as it ascends breaking through the clouds I will say my hellos to you in your new home in the sky, where you shine down on all of us. And when darkness descends, as it sometimes does down here, the brightness of your star will illuminate the sky for us and lead us home.
One day it will lead us back home to you...the home I've always known.

Merry Christmas my angel, we're eating shiny meat in honor of you.
-Keek

erika

December 17, 2008

I can't believe that one year has gone by since we all lost a friend. Life goes on and I feel better knowing that someone is watching over all of us as we continue our days without Andy. My thoughts and prayers are with the Laughlin's.

Linell Greene II

December 17, 2008

Dear Andy,
Hey kiddo its me again!! You know the ying to your yang. Cant believe it has been one year already. One year I can never forget. I learned alot this year and I believe it is because of you. I miss you dearly and since the calendar turned over to 12/01/2008 its been rough kid. There have been many tears shed throughout this year and many memories replayed in my head. Your pictures fill up my house and every room I walk in I see your face...kinda handsome I must say. It can be a relief sometimes to those looong days and can hurt me at other times. I would give anything to have my best friend back again. Its been a rough year without my best friend and never thought I would see the day. Continue to lead me in the right direction and guide me to where I need to be. I thank you for talking to me and being there for me throughout this last year and i am sure you will continue to be there. I miss you kiddo and I hope you and my gramps are having a great time up there and pushing me to be the man that God wants me to be. Giddy up!! I LOVE YOU!!

Dear Laughlin and Sanders Family,

This is a poem I wrote for everyone!!

The day for an angel is endless
Exhausting to us I'm sure
But routine for him
He watches over all loved ones
Never missing a beat
Always in the right spot
And always at the right time
He walks every step with you
And places his hand on your heart
He helps your thoughts
And even bears some of your weight
He talks to you
But only if you dont listen to hard
He walks with you
Only if you dont turn around to see
He hears every prayer
And every request you make
He gives you energy
He pushes you along your day
If ever a setback
He is there to catch you
And place you back on your feet
The day of an angel
Nothing short of a miracle
For he does this everyday
For all loved ones far and near
So when you wake up
And the day just isn't right
Think of the day for an angel

I love you all and I will be seeing you in March. You are all in my prayers and thoughts everyday. God Bless!!!

Kristen Laughlin

September 4, 2008

Happy Birthday Baby Brover Boy. I hope you're rocking out with the angels for your 23rd birthday. Miss you more and more each day

Trina Laughlin

January 26, 2008

To My Darling,
Today is the last day this page will be up. There are so many things I need to thank you for.

Thank you for your love, within our own family it has been a blessing beyond description. In it's extended version, we have met, solely because of you, and the loss of you, some of the most wonderful people anyone could be honored to meet. The outpouring of love we have received in your behalf has often been the only thing that has allowed us to stand upright. The people that have reached out to us that only knew you, and never us, is quite amazing. Your love has touched the very young to the very old. For a person with such a limited number of years, you have lived an amazing life of love.

I thank you for your smile, your hugs, your honesty, your compassion, your ease, your beauty both physically and spiritually, your warmth, and your humor. When you entered a room, your presence filled it, much like when you entered this world, your presence filled my heart and soul. This must be why, now that you are gone I have struggled with such a huge gaping hole in my heart, in my very self. Sometimes it feels as though the wind is just blowing through me making me so aware of this very torn, empty spot. When that happens, I need only think of you. I think of your eyes, so blue. Your hair so blond; your smile; your stance; a gesture you would make. With these thoughts I can reconstruct the emptiness...at least for a while.

So my darling, I say to you once more, that I will miss you forever, I will join you when it is my time, and I will hold you in my heart.

Good night sweet Prince, Good night!

Love,
Mom

Trina Laughlin

January 25, 2008

To Everyone who has shared a memory, a kind word, an offer of a prayer; we thank you beyond belief. It is all of you who have held us upright as we struggle to regain our balance. Many of you have resurfaced from past places, and many of you are more recent, each and every one of you have helped us realize the importance of a human life, and the importance of the connection between people when tragedy occurs. Your words, your actions, your capacity to reach out to people hurting as deeply as we are, represents that common link we call humanity. It is within this humanity that myself and my family have been set on a road that will allow us to begin the difficult journey of healing. You have all shared with us stories that have made us cry, some that have made us laugh, and all that have made us proud to be Andy's parents. We have gotten to know people that we had only heard about in name, we have seen them in action and now more fully understand our son's love and respect for them. Thank you, each and every one, who at one point or another loved the most magnificent human being I have ever met in my life.

As this chapter ends, and this page will soon expire. I say one more time..."Good night sweet prince, Good night!"

Love,
Mom

Linell Greene

January 22, 2008

Just stopping by to say I loved you yesterday, I love you today, and I will love you in the future!! My second family always and forever!!

Dorothy Contrera

January 21, 2008

Dear Laughlin Family,
Our family was very touched that during your own time of grief you were able to reach out to us. We read about your son's passing and immediately shared your sadness. It is amazing in this life how we are truly all connected. I am sure there is a very good reason that God needed our sons and I do believe that someday we will find that out. They were amazing young men, they are our children, they will be missed. Please hold tight to the ties that bind, love is eternal. Our deepest sympathies from the Contrera Family.

Kathy & Carl Ronnenberg

January 17, 2008

Trina and family,

We are so very sorry for your loss. I read about it in the paper and wasn't sure if this was your son but since seeing the posting from Dr. Borghi knew it must be. I have thought of you EVERY day since I learned of your son's passing. Like several others who have posted here my family also went through this kind of tragedy, so we know that time does help heal us. We are keeping all of you in our thoughts and prayers.
Fondly,

Mike Sanders

January 16, 2008

Dear Andy,
For 21 years I have loved and always tried to protect my beautiful Lisa. She means everything to me, and from the very beginning I held the paternal belief that no man would ever be good enough for my Baby.
But you changed that. Not instantly mind you because I could not be convinced so easily. No, rather this transformation came to me little by little. It presented itself through your unselfish actions like offering to paint my mother’s house forfeiting a Saturday, or visiting my in-laws unaware of the fate that lied ahead of you with the annual autumn “move everything in the garage into the basement” ritual, and doing it all with a genuine smile. (I will definitely miss you next spring!)
It presented itself through your willingness to put others before yourself. No one incident showed that to me more than on Lisa’s 21st birthday when we needed one volunteer of her friends to drive a car back to Buffalo from the restaurant in Lewiston. This of course meant forfeiting the limo ride. Of the twelve or so eligible drivers that night, you were the only one to raise your hand and you did so immediately. I remember feeling “That isn’t right. Andy should be in the limo next to Lisa”. But even after my delay tactics and innuendos, you were the only one give up a portion of the fun so others could enjoy.
It presented itself in your ideals and beliefs. From your love of family and the importance they played in your life, to your career choice in social work where you would be able to help others, to your love of competition…you showed me that you were a young man with a wonderful combination of strong principles, dedication, and conviction. Simply put - Strength & Compassion.
But most of all I was convinced by watching and listening to Lisa. All any father wants is for his daughter to be happy, healthy and always safe. A father thinks no one can do that as well as he can. But life changes, and little girls grow up to be young women. And we realize that we can’t be everything to them anymore. So we hope and pray they meet someone who can give them what you so desperately want them to have in life. Lisa would tell me about something you did and say “just like you would Dad”.
Andy, you gave Lisa what I want her to have. You made Lisa happy. With you she understood what love is. She felt safe with you. I heard it in her voice and saw it in her smile. And for the joy and happiness you brought to my daughter, I will always thank you and love you.

Greg Ventura

January 4, 2008

I am forever grateful to be given the opportunity to know Andy. In those short 4 years at Aquinas he showed me more than I could ever learn in a classroom; how to respect and love people for who they were. We need more Andy Laughlins in this world. Miss you buddy. Look after us all until we meet again.

Donna and Jerry Robson

January 4, 2008

Dear Trina and Dennis,
We are so sorry for your loss. We have many memories of Andrew and pictures of him and Danny in our albums. Of course it has been many years since we've seen Andrew but after reading all the wonderful comments about him, you must have been very proud of him. He grew into a wonderful young man. We can never understand these tragedies. It seems so unfair that people like Andrew. who could make such a difference in this world, are taken so soon. We can't begin to understand your pain. I don't think it will ever really go away. We pray that Jesus will comfort you. Donna and Jerry Robson, neighbors on McConkey

Andy watches over us

Michael & Dalys Zappia

January 3, 2008

The sun was out yesterday morning and all day today, I know that it is Andy trying to brighten everyone's day. With the start of a New Year our prayers go out to Andy's parents, family, Lisa, Lisa's family, Linell, Mark, Ian, Sar, and the numerous amount of fortunate friends that have crossed Andy's path. Here's hoping that this year brings everyone peace and that the pain possibly softens. Lets not forget this man, lets rejoice him! Always remember his incredible qualities and try to apply them to your own.
Below is a letter I wrote about Andy, that I shared on Saturday, and would like to put it out here for those who did not hear it- so they can also be reminded of some of Andy's qualities and hopefully, it will bring a smile on your face......

I’ve only known Andy for about a year and a half and he’s left such an impact on me.
I met Andy back in August of ‘06 @ Darien Lake. My nephews Mark & Joe Zappia planned a trip to Darien lake with a bunch of High School & College buddies. They were going to see a couple of concerts – Tom Petty & John Fogerty- during their stay. They had asked to me come along for the first show & stay over, so I did. I’m telling you, I had a blast; I was like a kid again. These guys were a great bunch of guys who enjoyed good music along with good company. Andy was one of these guys, who was so likable and approachable and made you feel welcomed especially since I was amongst a group much younger and much closer with each other. So after the first night, he was egging me to stay longer, come to the next show with them, so after getting the “ok” from my wife to continue this “frat party” that I had entered, I was back for another night. We had an even better night, so many laughs and so many stories came from that trip – til this day we keep talking about it & have tried numerous times to do it again.
So a month or so goes by after our 4 day excursion, and the next thing you know, I’m working on my computer one day & an Instant Message pops up on my screen reading “yo homie” or maybe it was “hidey ho”, and of course, it was Andy, thanking me for the good time on the camping trip and for the photos I took and wanting to do it again. It was great to hear from him because he was one of those people who you could connect with so easily because of his outstanding personality. So, from that point on we kept in touch with each other mainly through the computer or cell phone. The funny thing is, the only real reason I have Instant Messaging on my computer was to stay in touch with my nephews on a regular basis, since with today’s technology that is the easiest way. So now I felt like I had another nephew with Andy. He kept me posted with his life’s events – school, finals, College Pro, Panama City, Toronto, football, Dave Mathews, white water rafting, skydiving, Lisa, and just everyday stuff. He would ask me about my business, my wife, my children, my life. It was amazing that this kid, half my age, no relationship to me, would find time between his school work, his job, and his family & friends to even bother to stay in touch with me. It just showed you what a strong family unit he grew up in, learning how to have respect and caring for people, plus balancing being a kid and being an adult, it was so impressive. Besides his big heart, great smile, and his way with words – he had such a funny sense of humor. His Away Messages he left on the computer would bring a laugh out of me almost every time. He had one about thanking Jewish people for the day off of school because of their holiday, that was so funny, and there was one about girls wearing skirts & uggs- it was a classic, and the one about taking a shower was hysterical too. I’m telling you, it is going to be extremely hard to get back on that computer and not see his name up on my screen and to not be able to read one of those funny quotes.
I have a Christmas gathering every year and Andy made it a point to come last year and this year, as a way to connect in person, instead of just through technology. So I had the privilege to see him on his last night out. With so many people that I knew there, I made a mental note to make sure I pull him a side and have some one on one time with him, which I did, and I thank God I did. I will cherish that memory and every other one I had with him.
Being a parent myself, I can only hope & pray my children turn out to be the type of person Andy was and is. Such a wonderful, beautiful person his parents raised, who has affected so many lives and left special places in so many hearts. peace bro……Michael Zappia

Verna Merriweather

January 3, 2008

My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.

Kristi Rood

January 2, 2008

Trina,
I am so sorry to hear of your son's accident. It seems that those of us who respect you and your work find it difficult to express any words that you haven't yet thought of to make the pain lessen or the nights easier to get through. I know losing someone provides unimaginable grief and heartache and one wonders when it will get better. I pray that you and your family will find comfort in your son's memories, the legacy that he appeared to have, and the love and support of those around you. I also hope that your resiliency will guide you through this devastating loss and that each day will become a bit easier to face.

Angela Young-Stevenson

January 2, 2008

Trina and Family

I am so so sorry to hear of your loss, words just don't seem to be enough. Trina you are an amazing person so I know Andrew must have been as well. Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Sincerely

Joan Carroll

January 2, 2008

To The Laughlin Family,

On a glorious day in July, my neice Lisa brought Andy by to introduce him to our family. As they came walking through the yard, I couldn't stop looking at his blue eyes and contagious smile. My older grandchildren were playing on a water slide and our thirteen month old granddaughter was on the deck with us. She was going through a leary-of-strangers period. For some unknown reason, she toddled over to Andy and made a motion for him to pick her up.
With amazement, I watched for the next hour or two as he rocked her, tossed her into the air, perched her on his shoulders and ran around the yard. Topping that, he told her jokes only a one year old could appreciate, and by then, she was his. I kept thanking God for bringing him into Lisa's life; it was a privilege seeing Lisa giggle
with delight at the two of them.

Then, my husband came home from work and Andy spoke to Bill about his plans to work in human services. My husband has worked in that field his entire life and is now an Administrator. He gave Andy his business card offering his aid anytime in the future. My husband and Andy spoke about a mutual philosophy which has now turned out to be Andy's legacy-

"identify your passion and embrace happiness".

Six little words that can change the world.

Denise Keefe

January 2, 2008

Dennis and Trina,

My heart and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. I can not imagine what you are going through and I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts.

Michelle Robson

January 2, 2008

To the Laughlin Family -

I knew your wonderful family when you lived on McConkey. We lived across the street from you. My brother Daniel and Andy were good friends and Andy spent alot of time at our house. I still rememember them as young boys (no more then 5 or 6 years old)playing, laughing and enjoying each other. What a terribly loss for your family. I lost my boyfriend of 6 years to a car accident in Rochester this past June and was so saddened to hear that you are going through a similar pain. Please rememember at these times that God is Great!! and he will take you through this terrible tragedy. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I hope you can find a way to heal your family and celebrate Andy's life. May God bess your family.

Nancy Elliott

January 1, 2008

Trina and family,
There simply are not adequate words for something like this. I can't believe this has happened to you. We were just talking, at the wedding in October, about our kids. It's just unimaginable. I was out of town and unable to be at Andrew's funeral, but since I heard the news, I have been praying for you, that breathing gets easier, that the unbearable heaviness gets lighter, that the comfort and concern of those who love you will somehow soften the pain of your loss.

Linell Greene II

December 31, 2007

To my 2nd Family,

I am truely sorry for the lost of such a great and wondeful man. He was the best son, the best friend, the best boyfriend, the best man, the best brother, the best uncle, the best nephew, the best grandson, the best cousin anyone could ever ask for. These days are so dark and gloomy right now but I know that Andy is in heaven watching us. Just as he worked so hard for us on this earth, he is in heaven now working even harder to look after and keep up with all of us. I want you to know that my voice is only a phone call away and that my warm hugs are only a plane ride away. I love all of you so much and I am so glad to call you my second family. Now lets make Andy proud because I know I do not want to get yelled at when I meet him again for eternity. Laugh because of his crazy voices, cry because you miss that big smile, hug because you miss those big muscles, smile because you have people who love you, but most of all stand on your two feet and never fall because thats EXACTLY what Andy did his whole entire life. I love you mom, dad, sister and brother.

To my best friend,

Soooo I know Ive been bugging you alot since December 23rd and I know Im asking the world of you everyday, but if I had one more request can you give your family, friends and I the strength to get through this difficult time we face? I promise thats the last wish. I love you kid sooo much and even as I type this to you I tear falls down my cheek but at the same time I am smiling. Save a spot for the Ying Yang twins kiddo and try not to make the angels fall over laughing with all of your jokes and funny voices. See ya soon Andrew Joseph!!

"You are my brother, my best friend, my family"

Jill Campbell

December 31, 2007

I met Andy through my cousin, Lisa. He made her laugh and smile. I will never forget the time we were teasing her a little and he just looked at her and told her she was perfect the way she was. He said it in the most casual yet sincere way. It was obvious he was a wonderful person and that he was the type of person it felt good to be around. I wish we could have known him better. Andy, my children and I have prayed for you and your loved ones. We wish you peace and happiness in heaven.

Patricia Jones

December 30, 2007

To the Laughlin Family,
You do not know me--I am a good friend of the Sanders family and have known Lisa since she was born. I wish that I could find the words to let you know how sad I am for all of you and Lisa, and for all of Andy's friends and family. I lost a sister suddenly in her early adulthood, so I can imagine the overwhelming pain you are feeling. I hope that you will find comfort in the caring thoughts and prayers from friends, and in time, a sense of peace in your memories of Andy. I regret never having the good fortune to have met Andy...he obviously touched many, many lives in very special and meaningful ways during the short time he had on this earth and he will live on in the hearts of all those who knew him. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Annette Beutel

December 30, 2007

Dear Andrew's Family,
I am a dear friend of Maria Sanders and had the pleasure of "knowing" Andy only through the wonderful things she told me of him. I attended Andy's wake and funeral and so admired your strength and deep faith in God as so many friends and family members were able to share their loving thoughts. May our Lord hold you all in the palm of his hand and surround you with his love and peace. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Lisa Sanders

December 30, 2007

Laughlins,
We would have been family someday, it just happened earlier than we expected. I love you all.

Andy,
It has been exceptionally better to know you for 7 short months then to never have known you at all. You taught me strength, courage, compassion, and what I treasure the most, what it is to love. You loved me deeply for who I am imperfections and all and for that I am eternally grateful. You showed me the person I am at a time I had forgotten it. You are truly the best person I have ever known Andy and I have become a better person because of you. You made me laugh, smile, and happy every single day. Whether it was a witty remark or a silly voice you knew how to enjoy life and make it enjoyable for those around you. You gave without expecting something in return. That’s just who you were, there were no questions asked, just a helping hand. You taught everyone who knew you how they should treat others and how to live and love life because you my darling did that to the highest. I will miss seeing your beautiful smile and I may not ever understand why I was not allowed to see it everyday for the rest of my life but I am sure God has a good reason. I believe you were chosen to serve a greater mission up in heaven and baby, I couldn’t think of a better warrior to serve the Lord. Your countless amounts of selfless deeds you served here on Earth will certainly not go to waste for the mass amounts of people you have touched will continue your lead and carry them out everyday. I know I will see your smiling face again someday so save me a spot up there next to you baby for you are my soul mate and now my guardian angel. I will love and carry you in my heart forever <3

And I know the Bears are thankful to have you up there helping them out :)

Jodi Penna

December 30, 2007

To the Laughlin Family:
You may may not remember me, Jodi Penna from St. Amelia's in Tonawanda (a blast from the past). I've maintained sporadic contact with Andrew over the years but always remember his ability to make people laugh and the joy he received from making others smile. He was the first boy to give me a gift. Somewhere around fifth grade. An angel holding a crystal on a necklace that I still have today. I'm sorry for your loss and keep you, and him, in my prayers.

With Love,
Jodi Penna

Dorothy Irwin

December 30, 2007

Dear Trina and Family,

I was very saddened to hear about your loss. My heart goes out to you. I will keep you in my prayers. Andy was such a wonderful young man and I know that he will be missed by many many people. I will call you when I get back from Virginia. Love, Dorothy

Diane Askey

December 29, 2007

To the Laughlin Family,
You do not know me, but I was told about AJ's death by a dear friend and I was asked to pray for you. I know that it will be some time before you read the many messages left for you here, but when you do, please know that I know from experience, when I say that you will have to learn how to live with a whole in your heart. It takes many years, but you will eventually find peace. It helps to talk with people who understand. If you would ever like to talk, please feel free to contact me.
In my prayers,
Diane Askey, mother of Dale, killed in a car accident at the age of 18, on May 20, 2005

Marie Pic

December 29, 2007

To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.

Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."

It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man."

God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.

When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.

I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.

There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.

If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.

So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.

And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
Words of comfort to all whom knew him. God Bless everybody.

Jackie MInes, Child and Family Help of America

December 29, 2007

My prayers go out to the Laughlin family and the many friends of
Andy. Andy did his internship in my office this past semester his many different smiles and jokes will forever remain in my heart and my mind, If I only knew this would be the last time. I must say he was probably the best intern I’ve ever had working in my office.

Andy truly touched my life, the staff and the lives of many of our clients at Child and Family Help of America will all miss the thought of him not being apart of us on this earth any longer. His smiles were worth trillions of dollar and his heart was bigger than life. My heart will cries for a long time for the lost of my intern, and my friend Andy. We’ve truly lost a Giant whose sole purpose in life was to give of himself. God took back a good one when he decided he needed Andy back right now.

Although I am very hurt over Andy's departure, I also know that God doesn’t make mistakes, he only allowed us to have him for 22 short years to come and to touch our lives, I am so very happy and glad that I was one of the individual’s assigned for Andy to touch my life.
I know Andy’s smiles and his big gaint heart is now touching lives in heaven.
So Family and Friends as painful as this is let’s rejoice while working on our departure so we can one day see Andy again.

Ms. Jackie Mines
CFHA

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Michael Zappia

December 29, 2007

Mr. & Mrs. Laughlin-
I was woken this morning from the sun through my window, but that sun was your son- it brought a smile to my face and a tear in my eye, knowing that he is watching us from above. Today we physically say good-bye to him but mentally & emotionly he will remain we us. So from now on when that sun comes out in the morning, I will know who is really behind it. Take Care.

Andy-
You're the man. Thanks for the laughs. We all love you & miss you.
Peace bro..............

Bruce & Kathie Trzepacz

December 28, 2007

Dennis & Trina
Our thoughts and prayers are with you in this time of need.

Paul & Lieve Gwynn

December 28, 2007

To the Laughlin family
I'm a friend of Kristin
I'm so sorry for your loss, and I can understand your pain so well as we lost our 18 year old grandson last August.

You and your family are in our thoughts.

Aimee Cox-Gibbs

December 28, 2007

Trina
I just want to say once again how sorry I am for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts prayers.

Matthew Kerr

December 28, 2007

To the Laughlin Family:

I am a friend of Andy's from college and my heart and prayers go out to you. His memory will live on in all of us that knew him. He was a good kid and a great friend.

Andrew Brooks

December 28, 2007

Andy will be missed by all who knew him. He would do anything to make sure everyone was having a good time and everyone did when they were around him. He always put his loved ones before himself. Andy will forever be in my heart and some day we will all meet again. My thoughts and prayers are with the entire Laughlin family. May Andy rest safely in the hands of God.

Michelle Cicchetti

December 27, 2007

Dearest Trina,
I am extremely sorry for your loss. I often heard you mention your handsome AJ and my thoughts are with you & your family during this difficult time.
God Bless all of you.
Love,
Michelle A. Cicchetti

Derek Annechino

December 27, 2007

To the Laughlin family:

My thoughts and prayers are with you in this very difficult time. You raised a quality young man who touched many people. I hope as the time passes you will be comforted by the thought that Andy will be watching over all of you.

May God bless you.

Mark Zappia

December 27, 2007

To the Laughlin family,
My deepest sympathy and support is extended to you through this difficult time and through out my life. We are all with you...

To my Buddy buddy,
I love you Andy, my friend, my brother, my buddy. While these are dark days on earth, you made heaven a whole lot brighter. I love you, I didn't lose you, I never will lose you, you will be with me for all of time.
-Zap

Serafino Rosso

December 27, 2007

Mr. and Mrs. Laughlin,

Thank you for bringing one of the best friends I will ever know in to this world,I am truly sorry and he will be forever in my heart.

Marsha/Dan Etter

December 27, 2007

We are so very sorry for your loss. We met Andrew at the Williams' a few times. What a handsome, wonderful young man.
Dan and Marsha Etter

Christine Borghi-Cavallaro

December 27, 2007

Dennis & Trina,
What a beautiful tribute to a wonderful young man. You continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.
With love,
Christine Borghi-Cavallaro

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