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Stephen Sutherland Obituary
Suddenly on November 12, 2005, Army Sergeant Stephen John, age 34, with the 172nd Stryker Brigade Combat Team. A former resident of Pitman and Mantua, Stephen was stationed at Ft. Wainwright at North Pole, Alaska. Stephen graduated from Clearview High School in 1992 where he played offense, defense and special teams for the school’s football team. He converted to Catholicism on Easter Sunday 2004 and he attended Mass regularly at the Southern Lights Chapel located on the base. Stephen was active with the Youth Group and the Boy Scouts as well as being a member of the Knights of Columbus. In addition, he was very skilled as a handyman in electrical and plumbing work.
Stephen is lovingly survived by his wife, Maria; his sons, Omar and Victor; his parents, William and Shirley Sutherland; his sister, Tracy Gilman; his brother, William Sutherland, III and his wife, Sandra; his brother-in-law, Daniel Rowe; his nephews, Michael Rowe, John Rowe, Daniel Rowe, Aaron Gilman and Alexander Gilman; and his mother-in-law and father-in-law, Rita and Jose Chavez. Stephen is predeceased by his beloved sister, Kathleen Dawn Rowe.
Relatives and friends are invited to his visitation Saturday from 4:00 to 7:00 p.m. and again Sunday from 4:00 to 7:00 p.m. at the HEALEY FUNERAL HOME, 9 White Horse Pike (at Kings Highway), Haddon Heights, N.J. 08035. His Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated Monday at 11:00 a.m. at St. Rose of Lima Roman Catholic Church, Fourth Avenue and Kings Highway, Haddon Heights, N.J. Interment private.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Stephen Sutherland Memorial Fund, c/o Commerce Bank, 490 Mantua Ave., Woodbury, NJ 08096. Inquiries regarding services or donations may be made through the HEALEY FUNERAL HOME at (856) 547-1675.
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Memories and Condolences
for Stephen Sutherland
Maria Sutherland
May 19, 2025
I know you know already and no post is needed, but it brings me a little comfort writing to you here. Our miracle baby graduated high school on May 9th. We did it (George)! Our 3 guys managed to complete high school all obstacles aside. I´m very proud of each one of them. As I know you are too. Échame la mano con el grande! Until we meet again, Stephen you remain forever in my heart and mind. Te Amo.
Stephen Sutherland
October 21, 2017
Love you dad I miss you.
Maria` Sutherland
February 11, 2016
I've dated what's left in the world and I'm very disappointed. I've dated the one afraid of commitment, the one that was already committed and forgot to mention it, and finally dated someone that should be committed! Please don't do me any more favors...I rather be alone. I will see you again some day Stephen. You left me alone way too soon. You will forever remain the love of my life.
Maria Sutherland
December 31, 2012
It's 2013 now. The start of another year without you by our side. I made it through the hugs and well-wishes without tears! Until we meet again my love you remain forever in my heart.
Maria Sutherland
November 12, 2012
Yes it still hurts to remember that knock on our door 7 years ago. Today we honored and remembered you and the other fallen service members of the Armed Forces that have gone before their time. You are an inspiration to all who knew you.
Loving Mom Pat Sutherland
November 10, 2012
Dear Son, You would have been 40 years old this year but, you were taken from us to soon. Tomorrow will be the anniversary of your passing. It's been 7 long years. Your loving spirit is still with us, in a very special spot in all our hearts. I miss you so very much Son.
Maria Sutherland
November 7, 2012
On this date, a precious life began a journey. A journey that would bring joy, laughter, and blessings to others; a journey that would lead to a commitment of service.
maria sutherland
September 20, 2012
Give my grandma a kiss for me and tell her I miss her very much. I miss you too my love with all my heart. Until we meet again
Maria Sutherland
May 12, 2012
I'm going to the ball tonight for your would-be-unit if you were still with us. Our two older boys are coming with while Josh stays home with Stephen. I miss you so much my love. I know it goes without saying...I WISH YOU WERE WERE! We always enjoyed ourselves at your units' ball each time, minus the first one! LOL
I love you, if it's possible more today than I ever did! You continue to be the greatest gift God gave me after our three sons. Until we me meet Again, remember that you're with me always.
November 30, 2011
It's been way too long now since the death of your anniversay. I miss you so much Uncle Steve and I will always remember you. All the fantastic memories as a young child growing up with a goofy Uncle. Praise be with you and my mom. Forever in my heart.
~Daniel Adam Rowe Jr.
maria Sutherland
November 29, 2011
2001 while you were stationed in korea and over the phone from a courthouse in colorado springs you adopted our boys! i will live you forever stephen for having such a loving heart. i miss you very much.
Shirley Sutherland
November 16, 2011
Gone but never forgotten my sweet Son. The years go by but, the love never dies.
My heart aches because I miss you all so, Until, my time comes when again I will be whole.
Peggy Childers
November 12, 2011
To the family and friends of Staff Sgt. Stephen J. Sutherland:
Please accept my remembrance of Stephen on the anniversary of his passing and know that he will never be forgotten.
Maria Sutherland
August 3, 2011
I need a hand with our boys please. Touch their hearts n help me guide them in the right direction.
Maria Sutherland
May 25, 2011
Since Heaven has become your home I sometimes feel that I'm alone; and though we now are far apart you hold a big piece of my heart. I never knew how much I'd grieve when it was time for you to leave, or just how much my heart would ache from that one fragment you would take. God let this tiny hole remain reminding me we'll meet again, and one day all the pain will cease when He restores this missing piece. For Jesus heals each timy part that holds your memory in my heart.
maria sutherland
April 26, 2011
It was hard letting go of Shadow today. We are sorry he left us but happy because we know the two of you are together now. I know you missed him as much as he missed you. He was a great dog. He got to play with our little boy. Until we are all reunited again... Take care of Shadow. The both of you will remain in our hearts forever. Our love to you both.
Elizabeth Raab
January 14, 2011
Your legacy will forever live on in the hearts of those who knew you and shared in your struggle to protect our country and the ultimate sacrifice you gave so that we can be grateful for what we have. Your family, friends, loved ones and fellow soldiers will stay in my thoughts and prayers.
A Proud Military Mom.
November 15, 2010
Dear Compadre, I just want wish you happy veterants day and happy B-DAY at the same time. I know for a fact you were a trully hero and a great role model to follow. We miss you so much and we never forget you. you still living in our hearts.
Alex & Esther
November 12, 2010
Steve, You were such a great brother. It was 5 years ago we lost you. I'm trying to follow your instructions, but it is too hard and I love you too much. That never goes away, it only gets stronger. You are forever in our hearts. Love, Tracy
Peggy Childers
November 12, 2010
To the family and friends of Staff Sgt. Stephen J. Sutherland:
Remembering Stephen on the anniversary of his passing. May our fallen heroes never be forgotten!
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
www.IraqWarHeroes.org
Aimee Marie Jandzinski
November 12, 2010
HAPPY VETERANS TO A TRUE HERO ! YOU GAVE YOUR LIFE SERVING OUR COUNTRY, WE HAVE NOT FORGOTTEN . I raise a toast TO YOU !! Thank God there are people like you who stand guard over our country.THANK YOU STEPHEN !! THANK YOU FOR YOUR SACRIFICES AND DEDICATION TO OUR COUNTRY .YOU AND YOUR FAMILY WILL ALWAYS BE IN OUR PRAYERS .
IN THE WORDS OF ROBERT ORR ....TO LIVE IN THE HEARTS OF THOSE YOU LEAVE BEHIND IS NEVER TO DIE .
Kathleen Beasinger
November 11, 2010
Stephen, As the nation celebrates another Veterans' Day, I find myself again taking a moment to think of you and so many others who have given their all for this great country and I thank you for the sacrifice that you made.
You are greatly missed and will be forever remembered and loved in the hearts and minds of Maria, your sons, and so many friends and family members.
God Bless You and the rest of us can only offer our thanks and our prayers.
Thelma Kohler
November 7, 2010
Happy Birthday Cousin
When I found out the news about you five years ago I was shocked. I know that you are in a beautiful place now with family and friends. I am very happy to know your wife and children, they are a very loving family. Love, your cousin Thelma (sutherland) Kohler
Pauline (Sutherland) Everingham
November 7, 2010
Thinking of you on your Birthday!!! I miss you very much...Hope your reading a book up there for me :) (insider)I am so blessed to have a relationship with your wife and children because I remember you through them...Loving and missing all of you in Heaven... :>
Daniel Rowe Jr
November 7, 2010
Dear Uncle Steve
Happy Birthday to you, I miss you so much. I hope you and my mom are doing okay up there. I still can't believe your gone. You were a great Uncle. Playing football in the backyard. You tackling Michael. I will never forget you. God Bless.
Maria Sutherland
November 7, 2010
Happy 38th Birthday my love! I don't know if heaven has birthday parties or age is even a factor there but I just wanted u to know that we are all thinking of you today. It was 5 yrs ago today that I got to wish you happy birthday over the phone n heard your voice for the last time. Until we meet again.
Steve's Mom
November 6, 2010
Dear Steve,
Your Birthday is tomorrow you would have been 38years old. Billy, Sandy and I will be attending the Veteran's Day dinner at the American Legion Post 100 tomorrow bu,t I will be thinking about where uou and I were in "1972". You came into this world November 7,1972. I cried tears of joy, for I knew even then that you were very special. Then you joined your sister Dawn in Heaven a few days after your 33rd Birthday, on Veterans Day we got the news that, you were killed. Since that day so many tears have been shed for you, my sweet loving son. Until we meet again in Heaven, I will treasure my memories of you and delight in watching little Steve growing up to be a man like your other two sons have become. He has that twinkle in his eyes just like you had. I am sure he will grow up to be the fine man that you were. I know you are watching down with pride for they are fine boys and I love them very much. Maria too, she has a brave heart, like you. Never will I stop loving you my son. Watch over all our loved ones that, are with you and know that my heart aches for all of you, I miss you so. God Bless us all.
Dawn
November 4, 2010
Dear Steve:
It has almost been five years now and yet I still can't believe that you are gone! I miss you and I wish that I got to see Maria and the boys more often too. I know that you are looking over them and that you are beaming with happiness and pride for everything that they are. I am so lucky that I got to know you and call you friend (more like big bro) the time that I did. You will always hold such a special place in my heart.
Love and Miss you,
Dawn
Stephen is 3 yrs. old now sweetheart and he is the living image of you.
Maria Sutherland
September 28, 2010
Maria Sutherland
September 8, 2010
Long before the mountains came to be and the land and sea and stars of the night, through the endless seasons of all time, you have always been, you will always be. Destiny is cast, and at your silent word we return to dust and scatter to the wind. A thousand years are like a single moment gone, as the light that fades at the end of day. Teach us to make use of the time we have. Teach us to be patient even as we wait. Teach us to embrace our every joy and pain. To sleep peacefully, and to rise up strong. In every age, O God, you have been our refuge. In every age, O God, you have been our hope.
MARIA SUTHERLAND
September 8, 2010
Today I found the video clip that you made for the boys and I while you were in Iraq but never got a chance to send. It is so good to hear your voice. It didn't make me cry, instead it made me happy that you took the time to make it. Your voice will be with us forever now. The baby saw it and he asked me to play it over a few times. He touched the screen and then said, "where's my daddy"? That made me a little teary-eyed, but again I have to remember that we are so lucky to have had you in our lives and cherish those memories with the baby as he starts to ask more questions. He is so smart, babe. I'm sure you know that cause I truly believe in my heart that you are with us watching us and protecting us. Sorry I messed up the flag pole today that you put up before you left. Bubba said he'll help me put the flag back up tomorrow. I love you Stephen with all my heart. Thank you for the little while you were with us. What keeps me going is knowing that we will be together again someday.
maria sutherland
July 16, 2010
I miss you Stephen with all my heart. Theres not a single day that I havent thought of you.
Bob Clements
May 31, 2010
Truly a GREAT Soldier, NCO, and friend that I am HONORED to have served with. I remember SSG Sutherland spotting an IED through an LRAS one dark night while on the move in route back to COP Rawah. After spotting the IED, called in for Apache to destroy it. I truly believe that him being such a great Soldier and always working so hard saved the lives of several Soldiers and Marines. Can't wait to see you again Brother.
Bob
Our three handsome boys!
Maria Sutherland
May 31, 2010
Michael Reagan does an AWSOME job drawing all these portraits
Maria Sutherland
May 31, 2010
U thought the kids that I only like YELLOW roses. Victor got them for me for my birthday!
Maria Sutherland
May 31, 2010
Noemi, Cristina, me and LeToya in Cabo 2010!
Maria Sutherland
May 31, 2010
5/1 CAV Military Ball. 23 April 2010 (me, michelle & susan)
Maria Sutherland
May 31, 2010
Month of the Military Child @ Ft. Wainwright, AK
Maria Sutherland
May 31, 2010
Victor visiting Omar in Kansas for Easter 2010
Maria Sutherland
May 31, 2010
Victor is officially, ALUMNI of North Pole High School
Maria Sutherland
May 31, 2010
May 31, 2010
There are many things in life that may change your life in a different direction. Knowing Steven and his beautiful smile, was one of them for me, he truly was an angel here on earth. As you said Maria, He is really looking after you all from heaven. My friendship was,is and will be with you for always. May God bless you and yours throughout your life and my prayer for you Steven in heaven. Love, Ana
Maria Sutherland
May 30, 2010
Omar is finally 21! Babe I know that you promised him you take him somewhere special for his 21st Birthday. I promise you that next time I see him I will keep that promise for you. I know you're keeping an eye on all of us, especially with everything that we're going through. I thank you for taking care of us like you always said you would. I believe in my heart that God took you from us so early because HEAVEN is the only place where you can do all the things you wanted to do. I will miss you always. You were and continue to be my one true love.
Stephen is almost 3 years old babe!~ He looks so much like you.
Maria Sutherland
May 26, 2010
Maria Sutherland
May 18, 2010
I miss you so much in troubled times like this. You always kept things in perspective. I'm trying but sometimes I just want to quit! Put in a good word for my dad up there babe. You know he's a good man. If God has another plan for him then so be it. I love to vacation in Mexico more often and maybe this is what we all need to end all this mess once and for all! Keep an eye on your boys and look in on me every now and then. I love you forever Stephen.
Michael Sutherland
March 26, 2010
Stephen and Family,
Sometimes its hard for me to put things properly into words, and I'm sorry it takes me so long sometimes. I just want to say what a wonderful impact you had in the short time I had to get to know you. You shared your story of finding Christ and adopting your sons and loving your family completely, all while we were heading off to Iraq. Your story strengthened all of us who ever heard it and prepared us to face the worse. Because of this, we know you are in Heaven looking down on us all!
Maria Sutherland
March 24, 2010
Thinking of you always.
Alex & Esther Manzo
February 16, 2010
Dear Compadre,
It’s been 4 years and 4 months since you leave us broken heart.
For all of us it’s been so hard to realize that you are not with us any more physically, but spiritually you’re in our hearts. I just want tell you something that I always thought to tell you, but never did. I only have a few friends that I can easily count them with one hands, and you are one of them. For my wife and I, it’s been a pleasure to baptized your son, little Stephen and it’s even an honor to be his Godfathers. I just want say thank you for all those great moments we spend together as a family, there were the best time of our lives.
Thank you Compadre for being you (Stephen) and not the other person that pretends to be.
You always are going to live in our hearts.
Alejandro & Dagna Esther Manzo
Maria Sutherland
February 13, 2010
Happy Valentine's Day my angel! I miss you so much. You always made this day one of the most memorable all year every year! I will love you forever Stephen.
Maria Sutherland
January 10, 2010
Babe, Danny looks like you more each day. I couldn't help but stare at him during my visit to NJ. I'm sorry we didn't make it to see your dad alive, but I know you, him and Dawn are all keeping an eye on all of us left behind to carry on. Please protect us all and keep an eye out on us while we travel to celebrate the redeployment of Omar's unit back to the United States. You're always in my heart and on my mind my love.
Dan Rowe
December 1, 2009
Steve,I heard your laugh just the other day,it spun my head around.But it was not you,it was my son Dan!Your sister always said he sounded and looked like his Uncle Steve,she was correct!I hope you and your sister laugh together and look down on us.I look up often and think of you.You are truly missed and loved.
Maria Sutherland
November 24, 2009
It's been four years, very long years at times and finally I had a dream with you! It was great seeing your face, smile and feeling your tender touch, if only in my dreams. I will forever treasure the momories that we created together and those I continue to be a part of through our three wonderful boys. I love you Stephen, forever! Until we meet again.
Stephen, 2 yrs. old. Playing at North Beach, San Francisco, CA
August 8, 2009
Maria Sutherland
August 6, 2009
Stephen, its been a while, but I find it comforting to leave you a message here. The weekend I spent at the Hilton, well I know you were there, at the restaurant, the wine, the company I shared. I love you very much. You will always be in my heart and a part of my life that will forever remain the very best part of my life.
Kenna Larra
May 21, 2009
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Maria Sutherland
December 24, 2008
Not a day goes by that I don't think of you, even after three years! You were and continue to be the love of my life. Life with our new son has been full of surprises. I forgot how much fun and work they can be at this early age. At 18 months, he weights 24.9 lbs and measures approximately 33 inches. He is going to be tall like you. Omar is home for the holidays, but will go back to Fort Leonard Wood to finish up AIT. He graduates on 29 Jan. 2009. We will be there to celebrate this milestone in his life and to mark the beginning of his military career as an MP. Victor got the most awsome news...Victor will be traveling to Australia next summer with NBC on an International Basketball Team! He is so excited. My dad finally made it to Alaska. He is spending Christmas and New Year's with us here. He is just sorry he never made it up here while you were still with us. The memories we created are what keep me going. We had the most precious relationship any person could ever hope for. You were my best friend, confidant, lover, well...you were everything to me. We finally put up a Christmas tree this year and I unwrapped the ornaments that we had purchased together in 2004 and 2005 and hung them on the tree, that was very hard to do...we were supposed to continue our tradition and hang them together. We took the baby to Disneyland and Victor helped me chose our ornament for the tree this year. We bought Mickey's ears. Omar will be reporting to his 1st duty station on 22 Feb. 2009 to Fort Riley, KS. His new unit is already on orders to go Iraq next summer. I know God and You will keep him safe and bring him back home to me and his brothers safely. Somehow you remain locked down deep inside and you always will. Te Amo Esteban por siempre. Until we meet again.
Forever Yours
In Memory of Stephen ~ (Debra Estep)
November 20, 2008
Holding you all in my thoughts and prayers.
The Wind on The Downs
“I like to think of you as brown and tall,
As strong and living as you used to be,
In khaki tunic, Sam Brown belt and all,
And standing there and laughing down at me.
Because they tell me, dear, that you are dead,
Because I can no longer see your face,
You have not died, it is not true, instead
You seek adventure in some other place.
That you are round about me, I believe;
I hear you laughing as you used to do,
Yet loving all the things I think of you;
And knowing you are happy, should I grieve?
You follow and are watchful where I go.”
(Written by Marian Allen during World War l )
Two lines that I wish you to keep near your heart…….
“You seek adventure in some other place.
That you are round about me, I believe”
I did not know Stephen, but I am remembering
his service and sacrifice. He is my hero. !
~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~
The Other Side
i'm over on the other side
where life and death softly divide.
left my skin and bones behind
now i'm over on the other side.
can you feel me there with you?
my breath is gone but i'm not through.
loved you then and i still do
from over on the other side.
i can fly. really fly.
below the earth ... all through the sky.
tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side.
it's good here on the other side.
the sweetest songs...the bluest skies.
thank you for the tears you cried
but it's good here on the other side.
i can fly. really fly. below the earth...all through the sky.
tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side
the world is smaller than a needle's eye.
where life and death softly divide.
when you leave your skin and bones behind
i'll be waiting on the other side.
i can fly. really fly. below the earth ... all through the sky.
go tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side.
Song lyrics by Don Conoscenti
C Desert Muse/SESAC
www.donconoscenti.com
(Used with permission)
“I hope it brings great comfort to any and all.
Peace on you. DonCon” 4-2008
The Other Side –
(To hear the song)
http://tinyurl.com/3o8gol
Sincerely,
Deb Estep ~ Ohio
Proud Air Force Mom SSgt Vince – Lackland AFB
Proud Air Force MIL SrA Dana – Randolph AFB
Remembering The Fallen – Blog
http://tinyurl.com/3z8p55
Angel and soldier drawing I have shared here.
http://tinyurl.com/6gey8b
Peggy Childers
November 16, 2008
To the family of Staff Sgt. Stephen J. Sutherland:
Stephen gave the ultimate sacrifice and will be held in the hearts of Americans forever. I cannot and will not let our fallen heroes be forgotten. My deepest sympathy to you. "Some gave all."
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
www.IraqWarHeroes.org
Julie Norton
August 22, 2008
Stephen, Just wanted to drop some lines to you to let you know that you have a wonderful little baby. He is the most precious thing and looks just like you!!! :) I know for a fact that you take care of him and love him from where ever you are. Maria is a wonderful mother and hope to be that great mother to my kids. Take care and we will always miss you!!! Bye
Maria Sutherland
June 24, 2008
My love, our baby just celebrated his first year of life! God granted me this miracle and I am very proud to be the mother of one more beautiful boy. I love you forever Stephen. You are the love of my life and I will love you until the day I die.
May 16, 2008
You are remembered and respected. Thank you Staff Sgt Sutherland!
Corinna Shively
April 30, 2008
I never forget the good short times we had together in Korea, Stephen you Maria, Don and I. Stephen was a wonderful guy, a part of him will be always around you.
Don and I will always misss him !
Maria Sutherland
February 14, 2008
I will always remember our 1st Valentine's Day together. You were the best! I miss you terribly.
Little Stephen 2 days before his 5th month birthday
Maria Sutherland
November 29, 2007
Stephen: It's amazing that each day that passes I can miss you more. Ever since our son was born this past June, however, life has a new meaning. I concentrate on the good memories we created together during our short time together. We created memories that will last the rest of my life and will help carry me here on earth until we are re-united forever where ever that might be. Our little boy is thriving and growing healthy each day. He is loved by so many people, but you already know that. This past two years have been the longest and hardest of my life. I never thought I'd have the courage to continue my life without you, but somehow with God's help and yours I've managed to move forward with our three boys, and Josh. Josh lost his grandfather last night so he is on his way to Pensylvania for the funeral. All of us are doing the best we can. I hope we've made you proud of the way we've moved on without you. We continue to miss you each and every single day. I look into our little boys' eyes and see a big part of you in him. Six years ago today you made our family official by adopting Omar and Victor and we are celebrating that today. Little Stephen will know what a wonderful person you were and how much you wanted him. I will continue to love you all the days of my life Stephen.
Your loving wife
Maria Guadalupe Sutherland
Sandi Breckenridge
October 9, 2007
We Will NEVER FORGET !"
Please KNOW so many people share your sadness,
and we are remembering your family in your loss and your deep grief.
Our nations HERO, Stephen, will be remembered by name.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
May we always remember:
FREEDOM ISN'T FREE!
Stphen John Sutherland, II was born 7 June 2007
September 26, 2007
Mieke Bandstra
September 13, 2007
What a lovely story in People magazine! May God bless you and your new son, Stephen's son. And may he grow up knowing his father lived and died a hero!
Mieke Bandstra
(mother of a soldier who served in Iraq for 1 year)
Wade Lear
September 11, 2007
Although I do not know you but what I do know is that you are a true Hero and a good friend to someone who is grieving over you now. There is no greater sacrafice than the one that you have given for me, my son, my family for the United States.
May you rest in Peace now knowing you gave your life so others can continue to keep on living.
SSG Ashly Hess
September 11, 2007
Well, due to losing contact and many deployments I just found out about Stephen. We were room mates in Korea.He took me in when I arrived and we were close friends for a long time. I met the family when they visited. I just wanted to send my condolences on behalf of myself, my family, SSG's Lopez and Padilla, SGT's Dodd and Larson, Mr Marsh and a grateful Nation
August 17, 2007
There is nothing that I can say or do to take away the pain or bring you peace in your time of sorrow, but I will offer you and your family my heart felt condolences. I also offer you my prayers that in time the pain will easy and the memories of your HERO will carry you through each day and night. I want to thank your HERO, for his/her selfless act of becoming a member of the armed forces, his/her willingness to defend the United States of America, all that we hold sacred and for the sacrifice that will forever be etched in the memories of all those who knew him/her. Though tears can never bring him/her back, we hope that our tears express our gratitude for the sacrifice that he/she made and our sorrow at his/her passing. I believe for every fallen HERO there is a star shining brightly up above to remind us of the precious gift we were given.
Your mission on earth is complete and you are now a member of GOD’s Heavenly armed forces. Stand down brave warrior and take your rightful place in Heaven with all the HEROES who have passed before.
I made a special promise to LE RON A. WILSON, a dear family friend who joined the Army with three other friends, one of whom is my son (Le Ron was killed in action on 07/06/07 at the age of 18) on the day he was laid to rest as I touched his coffin, that I would never forget him nor would I forget those that gave their lives for our country before him, with him and after him and so when I came across www.legacy.com, I thought what a great way to keep my promise to Le Ron, so I will continue to leave tributes in each guest book until the day there is no longer the need to leave these tributes to a FALLEN HERO.
REST IN PEACE, HERO, YOU WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN!!
PROUD MOTHER OF A U.S. SOLDIER
Currently stationed in Germany
Althea Barrett(Queens, NY)
July 24, 2007
Thank you for the sacrifice made by Staff Sgt Sutherland and the sacrifice made by everyone who loves and misses him! May God bless all of you!!
Cherylann Lane
July 16, 2007
With deepest sympathy for your terrible loss. Everyone at Operation Jersey Cares feels your pain. We love and support our troops. Stephen may be gone but not forgotten!
EN3 Darius Robertson, USN
June 2, 2007
Greetings to the Sutherland Family,
It was a great pleasure to meet Maria, Omar, and Victor at TAPS 2007 (Tragedy Assistants Program for Survivors). Again i would like to express my condolences in the loss of husband/father. Your family is always in my prayers and may God continue to be with you.
Grace Z
May 28, 2007
Tell them of us and say,
For their tomorrows,
We gave our today.
-- The Kohima Epitaph
We will never forget,
NJ Marine Moms
AIMEE MARIE JANDZINSKI
November 14, 2006
OUR AMERICAN HERO IS NOT FORGOTTEN . MY HEART GOES OUT TO HIS FAMILY AND ALL WHO LOVE STEPHEN .YOU ARE IN MY PRAYERS AND THOUGHTS . YOUR HEROIC ANGEL CONTINUES TO WATCH OVER YOU . LET HIS LOVE GUIDE YOU . UNTIL YOU MEET AGAIN MAY GOD HOLD HIM IN THE PALM OF HIS HAND .
STEVEN , YOU ARE REMEMBERED WITH PRIDE .THANK YOU FOR YOUR SACRIFICES AND DEDICATION TO OUR COUNTRY .
IN THE WORDS OF ROBERT ORR ....TO LIVE IN THE HEARTS OF THOSE YOU LEAVE BEHIND IS NEVER TO DIE .
Joanne R.
November 12, 2006
I am so sorry for your loss. It is something that stays in your heart and mind forever. May the pain ease, and time bring the smile back to your face.
Garnet Jenkins
November 12, 2006
Paying tribute to Staff Sgt. Stephen J. Sutherland, on this first anniversary of the day he gave his life for our Country, with a Great Amount of Thanks for his Courage, Dedication and Service to our Country and for Freedom.
May Stephen rest safely, in the Caring Hands of God and know that he Truly is an American Hero.
May God's Loving Grace and Comfort continue to be with the Sutherland family.
Those who Made the Ultimate Sacrifice, So Many and So Young, shall NEVER BE FORGOTTEN.
My brother among them. KIA-Vietnam 1967.
"And God shall wipe away every tear from their eyes,
there shall be no more death,
nor sorrow, nor crying,
there shall be no more pain.
For the former things have have passed away."
Revelations 21:4
May you find strength in your faith, comfort in God's love, and peace in knowing this country remembers Stephen's Sacrifice.
I am deeply sorry for your loss.
Annmarie Boland
November 11, 2006
Dear Patricia,
Words cannot express what you must be feeling today, the anniversary of your son going to Heaven. I am sorry for your loss, your grief and sorrow. Children are not suppose to go before their parents, but I'm sure Stephen is looking down upon you daily with pride.
May God Bless you and give you solace in knowing your son is America's hero. Thank you Stephen for serving our country.
God Bless your family.
Annmarie Boland (Robert Premus' Aunt)
Janet Sagonas
November 11, 2006
May God bless you and your family.
Respectfully,
Janet Sagonas
Peggy P
November 11, 2006
God Bless our fallen hero....now he flies with Angels. Stephen my heart is with you on your one year Anniversary in heaven, and my prayers are forever with your parents, wife, children, siblings and family members. Blessings to you all, we will never forget him.
Be well
JJ Ordway
November 11, 2006
To all the family: Today, Veteran's Day, I wanted to make sure that you knew that your loved one is not forgotten. His memory will live on. A good guy, a brave man, and a proud soldier.
A star shines extra bright tonight. Can you guess who that is winking down at you?
Judy Crews Proud Army Mom of CW2 William Crews Iraq
November 9, 2006
To Patricia,Mother of Stephen J.Sutherland.I am so proud of your son and the ultimate sacrifice he made for his country so we may all enjoy our freedoms.I know you hold all of his precious memories close to your heart.May God continue his Blessing to you and your family.Sincerly
betsy hughes
November 9, 2006
i am so sorry for your loss. i can't begin to imagine how you are feeling. please know that there are so many others that care about you and your family.
Kate White
November 9, 2006
My heart aches for your loss. I hope that time will ease the pain and only sweet memories remain.
from the mother of another soldier
Sherry Wilson
November 8, 2006
Maria~
Although we have never met, my heart goes out to you and the loss of your son and American hero! God bless you and your family, and know Stephen is wathing over you each day...
Sherry~
Proud Army Mom~
Lynn White
November 8, 2006
I would just like to express my sympathy to your family. Stephen will always be a hero living on in the promise of freedom for millions of people through out the world.
Prayers to your family, from an Army Mom.
Peggy P
November 8, 2006
Patricia, not a day goes by that you are not in my prayers. I had wanted to contact you for so long and just came across this guest book when I typed in your sons name.
Please know that I am so very proud of your son and his sacrifice to keep us all safe. Our sons were traveling together on the day of Stephen's accident. I live in New York and instead of going off to college after 9-11 my son chose to go to Iraq like so many others. You and your family will always be in my heart....Be well, Peggy P.
The bravest battle that is ever fought - shall I tell you where and when?
On the maps of the world, you will find it not.
It is fought in the hearts of mothers of soldiers in combat zones.
Melissa Alex
November 8, 2006
Maria, My heart is with you as you near the first year without Steven. Your a strong woman, I think of you to find the strenght to keep going and dealing with my own loss of my husband. Thank you for being there for me, please let me be there for you even with all the miles between us. We share a bond and understand of our loss. You and the boy's will always be in my heart.
September 8, 2006
Thomas & JoAnn Meehan
August 30, 2006
Our heartfelt sympathy to the Sutherland Family, my wife and I did not know Stephen. As parents who lost a daughter, Colleen, Age 26 on September 11, 2001 at the WTC, we share and understand the immense loss and sorrow of losing a child.
Please know that his sacrifice will not be forgotten, and he will remain in our prayers forever, a hero whom we will never forget.
Our prayer is that God’s tender mercy will dry your tears, and that He will comfort you in all the days ahead.
May the Peace of the Lord Be With You, Upon You, and Remain With You Always,
With Love & Respect,
Tom & JoAnn Meehan
Victor Sutherland
August 24, 2006
hey pops,
how you doin up there. i remember the last time we said goodbye it was so quick cause we had done it a million times before and were hoping for a million again. however God had other plans, plans that none of us can see. but i know that whenever he called for you, you would join him in an instance. i feel very little regret for i know that you know that i loved you. but no matter what i would do anything to have you here again. i will miss you for many things and always wishing you were there. and when i think ahead to the future i know you will be there. at my graduation, wedding,and when i have my kids, but yet i feel no sadness cause you are here. you are always in my thoughts and prayers, but anytime i feel lonely i know that you are here. you are my hero, my dad, my friend, and my soldier. i send my love. until we meet again, i love you . goodnight and goodbye
Son #2
Patricia Sutherland
June 13, 2006
You have always made us prowd of you Steve. Tears of joy streamed down my face the day you were born. It was a very happy moment in our lives. The loss of a child is mourned for all your life. It is not supposed to happen. Moms and Dads are supposed to go first. You had so much living ahead of you. I don't know why you had to go. The last time we were with you in Alaska and we hugged goodbye I didn't want to ever let go of you. Deep Down I was so afraid that my fears were not just fears. Have you rested your soul after such a brutal death. Are you and Dawn together now. My beautiful children. May you live on with God. Ask God to ease the pain of all those that love you and that mourn Steve and Dawn's death. Ease the pain of the other family's that have lost loved ones in this life too. Forever in my Heart and Soul
Love, MOM
Robert Sheehan
May 29, 2006
I was proud to have known SSG Sutherland when I was stationed in Ft. Wainwright, AK. It was my pleasure to serve with him, and he will always be remembered as a hero.
ROBYN GARSIDE
May 24, 2006
MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND YOURS. I HAVE JUST LEARNED OF YOUR GREAT LOSS AND WISH TO EXPRESS MY DEEPEST CONDOLENCES. PLEASE KNOW THAT THERE ARE PEOPLE OUT HERE WHO DO CARE. HOLD TIGHT TO YOUR TREASURED MEMORIES THAT HIS SPECIAL SMILE MAY CONTINUE TO SHINE ON FOR THE LITTLE ONES. I PRAY THAT PEACE WILL FIND YOU ALL SOMEDAY. STAY STRONG AND GODSPEED. SEMPER FI
A PROUD MARINE MOM
Edna Moreno
May 18, 2006
I'm so sorry that Stephen was lost to you, his family and all of his friends. I know you are proud of Stephen and wish there was words that comfort you now and in the future. God Bless. A Proud Army wife and Retired Army Soldier.
Kim Kessler
March 31, 2006
Pat, Bill and the entire Sutherland family, I am so sorry to hear of the loss of Stephen. It has been years since our families have seen each other, but I have fond childhood memories of all of you. God Bless Stephen for his sacrifice and God Bless you for yours.
Love to you all, Cousin Kim and Aunt Dee
Dianne Werner
March 14, 2006
I'm very late in signing your book. I'm sorry. I just want to extend my deep sorrow for the loss of SSG Stephen J. Sutherland. I pray God is helping you through these difficult times and you are finding comfort. I know you are proud of SSG Sutherland. Thank you for your sacrifice.
Another Proud Army 172 Stryker Mom,
Dianne Werner
John & Karen Briggs
March 13, 2006
To the famiy of SSG Stephen Sutherland, our deepest condolences on the loss of your American hero. Our prayers and love are with you.
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