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Stephen Bixler Obituary
BIXLER, Corporal Stephen R. Corporal Stephen R. Bixler, USMC, 20, of Suffield, beloved son of Richard S. and Linda (Ridel) Bixler, was killed in action in the Al Anbar Province, Iraq, Thursday (May 4, 2006). He was conducting patrols against enemy forces in support of Operation Iraqi Freedom. This was Corporal Bixler's second tour in Iraq. Corporal Bixler was a member of the 2nd Reconnaissance Battalion, 2nd Marine Division, 2nd Marine Expeditionary Force based in Camp Lejeune, NC. Corporal Bixler enlisted in the U.S. Marine Corps in July of 2003. Corporal Bixler applied for and was selected as a member of the 2nd Reconnaissance Battalion as a result of his exceptional military skills, fortitude, drive and abilities. His decorations include: Sea Service Deployment Ribbon (2nd award), Humanitarian Service Medal, Global War on Terrorism Medal, Global War on Terrorism Expeditionary Medal, Iraq Campaign Medal, Armed Forces Expeditionary Medal, National Defense Service Medal, Combat Action Ribbon (2nd award) and Purple Heart Medal. Stephen was born in Hartford on August 17, 1985, and was a lifelong resident of Suffield, graduating from Suffield High School with the class of 2003. Stephen was vigorously involved in high school athletics programs and was a member of the indoor/outdoor track team as well as the cross-country team. Stephen loved the outdoors and exemplified this by demonstrating his skills as a Boy Scout, culminating in his designation as an Eagle Scout in May of 2003. Stephen was exceptional at snowboarding and had just taken up surfing as well as spending time off road four wheeling in his Jeep. Stephen most loved spending time at home with his family and friends. He enjoyed a good movie, telling stories and will be remembered as a quiet, happy, dedicated and hard-working man who had high goals and worked exceptionally hard to achieve them. A loving son, brother, grandson, nephew and friend, Stephen will be greatly missed by all who knew him. In addition to his parents, Richard and Linda, he leaves his twin sister, Sandra L. Bixler of Suffield; grandmothers Gloria Ridel of Suffield and Marjorie Bixler of East Windsor; his aunts and uncles, Patricia and Steven Brozek of Stafford, Dennis and Ann Bixler of Florida, Virginia Bixler of Ashby, MA, Donald and Nina Bixler of Windsor Locks, Daniel Bixler of Bloomington, IN; his cousins, Laura, Christine, Christopher, Matthew, Amy, and Cindy; his goddaughter, Cecelia; and many other family and friends. He was predeceased by his grandfathers, Lawrence Ridel Sr., and Roy Bixler; and his uncle and godfather, Larry Ridel Jr. A Mass of Christian Burial will be held on Wednesday, May 17, 10 a.m. at Sacred Heart Church, 446 Mountain Road, Suffield. Corporal Bixler will be buried on Thursday, May 18, at 2 p.m., with Full Military Honors at Arlington National Cemetery, Arlington VA. His family will receive friends on Tuesday from 3-8 p.m. at the Nicholson & Carmon Funeral Home, 443 East Street, (Rt. 159) Suffield. In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made to: Mary's Place, A Center for Grieving Children and Families, 6 Poquonock Avenue, Windsor CT 06095-2507 or the Corporal Stephen R. Bixler Memorial Fund, c/o First National Bank of Suffield, Attn: Anne Rossi, P.O. Box 96, Suffield, CT 06078. Please visit us at www.carmonfuneralhome.com to express online condolences.
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Memories and Condolences
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Sponsored by Ed, Celia Ridel & Family.
Diane A Kmec
April 6, 2024
Diane A Kmec
April 6, 2024
Diane A Kmec
April 6, 2024
April 2024. My son honored Steven.
JGC & ALL RECON MARINES 61-TO PRESENT
May 7, 2013
TO THE FRIENDS AND FAMILY OF CORPORAL S.BIXLER,TIME GOES BY FAST FOR SOME,TIME GOES SLOW FOR OTHERS,I HOPE THE TIME FOR YOU HEALS THE PAIN AND SORROW.
Peggy Childers
May 4, 2013
To the family and friends of Lance Cpl. Stephen R. Bixler:
It has truly been my honor to sign Stephen's guest book these past few years. Unfortunately, due to complications from my Multiple Sclerosis, this may be the last message I'm able to write. Please forgive me and know that Stephen will always be remembered in my home.
With love and respect ~ Peggy
ALL MARINES RECON
May 5, 2012
TO THE FRIENDS AND FAMILY OF STEVEN, WE STILL THINK OF HIM AFTER ALL THESE YEARS,WE WILL NOT FORGET.ONCE A GOOD PERSON ALWAYS A GOOD PERSON.ONCE A MARINE ALWAYS A MARINE.ONCE A RECON MARINE YOU ARE A MARINES MARINE.RECON MARINES ARE MARINES WHO TRY NOT TO FORGET THAT WE BACK UP EACH OTHER UNTIL WE CANT DO IT ANY MORE,WE HAVE YOUR BACK YOUR FAMILYS BACK TO DO THE RIGHT THING,PLEASE DONT FORGET THAT AND WE WILL ALWAYS KEEP SEMPER FI AS OUR GUIDELINE.
Peggy Childers
May 4, 2012
To the family and friends of Lance Cpl. Stephen R. Bixler:
Always remembering Stephen. "Some gave all."
August 8, 2011
I am a Bixler from NW New Mexico, sending prayers and love to the family of Lance Cpl. Stephen R. Bixler. "All gave some, Stephen gave all". God Bless. Sincerely, Roberta Bixler Clover (Aztec, NM)
Peggy Childers
May 4, 2011
To the family and friends of Lance Cpl. Stephen R. Bixler:
Please accept my remembrance of Stephen on the anniversary of his passing and know that he will never be forgotten.
Peggy Childers
www.IraqWarHeroes.org
Joshua Hamre
May 6, 2010
Thinking of Stephen and his family. As always, I'm available to you if you need anything. (Gold Star family here as well.)
Peggy Childers
May 5, 2010
To the family and friends of Lance Cpl. Stephen R. Bixler:
Remembering Stephen on the anniversary of his passing. May our fallen heroes never be forgotten!
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
www.IraqWarHeroes.org
Peggy Childers
May 4, 2009
To the family of Lance Cpl. Stephen R. Bixler:
Stephen gave the ultimate sacrifice and will be held in the hearts of Americans forever. I cannot and will not let our fallen heroes be forgotten. My deepest sympathy to you. "Some gave all."
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
www.IraqWarHeroes.org
April 11, 2009
SEMPER FI,STEPHEN TRUE HEROES WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN.
JOHN CHAMBERS 3RD RECON BTN 1964-1966 VIETNAM
Kenna Larra
April 10, 2009
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Sincerely,
Kenna
kevin gibbons
August 22, 2008
happy 23rd birthday stephen we miss you.
the Buck family
May 29, 2008
To the family and friends of Lance Cpl. Stephen R. Bixler, our thoughts and prayers are with you in your loss. What he has done for our freedom will not be forgotten. May God comfort and bless your family.
May 28, 2008
You are remembered and respected. Thank you Lance Cpl Bixler!
May 28, 2008
Thank you for the sacrifice made by Lance Cpl Bixler and the sacrifice made by everyone who loves and misses him. May God bless all of you!
In Memory of Stephen ~ ( Debra Estep )
May 4, 2008
Holding you all in my thoughts and prayers today.
The Wind on The Downs
“I like to think of you as brown and tall,
As strong and living as you used to be,
In khaki tunic, Sam Brown belt and all,
And standing there and laughing down at me.
Because they tell me, dear, that you are dead,
Because I can no longer see your face,
You have not died, it is not true, instead
You seek adventure in some other place.
That you are round about me, I believe;
I hear you laughing as you used to do,
Yet loving all the things I think of you;
And knowing you are happy, should I grieve?
You follow and are watchful where I go.”
(Written by Marian Allen during World War l )
Two lines that I wish you to keep near your heart…….
“You seek adventure in some other place.
That you are round about me, I believe”
I did not know Stephen, but I am remembering on
this day he gave his all.
He is my hero.
~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~
The Other Side
i'm over on the other side
where life and death softly divide.
left my skin and bones behind
now i'm over on the other side.
can you feel me there with you?
my breath is gone but i'm not through.
loved you then and i still do
from over on the other side.
i can fly. really fly.
below the earth ... all through the sky.
tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side.
it's good here on the other side.
the sweetest songs...the bluest skies.
thank you for the tears you cried
but it's good here on the other side.
i can fly. really fly. below the earth...all through the sky.
tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side
the world is smaller than a needle's eye.
where life and death softly divide.
when you leave your skin and bones behind
i'll be waiting on the other side.
i can fly. really fly. below the earth ... all through the sky.
go tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side.
Song lyrics by Don Conoscenti
C Desert Muse/SESAC
www.donconoscenti.com
(Used with permission)
“I hope it brings great comfort to any and all.
Peace on you. DonCon” 4-2008
Visit this link to hear the song.
The Other Side –
http://tinyurl.com/3o8gol
Sincerely,
Deb Estep ~ Ohio
Proud Air Force Mom and MIL
Remembering The Fallen – Blog
http://tinyurl.com/3z8p55
Please contact me and I will email you back a copy of my
Angel and soldier drawing I have shared here.
Clifford Wiley
December 11, 2007
Dear Bixler family,
My name is Cpl Clifford Wiley. I was in Stephen's platoon in Iraq. I am with a different unit now and just heard about the post office renaming. If you get a date for that, could you please let me know? It would be my honor and privilage to attend the ceramony if there is one. Thank you very much....Cpl Wiley
Bliven Family
August 17, 2007
Dear Bixler Family,
I realize there is NOTHING that could be said to you that could ever ease the loss that your family has endured... I wouldn't even begin to try.
I simply felt the need to convey my deepest, heart felt condolences, to those that lived nearest me...
I SIMPLY HAD TO reach out to those that lived closest to me and let their families know that the sacrifice that their SONS & DAUGHTERS have made ARE NOT, and WILL NOT be forgotten, and were not made in vain!
We gladly add your beloved son to our prayers, along with ALL of our other fallen Sons & Daughters!
God Bless YOU and YOUR FAMILY, and "MAY THE PEACE OF THE LORD BE WITH YOU!"
PROUD UNCLE OF THREE (3) "CURRENTLY SERVING" U.S. SOLDIERS
James A. (U.S. Army)
Justin B. (U.S. Army)
Charles C. (U.S. Air Force)
.
KEVIN GIBBONS
August 17, 2007
STEPHEN HAPPY 22ND BIRTHDAY. I CANT TELL YOU HOW MUCH IT MEANS TO ME.
MAY YOU HAVE A GREAT BIRTHDAY UP IN HEAVEN.
August 17, 2007
There is nothing that I can say or do to take away the pain or bring you peace in your time of sorrow, but I will offer you and your family my heart felt condolences. I also offer you my prayers that in time the pain will easy and the memories of your HERO will carry you through each day and night. I want to thank your HERO, for his/her selfless act of becoming a member of the armed forces, his/her willingness to defend the United States of America, all that we hold sacred and for the sacrifice that will forever be etched in the memories of all those who knew him/her. Though tears can never bring him/her back, we hope that our tears express our gratitude for the sacrifice that he/she made and our sorrow at his/her passing. I believe for every fallen HERO there is a star shining brightly up above to remind us of the precious gift we were given.
Your mission on earth is complete and you are now a member of GOD’s Heavenly armed forces. Stand down brave warrior and take your rightful place in Heaven with all the HEROES who have passed before.
I made a special promise to LE RON A. WILSON, a dear family friend who joined the Army with three other friends, one of whom is my son (Le Ron was killed in action on 07/06/07 at the age of 18) on the day he was laid to rest as I touched his coffin, that I would never forget him nor would I forget those that gave their lives for our country before him, with him and after him and so when I came across www.legacy.com, I thought what a great way to keep my promise to Le Ron, so I will continue to leave tributes in each guest book until the day there is no longer the need to leave these tributes to a FALLEN HERO.
REST IN PEACE, HERO, YOU WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN!!
PROUD MOTHER OF A U.S. SOLDIER
Currently stationed in Germany
Althea Barrett(Queens, NY)
JOHN CHAMBERS
July 30, 2007
TIME GOES BY, BUT OUR HEART AND MINDS NEVER LET US FORGET.
RECON MARINE-VIETNAM 1965
June 15, 2007
I love you, buddy.
Kevin Gibbons
May 15, 2007
Mr And Mrs Bixler,
Its been one year since Stephen left us. Its so heart wrenching, I went to Arlington National Cemetery and saw the current war soldiers who were buried there. As soon as that happened I started to cry, i couldnt believe how young these guys are they are my age. Remember My Thoughts And Prayers are with you still.
Rest In Peace Stephen
Danna Palmer
May 5, 2007
Dearest Linda, Your heavy heart has not left my thoughts since we met in December at Camp LeJeune. I wanted to be at Arlington all week - but it just couldn't happen. Gug said that you all were there with Stephen on the 4th. We will leave tonight and spend Sunday afternoon in awe of the continued courage of our beloved Troops. All our love to all of you.
Danna and Charles Palmer
Cory's parents
KIM RAMOS
May 4, 2007
I CAN'T BELIEVE IT HAS BEEN 1 YEAR AGO TODAY THAT YOU LEFT US...iT'S BEEN A HARD YEAR. yOU ARE GONE BUT NOT FORGOTTEN......wE MISS AND LOVE YOU AND BIXLER THE PUPPY THAT WAS NAMED AFTER YOU WILL BE A YEAR TOO AND IS DOING WELL AND GETTING BIG.
Garnet Jenkins
May 4, 2007
Please know how Deeply Sorry I was to learn of the loss of Lance Cpl. Stephen R. Bixler, one year ago.
The price this Brave Young Marine and his family have paid for this country and for freedom, Will Never Be Forgotten.
May Stephen rest safely in the Loving Care of God and know that he is a True American Hero, and may the Grace and Comfort of the Lord continue to be with the Bixler family.
There will Never be Enough Ways to Humbly Thank these Young Heroes for their Sacrifices, my brother among them. Killed in action in Vietnam many years ago.
"Cast thy burden upon the Lord,
and He shall sustain thee."
~ Psalm 55:22 ~
May the Peace of God and your memories of Stephen, remain in your heart always.
May this give you comfort and strength through the difficult days.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
jordan newell
April 27, 2007
the day is fast approaching, i shall miss you dear friend, know that if i could have done something to save you, being there with you as took your last breath, i would, if i could trade you for me, i would, i love you , rest in peace, and if the bixler family gets this, this is jordan, the one that came to visit...please contact me....
[email protected]
443-752-2405
SSgt Jason D. & Cpl Stephanie A. Auger
February 24, 2007
"Steve,
We want you to know that we are extremely proud of you, not only as a young man but as a MARINE as well. It takes a special person to fill these shoes and we admire that in you. From the day I brought you to MEPS before going to boot camp, I knew you were the special type of individual. I will never forget the answer to my question I asked you at the hotel... "Are you ready to make this happen?" and you replied with "I am coming back a MARINE!" Steve, we want you to know that you are in our hearts and prayers everyday. Being a military member is not easy but you made it seem that way, just doing what you wanted to be doing and that is highly respectable. You gave the ultimate sacrifice for this country and that says ALOT about you. Just remember this, You are not forgotten and we know you are safe now. Thank you for what you have done and until you stand relieved, You keep those pearly gates safe! SEMPER FIDELIS brother!
To the Bixler Family:
Mr. and Mrs. Bixler, On behalf of me and my wife, I want you to know that we are extremely proud of your son. His everyday contributions to the Global War on Terrorism will not be forgotten. We send our deepest condolances to you and your family and if there is anything that we can do for you please let us know."
January 24, 2007
“Paid in Full”
To Honor The Service of Fallen and Injured Marines
Marines through and through, they paid the price
Six thousand miles away, we live the life
For which they paid with their blood, spirits and bodies
We will never forget what they paid in full
We hope and we pray that somehow their loved ones find comfort
In God, in the flag, in the memory of their loved ones’ bravery
They’re gone now but we see them still…proud, strong, willing
Covering each other’s backs… courageous, moving forward
What kind of love did they have for us to be willing
To give it all for the Black, White, Jew, Christian, Muslim?
We don’t comprehend but we honor you now and forever
You are Our Marines…some living…some not
Forever in our hearts we will cherish your lives
Lives too short yet immortal they’ll be
Highest brotherhood of the Few, the Proud
They stand at attention, and we gaze with awe
Some know their names not, but our admiration for them
Flows limitless within us, between us
They sacrificed their limbs or their lives
Freedom still rings, a soft sound across the miles
It tolls slowly; all of creation takes note
Of the lives that were lost for people unknown
Out of sight but not lost; forever among us
The starched blues marching straight
Toward the place where we will meet them
Many years from now…how we loved them…
Well done beloved Brothers and Sisters…You’ve paid it in full
Always Faithful Marines, You Have Paid it in Full
KIMBERLY ADAMS
October 14, 2006
DEAR BIXLER FAMILY-
THINKING OF YOU AND SHARING YOUR LOSS. I APPRECIATED THE CARD YOU SENT A WHILE BACK BUT I FEEL THAT IVE LOST TRACK JUST WANTEDYOU TO KNOW I THINK OF YOUR FAMILY EVERYDAY AND WHAT A GREAT LOSS THAT WE HAVE BOTH ENDURED.
SINCERELY,
KIMBERLY ADAMS
CORPORAL WILLIAM BRADLEY FULKS
MOTHER 2ND RECON
kevin gibbons
October 7, 2006
Mr. & Mrs Bixler,
not a day goes by when i dont think of stephen, losing my cousin phil was hard on me and it was probably more hard on you cause you live in the same state. phil and stephen are my angels now and remember they died doing something they loved
god bless you and steve's sister Cassandra.
Abbra and Kraig Andrews
September 19, 2006
Bixler Family,
Not a day goes by that I do not think about Steve. I see his face in so many places. He was a great friend and loyal to his work. I will never forget the memories we shared w/ him. He was like a brother. Always joking and laughing when we were together. He did what he wanted to do and always was proud of his accomplishments. He was a real warrior and a true brother to the corps and a real friend to kraig and I. We make many visits to Arlington, just paying our respects and saying hello. What we would do to have him back. We think of your family every day and just know that we are still grieving along w/ many from the loss of Steve. Know he will always be remembered and always loved..
xoxo
Tom Gugliuzza-Smith
August 17, 2006
Happy Birthday Stephen. To the Bixler family.....I just missed you today. I met several families today. The Palmer's, the Philippion's, the Carbonaro's, and the Kirven's. The flowers at Stephen's site were just beautiful. I placed a metal angle on your head stone. Stephen, I am so sorry from my heart that you were taken. Know that you are my hero and I will continue as promised each time I am at ARLINGTON NATIONAL CEMETERY I will visit you.
August 17, 2006
Happy 21st Birthday Stephen!!!
August 17, 2006
Happy Birthday Steve, we will never forget the sacrifice you made for your country.
Danna Palmer
July 24, 2006
Dearest Stephen, What a month of tears have been shed for Alpha Company. While we were frantically following the outcome of Cory's humvee bombing, which ended hideously with 4 dead and one wounded, we were told at our respective services that yet another young Marine has lost his life to the cause. And that, Stephen, was you, on May 4. We cried once more for another valiant young man who so proudly completed his task even at the broken heart of his own Mother. But we knew the calibre of these young men. We knew the odds goign in that we may not see our sons come out whole in stature, but mighty in spirit, and true to the mission set before them. Honorable, Loyal, Courageous, and Committed Men we have sent to do this Horrendous job. And on queue, each of our Marines completes his role in the roll call. Only this call will be more peaceful, more restful, as our Marine, Stephen hears those words from his Heavenly Father, who has loved him right up unto the Pearly Gates. St. Peter is humbled as Cpl. Bixler enters those gates, and hears with such clarity and splendor, the sounds of the Marine Corps Hymn all 5 verses being sung by choirs of angels for him. So Stephen is being exalted amongt the angels on the most high - singing Glory, glory , glory, glory glory glory, to the hightest. The Lord He called to ask who he cold send, and Bixler answered badk, Lord, Send me. Oh yes, Lord, yes, send me.
Tom Gugliuzza-Smith
July 14, 2006
To the Bixler family: I previously signed Stephen's guest book. I am at Arlington National Cemetery two or three times a week and each time I am there I stop by and honor/visit Stephen. Stephen is my hero and will NEVER be forgotten.
Joshua
June 30, 2006
To Cpl. Stephen Bixler,
I am touched by the messages left here for you, and wish I could have met you. I am grateful for the sacrifice you have made.
Semper Fidelis, Marine.
To the Bixler family and friends,
I know all too well the pain you feel. Without getting too wordy, please know I think of you often, and you will remain in my thoughts and prayers for a long, long time. Please consider me a resource, if I can be of any help, I'd gladly do all that I can.
With sorrow and respect,
J CHAMBERS
June 8, 2006
TO THE FAMILY OF STEPHEN BIXLER
SEMPER FI------ TWO WORDS THAT I HOPE CONTRIBUTED TO EASING SOME OF YOUR SORROW. YOUR FAMILY, FRIENDS,AND NEIBORS HOPFULLY WILL CONTINUE TO GIVE YOU THE SUPPORT THAT YOU DESERVE.
Christopher Olson
June 2, 2006
To Steve,
Thank you for everything you have given to everyone you touched either directly or indirectly during your life. Your bravery and courage will never be forgotten. Thank you, and God Bless.
To the Bixler family,
I feel extremely priviledged to have been in Steve's graduating class during High School. From the man I knew from the hallways and in the few classes I took with him, he will always be remembered as a good hearted, kind, intelligent, and hard working individual. Now knowing everything he accomplished in his life and the positive impact he had on the people around him makes my heart ache with sorrow for your loss. He will be missed greatly by so many people. May God bless and be with your family forever.
Rob
May 31, 2006
Thank You for the ultimate sacrifice in defending our country and freedom.
Laurie
May 29, 2006
To the Bixler family:
With today being the observance of Memorial Day, I just wanted you to know that your son and you are being thought of.
A Marine Mom
JOHN CHAMBERS
May 29, 2006
THE BEST OF THE BEST.HAPPY OF THE HAPPIEST.FIT OF THE FITTEST.MAN WITHIN MEN.SON WITHIN FAMILY.MAN INTO HEAVEN.RECON MARINE FOREVER.
ALL------------------------FACTS
Mary Sousa Binderman
May 24, 2006
Dear Sandra:
When I read the caption under the picture of your family receiving Stephen's flag and saw that he had a twin sister, I wanted to reach out and hug you. My twin brother, Larry, died while serving his country in Viet Nam on January 15, 1966. I have his flag in a case on display in my home. I miss him to this day! You want to share those special events in life with the person whom you have known since the beginning. Please be kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve his loss. It was a great help to me that my family talked about Larry all the time, and we still tell stories about him. I am also painfully aware of your parents' grief, as I watched my parents try to honor Larry's decision to join the army while wishing it had not happened and wondering if it should have happened at all. Life cannot be the same again.
Mary Ghaney
May 23, 2006
To the Bixler Family, I wish to offer you my deepest sympathies. Your Stephen is a true American Hero. He will always be remembered and honored. May God Bless you all and God Bless Stephen.
Linda (Smith) Lynch
May 22, 2006
Dear Richard and family,
I was shocked and saddened to read of your son Stephen's death in Iraq. I knew the Bixlers as a kid in Warehouse Point. I was a friend of Richard's sister, Ginny.
How proud you must be of your beloved son and all he accomplished in school and in the military. Our son serves in the Air Force but is not in harm's way yet. Steven will live on in your hearts forever. Please remember me to your mother and sister.
With greatest sympathy to you, your wife and daughter,
Mark Reid
May 22, 2006
My mother (Susan Reid) was one of Stephen's 7th grade teachers and my father (Gil "Si" Reid) hosted your son at his yearly Marine Recon reunion and remains a great admirer of Stephen and the Bixler family. Your son and I crossed paths a few years ago while I was on the staff at the School of Infantry and he was a student at the Infantry Training Battalion (my mother asked that I look him up); unfortunately, the next time we met again was last Thursday at Arlington.
From all accounts he was exactly what we hope for in our young men: bright, caring, patriotic, and full of promise. I have been most impressed by the demonstrations of respect from the State of Connecticut, the NYPD, the New Jersey State Police, and the many DC-area civilians and service members who joined you on that hallowed ground in Arlington; I hope their actions serve as some indication of how much Stephen meant to the community. To render final honors to your son last Thursday has left a lasting impression on me and I am certain his influence will reverberate among the people of Suffield and beyond for many years to come.
People often say that it is the deceased that "paid the ultimate sacrifice", but I would submit that the family members actually bear this burden. I encourage you to stay close with your Marine family - there's good reason our motto is "Semper fidelis" (always faithful).
Please accept our deepest gratitude for your sacrifice and sincerest condolences for your loss.
Semper fi
Tom Gugliuzza-Smith
May 21, 2006
To the Bixler family: I previously signed Stephen's guest book. I live fairly close to Arlington National Cemetery and visit often. While I was there on Friday I stopped by and visited Stephen. I promise that each time I go I will stop by and honor Stephen. Know that he will not be forgotten.
Tom
Cindy Jacques
May 18, 2006
To the family of Lance Corporal Stephen Bixler: My husband and I want to offer our sincere and heartfelt condolences in the loss of your son, a young man of exceptional qualities and commitment to his country for one so young. We are the parents of a 21-year-old soldier who is presently serving as an MP on a one-year tour of duty in Iraq, located halfway between Fallujah and Baghdad. When I told him last week about Stephen, we wondered if they had ever met. Our niece and son's girlfriend were classmates of Stephen's at Suffield High and Michael went to their senior prom as well as graduation. He didn’t remember having met him, but he told me that the Marines who have passed through his location in the six months he has been in Iraq, and Stephen very well might have been one of them, are the bravest people he has ever met and that he admires them immensely for their courage. He told me that day that if something happens to him, he hoped to have the honor of being buried in Arlington, too. While there are no words or actions that can adequately express our sympathy or recompense you for the loss of your son, we hope that knowing that there is an extended military family praying for you, and sharing your loss, helps in some way to comfort you in the days ahead. And I would ask anyone reading this to please join us in encouraging everyone to pray for our armed forces and a peaceful resolution to this conflict so that other promising young men and women---who show us what it is to be honorable and courageous---don't have to sacrifice their lives. God Be With You.
Mr and Mrs. Smeggil
May 18, 2006
To the Family of Lance Cpl. Stephen R. Bixler:
Allow us to convey to you and your family our sincere condolences for the loss of your son.
Although we did not know your son. We as US Navy active duty are your military family.
We will hold your son in our memory along with all our brothers and sisters in arms that have gone before him.
"Saepius Exertus, Semper Fidelis, Frater Infinitas -
Often Tested, Always Faithful, Brothers Forever"
V/R,
Petty Officer First Class Timothy J. Smeggil - USN (Simsbury High - 1987.)
and
Carolyn J. Smeggil - Ombudsman - USN (Windsor High - Class of 1986)
Fr. Louis Guerin
May 18, 2006
On behalf of our entire parish family, I extend our heartfelt prayers and sympathy to the entire Bixler family.
Fr. Louis Guerin, Pastor
St. Therese de Lisieux Catholic Church, Wellington, FL
Lynne Murphy
May 18, 2006
Dear Bixler Family,
I read about Steven and wanted to tell you that as an American, words cannot convey my appreciation for his ultimate sacrifice. I am also a twin so I can only imagine that special grief. Your son and brother was most truly a wonderful young man. You are all in my prayers.
Bernard Traphan
May 18, 2006
Dear Richard, Linda, and Sandra,
Our hearts, prayers, and thoughts go out to you at this moment of great loss to your family. We will always remember your dear son, Stephen, who bravely made the ultimate sacrifice for our country. May his death and the death of all the other soldiers in the Iraq War be not in vain.
When my dear wife, Elizabeth, went on to be with the Lord on April 25, 2000, the only thing I had to hold on to was a verse of Scripture from the New Testament. In Matthew (5:4) Jesus says,
"Blessed are they who Mourn, for they shall be Comforted." Our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ has Blessed and Comforted me and my family these past 6 years, and I am confident with Blessed Assurance that He will Bless and Comfort the Bixler Family also.
May Almighty God Bless you, and may His Amazing Grace always shine down on you,
The Bernard R. Traphan Family
14 Silver Beech Rd.
Riverside, Connecticut
Debbie Crandall
May 18, 2006
Dear Linda, Richard, Sandra, and Aunt Glor, I can't even begin to tell you how sorry I am for the loss of your beloved son, brother, and grandson. It is impossible for me to know the true pain that you are all feeling, although having children Stephen's age I can only imagine. This is a very special family and we will all be here for whatever support you need. I know how proud you were of Stephen, as you should. He is truly a hero, not only to you but to all of us. He accomplished more and touched more lives in his short time here on earth than most people do in a lifetime. His work here may be done, but the Lord above has taken him to do more work in heaven, and I am sure that the Lord has given Stephen his wings to be your angel. He will be looking down at all you and will give you the strength that you need. This tragedy can never take away the wonderful memories and he will live forever in our hearts. All of you will be in our thoughts and prayers. We all owe Stephen a great deal of gratitude for his belief and fight for our freedom. We love you all and will continue to pray for your broken hearts to begin to heal.
The Crandall Family.
Jane A Regina
May 17, 2006
To the family and friends of Lance Cpl. Stephen R. Bixler,
I was so saddened to hear of your loss. Please accept my condolences. Stephen is in my thoughts and prayers.
Sincerely,
Jane A Regina
Elizabeth Sheehan
May 17, 2006
To the Bixler Family:
Our family, the Town of Suffield and entire nation shares in your loss. How very proud you must be of the great accomplishments of your son in such a short life.
A tremendous void has been left by Stephen's passing. Be assured that the good that he did, the love that he shared and the honor and glory that he brought to each and every American through his sacrifice leaves us unspeakably proud and forever grateful. May God hold you in his heart and give you strength to bear his will.
The Sheehan Family
Suffield, CT
Deborah Randazzo
May 17, 2006
So sorry to hear about your loss, I also have a 20 year old son. We must be related because my maiden name was Ridel with family in Windsor Locks. My heart goes out to you.
Wendy Devine
May 17, 2006
Dear Bixler Family,
My sincerest sympathies go out to all of Stephen's family and friends. I applaud and thank him for serving our country and fighting to keep our country free. May your memories of him help you through this most difficult time.
SR. Vice Commander Christopher Wood VFW Post 9990
May 17, 2006
To the family of Lance Cpl. Stephen Bixler USMC. Please accept our deepest sympathy for the loss of your son Steve. There is no greater sacrifice than to give your life for your country. "Semper Fi" Steve. "DUTY, HONOR, COUNTRY"
May 17, 2006
On behalf of the Ellington High School members of the Class of 2005 who have joined the military, we thank Stephen Bixler, Corporal, USMC, for his dedication, service, and sacrifice, to our great nation. Our prayers go out to both family and friends in this difficult time.
Ryan J. Frank, USAF
Jeffrey D. Morgan, USMC
Thaddeus C. Fox, USMA
Ashley E. Grim, USCGA
Jesse E. Langley, USA
Jeremy R. Limberger, USAF
Trevor Brendle, USAF
Debbie Langston
May 17, 2006
God Bless you Stephen, I am a friend of your Grandma Marge's and she was so proud of you. Whoever reads this please know that he is with the master now and hopefully will have solace in that.
Diane Clark
May 17, 2006
To the Bixler/Ridel Family, My son had met your son a couple of times through mutual friends. We are truly sorry for your loss. I support our boys and thank you for the ultimate sacrifice. He will always be in our prayers, along with all those young boys and girls still fighting for freedom. The Clark Family of Suffield
John Dunn
May 17, 2006
To the family of Stephen Bixler:
Speaking as one of many in Stephen’s Marine Corps family I extend to you my deepest sympathy in the loss of your Son.
I had the good fortune and honor of meeting your son in 2004 at the home of Si (Gil) Reid and I must say that his presence and demeanor totally reassured me that our Country and our Corps is still in excellent hands.
Please take comfort in knowing that Stephen’s Marine Corps family will forever hold you and your Son in our thoughts and prayers.
Here’s to you Stephen. Salute! Semper Fi
Joseph & Marita Policki
May 17, 2006
Our sympathy and prayers are with your family, and for Stephen as he enters the kingdom of heaven. God bless you and watch over you forever.PMM
May 17, 2006
Although I don't know your Son, I feel like he is my next door neighbor. I want to say thank you to your family for the sacrifice you and he gave for our country. A friend in North Granby
Clay & Marcia Soucie
May 16, 2006
Dear Bixler/Ridel Family - Please accept our heartfelt sympathy in the loss of your loved one, Stephen. The entire Suffield community mourns with you. The yellow ribbons around your trees have been a reminder to us that there are many brave men & women far from home that need our thoughts & prayers. Clay was also a Marine and is a Vietnam vet so we hold the troops in high regard. I am an SHS Class of '76 grad and was a friend of Larry's in our Middle School days. We were not privilaged to know Stephen but he sounds like a wonderful young man. Your family is in our thoughts and prayers.
Linda Borovicka
May 16, 2006
I have heard so many wonderful stories about your son, Stephen, through his Uncle Steve Brozek. My heart aches for your family as you mourn the loss of your son, grandson, and brother. We owe him a world of thanks for his sacrifice for our freedom. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you make your journey through this unimaginable grief.
The Palmer Family
May 16, 2006
John Palmer and his family wish to extend to you our heartfelt love and support in your hour of sorrow. John went to Suffield High, Class of '03, with Stephen and remembers him has a good guy. Know that the Lord is with you always,
Nicholson & Carmon Funeral Home
May 13, 2006
With deepest sympathy during this time of difficulty.
Julia Baldini ('00) Joseph Walker ('01)
May 16, 2006
To the Bixler Family,
I am sorry for your loss. I didn't know Steve personally, but only knew of him in high school because of his athletic ability. I have heard nothing but wonderful things about him, and wished i had gotten to know him better. You must be so proud of him and the life he has lead. I am so proud of him for serving his country in this difficult time. He is a leader, a hero, and an American. I will pray that God will watch over Steve, your family and all the military serving around the world. God Bless.
Si Reid
May 16, 2006
Bixler, Stephen - Corporal/USMC -Recon! Thank you.
When you stopped by our mini-Recon-reunion in 2004, you affirmed our greatest hopes for the future of our "country, our Corps," and our Marine Recon community. We saw in you, a kid more mature than his age, with endless possibilities who could have easily slipped into the relative calm and routine of civilian life after attending your chosen college. You shattered the myth that our youth didn’t care beyond themselves and that the service was only populated by those who weren’t good enough to escape it. Those who do not understand the character-type that embraces selfless values such as honor, courage, and commitment to God, country, Corps, and family will view your choice as misguided but we, the few, know that is not case.
Your wonderful family and some in our great Suffield community helped instill in you a sense of duty and the courage to find out whether your actions were up to the highest expectations you held for yourself. There is no question that you are and lived the moral, high road, life you knew to be the more difficult but the right one . . . you lived "integrity".
At our reunion, Bill Doran, our Iwo Jima survivor, passed the cake and its symbolic meaning of passing on the Corps highest traditions on to younger Marines. You accepted that cake and completed the contract by offering him yours symbolic of your commitment to hold on to those traditons and to be worthy of the title, United States Marine.
MARINE, you have more fulfilled your promise. We commit to keep you in our hearts and your family in our arms and prayers.
Steve you are relieved of your earthly post. As you guard heaven's shores, be assured we remaining Marines will love, honor, respect, and do whatever it takes to watch out for your family a friends until we receive the duty assignment to take the next watch with you.
Semper Fi and Recon!
Si (Gil) Reid, Sgt. USMC/Recon -NOLOAD (West Suffield)
Please note the following Recon Marines asked me to express their condolences and to present a final salute to you and your family:
Johnson, Lloyd (NH) 3rdFR Co; Carney, James (CT), 1stFR Co; McKee, James (MA) 1st and 5th FR Co; Dunn, John (CT) Bravo Co/3rd RCN Bn; Crawford, Jack (PA) Bravo Co/3rd RCN Bn; Dion, Al and 50 others 2nd RCN Bn Marines who will be toasting you at the 2nd Reconnaissance Battalion reunion this weekend at Camp Lejuene; and Col. Lane, Skip (RVN chopper pilot for recon inserts and extracts).
Salute: “Here’s to you and to our Corps.”
Family of Sgt. David Coullard
May 16, 2006
To the Bixler Family,
Our family sends our deepest sympathy to your entire family. We understand your pain. May you draw strength from happy memories and the loving support of others.
The Family of Sgt. David Coullard
(KIA 08/01/2005)
Jacob
May 16, 2006
When I joined Troop 260, Stephen was my hero, a scout I truly wished to be. Now he is a hero to many. I will miss him, but am honored to have known him. God Bless Your family you are in my prayers.
Heidi Allen
May 16, 2006
To the Bixler Family: Please accept my deepest sympathy on the loss of Stephen. Although I never had the honor of meeting Stephen, I am a military child, mother, and Suffield resident and want you to know that I am proud to be part of a community that raises young men of honor. Please know that your loss will never be far from my thoughts and Stephen's ultimate sacrifice will be honored and carried in my heart forever.
God bless you.
Heidi Allen, Suffield, CT
Mardi Newman
May 16, 2006
Please know that you are all in my heart and prayers. The entire town of Suffield mourns for Steve, as evidenced by the welcome home yesterday. My husband was a nuclear submariner and always said that the Marines were the bravest of all! You all have my deepest sympathy.
JOHN CHAMBERS
May 15, 2006
I AM VERY SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. I WAS BRIEFLY INTRODUCED TO STEPHEN BY SI REID A RECON MARINE FROM WEST SUFFIELD DURING OUR ANNUAL USMC RECON GET TOGEATHER IN JULY 2004. I WAS TOTALLY IMPRESSED BY THE YOUNG MARINE AND HE SEEMED PROUD HE WAS TAKING OVER FOR US VIETNAM ERA MARINES.HE IS THE FEW- THE PROUD-A MARINE. IT WAS A PLEASURE TO MEET HIM. I KNOW THAT THE PAIN IN YOUR HEARTS WOULD GLADLY BE ABSORBED BY OTHER MARINES AROUND THE GLOBE TO HELP YOU HEAL IN YOUR TIME OF SORROW.
Miranda Gogulski
May 15, 2006
There is no greater loss than one which comes as a surprise. I cannot imagine your pain at this time. Your son-brother-grandson gave more to this country than I can ever imagine. Without people like Steve, my life wouldn't be as wonderful as it is. I am deeply saddened to know such a fine person is no longer on this Earth. While no words can truly help to ease your pain, I am so very sorry for your loss.
Molly and Jim Packard
May 15, 2006
Our Deepest Sympathy on the loss of your son. Our prayers are with you and your family. God Bless
Marta & Jack Hawkins
May 15, 2006
To the family of Cpl Stephen Bixler,
We are so very sorry for your loss. As Suffield residents, as Scout parents, as Marine parents, we mourn Steve’s death. He is a hero in every sense of the word.
May the love of God give you comfort. May He wrap you in His loving arms and dry your tears.
“Perhaps they are not the stars, but rather openings in Heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy.” ~Author Unknown
You and Steve will long be in our thoughts and prayers,
The Casey Family
May 14, 2006
Dear Bixler Family,
We are a Suffield family that holds you in our thoughts and prayers at this most difficult time. May you know how sorrowful and grateful we are for your family's sacrifice in keeping our country safe and free. May God bless you all and comfort you.
Alfred Baldini
May 14, 2006
From one Troop 260 family to another. Please accept our condolences on the loss of your son Stephen. He proved himself when he became an eagle scout, he proved himself academically and athletically in high school and he proved himself when he became a marine. You must be very proud of Stephen. We all are.
Kim Ramos
May 14, 2006
Stephen, I just want you to know how deeply you are missed. We the family are so proud of you. I just wish this didn't take you away from us. This past week has been a tough one for your Mom,Dad,Sandra,Aunt Glor and the rest of the family. We are all trying to pull together. Debbie (Aunt Pat Perry's daughter) her dog had puppies yesturday. I am getting the first born and first male and naming it in your honor. "Bixler". You always wanted a dog and now we can share "Bixler" together. We missed you so much!! Your gone but not forgotten... (Your Cousin on Ridel's side)
Walter & Cindy Gogulski
May 13, 2006
To The Bixler Family:
There is not a greater heartbreak other than losing a family member. We both grew up in Suffield and can appreciate the closeness of the Marine Family; it is forever. Walter enlisted right after high school, his father served several years as a drill instructor at the "Island" during the same time frame and finally later retired after 20 something years! Last but not least, Walter's nephew just last week was put on a bus for you guessed it, basic/bootcamp, "Island" side. Three generations of Marine guys convince me to believe that there is a strong belief in God, integrity, and our great country.Our deepest sympathies and prayers of strength are with you...
Kevin Goff
May 13, 2006
Richard, Linda, Sandra, Gloria and Marjorie and family,
We are so very proud of Stephen. His life has been a true reflection of all that is good in our world. His dedication to you, his friends and his country is something that all of us will forever be proud to remember. We will carry him in our hearts wherever we go.
May God Bless you with his peace to know that Stephen has made a difference in many lives. While we will never be the same, we will draw strength from his commitment to do good for others and work to honor his life.
We will remember Steve and all of the men and women who sacrifice to keep us free.
You have a beautiful family. We are proud to be your friends.
Peace be with you,
Kevin and Carol, Andrew and Kevin Goff
Kim Ramos
May 13, 2006
Stephen, You are gone but not forgotten!! We the family are so proud of you. You were doing what you loved to do. We just wish it didn't take you from us. Please know that the family is pulling together and your Mom, Dad, Sandra, Aunt Glor and the rest of the family deeply misses you and it's been a hard week. You will always be with us forever. I just want you to know that Debbie (Aunt Pat Perry's daughter) her dog had puppies this morning. I am getting the first born and first male puppy and naming it in your honor. "Bixler". You always wanted a dog and now we can share it together. We love you!!!!
(Your cousin on the Ridel's side)
Briana Wall
May 13, 2006
To the loved one's of Cpl. Stephen Bixler, your hero will be remembered always in the hearts of many. I am so sorry for your loss.
Donald Napolitan
May 13, 2006
Thank You
Carol Egan Workinger
May 13, 2006
I wish to express my sorrow at the passing of your wonderful son. I, too, was born on August 17th, and am of the Class of 1954,SHS.
I can't tell you how grateful I am that your son was so willing to do what he did to protect us all.
You have my tears and gratitude.
Laurie
May 13, 2006
To the Bixler family,
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of Stephen. Although we do not know one another, I am also a Marine Mom. My son is with 2/6 Echo and completed his tour of Iraq one month ago.
In reading all about Stephen and his accomplishments, you must be so proud of him. He sounds like an outstanding young man and top notch Marine.
May it give you some peace to know that your son is a Hero and I along with many others, thank him for that.
Brian & Kathy
May 13, 2006
May it console you to know others care,
Think of you warmly, and in every prayer
Ask God to bless you with courage to bear
the sorrow that now fills your heart.
Always in our thoughts, forever in our hearts.
Richard Sider
May 13, 2006
Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
Be assured that Stephen will not be forgotten. We will keep your family in our prayers.
Michael and Debra Russell
May 12, 2006
GOD BLESS OUR FALLEN HERO. Your Family is in our thoughts and prayers. Retired SFC. Michael E. and Mrs. Russell
United States Army
Claire Zawistowski
May 12, 2006
Dear Bixler Family,
Even though we have never met I feel as if we are a part of a "family". My daughter's fiancee was killed in Irag on Oct. 3, 2005. It is my prayer that you will feel God holding you as close to His heart as He has held my family these past months. You will be in our prayers as you walk through these difficult days.
May 12, 2006
To The Bixler Family,
My Heart aches for your loss! There are no words that make the pain any easier, just know that your son is a hero!
Tom Gugliuzza-Smith
May 12, 2006
My heartfelt sympathy to the Bixler family in the loss of Stephen. I did not know Stephen, but my heart is broken and I am saddened for your loss of such a fine young person and hero. May God bring you peace in your heart as you reflect on all the wonderful memories you hold so close. Please know that you are in my heart and prayers. Stephen you are a hero and you will never be forgotten.
I send each of you a hug from the most inner part of my heart.
Love and Peace
Tom
To live in the hearts
of those you leave behind
is never to die"
~Robert Orr~
kraig andrews
May 11, 2006
hey buddy, i haven't had a friend as good as you. we have been through a lot together. iraq and training for recon. what can i say, you are a warrior and a hero. you are going to be greatly missed. don't worry, your family is going to be okay, i talked to your dad and he misses you but is very proud of you. watch over us buddy. i just pinned on cpl for you a few months ago. cpl andrews
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