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Anthony Bento Obituary
Anthony Kamalu Bento blessed our family with his presence on February 15, 1984, in San Diego, CA. As a young boy, he charmed his way through Blessed Sacrament Parish School and in June of 2002, after making pit stops at USDHS and Patrick Henry High School, he graduated from Clairemont High School. On November 17th of 2002 he met the woman who would eventually become his wife, Colleen MacIssac. For the next few years Anthony chose to explore his very creative, carefree and fun-loving spirit. Wearing many hats, working many jobs, making endless new friends and touching their lives forever. Spreading his laughter and infectious smile with everyone he met. Soon after celebrating his 21st birthday, Anthony chose to join the Army, surprising everyone by his commitment to such a life-altering career. Gone were the stress-free days, replaced with the long and arduous Army life. Anthony gladly took to this regimen, thriving and maturing and finally realizing his dream of becoming a soldier. His childhood days of camouflage and dress-up, became his everyday reality. His pride and level of commitment were evident to everyone he spoke to. Recognized by his peers and his commanding officers, Anthony earned the award of Enlisted Honor Graduate of his Airborne Jump School cycle. Stationed at Fort Bragg, NC as a member of the 82nd Airborne Division, Anthony began his career as an Army paratrooper. While there, he surprised everyone by proposing to and marrying Colleen. She added a new level of happiness and stability to his life, becoming his family, best friend, and companion in his home away from home. On August 24, 2006, Anthony and Colleen were blessed when Anthony Kainoa entered their lives, completing their family. His birth brought both of them the ultimate joy and blessing. Anthony was fortunate to be at Baby Kai's birth, as his unit had departed for Iraq two weeks prior. In September of 2006, after enjoying a magical and much too-short time with Colleen and their new baby, Anthony left Ft. Bragg for Iraq to join his unit. He enjoyed one trip home to San Diego for R and R in March of 2007. Making memories with Baby Kai and Colleen, and squeezing as many family and friends and fun times into a short two weeks. Anthony was stationed in Bayji, Iraq, one hundred miles north of Baghdad. Fighting for his family and country, Anthony bravely protected the streets and citizens of Bayji, alongside his Army brothers. With only two weeks of his tour left, on September 24, 2007, Anthony was out on patrol with his unit. They came under attack and faced small-arms fire, and Anthony's precious life was taken. During his short life Anthony touched so many and will never be forgotten. He will be remembered for his brave actions and his loving and untamed spirit. He is survived by his adoring wife Colleen Bento, his beautiful baby boy Anthony Kainoa Bento, his proud parents Tony and Penny Bento, sisters Summer and Nickie Bento, nephew Nathan Bento, nieces Maile and Mia Bento, doting grandmother Mary Geitz, grandfather Antone Bento, countless Aunties and Uncles and Cousins in San Diego and Hawaii, and endless friends and chosen family scattered across the globe. A Rosary will be held on Wednesday, October 3rd, at 7 p.m., Blessed Sacrament Catholic Church, 4540 El Cerrito Drive, San Diego, CA 92115. A Funeral Mass will also be held at Blessed Sacrament Catholic Church on Thursday, October 4th, at 11 a.m. with full military honors to be conducted immediately following the Funeral Mass at 12:30 p.m. at Fort Rosecrans National Cemetery, Pt. Loma, CA. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the San Diego County Credit Union, C/O "Anthony Kamalu Bento Memorial Account," 5555 Mildred Street, San Diego, CA 92110. Please sign the guest book at obituaries.uniontrib.com
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Memories and Condolences
for Anthony Bento
Sid Harriss
May 27, 2024
It all still seems so fresh on days like today. May your memory live on forever.
Miss you, my friend.
Sid Harriss
February 14, 2022
Your birthday reminder popped up on my calendar today (for tomorrow).
Still think of you all the time my friend. I know you are watching over us up there like the hero you are.
Love you man.
Charlie Gili
April 14, 2021
Hello,
We realize that we are very late to express our deepest condolences, but we wanted to let your family and friends know that we will be sending Care Packages to deployed troops this week and several of these will be dedicated to your loved one. Each package will carry the name, photo and hometown of Anthony Kamalu Bento US Army Corporal.
We realize that this is a small tribute, but we do this with all respect and sincerity and we want you to know that it is made possible by thousands of like-minded individuals from across the American youth hockey community, their families and friends and others who support our mission.
We will not forget. May God Bless you and keep you safe and strong.
Sincerely,
Charlie Gili & Family
On Behalf of our US Hockey Players Support Our Troops Campaign
Sid Harriss
May 28, 2017
I miss you my friend.
I still think of you daily.
I think of the day we lost you and keep wishing it somehow would play out differently.
I am forever greatful to have called you my friend.
Until I see you again.. Rest in Peace brother.
Maggie Skip
May 27, 2017
Thank you Cpl. Anthony K. Kamalu Bento for your courage and valor! I will be running on Monday to honor and remember your name and the immeasurable sacrifice that you and your family have made for this country!
Jennifer Coffey
August 2, 2015
I was in Anaheim in June with my daughter and a group of high school kids for the HOSA National Leadership Convention. We stopped for Italian ice after our awards ceremony one evening. As I sat on a bench on the sidewalk, I noticed something shimmering in the dark and picked it up. It was a button pin with this wonderful young man's picture (the one on this page actually) with a black ribbon trimmed in silver attached to it. On it are the words "Never Forgotten".
I was sad for the person who lost this pin, which I know must be a treasured possession. I was more sad, however, for the pain and sorrow this young man's family will always feel at the loss of their cherished loved one.
I don't know who might see this post, but I would like you to know that in Anthony's honor I carry this button with me always. I may not have known him personally, but I will always remember him as a brave and honorable fallen hero because of the random circumstance that led me to find the button.
May God Bless All of You Who Love Him,
Jennifer
Sid Harriss
May 26, 2014
I can't believe how vivid everything still is from that Dark day in September on the other side of the world. I think of you and your family on a daily basis. I have never been able to find words to express the sorrow, regret, guilt and anger I have had implanted in my mind and heart since that day. I will always wish I could have done something more. That will never change. But on this day , pride is the overwhelming feeling. I'm proud to have known you and to have served with you. We will meet again one day. Of that I am sure. Rest in peace my brother.
May 24, 2014
Every year since you've been gone, I go see you at FT. Rosecrans and pay my respects not only to a friend but to a hero. Now since my kids have been born, I take them with to teach them the importance of remembering and what "Memorial day" is all about. I will be seeing you again on monday. Every one misses you, bro. See you soon.
S. Allen
September 24, 2012
Never to be forgotten and always honored. God Bless your family.
June 3, 2012
Still honored, remebered and respected.
Peggy Childers
September 24, 2011
To the family and friends of Cpl. Anthony K. Bento:
Please accept my remembrance of Anthony on the anniversary of his passing and know that he will never be forgotten.
December 23, 2010
I will never forget the day I picked up your helmet!!! I still remember brotha, how the light seemed to show right threw. I pray every night that you, Mason and Watts, are watchin over the paratroopers that go behind enemy lines to make sure we sleep in peace tonight!!!.
Peggy Childers
September 24, 2010
To the family and friends of Cpl. Anthony K. Bento:
Remembering Anthony on the anniversary of his passing. May our fallen heroes never be forgotten!
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
www.IraqWarHeroes.org
S. Allen
May 31, 2010
Never to be forgotten an American Hero. Thank You.
May 29, 2010
Anthony, on this Memorial Day weekend 2010, we Thank You for the sacrifice you gave for our freedom. You are a true American Hero!
Melanie Staubitz
October 30, 2009
Dear Bento Family: Colleen, son Anthony, Penny, and father Anthony,
In reading all the entries about Anthony, people said he had a zest for life. He gave his for us to keep ours. We are grateful for his and your ultimate sacrifice. As a member of PS4FS (Prayer Shawls for Fallen Soldiers), we would be honored to send anyone in the family who would like one a prayer shawl in memory and honor of Anthony. If anyone would like a shawl, please contact me with your address(es) and we would be honored to do that. Thank you and God Bless you all.
September 25, 2009
Forever remembered.
S.A.
S. Allen
May 24, 2009
Never Forgotten.
Carol Barnett
March 23, 2009
Mrs. Bento,
I remember meeting you & your daughter, on the morning of August 17, 2008 at Shannon Hill, VA--Day 64 of Run For the Fallen. I got there first that morning, with my daughter, and was able to relieve your worries about whether you were in the right place, but think that God, determination & good karma guided you all the way. You were meant to be there. I am tearing up now, at the memory of you telling Jon about your son, when he arrived. I have no doubt that the trip was worth it for you, and hope you two are finding a way forward. I think about that morning, once in awhile.
Carol Barnett
Heidi Wilson
February 18, 2009
I don't know your family and didn't know your son, Anthony but I read your notice of loss this past September and have kept it pasted to my bathroom mirror. Everyday I pray for your family and pray that the unfathomable loss that you have suffered may in some small way be surrounded by bits of love sent by those of us so very grateful for your son's willingness to put his life on the line that we may enjoy freedom.
May your memories lift your spirits and remind you that those we love always live in our hearts.
Michael Iezzi
February 16, 2009
Anthony,
Happy Belated Birthday in Heaven. May God hold you in the palm of His hand. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Kenna Larra
December 11, 2008
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Sincerely,
Kenna
Desmond Jack
November 11, 2008
Bento..your sacrifice will never be forgotten.
In Memory of Anthony ~ (Debra Estep)
September 24, 2008
Holding you all in my thoughts and prayers.
The Wind on The Downs
“I like to think of you as brown and tall,
As strong and living as you used to be,
In khaki tunic, Sam Brown belt and all,
And standing there and laughing down at me.
Because they tell me, dear, that you are dead,
Because I can no longer see your face,
You have not died, it is not true, instead
You seek adventure in some other place.
That you are round about me, I believe;
I hear you laughing as you used to do,
Yet loving all the things I think of you;
And knowing you are happy, should I grieve?
You follow and are watchful where I go.”
(Written by Marian Allen during World War l )
Two lines that I wish you to keep near your heart…….
“You seek adventure in some other place.
That you are round about me, I believe”
I did not know Anthony, but I am remembering
his service. He is my hero. !
~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~
The Other Side
i'm over on the other side
where life and death softly divide.
left my skin and bones behind
now i'm over on the other side.
can you feel me there with you?
my breath is gone but i'm not through.
loved you then and i still do
from over on the other side.
i can fly. really fly.
below the earth ... all through the sky.
tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side.
it's good here on the other side.
the sweetest songs...the bluest skies.
thank you for the tears you cried
but it's good here on the other side.
i can fly. really fly. below the earth...all through the sky.
tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side
the world is smaller than a needle's eye.
where life and death softly divide.
when you leave your skin and bones behind
i'll be waiting on the other side.
i can fly. really fly. below the earth ... all through the sky.
go tell em all i did not die.
i'm just over on the other side.
Song lyrics by Don Conoscenti
C Desert Muse/SESAC
www.donconoscenti.com
(Used with permission)
“I hope it brings great comfort to any and all.
Peace on you. DonCon” 4-2008
The Other Side –
(To hear the song)
http://tinyurl.com/3o8gol
Sincerely,
Deb Estep ~ Ohio
Proud Air Force Mom SSgt Vince – Lackland AFB
Proud Air Force MIL SrA Dana – Randolph AFB
Remembering The Fallen – Blog
http://tinyurl.com/3z8p55
Angel and soldier drawing I have shared here.
http://tinyurl.com/6gey8b
Peggy Childers
September 18, 2008
To the family of Cpl. Anthony K. Bento:
Anthony gave the ultimate sacrifice and will be held in the hearts of Americans forever. I cannot and will not let our fallen heroes be forgotten. My deepest sympathy to you. "Some gave all."
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
www.IraqWarHeroes.org
Safely Home
Michael Iezzi
July 5, 2008
Father we entrust our brother Anthony to your mercy. You loved him greatly in this life: now that he is freed from all its cares, give him happiness and peace forever. Welcome him now into paradise where there will be no more sorrow, no more weeping or pain, but only peace and joy with Jesus your Son, and the Holy Spirit forever and ever.
May God hold Anthony in the palm of His hand. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. My deepest sympathies.
July 4, 2008
You are remembered and respected. Thank you Cpl Bento!
the Buck family
May 26, 2008
To the family and friends of Cpl. Anthony K Bento, our thoughts and prayers are with you in your loss. What he has done for our freedom will not be forgotten. May God comfort and bless your family.
Suzanne Allen
May 25, 2008
On this Memorial Day I salute you Cpl Bento and know that you will "NEVER" be forgotten.
S. Allen
barbara ahlquist
May 4, 2008
Dear Bento Family. Although I did not know Anthony, I have met Penny, Colleen, Baby Anthony, Nickie and other family members. I saw how much you were loved. Rest in peace, dear Fallen Hero, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers every day.
Barbara Ahlquist
Proud Marine Mom of
Sgt. Clint Ahlquist, kia 2-20-07, Ramadi Iraq
OIF Veteran's Wife
April 20, 2008
May your son know his father through stories, pictures and good memories. May it comfort you to think of him with no pain and no troubles and that he is always with you and watching from above.
My thoughts are with you!
Tim Lynch
January 21, 2008
EHY BROTHA, I MISS YOU MAN.I WISH YOU WERE HERE TO TEAR UP THE DIRT WITH ME LIKE OLD TIMES. YOUR SPIRIT RIDES IN MY HEART FOR LIFE* REST IN PEACE ANTHONY
Bob Garoutte
December 10, 2007
My deepest condolences to your family. I too lost my son in Iraq on Oct 19, 2007, Marine Cpl. Erik T Garoutte 22 years old of Santee, CA.
I wish I could take all your pain away.
God Bless us all.
Therese Llanes
November 27, 2007
Dear Colleen, Penny, Tony, Summer, Nickie Mei, and Baby Anthony.
Two months have passed since that fatefull day that Nene was taken from us. I still think of him and all of you everyday. I missed so much of his growing up, being far away from home, but always enjoyed Anthony's antics when I was home. I am proud of him for what he gave to his family and his country. Anthony's legacy will live on in his son. Thank you for including me in your family and in his life.
Love Always, Aunt Therese
ROSETTA MORTATI
November 22, 2007
I AM SO SORRY !
I KNOW MY WORDS WONT HELP THE PAIN YOU ARE BEARING BUT I HOPE IT BRINGS YOU HOPE AND STRENGHT TO OVER COME THIS DIFFICULT TIME !
.AS THE SISTER OF A SOLDIER I PRAY EVERY DAY ADN KEEP YOU ALL IN MY HEARTS
ROSETTA MORTATI
www.rosettamortati.com
Tom Gugliuzza-Smith
November 1, 2007
My heartfelt sympathy to the Bento family in the loss of Anthony. I did not know Anthony, but my heart is broken and I am saddened for your loss of such a fine young person and hero. May God bring you peace in your heart as you reflect on all the wonderful memories you hold so close. Please know that you are in my heart and prayers. My heart was touched by the many wonderful/beautiful things written about you. Anthony you are my hero and you will NEVER be forgotten.
I send each of you a hug from the most inner part of my heart.
Love and Peace
Tom
"To live in the hearts
of those you leave behind
is never to die"
~Robert Orr~
Susie and Terry Sexton
October 26, 2007
To Our Chosen Family:
What a journey it has been to witness Nene growing up and sharing his life. How blessed we were to see the young, free-spirited kid turn into such an amzing person, son, brother, uncle, husband, father, friend and HERO. We will HONOR him all the days of our lives. Thank you for choosing us as family and giving us the gift of being Anthony's Godparents. How lucky we were!
Blessings and love,
Terry, Susie, Colin and Ashley xoxo
Marci Loomis
October 18, 2007
Dear Penny, Tony, Summer and Niki,
My heart goes out to you all. I know what it is like to lose someone you love and I'm sure it is even harder if that someone is your child. I loved looking at the pictures online of the grown up Kamalu. In my mind he's still 7 on our river rafing trip and not old enough to go on the raft yet. All my family sends their love. I know that nothing will make this any easier but just know that all of you are in our prayers and that we love you!
God Bless you all!!
Marci
Dana Havron LTJG USN
October 17, 2007
Mrs. Bento & family:
My family's deepest condolances on your loss of Anthony. I know you will always be proud of Anthony's many accomplishments in his young life: Bronze Star receiptant, fearless paratrooper, loving father and husband, and American Hero! God's speed as you go forward with your life, and hoping you can do it with the meaningfulness I'm sure Anthony would want you to have.
Very respectfully,
Roger & Gerry Martin
October 14, 2007
Hi Tony
We were both shocked and saddened to hear of Tony Jr's untimely departure. How painful it must have been for you, your family and all of his friends.
While I never met him personally, I could see by what I read about him that he was really a dynamite guy - we can see that in his face. (photo in the U-T) I am curious to know if he was following in his Dad's footsteps with an enthusiasm for volleyball.
Having lost our teenage daughter we empathize with your loss. We will keep you and your family in our prayers.
October 13, 2007
To the Family and Friends of this Soldier:
I will stand in grief with this soldier's family to honor him. For every fallen HERO there is a bright star that shines in the evening sky to remind us of the cherished gift we were given – even if for too short a time.
My heart breaks again as I sign yet another guest book of another courageous young soldier who gave their life so selflessly. I wish I never found myself in a position to have to sign another guestbook for the rest of my life, but I promised Brent that neither he nor any like him would be forgotten and so I will continue until the day there is no longer the need.
We lost our son SFC Brent A. Adams on 12/1/05 and it seems like yesterday. I wish so badly there were things I could say to you right now to make the pain you are feeling go away, but I know first hand there simply are no words that will bring you the comfort and peace your heart aches for. Just know that you are not alone. My heart, thoughts, and prayers are with you all as you go through this tragedy moment by moment and as you mourn this loss.
We don't know each other, will probably never meet, but will forever be united in the loss of our Heroes. We have, unfortunately joined a group none of us wanted to join, an ever-growing group of families in this situation. May God grant you peace and strength to get through this and be able once again to smile at a memory rather than have only the tears that flow so easily now. To be so proud of your loved one and so saddened at the same time is a mix of emotions very difficult to deal with as our hearts both burst with pride and pain together.
I am sorry that I never knew your soldier personally. While they can never be replaced, neither will they ever be forgotten. You must trust that sometime, someday the loving memories you have will help to sustain you and help you go on. This courageous soldier will forever be your Angel watching over you all for the rest of your lives. It's what brings me some measure of peace and comfort and I hope it will you as well.
To his family and friends in pain, I offer this comfort: When you find yourself in that dark sorrowful place, think not only of how you will miss him, but instead recall the years, days, hours and minutes gifted to you by his presence. The one thing that cannot be taken from you is your wonderful memories that now will mean more than ever.
If you ever want to talk, I'm only an e:mail away and would love for you to tell me more about your Hero.
God Bless this soldier and family who gave all and God Bless legacy.com for setting up this site where families can so quickly share their condolences and prayers with others like themselves.
Proud Parents of SFC Brent A. Adams, KIA, 12/1/05, Ramadi, Iraq
Pam and Bill Adams, Lancaster, PA
Raquel Cruz
October 11, 2007
To the Bento Family..
Anthony's heroic story has really touched my heart. I think about you guys everyday, I have you in my prayers!!! I look at Anthonys myspace and I ask myself.. "Why did GOD take such an amazing and loving person away from you guys"? My heart breaks for you guys =(
Sometimes I find myself crying over Anthonys death. It hurts so much to know that he left a BEAUTIFUL wife, son, and family behind. By looking at all his pictures i could totally tell that he was a really happy young man who really LOVED his wife, son and family. How ever somewhere in my broken heart Im PROUD of Anthony..He died protecting our country THE BEST DAMN COUNTRY..THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA!!!! He fought for our freedom. I really appreciate his service!! =}
Anthony is now peacefully resting, hes watching over all of us!! Anthony's legacy will live on forver in our hearts!!!!!
Just remember His BEAUTIFUL SMILE!!
Thanks for EVERTHING CPL ANTHONY BENTO
Jennifer Neves
October 10, 2007
I wanted to extend my condolences to the Bento family as Kamalu was my cousin (Mom: Teri-Lynne Neves, Honolulu, Hawaii).
May the Lord bless you and keep you, May his face shine so brightly upon you....
Always,
Miss Jennifer Puanani Rose Neves
Honolulu, HI now living in Guam, USA
elizabeth zahller
October 9, 2007
Dear Loved ones, Loosing a loved one is never easy but you need to know we all are here to support you even americans like my self who you have not met. Anthony was a young man who second name is Hero full of courage and strenth and Love for his America. He demostriated his abilities and his commitment everyday keeping all americans free. I feel proud as a american to comfort you in some way to let you know your son was noticed and cared for even by strangers. Jesus took Anthony to a beautiful Heaven where he is happy but his love for you is the same. If we keep our prayers for him going he will be comforted and we will be touched by our heavenly father in amazing ways. May god hold you all in his arms untill you feel your grief has lessen. Sincerely Elizabeth Zahller Soldiers angels support team
Mike Barnes
October 9, 2007
I went through Basic, AIT, and Airborne school with (at the time) PFC Bento. He was in the Bunk next to mine with Alcorta and he was the whole platoons entertainment. Bento always had a cheezy grin on his face and did something off the wall to make everyone laugh. You hear stories about soldiers running through each others barracks waering nothing but boots, a gas mask, and equiptment vest; well he's that guy.
Always motivated when it's time to get work done and someone you can trust to have your back on and off duty. Bento was a man of faith and I learned from talking about Jesus with him, that he has a pure heart. I told him it is obvious that his parents raised him with love and he agreed. I later met his family one weekend during airborne school and they lived up to their reputation of being a great family. I fear his loss will be especially hard on his sister, who seemed to take special care to watch over him as her little brother.
To Anthony's wife, I have not had the pleasure to meet, I am sorry for your loss. He is gone and as hard as it is to accept we must. You and your son were the world to him. Even back in basic, he always talked of finding his true love, marrying, and raising a family. You need to know how proud he was of you guys and how happy you made him before he left this world. I know Anthony died a happy man. His son will carry on his name and you should stay close to his family; they are your family now too. Remember our time in this world is short and temporary. He left us early, but we will all be reunited with him in Gods Kingdom.
Bentos- take care and stay positive
Anthony I will see you in God's great kingdom my brother
Joel McKeehen
October 9, 2007
To the Bento family, I am so sorry for your loss.
Nichole Dogoldogol
October 8, 2007
To Anthony's family and friends, I am so sorry for the pain that you are feeling right now. I know it is hard to imagine, but time really does help. Anthony will be missed forever and never forgotten. He was such a wonderful, funny and happy person. But for the time being, please know that you are constantly in my thoughts and prayers. Colleen, I love you mama. You are one of my best friends and I am here for you until the end.
7th grade Louisburg
October 8, 2007
we care and share your sorrow and pride.
Karie Tappmeyer
October 8, 2007
As many people pass through our lives, Nene was the one that I would always hold his memory close to my heart. As I walk this life looking forward and wondering how to make my mark, I tend to let go more when I remember Nene running around the house with green hair, dancing and letting loose. I only wish I had that vibrance.
While tradegy and sadness are filling your days, together you are stronger and more graceful because of his memories and the continuous laughter of his son.
Me ka `oia`i`o ~
Jon Van De Venter
October 8, 2007
Dear Anthony(and Bento Family);
1. After a visit to a relative's gravesite we were just leaving the cemetery as your honoring and reverent procession was just entering. It was apparent that you were special and dearly loved, although we did not know you.
2. We offered our prayers while pulled to the shoulder, and until directed by police escort to exit and proceed carefully.
3. I spent this morning finding out who you are - and who gave the ultimate sacrifice for country and family.
4. Thank you, Anthony and family. Eternal Rest and Peace...and let perpetual light shine upon you...
Sincerely,
Observers; Dept. Army employee, Navy Dad (3x), former USDHS student (1965)- and wife, two sons and one's girlfriend.
Jonathan Van De Venter - Judie, Christopher, Nathaniel and Katie W.
Visiting from Pennsylvania.
Jim & Gail Kneebone & family
October 8, 2007
Tony, Penny & family and Colleen & son,
Gail, my children and I were extremely saddened to hear of Anthony's passing. The first thing that came to our minds was little Anthony beach camping, never walking but running everywhere, and his eternal smile. Anthony was so happy and close to both of you, that you knew he was going to be a bright and successful young man. The fact Anthony joined Airborne was a sign of his team spirit, never giving up, and his intelligence to always find a way to prevail. Tony, please wear the lapel wings I gave you as I believe Anthony would have been proud to have given you a set of his to wear. Always be proud. Remember the Airborne motto, "Airborne, All the way".
sid harriss
October 7, 2007
B, i love u man. its not the same without u hear. the platoon has an unfillable gap in it. we will never forget man. you'll live on thru us. see you when i get there.
Margail Vargo (Beverage)
October 7, 2007
Dear Tony & Penny,
I was so very sorry and sadenned to hear of your loss. May you be surrounded by friends and family and the love and prayers of people who care. I remember Anthony as a 3 year old precious boy, just full of life. I know your memories of him will sustain you now and in the future. I am proud of the yound man he became. His selfless dedication in helping to defend our country will never be forgotten. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
October 7, 2007
Thank you for the sacrifice made by Cpl Bento and the sacrifice made by everyone who loves and misses him! May God bless all of you!!
Luanne Tacey
October 7, 2007
I was enormously saddened to hear of Anthony's passing. I hired Tony to work at Sunset Bowl when he was a teen and my son knew him slightly from school. I remember him as a polite, respectful young man, a good worker with a perpetual smile and I was struck by how close he and his father were. They would come in to bowl together when Tony got off work.
My son, David, served in the Marine Corps and spent seven months in Iraq and my youngest nephew is serving currently in Baghdad. I know the fear you live in while they're in danger, but I can't imagine the pain of losing your beloved son/husband/brother/father. Over the last week since I heard the news I have thought of all of you often...the father who lost not only a son, but a pal and the young widow who lost her son's father and her best friend.
God bless you and give you peace now and in the days ahead. May He watch over all of you, especially that beautiful little boy. Please know that while we mourn, those who knew Anthony are incredibly proud of his courage and heroism and thankful for his service to us all.
With deepest sympathy,
Karen Lombardi
October 6, 2007
Tony, Penny, and Family,
Anthony kept all of us on our toes at Blessed Sacrament School. I'm sure he's keeping God busy with his enthusiasm and curiosity. I was just thinking about the two of you the other day and the fun we had at BSS, as well as joining you one year on your annual canoe trek. My mom called to ask me if I had known Anthony. How could anyone forget the good and bad of Anthony, he was memorable then and always will be.
Karen and Dave Lombardi (Ventura)
Sarah Poole Leon
October 5, 2007
I was devastated to hear of Anthony's passing. I will remember him for his mischievous nature, his contagious grin, and his ability to make people laugh. He always was up to something during our volleyball practices at Blessed Sacrament. I pray for the Bento family that they feel supported through this terrible time. He was a genuinely good person from a wonderful family and his death is felt by so many.
Sue Paul
October 5, 2007
Dear Colleen, Mr. & Mrs. Bento, and family,
It was a great honor to serve as the organist and pianist for Anthony's Vigil and Resurrection Liturgy. Thank you so very much for having me. Without a doubt, I know that your pain and loss are enormous. Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers not only now but in the days and months ahead. May God grant you healing, peace, and strength. I know in faith that Anthony is enjoying eternal life and will always be your guardian angel. Take good care and please let me know if I can do anything for you.
The Easton Family
October 5, 2007
Dearest Bento Family,
Please know you are in our thoughts and prayers daily. We wish you peace in this most difficult time.
With love,
Mandy, Raleigh, Olivia and Bennett Easton
(Mandy Curtis, OLP '94)
Colin McColl
October 4, 2007
Thank you for asking me to sing at Anthonys service. I was honored and proud to be a part of his mass. I sang at my moms funeral 3 years ago and this was much harder for me. I have a son who is 16 and I just couldn't imagime him going before me!!! I pray for the Bento family and hope time will heal and make life abit easier! Love and prayers to you all. Colin McColl
Gene, Diane, Dana, Kary Ciolli
October 4, 2007
Tony and Penny, you are wonderful friends. Please accept our sincere condolences for your lost of Anthony. The service was beautiful.
Bobby & Rachelle Miles
October 4, 2007
You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.
Brooke Palm
October 4, 2007
We have never met, but our thoughts and prayers are with your family at this very sad time.
The Palm Family - Charles, Brooke and Cassandra
Lorraine Fernandez
October 4, 2007
Bento family and friends: I do not know Anthony or the family. I heard about him through a dear friend, Maria Backer. His story has truly impacted me and I have shared his story with others. After hearing about your loss I can only say my heart breaks for you and there are many people praying for you. After reading everyone's entries and looking at his myspace page, I know Anthony left a legacy of heroism, good character, family/life values and beautiful memories. He will not be forgotten. My thoughts and prayers go out to all those who knew him.
clayton cohn
October 4, 2007
To the Bento Family,
Growing up with Bento as I knew him to be at Blessed Sacrament, I remember hanging out with him at Princess Del Cerro Park and just having too much fun. My condolences go out to your family.
Karla Moore
October 4, 2007
To the entire Bento family............. I do not know you personally, but I was deeply touched by the story of your proud Hero, Anthony. My heart aches for your loss, as I, too, have lost my only Son. No words can ease your great loss and sorrow. Just know that other people, even complete strangers, share your time of sadness and feel your loss for a Son, so dear. I thank your family and Anthony, for his service to our country. I know that Anthony will come to be a legend for his dear Baby Boy and he will grow up to learn that his Father, was a True HERO, who gave his all, for his treasured family and our Country. It is along road ahead and I hope your family will be sustained by your many , wonderful memeories, of your precious Anthony.
Peter and Mary Tessaro
October 3, 2007
Sincere Condolences from all the
Tessaros
Charlene Buckeye
October 3, 2007
To the Bento family: My heart aches for you at this time. I lost my son and I DO know how you are feeling. I pray that you all find peace. I know you will make sure his little boy knows how wonderful his father was. I have worked with Tony at the D.A.'s office and know how much he and his wife adored all of their children.
Margie Long
October 3, 2007
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
missy, chris and peyton culpepper
October 3, 2007
aunt mary and family,
your family is in our thoughts with deepest sympathy! we are very sorry for your family's loss.
Kathy,Emily,&Bridget Hill
October 3, 2007
A brave soldier, husband father and son has been taken to meet his Maker. We are all saddened at his untimely death. Our family's prayers will be offered for all of you and for your dear Tony. May you receive consolation from God's eternal blessings in the days to come.
Dorinda Blair
October 3, 2007
Dear Penny, Tony, Mary & all - there are just no words to express our feelings about the loss of Anthony. To be perfectly honest with you, I'm angry. A void has been inflicted upon a family network so giving, so spirited, so devoted to each other and everyone who is blessed to know you. I am sure Colleen is very special to be a member of such a wonderful family. I have no words of wisdom, only heartfelt sympathy to share your grief. Anthony was a free spirit committed to something he believed in and for that, we will remember him with respect and unsurpassable pride! He had so much more to offer and so much more joy to add to all our lives. May you all find peace with time, loving family & friends, home movies, photos, and baby Kai - to keep Anthony's spirit alive and fresh. so many memories to revive - so many stories to retell - so many more times to laugh .... and to cry. God Bless each and every one of you!
wendy polesky
October 3, 2007
Our thoughts and prayers are with your family at this most difficult time.
Ken & Wendy Polesky
Chaplain Walter Leverette
October 3, 2007
I was saddened to hear of anthony's death. Please don't let his memory, legacy, and zest for life die. The nation is stronger becuase of him and so many like him. God bless you and keep you until you are reunited with him in heaven.
Sandy Snow
October 3, 2007
Dear Bento family,
We were so saddened to hear of Anthony's passing. I had the pleasure of being his second grade teacher, and his smile is the first thing that comes to mind. As a mother, I can only say that you will be on my heart and in my prayers. Love, Sandy, Terry, Tami and Brian Snow
John Turner
October 3, 2007
To the Bento family: I just wanted to let you know your are in my prayers. Young Tony made the ultimate sacrifice for his country. Of that you can be proud. I have known Tony Sr. through our years of playing volleyball together. I know that he was proud of his son and loved him deeply. God bless all of you.
Frank Kloberdanz
October 3, 2007
To the Bento Family:
I knew Penny many years ago, my children are the same age. My sincere condolences for your loss. Your son is one of the far too often unsung heroes of this awful time in our lives. Be strong.
Lisa Volpe
October 3, 2007
To the Bento Family,
We were all shocked to hear of Anthony's passing. We unfortunately did not have much contact with him but we now how close and how much he was loved by everyone. I have many memories from our trip out there to visit. One memory I personally will never forget is the long car ride to Vegas and Anthony laying on top the luggage in the back!!! Our thoughts and prayers are with the family at this very difficult time.
Lisa and Rich Volpe
(Tom and Kathy Lischio's daughter)
Katy Pinon-Larkin
October 3, 2007
Dearest Bento Family,
I also had the pleasure to know Anthony through my niece Aleksi. He was a wonderful, kind and respectful young man. He had an amazing ability to make you laugh and bring a smile to your face. I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I thank Anthony for his dedicated service to his country. It is my hope that time will ease your sorrow and that all the beautiful and wonderful memories of Anthony will bring you comfort and peace.
With hearfelt sympathy to you and your family,
Katy, Michael & Ethan Pinon-Larkin
Kathleen and Ramon Pinon-Cassidy
October 3, 2007
We feel heartbroken for your loss. Anthony was our grand-daughter, Aleksi, first boyfriend. We grew to love him. We are in Europe and sadly will miss being at the church. We will write when we return.May your happy memories of Anthony comfort you.
Eleanor Palmer
October 2, 2007
Colleen, I don't know if you remember me from long ago when I worked at Latchkey. I have been curious over the past 7 years about your life, and a little bird (Julie-can't remember her last name) told me last year that you were pregnant. I am so terribly sorry to hear of the loss of your husband. Please know that even though years have passed, you and your mom made a great impact on my life, and I wish better times, strength, and much love for the both of you, and for your families. --Eleanor Palmer
Christy Lynch
October 2, 2007
To all the Bento Family,
My Son Tim and Anthony were friends and Anthony used to come to our home in Jamul quite often.He is one that my husband and I will never forget,first and formost he was the most polite young man we have ever met.We enjoyed his visits and conversations. We are so proud to have known him. Our heartfelt sorrow is with all of you. We pray that you will feel God's comfort and know that Anthony safely rests in heaven. Thank-You Anthony for bravely protecting our country,you are one special soldier,now rest!
Maria Backer
October 2, 2007
Dearest Bento Family,
I returned from a joyous wedding in Switzerland to hear the tragic news of Anthony Bento. Words cannot express my pain and sorrow for the loss of this wonderful man's life. He has left an impression in my heart that will last a lifetime. Anthony was our daughter's boyfriend for most of her high school years. He was a permanent fixture on our sofa. Our dog even knew the sound of his Jeep pulling up and would wait at the door to greet him.
Anthony was our errand boy. He would gladly take our son to practice or make Jack in the Box runs. He was eager to please.
When Anthony turned 18 he got a piercing that infuriated my husband. Jim told him he could not enter the house with "that thing in his mouth". Anthony respectfully took it out every time he came over until it became too much, he stopped wearing it all together.
One day I was worried about Aleksi's turtle not getting enough sun. Anthony happliy ran off to Home Depot, purchased wood and built the turtle a stand. That stand still remains Gracie's home five years later.
Anthony was a kind and generous man. He will be missed by everyone who has crossed his path. His energy and smile will be missed forever. My condolences to his beautiful wife, his son and his entire family.
Judy Williamson
October 2, 2007
Dear Bento Family,
The little Anthony that we remember from Blessed Sacrament grew up to be a fine young man, someone to be proud of. We are saddened by your loss, but keep those memories of him in your hearts. God Bless you all and please know that you are all in our thoughts and prayers.
Jerry, Judy, Erica and Jerry, Jr Williamson
Corey Browning
October 2, 2007
Dear Tony Penny Colleen Nickie Summer Kai Nathan Maile Mai,
I was so sorry to hear of your loss. The thoughts of many are with you at this time of sorrow.
Your in my thoughts and prayers.
Love you all
Claire LiMandri
October 2, 2007
Dear Penny, Tony, and family, Our prayers and love go to you now. We are so sorry about Anthony. He was a bright light. We need more of them these days. Love, The LiMandri family, Claire, Marco, Katharine and Tessa
Lisa Sanchez
October 2, 2007
My heart goes out to each of you. I pray that you will know thoughts and prayers are with you from sea to shining sea.
Danielle Valenzuela
October 2, 2007
Even though I knew you for only a short time while you attended Uni you made a big impact on me. Anthony you were always there for me when I need some cheering up, a laugh or a hug. You were one of the nicest guys to me at that school. I guess God needed more angels in heaven. You will truly be missed by all.
Sharon Anderson
October 2, 2007
To all the family of Anthony Bento.
I do not know any of you personally, but was so moved by the obituary in todays paper. Just to let you know that my prayers are with all of you and that I am so gratful for all of your sacrifices, for our country.
Ryan Hagen
October 2, 2007
To the Bento family and friends:
I did not know Anthony, however I learned of his passing through his friend Sarah Jane. I wanted to send my condolences to his family, his wife, and child, and his friends. I thank Anthony for his service to our country, it is heroes like Anthony that allow us to live in this great country. I cannot imagine what you all must be going through. Anthony and all of you will be in my thoughts and prayers, I trust that God will see you through these difficult times. God Bless.
Sincerely and Respectfully,
Kathleen Davis
October 2, 2007
To the Bento Family,
My regrets and saddest is with you during this diffcult time. The greatest sorrow is that of a parent losing a child. But the greatest joy is that of Anthony dying for his country. I have been a Navy Wife for the past 24 Years(Ret,D'cd} and I still, at present, work with active duty personel. Each of these young men who go to war are angels and special gifts.
Thank You for Anthony and allowing him to share his gifts with the world.
Warmly,
Kathleen Davis
Dave Young
October 2, 2007
Anthony's story is at once sad and inspiring. As a former paratrooper and communications sergeant with the 5th Special Forces Group in Vietnam, I know something of war's somber reality. I also know that without men like Anthony, our country would be in dire straits. His legacy to family, friends and comrades is one of dedicated courage and selfless love. Airborne, Brother, all the way!
Diane B
October 2, 2007
To the family of Mr. Bento:
Thank you for all the love and support you shared with Anthony and for allowing him to sacrifice himself to save this country. Although I did not know Anthony, he and his family will remain in our thoughts and prayers.
Raquel Pinon-Cassidy
October 2, 2007
I had the pleasure to know Anthony through my niece Aleksi, and just wanted to tell you how he will always have a special place in my heart. His laugh and smile were infectious and he always brought a smile to my face. My heart goes out to you all and know that my thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Kathy Lischio
October 2, 2007
Penny,Tony & My Dear Aunt Mary,
As you read my words know that my heart is breaking for you and the rest of the family.To have someone that you love so deeply taken suddenly away from our lives is truly unbearable.
Hold tight to the memories of your brave Anthony...Always treasure those memories of days gone by...But know that Heaven has received a very special angel.
Our thoughts are with you all as you say goodbye today and honor his life.Know that our God of all comfort will see you through this time.
We love you so much and wish we could be near to give you hugs and wipe away your tears.Please accept our most heart felt condolences.
Corby and Kathy
Vicki Youngers
October 2, 2007
I send my love, my prayers and my empathy to all of you. I can only imagine. I had never met Anthony but to read about him is to be in awe of the great man he became. It is no wonder to me -- he had a great family to love and cherish him!
jean
October 2, 2007
You're right about that smile---it drew me in immediately. I had to read about his life and service even though I knew it would break my heart. Your account was truly endearing and remarkably upbeat. Please know that your fellow citizens grieve with you and are eternally grateful for Anthony's selfless acts in defending us.
Rusty Hansen
October 2, 2007
My heart goes out to the entire Bento family. Anthony was a brave young man to have sacrificed himself for our country. To Tony and Penny, whom I have known for 30+ years, we all love you very much.
Michael Connelly
October 2, 2007
To proud parents Tony and Penny, to loving wife Colleen, and all of the Bento family, words cannot express the heartfelt sorry we feel in the untimely passing of Anthony. We will always remember his sacrifice and he will live on in our thoughts and prayers.
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