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Alfred Pakenham Obituary
Alfred John Pakenham, formerly of New Paltz, NY and most recently of Danbury, CT, passed away on Tuesday, July 1, 2008. He was 55.
Alfred John Pakenham was born in Jersey City, NJ on July 16, 1952 to Thomas Pakenham and Caroline (nee Nelson) Pakenham.
He graduated from Warwick High School in Warwick, NY and was a college student of architectural design. He was a self employed carpenter and had an extraordinary gift in creating fine cabinetry.
Alfie was a loving and devoted family man, who always put himself second to any person in need. He has touched many lives and will forever be remembered for his kind spirit and gentle loving ways. He had many passions which included his family, Irish step-dancing and HOPe, a small non-sectarian charity dedicated to helping people help themselves.
Alfred John Pakenham was predeceased by his mother and father, Thomas and Caroline and his brothers, John Pakenham and Tim Pakenham.
Alfie is survived by his wife, Kathleen Hannigan; brother, Richard Pakenham of Naperville, IL; three daughters, Lisa Pakenham of Newburgh, Jessica Pakenham of New Paltz and Anna Pakenham of Corvallis, OR; son, David Pakenham of Los Angeles, CA; step children, Kera Singer of Danbury, CT and Adam Singer of Brookfield, CT. He is also survived by his grandchildren, Nicholas, Bryan, Tyler, Patrick and Gavin.
A memorial service will be held Saturday, July 12 at 3 p.m. at 227 South Street, Highland, NY.
In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations be made to the HOPe Foundation, PO Box 354, Woodlawn Station, NY 10470.
"Life may be the party we hope for! But while we are here, lets dance..."
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Memories and Condolences
for Alfred Pakenham
Midge and Mike Fagan
August 5, 2008
Midge and I are sadden to hear of Alfie's sudden passing. Our prayers go out to Kathy and the rest of the family. May God Bless.
bryan forgione
July 28, 2008
little papa - i'll always miss you. i wish i could be with you again. i love you.
Marilyn Thoby
July 21, 2008
Kathy and Alfie's families:
Alfie and I go back to 1975 and I will forever be grateful to Alfie for helping his mom save my life. He was an Angel put in my path and now an Angel in heaven to watch over you all. I attempted to join you all at his services, but, I got lost in Highland and sadly missed saying Good-bye to a great Gentle Man.
May GOD Bless you all in this so sorrowful a time.
Marilyn Thoby ([email protected])
Lisa and Junior Bras and Family
July 12, 2008
Kathy and Family,
I can't believe this happened again. I never met Alfie, but I have heard great things about him. You are a wonderful and strong person and our deepest sympathy goes to you and your family. Love you and God Bless!
Leah Rachlis
July 11, 2008
Hello Kathy, and all of Alfie's family.
When I think of Alfie, one of my favorite memories was up in Quebec, at St. Jerome. There was an awesome hand painted wall banner/sign that read: "I Love US!" Alfie had gotten up to share/speak to the group there. At one point he simply raised his hands (in that way that he did), and said with a crooked smile and a twinkle in his eye "I love us!" And he did.
It was a special time, and we were all so fortunate to have each other. Alfie was a big part of what made it special.
May his memory be a blessing, and bring you peace.
Leah Rachlis
Connie Ceparano
July 11, 2008
Dear Lisa,
We are so sorry for your loss. Our hearts go out to you and your family. You are in our thoughts and our prayers. May you have comfort with the memories of your dad.
Love,
Connie, Mike , Michael & Anthony
Anne Besser
July 10, 2008
Kathy and Family,
We are both saddened by the loss of Alfie. He was a wonderful man and his spirit will live on because of all the kindness and love he gave to his family, his friends, and perfect strangers. I can’t tell you how much both Alfie and you, Kathy, mean to my mom and brother (Ellen and Patrick). I'm glad we were able to visit, be it short, while we were in CT at Patrick's graduation party. The world is a better place becuase Alfie lived. Please know our thoughts are with you.
- Annie and Paul
MICHAEL Chambers Sr.
July 10, 2008
Sorry to hear of the passing of Alfie.
We attended high school together and
had a great social life. He was a one of a kind person. Our prayers are with him and his family.
Friend and classmate. Strawberry
Shari Harrison
July 9, 2008
Thank-you for your time, thank-you for your fellowship, thank-you for your dedication, thank-you for your friendship, thank-you for your handshake, thank-you for shared being! You will be missed by me.
Kera Singer
July 8, 2008
I'm going to miss you so much. I know you are watching over us, and that's the only thing that keeps me going. Thanks for everything you ever did for me, noone will ever replace you. LOVE YOU Steppy!!! Keep an eye on Mom!! I know your still with her everyday
Kerri Matteo
July 8, 2008
Dear Kathy and Family,
We are thinking of you and keeping you in our prayers.
With Love,
Kerri Matteo & Joanne Matteo
Ed Woods
July 8, 2008
Dear Kathy,
My heart is with you and your family during this difficult time.
Debbie Rush-Armstrong
July 8, 2008
Dear Lisa & Family,
You will not remember me for you were just a little one when I watched you a few times when you lived with your mom & dad in Highland Falls. Your Dad was a wonderfully talented, loving and easy going man. May your heart be filled with many memories. God Bless.
Barbara O'Connor
July 8, 2008
Dear Kathy and family,
Gary & I will smile through the tears, remembering seeing you & Alfie at Gaelic Festival last month in Trumbull, so pleased that you'd married this gentle man with whom you'd shared so much.
We are saddened that the journey will continue without him and will say a prayer for you all.
Love from,
Babs and Gary
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