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Mary McCaw Obituary
Mary Kate McCaw of Walden, NY, loving wife, equestrienne, best friend and partner, passed on September 18, 2008, at home after a year long illness. She was 40.
The daughter of William T. and Jane Grimley McCaw, she was born June 8, 1968 in Cornwall NY.
She is survived by her husband, Paul Martino at home. Her immediate family includes her parents, William T. and Jane Grimley McCaw; paternal aunt, Doris McCaw; sisters, Jane Anne McCaw and Maggi McCaw and brother, Peter McCaw; nieces, Merissa and Brenna McCaw; nephews, Ian Daniel and Angus Malcolm McCaw; Godparents, Lt. General (USAF Ret) Donald and Bette Hughes; cat Dermott; two horses, Oscar and April.
Mary Kate, an Insurance Professional specializing in Equine work, employed by Marshall & Sterling, Poughkeepsie, NY, exemplified the concepts of Honor, Fairness, Kindness, Hard Work, Competence and indeed all the qualities of a Good, True-Hearted Human Being. Think of her in this way. She is an Angel that, in flying too close to the ground, brushed us with her wings, leaving all she touched blessed and enriched.
Visitation will be both Saturday, September 20 and Sunday September 21, from 5-8 p.m. at Millspaugh Funeral Home, 22 Bank St., Walden, NY.
Services will be private.
Cremation will be in Cedar Hill Crematory in Newburgh, NY.
Donations may be made to Hospice of Orange and Sullivan Counties, 800 Stony Brook Court, Newburgh, NY 12550 or Equine Rescue of Pine Bush, NY are preferred to floral arrangements. But, if you wish to send flowers, send modest arrangements only, and please, no roses.
Arrangements were made by Millspaugh Funeral Directors.
To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.
Memories and Condolences
for Mary McCaw
October 3, 2009
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
Sixteen years ago we said those words. And then said "I do". For nearly fifteen years we believed and lived by those words. Today, again, I said those words. I believe them, and will do my all to live by them. Sixteen years, sixteen red roses, adding one rose each year. You exemplify the words "Wife", "partner", "best friend". Your Love continues to surround me. Sixteen years ago we wed. Today...our anniversary. I believe those words. Love never fails. I will Love you with my last breath, and I know that the first thing I'll see in the next world is your smile.
Paul
October 3, 2009
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."
Sixteen years ago we said those words. And then said "I do". For nearly fifteen years we believed and lived by those words. Today I said those words again. I believe them, and will do my all to live by them. Sixteen years, sixteen red roses, one rose for each year. You exemplify the words "Wife", "partner", "best friend". Your Love continues to surround me. Sixteen years ago we wed. Today...our anniversary. I believe those words. Love never fails. I will Love you with my last breath, and I know that the first thing I'll see in the next world is your smile.
Paul
Paul
September 27, 2009
It's been over a year, My Love. A year, 9 days and a little over 12 hours since you left this world...and every day brings me closer to you. I mark the days differently than the almanacs. Wednesday will always be the last night we spent together. Thursday will always be the day you crossed the bridge. I will cross that bridge too someday, we will meet again, and Love eternally.
September 17, 2009
A year has gone by and we still think of you every day and miss you. We know you are in a better place and watching over us. Until we meet again.....
Love, Judy & Robin
June 11, 2009
My Dearest Love,
In Heaven you ride horses,and take care of the flowers. So says my friend's 2 year old girl who thinks of you and smiles.
I miss your presence, and your kindness. Your birthday here has passed, but I suppose birthdays are no matter in Paradise.
I never dreamed that I'd be loved by somebody like you...I never dreamed that I'd lose somebody like you.
Nine months, and my heart still bleeds memories. I wait patiently. I know a love like ours is forever. You're always on my mind.
Paul
Merissa McCaw
March 17, 2009
Mary Kate was a mentor and a role model to me in so many ways. She looked out for me my whole life and gave me opportunities I would not have had otherwise. She had the most biting humor of anyone I've ever met and I bet she could have made the Pope laugh. I have a collection of "Mary Kate-isms" that I use to keep a bit of her with me always. I was once told by someone very close to her that I reminded him of her. It was the nicest compliment I've ever received. Mary Kate taught me so much about life, mostly without realizing it. Something reminds me of her every day.
Paul
March 12, 2009
My Sweet Love,
It's six months since you went Home to Paradise. Each day, every hour, every minute, my heart breaks still, anew. I mourn the loss of You in this world, but I know, and am made fulfilled by knowing, that You are in The Peaceful Place, surrounded by perfection, in the bosom of The Lord. My simple constant prayer...that someday we will be together again. I know, beyond doubt, that our Love is Eternal.
Jane Murphy McKiernan
January 23, 2009
Oh Paul. I just received your letter and I am just so saddened and stunned. I feel crushed and can't begin to imagine how you are dealing with this. While it has been so long since seeing both of you, the memories are great and the memories go deep. I am blessed to have called her and you my friend. Living in Saratoga has always reminded me of Mary Kate and will continue to do so. She sure loved her horses. Our memories are a gift to me. Love, Jane Murphy McKiernan
Paul Martino
October 30, 2008
We bring beauty with us into this world, as we bring innocence, and the ugliness that we take with us when we leave is what we've made of ourselves, instead of what we should have made. Mary Kate went to Paradise with no ugliness at all. Only the Spirit leaves this world; and hers was without stain or scar, as innocent at departure as it had been upon arrival...
Ursula Allard
October 30, 2008
I worked with MaryKate and was blessed to have known her for the short time that I did. She was a blessing to me in more ways than one. Always willing to share her knowledge and never condemning one for not knowing. A spirit of peace and calm that radiated from her even during the worst of times, was truly inspirational. I love her and will never forget her.
I have posted a few pictures from long ago Halloween at work.
MaryKate with Mary Quade at New England Equine practice
October 30, 2008
Paul Martino
October 22, 2008
I've waited a little over a month to post here, and am beginning to perhaps, just a little, start to cope with my Beloved's passing.
When I had nothing, Mary Kate gave me everything. I had a house, Mary Kate gave me a home. I thought I knew what love was, Mary Kate gave me pure, Unconditional Love.
The small things and the large, were all made better, clearer, sweeter, under Mary Kate's influence. When, I pass on, Her name will be on my lips.
I plan to post more here, throughout the upcoming year. Photos, memoranda and contacts. If anyone has any photos of, or stories concerning my Girl, they are invited to post them here.
Paul Martino
(Mr. Mary Kate McCaw)
"When she shall die, take her and cut her out in little stars, and she shall make the face of Heaven so fine that all the world will be in Love with night, and pay no worship to the garish sun"
-Paraphrased from "Romeo & Juliet"
Barbara Covert
September 22, 2008
Although we didn't keep in touch in recent years, I enjoyed MaryKate so much and thought of her often. We went to our first concert together at West Point in the 8th grade (the Pretenders) and I spent so many good times with her in high school and beyond. I know Paul adored her, and my deepest sympathies to Paul and to the McCaws.
Sincerely,
Janie Scalf
September 22, 2008
I knew Mary Kate as a friend and client. We often exchanged funny comments and reminisced about the "80's". She could make just about anyone smile, with her quick wit and dry sense of humor. My deepest sympathies to the family and friends of Mary Kate. It was a privilege to know her, and she will not be forgotten!
Jim Cotter
September 22, 2008
My sister, brother and I grew up next door to the McCaws and shared many wonderful times with them. Mary Kate, the youngest of all of us, was thoughtful, kind and wise beyond her years. I am very sorry to hear of her passing. My heart goes out to the McCaw family and her husband Paul.
Christine Reynolds Mackey
September 21, 2008
Mary Kate and I were childhood friends 30 years ago. I was deeply saddened to hear of her passing. My sincere sympathies to the Martino and McCaw families. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Todd Baum
September 20, 2008
I will always remember how unique Mary Kate was. She had an intelligence and wit that seemed to come from an older soul. I attended Mary Kate and Paul's wedding, and can clearly remember thinking what a beautiful bride she was, and what a perfect match they made. My deepest sympathy goes out to Paul and the McCaw family.
Tanya Bucciarelli
September 19, 2008
Dear Bill & Jane,
Mike & I were genuinely saddened to read the passing of Mary Kate.
Cherish the memory of her love and kindness but enjoy the future as I'm sure she will.
Sincerely,
Tanya & Mike
Mary Ann Glover-Olympia
September 19, 2008
Although it has been a long time since I have seen Mary Kate, I do see Pete and am so sorry to learn of her passing, on behalf of my whole family, we wish you all well and God's help through this time of grief.
Ginny Lecaroz-Schneider
September 19, 2008
I have nothing but fond memories of my childhood friend, Mary Kate. As we went our separate ways, I often thought of her, which always brought a smile to my face. Mary Kate was a sweet, kind and compassionate person and I am blessed to have known her.
With heartfelt condolences,
Ginny Lecaroz-Schneider
Donna, Tom, Stu, Bill, Jon, Jim & Bob from the Syracuse Office of Marshall & Sterling
September 19, 2008
To the family of Mary Kate,
Our Syracuse office did not work directly with Mary Kate, but we knew her through many company outings. Our thoughts and prayers are with your family in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
Jim Guilianelli
September 19, 2008
I was deeply saddened to hear about Mary Kate's passing. My condolences go out to Jane, Bill, and all of the family at this sad time.
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