Dining as a Twosome
How did Amenia Rasool do it all? her mother-in- law now wonders. She would rise at 5 to do laundry before kissing her four children goodbye, leaving a tidy house in Queens to go to work as an accountant on the 95th floor of the World Trade Center. Every evening, she and her husband, Sadiq, a city accountant, would wash and feed the children as a team, dine as a twosome while the little ones watched TV, then help with schoolwork and put them all to bed.
Yet somehow, at the end of the day, after a husband-wife cleanup that included vacuuming and wiping down all the rugs in the Muslim household, Ms. Rasool, 33, found time for a small indulgence: catching up on tapes of her favorite soap operas and doing her nails.
As a young woman, she had come to America with her parents from rural Guyana, much like her husband. Their marriage was arranged by their parents, and flourished on a mix of Islamic tradition and American opportunity.
"They were really, really happy," said Fahida Rasool, her mother-in-law, who recently left her job in a bank to help with the children, 8, 6, 3 years old and 10 months.
Profile published in THE NEW YORK TIMES on October 16, 2001.