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Mary Van Neste Obituary

Falmouth Mary Regina (Lynch) Van Neste passed away at Brigham and Womens Hospital, Boston on Sunday, August 10, after a courageous 34 year battle with Scleroderma. Originally from NY, Mrs. Van Neste was a graduate of Notre Dame College, Staten Island and received a Masters Degree from Brooklyn College. A school teacher in NYC and Weymouth, she formerly lived in Milton for many years. Mrs. Van Nestes positive attitude helped her overcome many challenges. A founding member of the Scleroderma Assn., she contributed greatly to the lives of many battling this illness. The beloved wife of Philip J. Van Neste, she is also survived by her daughters, Mary Lou Buell of Duxbury and Brianne Van Neste of Falmouth and her grandchildren; Patrick, Veronica, Nora and Agnes Buell of Duxbury and Michael Van Neste of Falmouth. She was the sister of Eileen Sweeney and Brian Lynch of NY and Margaret Shashaty and Vincent Lynch of NJ. A Funeral Mass will be celebrated at St. Agatha Church, Milton, Saturday at 10:30 AM. Visiting hours will be held at the Alfred D. Thomas Funeral Home, 326 Granite Ave., Milton, Friday 4 to 8 PM. Interment will be in Milton Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, expressions of sympathy may be made to Sclerodrema Foundation/New England Chapter, 462 Boston St., Suite 1-1, Topsfield, MA 01983-1239. Alfred D. Thomas Funeral Home Milton (617) 696-4200

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Published by The Patriot Ledger from Aug. 14 to Aug. 15, 2008.

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Stephanie Zanotti

November 16, 2008

Dear Van Neste family,

I am a nurse from the Brigham who worked on the 14th floor where Mary spent her last few days. While I was not ever her nurse directly, I remember fondly Mary and her husbands love for each other. I was present at the Memorial Service we held for all the patients whom we've cared for and passed away. I just wanted to say Mr. Van Neste we were all so touched by your words and wisdom of coping with a spouse with scleroderma. You are a truly blessed family. Again, sincerely thank you, the nurses from 14CD.

Cara Broadbelt

August 20, 2008

ML and family...you're in our thoughts and prayers. Praying that you can find peace during this difficult time...she's shining down on you from heaven!

Lots of love and deepest sympathy,

Cara, Jason, Colin and Patrick

Joe Paolucci

August 20, 2008

Mr. Van Neste,

I am deeply sorry for the loss of your wife. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Jimmy Dolan

August 20, 2008

Coach VanNeste and entire family,
May God Bless You in this time of need, our thoughts and prayers are with you

August 19, 2008

Dear Marylou, Jeff, Phil, Patrick, Veronica, Nora and Agnes;

Our thoughts are with you as remember your mother and grandmother;

I have such nice memories of spending holidays w/ your mom; she was such a genuine, strong and compassionate woman who truly valued her family...

Thinking of you...Lisa & Jim

Angela Weber

August 18, 2008

The Van Neste Family,
May you take comfort in knowing there is one more angel above you. Our deepest sympathies to all of you.
Sincerely,
Angela Weber and Family

Mark Farrell

August 16, 2008

Dear Van Neste Family,
Sorry to hear of your loss. Mrs. Van Neste was an inspiration to many-especially in the pro-life movement. Our prayers and sympathy.
Mark and Karen Farrell

Carol O'Donnell May

August 15, 2008

Dear Van Neste Family,It has been many years since I helped your Mom with your home and shared lunch duty at St Agatha's school.My deepest sympathies,God Bless Mary

Deborah Caflisch

August 15, 2008

Phil, MaryLou, Brianne, and children, I am so sorry to miss such an important occasion. My family will be with all of you in spirit. I am glad that Mary's relatives from New York will make it down for the services. My parents and Jim and Kristen will be there to represent us. I am sending my love for all of you.
Debbie, Tod, Chris, Kylie, Erica, and Collin Caflisch

Frank Adams

August 14, 2008

Dear Phil and Family, our thoughts and prayers are with all of you . May the memories of your courageous and graceful Mary bring you peace. God bless all of you. Frank and Judy Adams

Jim Taubert

August 14, 2008

Phil and family,May God's peace be with you and your family in this time of grief. It has been quite a while since I spoke with you but I remember you fondly and hope the peace of God be with you.

Robyn Henson

August 14, 2008

Mr Van Neste,

I am so sorry to hear of your wife's passing. Even though I never met her, I feel like I knew her personally from your many stories about her in class (accounting and Scholars & Cents). My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time.

Edward Knight

August 14, 2008

Phil, Sorry to read of your loss.I know you can take comfort in the many loving memories that you shared. Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time of sadness. Buzz and Joyce knight

Patricia Sergio

August 14, 2008

Dear Phil & family, very sorry to hear of your loss. You and your family will find peace in knowing that your loved one is happy in paradise and in pain no more. Your memories will help you today and in the days to follow. With sincere sympathy, Pat & rich Sergio

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