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Catherine O'NEIL Obituary

O'NEIL, Catherine "Cathy" Catherine M. O'Neil passed away peacefully on Sunday, October 1, 2017, after a valiant 13-month battle against pancreatic cancer. She was an incredible mother, wife, sister, friend, lawyer, and artist, and she will be missed dearly.
Cathy was born on January 13, 1964 in Hyannis, Massachusetts. Her father, Robert O'Neil, was a U.S. Army veteran and town attorney who instilled in her an interest in the law and a love of country and public service. Her mother, Gisela Pick O'Neil, was born in Germany and married Robert after World War II. Gisela was a fashion designer and the source of Cathy's remarkable artistic creativity, tenacity, and party-hosting skills.
Growing up, Cathy was a figure skater, dancer, actress, and debater and a top student in Cape Cod's public schools. She went to college at the University of Virginia, where she founded a freshman theater company, was selected into the Raven Society, lived on the Lawn, and graduated with High Honors.
Cathy then headed to Harvard University, where in 1991 she earned both a J.D. degree cum laude from the Law School and a Masters in Public Policy from the Kennedy School of Government. She performed in and produced shows for the Harvard Law School Drama Society and served on the Board of Student Advisors, where one of her duties was to orient new students.
In August 1988, David Nahmias, a Duke grad from Atlanta, was assigned in Cathy's orientation group. They started dating that fall, fell in love, and got married in June 1992 on a beautiful day on Cape Cod. After law school, Cathy served as a law clerk for a federal judge in Boston, then began work as an associate in the Washington office of Davis Polk & Wardwell, a national law firm, while Dave clerked.
From the start, Cathy was an outstanding lawyer, a beautiful writer with tremendous analytical ability. But she always wanted to be a federal prosecutor and to get into the courtroom, and in 1995 she got her chance, when she and Dave were both hired as Assistant U.S. Attorneys in Atlanta.
They soon bought the house in Dunwoody that she loved (and improved through multiple renovation projects). Cathy quickly became a legal star, earning a national reputation as a superb trial lawyer as she prosecuted some of the largest and most complicated narcotics and money laundering organizations in the country. Her ability to present complicated cases to juries and her spell-binding, no-notes opening and closing statements were admired by other prosecutors, defense counsel, and judges alike, as was her devotion to the integrity of the criminal justice system.
In late 1998, the incoming Atlanta Bar Association President, who was a public defender, saw Cathy's Drama Society posters in her office while discussing a case and raised the possibility of her helping to organize a "follies" show for the bar. Cathy took the idea and ran with it, producing, directing, choreographing, writing, and performing in "A Courthouse Line" in March 1999.
That somewhat chaotic one-night show turned into 11 more "Bard" shows, each more polished and elaborate than the last -- scripted two-act musical parodies performed multiple times to packed houses in large theaters, by remarkably talented all-lawyer casts of up to 70 singers, dancers, actors, and musicians.
Cathy was the heart of the Bard shows, writing, directing, choreographing, singing, dancing, and sweeping the floors for most of the shows, which have been the largest fundraiser for the Atlanta Bar Foundation and its charitable works.
After the terrorist attacks on September 11, 2001, Dave moved back to Washington to work at the Justice Department, where he coordinated terrorism cases nationwide. A few months later, Cathy joined him when she became the Associate Director of the Organized Crime Drug Enforcement Task Forces program, which funds and coordinates multiple federal, state, and local law enforcement agencies that conduct the biggest narcotics investigations and prosecutions across the nation.
Cathy traveled extensively to reinvigorate the program, and in 2003 she was named the Director of the program and an Associate Deputy Attorney General, responsible for overseeing all of the Justice Department's anti-drug and money laundering functions.
The year 2003 also brought the first of Cathy's greatest treasures - her son Steven. The second - Michael - followed in 2005. As great a lawyer, leader, and artist as Cathy was, she was an even better mother, and she devoted herself to her boys, helping them to become smart, confident, kind, and successful young men.
In late 2004, Dave was confirmed as the U.S. Attorney in Atlanta, and the family moved back. Cathy left her beloved Justice Department and became a partner at King & Spalding, an international law firm based in Atlanta. Working on both government investigation and white-collar defense matters and business litigation for clients such as CVS and Delta Air Lines, Cathy continued to enhance her reputation as one of the top litigators in the nation, and was so recognized by a variety of publications.
The return to Atlanta also returned Cathy to her leadership of the Bard Shows, and her work in bringing together lawyers and the community through those shows was recognized by the Atlanta Bar Association with two different lifetime achievement awards.
The circle of Cathy's friends has always been wide, and she made many more through her new firm and the boys' schools and teams. And as always, she was Dave's biggest supporter when he was appointed as a Justice on the Georgia Supreme Court in 2009 and won statewide elections to that position in 2010 and 2016.
In August 2016, Cathy was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. She made an awe-inspiring recovery from major surgery in time to direct and even perform in "A Courthouse Line XII: Mock the Vote," in November. But her disease returned in January 2017, and despite her gritty endurance of chemotherapy and other treatments, she succumbed on October 1, 2017.
Her family and friends had a chance to say goodbye, and the tributes they have given her reveal what Cathy meant to so many people she touched during her extraordinary but far too short life. She will never be forgotten.
Cathy is survived by Dave, Steven, and Michael; her mother Gisela; her brothers Greg and Bob O'Neil; and many other relatives who loved her deeply and looked forward to her spectacular Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter, and other gatherings.
The funeral service for Cathy will be held on Monday, October 9, 2017, at 11:00 a.m. at Holy Innocents' Episcopal Church, 805 Mount Vernon Hwy. NW, Atlanta, GA 30327. A reception at the church will follow. Visitation with Cathy's family will be on Thursday, October 5, from 6:00-9:00 p.m. and on Sunday, October 8 from 6:00-8:00 p.m. at the Arlington Chapel of H.M. Patterson & Sons, 173 Allen Rd. NE, Sandy Springs, GA 30328.
In lieu of flowers, those who wish to carry on Cathy's creative legacy may make donations to the Atlanta Bar Foundation, c/o Cathy O'Neil Memorial Bard Show Fund. Please send checks with that notation to the Atlanta Bar Foundation,229 Peachtree St. Suite 400, Atlanta GA 30303, or donate online at atlantabar.org/donations (select the "Cathy O'Neil Memorial Bard Show Fund"). Cathy's family thanks all those who supported her during her life, and all those who have expressed love for her and for them since her passing.

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Published by Atlanta Journal-Constitution from Oct. 4 to Oct. 5, 2017.

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Rod Bergstrom

November 17, 2017

Just learned of Cathy's passing. I asked Jesus, my Lord and Savior, to give her a huge bear hug for me. She was a great person and a better prosecutor. My wife and I were both federal agents and we worked with Cathy when she was a federal prosecutor in Atlanta. In fact, my wife had her first trial with Cathy and together they won a case against a prominent seasoned nationally known attorney that I know for a fact that only Cathy could have won. She just outworked him. It was amazing to watch. She will be dearly missed and I pray that her entire family will heal from their loss.

November 13, 2017

I am so sorry

T

October 29, 2017

Wow Mrs.O'Neil, was amazing. According to the legacy left by her family,and friends she was a jack of all trades. I really enjoyed reading her story although, I am sorry to hear of her passing. She gave everything she had to all her endeavors,and my prayers are forever with her family,and friends. May God be with you all both now,and forever.

Dave Oedel

October 14, 2017

I knew Cathy mostly by reputation, mutual friends, and through her husband's loving accounts of her. I met her only a couple of times. I ordinarily wouldn't be writing anything in a setting like this. But even my modest first-hand knowledge of Cathy made me recognize her immediately as a remarkable human being, long on grace and intelligence, hard working on the job, deeply loving of her family, and exhibiting a flare for the dramatic in the mix. Who would have guessed that this 53-year-old would live out her own tragedy, dying well before her expected time, with so much to live for? For her children, I'm glad that they've had enough years under their belts to appreciate really knowing what a blessing this wonderful person was to the world, and to them in particular. And they will now know that death is not a "distant rumor," famously said to be a common youthful misconception. Well, that misconception has now been extinguished for them. As for Cathy's devoted husband, I can only imagine the pain of this loss. May the peace that passes our understanding be with Cathy, with her children, with her husband. Such an immense loss. My wife Kerry (also 53, which gives me some sense of the raw untimeliness of this tragedy) and I grieve for you all.

S S

October 14, 2017

My deepest condolences at the loss of Cathy, she was truly a special person and will be dearly missed. May the God of all comfort be there for you in your time of grief. (2 Thessalonians 2:16, 17)

AC

October 11, 2017

May God's loving kindness comfort you and help you through this sad and difficult time. Psalms 119:50,76.

October 9, 2017

Janice Scott former CSO and good friend of Cathy She Wii be truly missed

Joanne

October 9, 2017

To the family and friends please accept my condolences know that the God of all comfort feel your pain and sorrows. Isaiah 61:1,2 reads :He sent me (Jesus Christ) to bind up the broken hearted and to comfort all who mourn.

P

October 9, 2017

I never met Cathy reading about her I picture a zealous person who displayed her passion for love and determination for life and others , in a way that God knows is in all of us
How wonderful it must have been to experience that up close
I pray God always keep those memories close to your heart

October 8, 2017

My sincere condolences are with your family in this time of deep sorrow. May God comfort your hearts and give you strength during the difficult days ahead. (2 Thessalonians 2:16,17)
S. Whiting
Atlanta, GA

Tracey North

October 7, 2017

Dear Dave and family:

It was with great sadness that I learned of the passing of Cathy. She was a most remarkable and inspiring woman who truly made a positive impact on the world and the people around her. Her love for her family, her willingness to give of herself to make others happy, and her devotion and service to country will forever be her great legacy. Please accept my sincerest condolences, thoughts and prayers during this difficult and sad time.

October 7, 2017

It can be so hard to face the first year without your loved one, but the love of family and friends can carry you through.

Tina Budnitz

October 6, 2017

David, Steven & Michael: My heart sank this morning reading the paper. I still remember seeing Cathy at preschool drop off for Steven and Noah. She was always smiling, friendly and beautiful. I have no doubt she had a packed schedule most days, but she never once seemed rushed. She always had time to talk to us, Ms. Peggy the teacher, and see Steven off for his day. She was truly an amazing woman and a devoted mom. Our prayers are with you as you celebrate Cathy's life and mourn your immense loss. Tina, Dan, Jacob and Noah Budnitz

October 6, 2017

Sorry to learn the death of Catherine. She will be miss by many family members and friends. May the God who can give comfort and peace give it to family and friends
Fergie

Tina Uhlrich Peters

October 6, 2017

I haven't seen Cathy for many years but have such fond memories of her energy, warmth, and kindness in law school. My heart goes out to her family and friends.

J P

October 6, 2017

To the family and friends please accept my condolences may you find comfort from God's word at Isaiah 61:1,2 He sent me (Jesus Christ) to bind up the broken hearted and to comfort all who mourn.

Family

Karen O'Neil

October 4, 2017

Our hearts are crushed at the loss of Aunt Cathy.
You, Steven, Michael and the entire family will forever be in our prayers.

Karen Raby Monson

October 4, 2017

My thoughts and prayers are with Cathy and her family. She was an amazing powerhouse and a force of nature. Cathy was boundlessly smart and funny, but also showed limitless patience for the rest of us struggling to keep up. I cherish the memories of the Bard shows I worked on with her and know that her legacy will live on.

Fanny Wright Moran

October 4, 2017

I am so very, very sorry. I never knew Cathy, but I did know her mom. My sympathies. Fanny Wright Moran

Larry Anderson

October 4, 2017

Cathy was a wonderful friend and a great federal prosecutor. Jan and I are sending a memorial to the Atlanta Bar Foundation in her name. David and the boys are in our prayers.

Sue Agee

October 4, 2017

Dear Bob and Tami,

We were very sorry to hear of Cathy's passing and will keep the family in our
prayers. Thank you for posting her obituary. After reading of her amazing
accomplishments it is certain that she touched many people in the course of her life.Please accept our sincere condolences, Sue and Tommy Agee

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