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Darren de Boer
December 8, 2024
Hi Mom,
It’s been such a long time since I wrote to you. It’s impossible to list all that has happened since you left but I hope you have been able to watch from above.
How much I miss you can never be put into words. There are moments, smells, sounds that bring you rushing back, but then remind me of how far away you are.
Tante Sigrid should be sharing time with you and Dad, and all our family. I know she was looking forward to seeing you again. She missed you dearly.
Everything else we will share one day when I see you again. You never leave my mind.
Love you always,
Darren
Donna H
December 2, 2024
letter. I thank you for the offer you made me when i was 14 to take my child. i’m sorry but i was much too young. i think if you over the years and where my life would have gone had i chosen differently. Darren’s kids seem to just have loved you. I thank you again for your offer.
Shauni de Boer
October 8, 2024
Hey Grandma,
It´s been a long time. Too long...
I´m 31 now and goodness is life different since the last time I wrote.
Tante Sigrid passed away yesterday. She was able to choose her time and went out with the perfect final words. She told me how lucky I was to have you, but I already knew that . I really hope you two (and everyone else) get to enjoy a short one while catching up. She´s missed all of you so much.
You know, we´ve just passed 16 years since you passed away. I can´t believe it! I actually scrolled down to see some of my passed notes to you (which is silly because I doubt you can get decent wifi wherever you are hehe) and I noticed a common trend- every death that takes place, I immediately thing of you. Your love is something that was irreplaceable. It rocked the foundation of me and I realized that I was never able to find anything close to that.
I was so sad for a long time. I want you to know that I´m better now . I worked very hard to see the beauty of my life and myself. At 31, I didn´t really know where I would end up but you know, I´m pretty proud of myself for where I am. I wait for the day that you visit me in my dreams again. I can´t wait to share what´s new and exciting!
I miss you endlessly. Your love keeps me going though and it will continue until eventually we meet again.
I love you, Grandma Sweetheart
Xo Your Sweetheart
Shauni de Boer
December 8, 2019
Hey Grandma,
I saw you in my dream this morning, with grandpa and dad too! We went through memories in the rumpus room and went to different places all together. When I cried, I curled into your lap and you comforted me as you always did. I had forgotten that feeling.
I got to smell you, touch your warm hands, hear your laugh, hold you in my arms, see your beautiful face, and hear you call me sweetheart once again.
I didn't dare waste any time, but at the end let me know that you and grandpa had to go again.
I have and will always love you, although I would be lying if I said I remembered just how much I could love you. But I remember now and I also remember how much I can miss you.
How lucky am I to have had stolen time with you both? To be able to hold you close once again if only in a dream.
On this rare occasion I am thankful for my lucid dreams as they brought you both back to my heart and showed me you're always with me and I am never without your love.
I miss you more than anything.
But my love for you both is so much more than that.
Please come visit again ♥ & please make sure to visit dad. Warm his heart so much it wakes him up as you did for me.
Don't you forget Grandma Sweetheart, you are my sunshine
Love always,
Your sweetheart
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Darren de Boer
November 30, 2018
Hi Mom. A decade came and went. In those 3000 + days I haven't completed one without thinking about you at least one time. Even when my mind is racing it still stops to let you cross.
I miss you. Always will. You've missed out on so much. I truly hope you see us from the other side.
Love you always.
Darren
Darren de Boer
February 8, 2017
Hi Mom,
Hard to believe it's 9 years this summer...almost a decade of you being gone.
I'm in Texas right now. Beaumont actually. I couldn't sleep and was thinking of you.
I miss you...there are so many times I wish I could call and talk to you or drop by and see you. Caramel passed away last September. I hope she was able to meet up with you. I told her you'd be waiting for her. She was such a good dog. Full of love ❤.
Shauni has grown into such a beautiful woman. I am hoping she finds her passion one day. She does many things that remind me of you. She misses you tremendously.
Nicholas is in grade 10. Although he was only 8 when you died, he still holds the memories he has of you close to his heart.
Anyway...I love you and I wish you were here.
Love,
Darren
Darren de Boer
September 23, 2016
Hi Mom...was thinking of you as I do so very often. Miss you very much :(
Darren de Boer
May 21, 2016
Working EMS tonight....was thinking of you
Nicholas de Boer
October 28, 2015
Hi grandma its Nicholas it been along time since i sent you a message on here hope you are doing well all of us miss you very much i am taller than my mom now which I think is awesome we have been in our new house for a year now its awesome caramel and oreo is doing good i hope you are good taking care of bailey and mystic all of us miss mystic but we know he is doing awesome up their well that's about it hope you are doing well grandma i love you and always miss you.
Darren de Boer
January 4, 2015
Hi Mom,
Well, another Christmas and New Years passed without you....it seems like such a long time since we sat around your tree and shared Christmas together.Christmas to me has never been the same since you left...I have lost much of the joy in Christmas aside from seeing the kids open their presents and the excitement of the season for them.
I am really worried about Dad...his Parkinsons has made him old in a very short time...he forgets things and is pretty shaky on his feet....he misses you a lot. I am really proud of him and his volunteer service with the police. He just finished off his volunteer work with them...now, I'm not sure what he will do with his time. His self confidence has long gone away as this disease continues to weaken him. It scares me to think of him being gone too but, I also never want to see him suffer the way you did.
So many things have happened this past year. So many questions I would have liked to have asked you...Shauni is ill...she has Graves...I am hoping the disease will be kind before it dies off...I am also hoping that she can have her thyroid removed sooner rather than later. She is such a beautiful young woman. She just got a new position at Investors Group and now is in St Albert. you'd be so very proud of her...plus, she has this great job with a Princess company for kids parties...she loves it.
Nicholas has grown so much. He is almost taller than Angele now...and proud of it. He gets his Learner's license this year! Hard to believe he's going to be 14 already. You'd be proud of him too...he's quite the character...but has the same kind of compassion that you possessed...as does Shauni. Sometimes this compassion gets them into trouble as they get walked on...but truly, it is a trait that I cherish in them.
Angele is still fighting with MS...or the symptoms there of. She is a trooper though...she refuses to give into the disease and I envy her strength.
Me...I feel lost most days...like I'm spinning my wheels...I'm not sure why...maybe because of everything that has gone on. I was raised to Master Mason in December...I love the Brotherhood and feel that it will make me a better man...one day. Unfortunately I have your worry streak in me...and I find myself lost in thought many times a day.
Anyway...it was nice to talk with you again...even if it is one sided.
I miss you...
Love always,
Darren
Darren de Boer
September 13, 2014
Hi Mom...sorry, it's been a while since I last wrote. Lot's of things going on here on this side...
I helped save a lady's life tonight...I think you'd be proud.
I miss you Mom...as does everyone...if you can mention that we could use some help health wise, I'd appreciate it.
I try to think of you only in happy memories...stories of our time together and the time you spent with Shauni and Nicholas...if I think of the time that has passed since I was last able to talk with you, the shock of your absence hits me all over again...so I try hard to think about you when I can smile with the memory.
Angele and I laugh at some of the things that happen that remind us of you.
Shauni and Nicholas speak of you often and pause to let you cross their mind.
Anyway, I am rambling now...love you Mom...hope you can see the kids growing into amazing young adults and shine down your love on us.
Love you,
Darren
Angele
September 4, 2014
Was thinking of you today and wanted to let you know that you are never far from our thoughts. We miss you tons and wish you were here to share our adventures with. We have bought a new house and are now "down sizing" if you can believe it...The kids are growing and we don't need the same amount of space anymore. Everything else here on earth is good with the exception of you being here. Hugs!
Nicholas De Boer
October 23, 2013
hi grandma its me Nicholas i miss you so very much and i love seeing you i remember we would play camp and play pretend food i love you so much and i will always remember you forever please speak to me in my dreams and grandpa is doing ok with the police alot i am 12 now miss you love you.
Nicholas
Darren de Boer
June 15, 2012
4 years....5 since you got sick and received the news that your life would end and ours would change forever.
I miss you Mom....just like Shauni...there are so many things I would like to speak with you about...show you...have you there to smile and enjoy.
A day doesn't go by without my mind stopping to let you cross.
Love you...
Shauni De boer
June 15, 2012
Hey grandma,
So. It's officially been four years.
That's really hard.
It really sucks, because all I want lately is to talk to you.
I want to know what you have to say, but even if I ask I know I'll never hear an answer back.
Any who, I hope you see everything good that's going on with us, and I hope you know we wish we could see what is going good with you.
I miss you so very much.
I'm almost nineteen, in less than a month, and I just wish you could see.
I love you so every much grandma, more than anything.
Come see me in my dreams soon?
Xoxo love your sweetheart
Shauni
Angele
June 14, 2012
Well another year without you has come and gone and though the pain is not as much, the hurt of losing you still is. You are remembered in so many ways, and you are never far from our thoughts. The kids are growing like weeds, and becoming into beautiful and well adjusted human beings. Darren is doing well overall as is Mr. D. Life seems to be moving at light speed lately that sometimes you really have to remind yourself to stop and smell the roses....Miss you and hope you are resting comfortably enjoying all that your second life is offering you....
Darren de Boer
May 13, 2012
Hi Mom...
Well, another Mother's Day has arrived without you. It's hard to believe it's already four that we've missed.
Spring has sprung. A couple of your rose bushes continue on. I do the best I can with them but I don't have the green thumb you had. I do however grow some amazing sunflowers! They don't take a lot of care except for water....that's where my success comes from :0)
Sadly...Dad who has done so very well has now been diagnosed with Parkinsons. I have read many things about the disease and the outcome is bleak....but, we will keep it at bay for as long as possible through meds and exercise. He's scared...very scared...but he has chosen to carry on with dignity and pride. I'm proud of him.
Anyway...as always...I miss you. I wish you were here. I am heading to the cemetery today to visit your name...put roses for summer....and continue to tell myself you're not there. Happy Mother's Day Mom. I love you.
Love always,
Darren
Shauni de Boer
March 25, 2012
Hey grandma,
Sorry I don't write much. It's really hard still... Don't know why people say this gets better with time. It doesn't really.
Well I guess the things I can tell you is that I have a great friend named Brittany, everyone loves her! She's hilarious and a great person to be around! Of course, still friends with taryn, and I have almost been with my darling Alexander for a year! He definitely is everything I could ever hope for! He' treats me so well!
I'm upgrading my classes right now so I can get my bachelor or commerce degree!
Other wise, well... Lately it seems to be harder to sleep or stay asleep, it's harder to live without you. I am extremely sensitive when it comes to sicknesses, hospitals, and funerals. All of which have me crying before I can help it. I wish you were here. Mom is in Victoria, angele is of course there, but I wish it could be you sometimes. I can't help but cry even now, it hurts so much to know I won't hear your voice again for a long long time. But I hope tolerance will kick in one day. I miss you terribly.
I hope you miss me too.
Love your little girl
Your sweetheart,
Shauni
Darren de Boer
March 22, 2012
Hi Mom,
So, another birthday has come and gone...68 would have been the number this year. Unfortunately the day no longer brings cake and presents...just silk flowers to decorate the cold niche I visit your name at. I miss you Mom....I am going through some medical things right now and I really missed being able to talk with you.
The family are fine....Dad is doing well and I am proud of how he has taken on the world without you....the kids are good...Shauni still thinks of you all the time and can't seem to shake the fact that you're gone at times. Nicholas...you would be so happy...his memory of you hasn't faded....he still remembers things even I forgot. Angele is finishing up with report card week and cooking a special diet for me. Seems I have some of the Gutte genes in me and I need to work to keep them in check.
I watched a show the other day on ghosts...it all seemed very convincing...until I thought of how you hadn't made contact with us...then all of the convincing just faded away. I know if you could you would have come to visit by now. I hope....where ever you are...you are happy and at peace. No suffering...just joy. That's what I hope for you all the time.
I miss you so...if only we could speak once in a while...
Love you Mom.
Darren
Darren de Boer
July 13, 2011
Hi Mom,
I couldn't write to you on June 14th...it's a day that would be best spent sleeping until the date passes.
Shauni turned 18 yesterday! What a beautiful young lady she has become. She has some of your expressions that remind me of you when she says them. Tante Sigrid called to wish her a happy birthday and said how sad it is that you weren't here to see it. It is sad...you missed her Sweet 16, her graduation from high school and now her 18th. With so many more events to come...I wish you were here to have been a part of her successes and her heartbreaks. She misses you incredibly but even more this year with these milestones taking place. Shauni is what you hoped she would turn out to be...a friendly, courteous, kind woman who always tries to put others feelings ahead of hers. She has also inherited your love of being up late...but also your problems in trying to turn off her mind when her head hits the pillow.
The house is beautiful...we are loving it. Dad seems happy in the condo and happy with the work he is doing with the Police Service. I'm proud of him. He has taken the initiative to do something that helps the community and also helps keep his creative mind healthy. He misses you very much. We all do.
Nicholas has been recalling stories of things you and he did....memories of what you did and how you did them. He hasn't forgotten you at all and speaks of you often.
Angele is still at the School Board and loving it. It was a challenging year for her but she did really well to finish off with another good end.
Me...I wish we could speak. I have so much to tell you....this I suppose is a way of speaking but it seems pretty one sided. I had a long conversation with a Jehovah's Witness the other day. Funny how they, nor any other religion can speak the word but back it up with nothing but a book and buildings with crosses. I don't know...I respect peoples faith...but I can't understand why you had to suffer so much or be taken so young. Maybe I do...the smoking didn't help, that's for sure...but at the same time, it was something that everyone did. Looking back, the death of Elaine and Horst, Uncle Karl should have been a wake up call...but looking back is so easily done when we can't look forward.
I had a chat about ghosts the other day. Said I don't believe in them...because I know if ghosts exist, then you would have come to visit me or one of us by now....nothing. I would love for you to prove me wrong though :)
Anyway, I just felt like talking some.
I miss you...I love you...
Darren
Shauni
June 15, 2011
I cant help but wonder how after 3 years it still feels as though it was the day. Sorry I didn't write yesterday. I couldn't bring myself to.
Grad was perfect. Just wish you had been there to see. I have a boyfriend named Alex. He is amazing. I tell him about you a lot.
I miss you so much.
It's busy. But you are always on my mind.
I love you grandma.
I will see you again.
But not soon.
Please come see me.
I love you.
Xoxo shauni
Angele de Boer
June 14, 2011
Another year has passed, and you are still in our thoughts just as much, if not more. The kids are growing and life is pretty amazing, the only thing missing in it is you...
Lots of love Angele
Darren de Boer
May 25, 2011
I miss you Mom. Say hi to Mr. Beechey for me. Visit me if you can...I'd love to see you.
Darren de Boer
March 17, 2011
Hi Mom,
I wanted to write yesterday but just couldn't find it in me...to wish you a happy birthday is hard as this day is no longer happy for me.
We sold the house, found Dad an amazing condo and are moving into your house. Everyone is happy, the house stays in the family, Dad doesn't have to worry about yard work and we can begin to enjoy this big rock we live on while our time allows.
I miss you Mom...everyday, today but even more yesterday.
Wish you were here...
Darren
Amgele de Boer
March 16, 2011
Thinking of you everyday but especially on your birthday today. You are never far from my thoughts and wish every day that things were different and you were here with us. From my heart to yours wheverever you are, happy birthday special lady! xox
Shauni de Boer
March 13, 2011
Hi grandma!
Graduation is almost here! It's truly exciting. I just wish you would be here to see it all. We have some big changes coming up… it's pretty crazy.
Tonight is hard to look at your picture and think happy. I wish you were here. I have new great friends I wish you could meet I just wish you were here in general. You're everywhere in my memories yet no where in my future, I wish that was different.
I love you grandma and I miss you everyday.
Xoxo your sweetheart
shauni
Angele de Boer
February 3, 2011
Hi Mrs D.....Funny how still to this day i can't take myself away from calling you that.....Thought i would leave you a note to let you know how much you are missed today, as you are every day. There has been so much happening that we wish you could be here for...but i also believe that you are seeing it all from above and smiling proudly...The kids are growing so fast and are turning into amazing little/big people, you would be very proud! I know one of your biggest fears was that Nicholas would not remember you; i wanted to let you know that he still talks about you, thinks about you and wishes you were here...He definately has not forgotten you and promise you that he never will. We will all keep your memory alive and he makes sure to keep you close to his heart.Darren and Mr D are doing well, though it is not the same without you here...I told you i would take care of them, and i will honour that promise forever until my last breath....Love you!
Darren de Boer
January 6, 2011
Hi Mom...it's been a while since I wrote. The third Christmas Eve away from your home has passed....I still miss it. This Christmas was good. The kids were happy and I had some time off to relax after my surgery. I had to have my gall bladder taken out but you know what that was like.
Anyway, I wanted to tell you I miss you. I was able to, with the help of Tante Sigrid, re-create your oatmeal. Now I know it will never be as good as yours, but I tried hard and Shauni has given it her seal of approval.
Shauni's grad pictures are so beautiful. She has become such a beautiful young woman. Her ambition is to become a teacher...we'll see if that path changes again. I think it's a great career choice for her though.
I wish you could be here...but I wish that almost everyday, unless it's a bad day. I'm sorry you have to miss out on Shauni's graduation...and I know she is very sad about that as well. She always wanted to dress shop with you for this special day. Dad decided he wanted to pay for half the dress and it is truly a knockout. Shauni and this dress are made for each other. I feel so bad that you can't be here to see it.
That's it for now...I will be on the road a lot in the next while. The offer to come visit me always stands....maybe you can take me up on it one day.
I love you Mom.
Always,
Darren
January 3, 2011
Hey Grandma,
Just wanted to say i miss you, and my friend nicole is reading over my shoulder so im going to say she says hi... ahahha Wish you could see the way thing are now, im sure you would be proud. Love you lots...
xoxox
Your sweetheart
Shauni
Darren de Boer
December 1, 2010
I wish heaven had a phone, so I could hear your voice again. I thought of you today, but that is nothing new. I thought about you yesterday & days before that too. I think of you in silence, I often speak your name. All I have are memories & a picture in a frame..
Shauni de Boer
September 5, 2010
Grandma? Why is this getting harder for me? I work at Toys R Us and everytime I see a grandma and her grand daughter, I tear up... Is there a way I can get you back? Its now shortly passed two years and it feels like its been two days... I know you were the one with the cancer, but with this pain making my heart heavy, I feel as though I've had it too, and only parts of me are left in this world.
The rest of me is with you. I have a hard time admitting that...I try and smile but normally I'm not okay. If it weren't for dad I dont know what i would be. We're closer than ever and I'm so grateful to have a father that is as loving and caring as he is for me. He is my best friend, out of everyone. I wish you could see it. We have matching dexter shirts [favorite TV show] Private jokes, and respect. Come see me soon please... I need you home.
Shauni de Boer
May 27, 2010
Why is it, now that everytime someone passes, it brings back the pains of you being gone? Why is it that when ever i think of you I cant help but let tears fog my eyes and wet my cheeks?
Just a little bit ago, just about a week ago, i had a dream about you when you went into the half curled hair look.[you know where its brushed down on the top and curly on the bottom] You looked the best that i had seen in a long time... considering i havent seen you in a long time.
But thank you. It was a dream i could wake up from with a smile on my face.
By the way. Happy Mothers Day. A bit late I know, but i thought about you;
So many things going through my head.
but its late. i had a super bad head ache [still trying to get over this flu-thing] i took an advil, its helped a bit. but i think im going to head to bed. Please come see me. I would really like that. Love it actually... Dads travelling and will be back tomorrow night late though. Aslong as he's home.
OH!
I think for the first time I've experience home sickness. i went to grandma marlenes and all of a sudden i wanted to be home with dad... I love Grandma, Mom, Kristi, And Josh; But i just wanted to be home with my dad.
anyways its time to sleep. I'll write later...
I Love You and miss you very much.
Love your one and only sweetheart.
Shauni. xoxo
Shauni de Boer
April 29, 2010
Grandma,
I'm sorry I haven't really wrote to you, I talk to your picture a lot knowing youre right there listening. thank you for visiting the last while, i know it was you because only you could turn on my christmas music box, I refuse to put it away because I know thats how you tell me you're here.
Its almost the end of Grade 11 for me, (if i have typing errors, its because the computer I'm on stinks)
But yes, I miss you like you wouldnt believe, i write about you in everything i can, thats the reason im on the computer right now actually =)
but i still cant cope with it properly... Grandma, I need you. So does dad and grandpa. Its hard to be without you. Yes i still wake up in the morning but most of the time i wonder why i bother anymore. i know you want me to be happy, but you were everything to me, and well.. i cant keep typing or I'llcry and i dont want to do that in class haha.
I'm going to banff tomorrow with my school (dance, band, and guitar) doing a whole bunch of things! im Excited, I'm making sure to bring your picture so you can see it too.
I love you very much grandma. One Day (long from now) i will see you again,
You know you're so important to me; even now. and i will never forget you, or everything that you have done with/for me.
OH! i colored my hair a nice light blonde AND i have purply-pink streaks =]
My mom tells me i remind her of you a lot, and that you were a very beautiful person. I tell my friends about you all the time.
Dads out of town right now, but hes thankfully coming home tonight. I worry when he's gone, just like you did.
I have a boyfriend right now =)i wish you could have met him. Of course he can be annoying =P but thats okay, hes very good to me,
I really do miss you though. More than anyone could knoww... well maybe dad and grandpa know but yeah lol. and tante sigrid... When i went to her 75th birthday it was alot of fun!.. although i didnt really see any pictures of you and her... =( , but i know that you were on her mind all the time =].
Anyways my teachers looking so i must go.
I love you grandma,
Please come visit me again soon, and maybe next time dont go into my bad dream. (sorry about that)
Anyways, I'll write soon!
Love your sweetheart,
Shauni xoxo.
Angele de Boer
December 29, 2009
hi,
Just wanted to leave you a little note to let you know how often you are thought about and missed so much. I feel you here every now and then and i thought it would scare me; but it doesn't. Christmas was good this year; however not the same without you. Nothing will ever be the same...Thinking about you lots and missing you always. Love Angele
July 24, 2009
Hi Mom,
We just got back from Florida. It was the best holiday ever but it was missing you. You would have so enjoyed watching the kids at the pool and watching Shauni's face light up as we sat down for her sweet 16 dinner.
Dad gave Shauni the necklace and pendant he had made for you. It looked beautiful on her but it made her cry. She misses you so much.
Anyway, I was just thinking of you, as I do everyday and thought I'd write and say thank you for the beautiful holiday. I wish you were here....
Love,
Darren
Darren de Boer
June 16, 2009
Hi Mom,
Well, the day came and went. I didn't really know what to do. I wasn't sure if I was supposed to follow some type of protocal or guideline so I did what I thought was right. I lit your candle at home to let you know that I was thinking of you, Dad and I went to the General to visit the nurses who took care of you and then we went and put new flowers on Oma and Opa's grave. I didn't know for sure what you did on the anniversary of your Mom's death and you really didn't tell me other than when the day came up.
Anyway Mom, I wish you could have coached me a little more on how to deal with things. I'm not very good at not having you around. I have changed a lot and I have trouble enjoying things now. I don't know...maybe it's a normal part of the grieving process? I just know I miss you and miss telling you about things that have been going on with the kids. Nicholas is almost done grade 2 already. He still speaks of you and his memory of you is still strong. I know you were worried that he wouldn't remember you...but I make sure that he hears about you and the stories of what you did with him. Shauni is finishing off grade 10. She is beautiful, but you know that already. She misses you so much. I wish I could take her pain away. More so, I wish you could. Her sweet sixteen is coming up fast and she will be spending it in Disneyworld thanks to Dad. I think she is very excited but very sad at the same time that you will not be here for her. I guess she may be a little angry as well that you passed away. We know you had to....so the suffering would stop. It's just hard not having you here for all of these special occassions.
Anyway, I love you Mom. I miss you so much and I wish you were here.
Love to you always.
Darren
Angele de Boer
June 14, 2009
It's hard to believe that it has already been one year since we lost a huge part of our family. You are missed every day and are thought of all the time. Darren and the kids are not doing too bad, they have their good days and their bad days but they certainly miss you lots, as we all do. Mr D is doing okay, he tries to keep busy but you can tell that he has a hard time getting used to his new "normal"..I hope you have found Uncle Gerdi, and Uncle Karl up above and you are all sitting together having fun and missing us as much as we miss you.
June 2, 2009
Hi Mom,
You and Dad would have celebrated your 47th anniversary today. I can't believe that our family picture was taken 2 years ago already. I also can't believe you have been gone for almost a year.
Dad is doing okay. He misses you a lot and tries to occupy his time. He is taking us to Disney World in July. I wish you could be here. You're missing so many things.
Anyway, I wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you today, as I do everyday.
Love you Mom.
Darren
May 27, 2009
Hi Mom,
I couldn't write to you on Mother's Day. I visited your grave and spoke with you but it wasn't the same. I was a little mad that you aren't here anymore and that I don't have a Mom to spoil or spend the day with....oh well. Life changes. I hope there is a Heaven and maybe you could spend Mother's Day with your Mom. Anyway, Shauni gets her braces off tomorrow, Nicholas had his shots yesterday for what he thought were hemmorhoids. I know that would have brough a smile to your face.
Aside from that, I miss you. More than words to say or write. I hope you can hear or feel me.
Happy Mothers Day to you in your book. I wished it to you at the cemetery and thought I should make mention of it here as well.
I love you and miss you Mom.
Your loving Son,
Darren
Darren de Boer
March 17, 2009
Hi Mom,
It's hard to believe that yesterday you would have celebrated your 65th birthday. It makes me angry that you aren't here, that I couldn't put together a big "65" party, instead bringing a memento to hang from your niche. I hope you can hear or feel me as you are thought of always. Dad was very sad yesterday, as were all of us. I still have trouble believing you aren't here anymore. Anyway, if you can hear this, or hear my thoughts, we love you and wish you were here. What should have been your celebration is just a sad reminder to us that there is nothing to celebrate. I love you Mom.
Angele de Boer
March 16, 2009
Just a little note from little old me...You are thought of today and every day for everything and for nothing at all...I feel you in the things we do, in the way the kids behave or things they say and it is a reminder every day of how much you are missed. It gives me comfort to know you are not in pain any longer but still hurts with the reality that you are not here, just a phone call away. I love you and miss you today and every day since this you became the next victim to this ugly disease.
Darren de Boer
March 8, 2009
Hi Mom,
You were in my thoughts today, as you are everyday. I miss you...
Joe de Boer
February 23, 2009
HI sweetheart. I miss you so much, but I know you can her me, when I talk to you.Some days are long and lonely, but Darren, Angele and the Kids are taking good care of me. I found this poem and I would like to share it with you.
Love always
Joe
In My Pocket
I have memories in my pocket.
They rattle among the change.
My memories of you are treasures I carry wherever I go.
They are stored in bits and pieces, parts of a beautiful whole
They give me comfort when I think I am alone.
Yes, I have memories in my pocket, like so much other stuff I keep there.
But of all the treasures I have, it’s the memories of you that are the most precious.
Darren de Boer
February 14, 2009
Hi Mom,
It's hard to believe it's already Valentine's Day and you've been gone for eight months already. Dad seemed lost today but he did well all considered. Shauni noticed that the card Grandpa gave her was the same one that you and Dad gave her last year. That seemed to give her a sense of comfort and sadness at the same time.
Today I showed Nicholas where you lived when you were a girl. He thought the house was very big. I don't think he understands the sizes of houses yet.
Anyway, you were on my mind, as you always are and I thought I'd write to you.
Happy Valentine's Day Mom. I miss you.
Love Darren
Darren de Boer
January 5, 2009
Hi Mom,
It's hard to believe it's been almost seven months since you left us.
Christmas was very empty without you this year as it was last year. I do take solace in the fact that this Christmas you weren't suffering anymore. If only I had known that Christmas 2006 would have been our last Christmas Eve at your house, having our wonderful traditional Christmas with the warmth and comfort of home.
We did the best we could this year. Dad was invited to Red Deer and he seemed to enjoy it but his thoughts were far away thinking of you. Shauni had a very tough time without you and she still talks to you almost everyday.
I know you were worried that Nicholas wouldn't remember you but he does in so many ways. Even yesterday, Angele brought home some Italian cookies and right away, Nicholas said "those are the cookies Grandma used to buy".
I miss you Mom. I so wish you were here. I so wish we could go back to 2006 and have done so much more to celebrate our last Christmas at home. I wish many things...but to no avail.
I hope when we speak and think of you, you can hear and feel us. Our love is all around and we still feel your presence in so many ways.
I love you and I hope to see you again one day. I miss you so much.
Love Always,
Darren
Ursula de Boer 1944-2008
July 16, 2008
Barbie Trink & Fred Arbuckle
June 20, 2008
Aunt Ursula (Tante Ulli) left us much too young. She will always be in my heart as one of the kindest, nicest, hardest working, giving and loving persons of my life. She is an inspiration to us all. She made the most of every moment of everyday. I will miss her so very much.
Alexis Fundas
June 19, 2008
Dear Joe, Darren, Angele, Shauni, Austin and Nicholas,
You are much in our thoughts as you mourn the loss of Ursula. We know you will miss her so much, even though there is comfort in knowing she is at last released from her suffering.
We will always remember your kindness to our mom while she was in hospice - you never failed to bring out her smile. We often think of the support you gave us and of the warmth of your friendship. You are a very special family.
We hope all your memories will be of great comfort to you in the days ahead. With deepest sympathy,
Georgia, Alexis and Helen
Barbie Trink & Fred Arbuckle
June 19, 2008
My Aunt Ursula (Tante Ulli) passed on way too young. She will always be in my heart as one of the kindest, nicest, giving, hardest working and loving persons in my life. She is an inspiration to us all. She made the most of every momment of everyday. I will miss her so much.
madeline & peter porsnuk
June 19, 2008
Please accept our deepest sympathies.
madeline & peter porsnuk
June 19, 2008
Please accept our deepest sympathies.she was great lady.and i will miss her.
Linda Thompson
June 19, 2008
I'm sorry to hear about Ursula. I know like mom she's in a much better place.Also thank you for putting so many smiles on Queenies face.
Maureen Orchard
June 18, 2008
Joe, it seems like it was a long time ago that you comforted my family in our loss of Mom, Helen Forwick. But it was only on March 1 that Mom passed away. I have thought about you and your family every day since then. I hope that you and all of your family will find some solace that Ursula is in a better place. God bless you all.
Maureen, Don, Angela, Vanessa and Jim
Laurel Kuntz
June 18, 2008
Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
Your friendship and assistance you gave our mother, Georgina will be remembered always.
Chris & Rebecca Webber
June 17, 2008
Joe, Darren and family; our hearts go out to you. We told your mom that you guys will be taken care of and that we will support you in whatever you need...we are here for you ALL. Ursula... we meant every word we said on Saturday, Rest in Peace.Love always, Chris and Rebecca
Kelly Ness
June 17, 2008
To the de Boer Family...My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort and help heal your hearts in the moments ahead.
Frank and Debbie de Boer
June 17, 2008
Our hearts are heavy and not a day has gone by without us thinking of all of you. Ursula my only regret is that I never got to know you sooner, I like to think that we would have liked each other. I promise that I will keep your family close.We know that you are in a special place now and no longer in pain.
We are so sorry that we can't be there to help you send Ursula on her final journey, you are all in our thoughts and prayers.
Love
Marilyn Kearney-Blais
June 17, 2008
My heartfelt sympathy goes out to your loving family.
Your family gave support and friendship to other patients and families in their time of need.
Know that you will always be fondly remembered by our family for your kindness to Merle.
May Ursula's Love be with you--all the days of your lives.
Fr Thomas , Diakonia Donna Stefanyk
June 17, 2008
"And God will wipe every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, not sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away."
REVELATION 21:4 NKJV
May you find comfort in knowing that all the burdens of Urslua's life have passed away, and all the joys of heaven have arrived!
In Christian Consolation, Sympathy and Hope
Petra, Brad, Kristen and Derek
June 17, 2008
Our thoughts and prayers have been with you through these difficult final months. Remember the good times and the joy and love she brought to your lives. We'll remember her as a special lady. Please accept our deepest sympathies.
Angele de Boer
June 17, 2008
It all still seems so sureal that you are gone...You fought the battle to the end overcoming many odds...you never lost the battle against cancer..losing only happens when you give up, which is something you never did. You are a true inspiration...Thank you for letting me be a part of your life and of your family. I love you and will miss you dearly...I promised you then and i will again...I will take care of shauni and the boys for you..promise!
Rob, Marcia Ziccarelli & Family
June 17, 2008
To the De Boer Family,
Our thoughts and our prayers are with you during this time of grief. We wish you much peace to know that she is done fighting and can now rest. We are always here to give you friendship and support. Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help at this time, or the days down the road.
Your neighbors,
June 17, 2008
Darren de Boer
June 17, 2008
You'll always be in my heart and your spirit lives on inside us.
Bye Mom...I'll miss you.
Doreen Leask
June 17, 2008
Dear Uncle Joe; Darren; Angele; Shauni; Austin; Nicholas
So many words to say and no real way to say them. (Tante) Ulli will be dearly missed by all of us and will be forever in our hearts. May all your cherished memories bring you comfort.
Love Lisa, Doreen, Tuffy and Amanda
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