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Daniel "Danny" Parmenter was the kind of person who was always helping others out. He was always offering people rides to class, helping friends with homework or doing community service, said Pi Kappa Alpha chapter president Jason Garcia.
The 20-year-old sophomore from Westchester was studying finance at NIU, and sold ads for the campus newspaper. The paper's adviser, Maria Krull, described him as a "gentle giant."
The last time she saw him, he was stretched out on "an old beat-up couch" in the newspaper's offices. She teased him about having his feet on the furniture. "I said, 'Danny, you know better than that.'"
"The thing about Danny was, if he was in the office and I needed something done, I just had to mention it to him and he would do it," Krull said. "I knew I didn't have to worry."
Copyright © 2008 The Associated Press
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May 31, 2014
“For here I am creating new heavens and a new earth; and the former things will not be called to mind, neither will they come up into the heart." Isaiah 65:17. Comforting words to help us appreciate God's willingness to rectify our losses, allay our fears, and diminish evil acts of any kind here to come forever.
Tom Catalano
June 9, 2013
I never met you Daniel, but I am a Frat Bro of your father Gary, Sigma Pi, NIU.He is very proud of you, and a lot stronger than myself and others. I wish I had the opportunity to meet.God Bless!
August 22, 2012
Miss you<3
Michelle D
July 16, 2012
Daniel did such a courageous act in taking his own life to save another. That's definitely an act that will forever be remembered. May Daniel's parents be proud of their son; for they raised an amazing MAN. I wish I knew him, and unfortunately with his tragic passing, I now feel like I do. There's nothing you need to say about a hero because their legacy lives on forever. Daniel deserves to be remembered and I know he is every second of every day.
God Bless his family and every one who knew him.
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Phyllis Manion
March 5, 2012
Our sincere condolences on the loss of your son, Danny. You are in our hearts, thoughts and prayers.
Phyllis Manion & family
Bloomfield NJ
carolyn
March 3, 2012
mMY CONDOLENCES TO YOU ALL AT THIS TRAGIC TIME GOD BLESS YOU ALL!
sarah L
February 29, 2012
so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful boy, may he rip. May the good Lord hold and comfort you through this very trying time. God bless you all.
jennifer feldman
February 27, 2012
My heart goes out to the Parmeter family. My daughter also underwent surgery for a heart defect, so I am familiar with the feeling of how precious each day with Daniel must have been, only to end in this frightening way. I hope that his family gets the justice that they deserve.
Helen Bystroff
February 27, 2012
Horrible and unspeakable Deja Vu. I cannot believe it happened again. There are no words to express my sorrow and grief. My heart and prayers are going up to the victims' families and their friends. Nothing like this should happen to anyone at any point of life. I am divested and hope that all children will go through that and carry out with their lives but always remember what happen at their school and all who got affected by that.
Karina Stark
February 20, 2012
I cant believe what happened to this young man, i am so sad, i just came across this story and i am in shock, god bless his soul :( what an incredible person, and what an unfair end to his life.
February 19, 2012
Great guy
Andrea Chavez
February 17, 2012
I just read his story and was moved to tears. He was the perfect example of a Gentlemen, A hero, a testament to his upbringing. Your family will be in my prayers. I Know God will surround & fill you with the peace that surpasses all understanding. God Bless
Taylor
February 17, 2012
What an incredible story of a devastating tragedy. This man should always be remembered of more than fondly, and may he rest in peace.
LUCY SPINOZA
February 16, 2012
I just read his story in 9gag, what a brave young man , R.I.P.
Jennifer Bishara
February 16, 2012
I don't know what to say............this is so overwhelming. All I can say is that I am touched by this young man's bravery and complete unselfishness. May he be in God's loving embrace.
AM
February 16, 2012
A real hero, god bless
February 16, 2012
I read the story of Daniel's passing on facebook. He was an incredible and brave man. I'm so sorry to his family and friends for the loss of such an amazing person. I hope you can find peace in such a horrible tragedy.
M Ainsworth
February 16, 2012
As some others that have posted, I came across this article on Facebook and was so moved by the content I had to learn more.
We don't often hear of these tragically beautiful things that people do for those they love; I am humbled and thankful that there are people like you still around.
You are an inspiration to the world, and my thoughts and condolences go out to your family, girlfriend and friends... it seems you were a wonderful person and loved by many. Rest in peace.
Laurie
February 16, 2012
No words can express the deepness of the sorrow, the wideness of the love, the vast river of outpouring sympathy to Daniel's family and friends. May we all stop and recognize what true self-giving means. May we honor Daniel's life by trying our best to live this way. Many, many prayers being said.....
Heather G
February 16, 2012
Just saw your story. Blessings to your family. Even 4 years later you memory still lives on.
Olivia
February 16, 2012
R.I.P a true hero your story is being told all over the world Lets hope we can stop the violence!
Deb Openheimer
February 16, 2012
sending condolences to the family & friends of this young HERO that lost his life in such a tragedy. May Daniel rest in Peace & may the family & friends be granted the strength to get thru this
the world would be a far better place if there were more people like Daniel that think of Others first
May Angels watch over everyone & give them peace & strength to get thru this
an Amazing young man indeed, the parents should be very proud of him, I know I would be if he were my son
Condolences to his girlfriend as well, may God give you the strength to get thru all of this
Sincerely Deb
Ashley Cruz
February 16, 2012
Daniel,
It's hard for me to try and find the right words to say right now. My heart is breaking and I'm trying to hold back the tears. My cousin, Lauren, died in the Columbine shooting of 1999. I think of her often. She was a brilliant student with a big future in front of her. Her life ended too soon. School shootings outrage me. I am a senior in college and to this day, I fear this very thing happening at any given moment. And so I can sympathize, and I can feel and relate to the pain your family and friends must be going through right now. Sometimes, it hard to understand why these things happen to such innocent people. It's a tragedy. But you are a hero and an angel. I'm inspired by your love and devotion. Your girlfriend will forever remember the love you had for her and be thankful to you. You will always be remembered. I'll be praying for your family. May God comfort your friends, family, and community during this difficult time. We remember Columbine. And now we remember NIU. Rest in peace with your father Daniel.
February 16, 2012
Rest in Peace. You inspire us all. You made the ultimate sacrifice, and for you. I don't believe it's over. You'll live on in all our hearts and minds.
Justin
February 16, 2012
"Greater love hath none than this: that he lay down his life for his friends." We don't understand and it hurts, but what a touching story. You can't give up your life for a better reason than that...
Vicki Mahkorn
February 15, 2012
a remarkably selfless young man....sacrificing his life for his sweetheart.... what greater love.... you are guaranteed a place in heaven Daniel
robert Thompson
February 15, 2012
I happened across your son's name in a Facebook post from some kids I know from UMBC in MD.I thought I would extend my condolence. A small article explained how your son protected his girl friend. I commend you for raising a fine son. I hope I've done as good a job with my children. I just wanted to let you know his bravery is being hailed by people 850 miles away.
Jessica Cousins
February 15, 2012
I just heard about this, and have to say that I was truly touched by this. What a horrible thing to happen, but what an amazing heart you had. You saved a life, and you have now touched hundreds, if not thousands by your selfless actions. I read you even called your mother right before it happened, and I hope this fact can cause a little more peace with your family. You are a courageous, kind spirit, and that is how you will be remembered everywhere. Rest in Peace.
Regina Back
February 15, 2012
Bless your heart . RIP
Your a hero <3
Kasey H
February 15, 2012
Fly high with the angels Danny... you are the perfect example of what a good fiance' or husband or even boyfriend would do!! Save a place up there for me!!
February 15, 2012
Your son was a true and respectable young man. God bless your family.
Wendy M
February 15, 2012
R.I.P. Daniel. Your girlfriend was so lucky to have you and you're a great man. Your story was very touching and may you find happiness in heaven.
Aneta J
February 15, 2012
rip beautiful soul
February 15, 2012
Rest in Peace Daniel Parmenter. Your example and your character are beautiful and I was really touched by your love for your girlfriend and your family.
Steve
February 15, 2012
Would have done the same for my girlfriend, great instincts just wished they were used some other way. RIP
carol harris
February 15, 2012
I am greatly appreciative that in the year 2012 Daniel's story is still being told and is honestly amazing every time I read it. It always brings tears to my eyes and knowing that there are still people in this world willing to sacrifice their life for the sake of others makes me believe there is still hope for people in today's world. I certainly hope Daniel's story continues to touch lives of today, tomorrow, and many days to come.
Tara Blonde
February 15, 2012
I have read this all the way up in Canada, this has touched mine and so many peoples hearts. May he rest in peace, and I my condolences to the family and girlfriend, be strong like he was. Always will be in my thoughts,
Ruth Musgrave
February 15, 2012
I just read your story today on facebook and was so touched by your love and heroism that I had to come here to offer my sympathy to your family and friends for your loss. I'm praying God's blessings for your family and loved ones. You will never be forgotten.
February 15, 2012
You are a true hero.
Joan Rosebush
February 15, 2012
I light this candle for you, Daniel!
Ryan Sykora
January 3, 2011
Danny,
To this day I still talk about what an incredible influence you had, and still have, on my life. Not a day goes by where I don't think of you. Being such a great friend of mine has made it tough for me to cope with losing you but I know you would want me to remember your life, not how it was taken. Man, whenever I come across a conflict in my life I always think to myself.... What would Dan have done? I should get a W.W.D.D. bracelet. Haha you've helped me more times then Im willing to admit so don't get all cocky about it when I see you again. When its my time to go I hope that I can look in the mirror and say to myself, "You were a tenth of the man Dan was." If I can then I will have surpassed almost every man whoever walked the earth. Its beyond me how you were able to accomplish 10 times more in 20 years then i hope to accomplish in a lifetime. But that's what made you, you. You touched many lives buddy. I am so honored to have had such a great friendship with you for as long as we did. Not only did your family and friends lose something special that day, the world did, they just didn't get the opportunity to know why. They say the world doesn't stop for anyone. Had you been able to live out your life I am absolutely positive the world would have come grinding to a halt.... I just wish that the world would have been given that opportunity.
I miss you Danny.... i miss you.
Vasili
June 24, 2010
Daniel Parmenter is a true hero! He is a direct descendant of the American Revolution and the Mayflower! He is the extremely distant cousin of the another hero, Gary Michael Joy!
Pam McCord
February 14, 2010
I watched today as the Parmenter family lay a wreath on the memorial to their son, the second anniversary of their loss. I wondered to myself as I watched if I could portray such images of strengh after such a loss. It is evident Daniel left behind a wonderful family who misses him dearly. You remain in my prayers.
February 10, 2010
As another year passes I think of Dan and pray for strength for his family.I know his soul rests well in Gods care.
Peace and hugs from another Eagle,Duke football mom.
April 10, 2009
Easter Blessings to the Parmenter family. The Lord is risen! Keeping you all in prayer as we all miss Daniel, an amazing guy.
Allison
February 16, 2009
Daniel is deeply missed and for some reason when we talk about the NIU shooting at school, Daniel comes to my mind. He could be considered a hero for protecting his girlfriend. Although he is not here to witness the sadness and grief we have, he is missed.
Judy F
February 12, 2009
Dear Parmenter family, I too have been touched with sadness from your loss. I was in the same accounting class as Daniel, even though i did not personally know him, i feel as though i did. I will keep Daniel in my prayers. God bless.
Art Ravaschietto
February 10, 2009
To Daniel and his family may God be with you in your time of sorrow
December 27, 2008
Miss you and love you.
Vicky Lee
September 3, 2008
I have been fortunate enough to talk to several people who were friends with Daniel; they spoke of him with the highest regard, stating his kind and loyal nature. NIU lost a promising young Husky that day whom we shall never forget. My deepest condolences to the family and friends of Daniel.
Alicia Fee
July 30, 2008
hes a real hero. he wasnt even suppose to be in tha class, and he protected his girlfriend. now thats a real man.
Khel, Jeff & Oz Smith
June 27, 2008
Dear Parmenter Family,
Our heartfelt sympathy to your family and friends,
You are all in our thoughts and prayers.
May time heal you all and bring you all the graces,
loving guidance of our God and strength in tough
times like this in wonderful memories of your amazing Daniel.
God bless all your heart.
Lloyd D. Mitchell
June 22, 2008
I was browsing the net and came across this tragedy and just felt sick to my stomach because things of this nature has happened too often. My heart goes out to all those friends and family members of this fine young man Mr. Daniel Parmenter.
May he rest in peace.
Sheila
June 15, 2008
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family this Father's Day. Your son sounds like he was an amazing kid and a great example to live by. Peace to you
angel k
June 14, 2008
Dear Parmenter Family, I'm a girl from Malaysia(that's in Asia) and eventhough I never knew Daniel, he really touched my heart. When I read about the shooting and I read about him, I just cried. I think about him sometimes and I feel sad that I never got to know him. I have prayed for him and I hope you found peace in the Lord, and from knowing Daniel is with God now. God be with you. God bless you.
May 8, 2008
Anthony Nelson
April 26, 2008
Even though i did not know Dan well he was on the football team with me, and even though i did not play with him, he was still a teammate, and that ill never lose, i am sorry for your loss. Dan is a true hero for the selfless act he did to save another life
Brian Glover
March 29, 2008
No words can express the sympathy I would like to convey. I did not know Daniel, but admire and praise the spirit and character of the man that he would have become. His senseless death has touched many and his courage will forever stand as a tribute to those who loved and nurtured him. My sincere condolences to the family and many friends of of this HERO!
March 28, 2008
Wow! He wasn't even in the class. His instinct was to cover his girl friend to protect her. What a REAL MAN AND HERO.
Vickie Kerr
March 3, 2008
Dear Parmenter Family,
We were so sorry to hear of your loss. Although we did not know Daniel, we knew his father. Our deepest sympathy to your whole family. Daniel sounded like such a nice young man.
Carolynne Bombaro
March 2, 2008
I didn't know you Dan until listening to a sermon from my pastor in Philadelphia. I didn't know you were one of the 5 people shot on Valentine's Day until my pastor described you holding your girlfriend's hand & praying before you were taken. I will never forget you now. There is comfort knowing you are @ peace.
R Davis
February 27, 2008
My deep condolence for your loss. What can one say at a time like this when a loved one has fallen a sleep in death. The Bibble give us must comfort and a promise hope for the earth at Matthew 6:9,10 Jesus promise that under God Kingdom that he ask us to pray for the earth will be come a paradsie and there will be no more sickness,crime or death. Our loved will be have a resurrection to this paradise earth and will live in peace forever. Daniel will be one that has that hope.
Joy and Steve McKelvie
February 27, 2008
Dear Parmenter Family:
We do not know Dan but our daughter is a NIU student and a member of Delta Gamma Sorority. She knew Dan and spoke highly of him..
Our thoughts and prayers are with you.God Bless.
Tom Gugliuzza-Smith
February 27, 2008
My heartfelt sympathy to the Parmenter family in the loss of Daniel.
Anthony Celaya-Silva
February 26, 2008
Dear,
Parmenter family,
Dan is a true angel from God. May he be glorified by the love he showed his family and friends. My deepest sympathy to your family. We are
huskies, we stand together, we unit together, were as one family. I am
sadden by the lost of Dan a Huskie brother. God bless your family in
your time of need.
Anthony Celaya-Silva class of 99
Nikki Azemopoulos
February 26, 2008
Although I did not personally know your son, I hear such wonderful things about him. My heart goes to you and your family. I send my deepest condolences.
Nicole
February 26, 2008
May angels be surrounding you with endless love and warmth Daniel. My deepest condolences go out to your family. May love and strength carry through these challenging moments.
Daniel Levesque
February 26, 2008
Hi
Our deepest condoleances to all members of the family
Paul
February 26, 2008
Linda and family,
My daughter became friends with Dan in the past year (she is a Tri-Sig with Jesse) and she has shared with us some wonderful comments and feelings. It seems there is an amazing amount of people who feel the same way as she. Please accept our sympathies and best wishes.
A STAIRWAY TO HEAVEN
February 25, 2008
Sister Joanne Kaminski
February 25, 2008
My prayers and those of my fellow Felician Sisters here in Enfield, Connecticut are with you. May our merciful God console you and give you strength in these most difficult days.
Sue Miller
February 25, 2008
I do not know your family.
But may god bless you and all the others family
irene honig
February 25, 2008
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Debbie
February 25, 2008
No bond is as great as that between a parent and child. My deepest condolences are with you as you grieve.
Jory Bowling
February 25, 2008
I send my deepest sympathies to you and your family. As a NIU & Sigma Kappa alum, my heart aches for you, Lauren & her family, and all those affected by this tragedy. I did not know Dan, but from everything I've read and seen, Daniel was the kind of guy everyone should strive to be like. It's sad that the world has lost such a positive human being, but I'm sure he will be guiding all of us from heaven. My prayers are with you.
Sigma Kappa Alum '99
Gallagher
February 24, 2008
To the Parmenter Family,
My son is a Pike at NIU and on the tugs team too. He was inspired by Dan, and all of you during this difficult time. Please accept our heartfelt condolences.
The Gallagher Family
February 24, 2008
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Senior Prom
February 24, 2008
Michele Pecenka
February 24, 2008
Dear Linda and family
Linda I worked with you at West Sub back in the 80's, in fact you were pregnant when I left. When I saw his name in the news I prayed it wasn't your son, then I saw his picture and there was no doubt since he looks so much like you. My heart breaks for you. A mother should never have to feel the pain you must be feeling. After reading so much about him, I know you must be so proud of the beautiful, respectful young man you raised. So many accomplishments in his short life. I can only pray that brings you some peace. Take care and God bless you and your family.
Michele Marchetti Pecenka RN
February 24, 2008
Please accept our sincere condolences to your family from a fellow PIKE brother. Your son and brother will be missed by all of us.
Eta Theta, Weber State University
Flores Family
Olympia
Elena Jones
February 23, 2008
Parmenter family and friends,
My deepest sympathy on the loss of Dan. He no doubt was an outstanding young man who had so many wonderful qualities. Even as he faced tragic circumstances, his deep faith shown through. Our daughter graduated NIU this past Dec so my husband and I have spent 4-1/2 years on the campus, which is full of so many good people. Dan was certainly one of the best. May God give you strength and surround you with loving people.
Angela Perrilles, 1992
February 23, 2008
To the family and girlfriend of Daniel Parmenter,
My deepest sympathies for your terrible loss. May God bless you always.
In my thoughts and prayers,
Beca Banks
February 23, 2008
As a teenager, I have personally faced a gunman threat at my high school this past Apirl, right after VT. I can't imagine the pain of losing someone this way. My heart reaches out the family and friends of Dan and the others who lost their lives. You have been in my prayers and will continue to be.
Craig Warneke
February 23, 2008
On behalf of the founders of the Eta Nu chapter of Pi Kappa Alpha Fraternity at N.I.U.,I would like to express my heartfelt condolences to the family of Dan Parmenter.I know it is a cliche to many,but we are brothers in Phi Phi K A. Others cannot possibly understand.
Mercy Bautista-Olvera
February 23, 2008
Dear Daniel Parmenster parents and family.
As a mother of five with a son and daughter still at home and going to college, it worries me. We send our kids to get a better education so they can be successful in life, not knowing what's out there, we think is a safe place, but the reality is that we live in a world that has many challenges, including the unknown. There are no words that would ease your pain right now, but time would make it easier. I lost a newborn baby boy long ago and know the pain of losing a child. We lose our parents, spouse but there is nothing more painful than losing a child. Know that I would be praying for you to have comfort on this trying time for you. Our Lord would help you...
Vaya con Dios Daniel...
Colin Gray
February 23, 2008
Fare well dear flowers, sweetly your time ye spent,
Fit, while ye lived for smell or ornament,
And after death for cures.
I follow straight without complaints or grief,
Since if my scent be good, I care not,if
It be as short as yours.
Geroge Herbert
2 Corinthians 2:14-16
Sue Rohrer
February 22, 2008
Dan's story, and your loss, have touched me deeply. Please know, in these coming difficult days and months, that the story of his spirit and soul, and of his courage under fire, were a shining light in this dark story. People across the country, and especially those of us with ties to NIU and northern Illinois communities, are praying for you all.
Lynne Perman Schneider
February 22, 2008
To the Parmenter Family,
As a mother of three teenagers, the pain that I feel for you and your family cannot be expressed in words. Please know, that although we are strangers who will probably never meet, we are not strangers in our feelings of love towards our children.
May time heal you and bring you peace in the loving memories of your wonderful Daniel. His untimely death makes the entire country mourn your loss.
Mary Papke
February 22, 2008
Dear Linda and family,
As a mother of three college sons, my heart and prayers go out to you in your time of sorrow. How tragic for Dan's wonderful life to have been suddenly taken from you. May God hold you all in His heart in your time of need.May Dan's soul and all the souls of the faithfully departed, rest in peace.
West Sub alum,
Mary Mroczenski Papke
Vasili Glimidakis
February 22, 2008
A true and faithful man who gave his life saving his girlfriend on February 14, 2008 in this building. God Alone Understands.
Dear Parmenter's family,
I am sorry for your loss. God bless him and his family.
Mary
February 22, 2008
From an NIU Alum and a fellow rugby mom. My heart and prayers are with all of you. While we can never know why God allows these types of things to happen, I pray that you will find comfort in the memory of what a wonderful young man you have raised.
Eric Bock
February 21, 2008
Dear Linda & family
More sympathy is with you now than words alone can tell. For those who share your friendship also share your recent loss as well. God bless all of you.
Love Eric & Carole & family
Samantha Durst
February 21, 2008
I worked with Dan at Pottery Barn for the last 2 years and spoke with him the weekend before this horrific event. He called on Saturday to say he wasn't feeling well and I said not to worry about it-just to get well. He said he didn't want to get any one else sick. He was always so thoughtful. We always knew that when Dan worked, we could face whatever came at us for the day. He could load a 250 lb dining table with no trouble. He was always so willing to pitch in help out. Thank you, Linda, for instilling in him such a tremendous work ethic-he was a real joy to work with. I will miss his gentle spirit and kind heart.
Samantha
Rest in peace, Dan. You were taken much too early.
February 21, 2008
Brandon Tugaw
February 21, 2008
I did not personally know Dan but as a member of Pi Kappa Alpha Fraternity he will always be a brother to me. Please accept my dearest condolences.You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Jim and Connie Yuill
February 21, 2008
Saying we're sorry doesn't fill the void. You must have fond memories of Dan's accomplishments. The number of Tributes bestowed on him, further measures the lost to our world, his passing has created. Please accept our sincere thoughts and prayers, for you, his fraternity brothers and those of his closest family and friends.
Ray Orians
February 21, 2008
On behalf of our 190,000 members, please know that the memory of Dan is at the forefront of several of our hearts and our minds. He left a legacy that will resonate with our brotherhood for many years as he entered our Chapter Eternal. Our prayers are with his family, chapter brothers and his many friends during these very difficult times.
Ray Orians
Chief Executive
Pi Kappa Alpha International
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