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Pamela Gusland Obituary
8/15/1947-4/5/2017
After a long battle with metastatic breast cancer, Dr. Gusland died on April 5, 2017 at the age of 69. She spent her final days at her peaceful home in the Sierra Foothills. Dr. Gusland (Pam) was innately compassionate. She dedicated her life to a career of helping others. After several years of teaching special education, Pam transitioned into counseling with a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from The University of Denver. For over thirty years, she helped hundreds of individuals transform their lives through her private practice in Southern California and later in Northern California, where she served the Auburn community for the past twenty years. Pam was born in Chicago, Ill. and created lasting memories during her moves throughout the country. Some of her favorite memories were of sledding in Alaska, bodysurfing in California, and camping in the mountains with her husband and Old English Sheepdogs. She loved to be active with friends and family, but you could just as easily find her alone with her beloved books, reflecting on art, or expressing her faith and gratitude through writing and photography. She was a strong, inspiring, multilayered soul. Pam was the daughter of the late Erna Gusland and was preceded in death by her father Gilbert Gusland. She is survived by her husband John Greding, son Colin Connor (Jenna), grandchildren Cara, Emerson, and Beckham Connor, sister Heather Principe (Ed), brother Cory Gusland (Anne), and loving nieces, nephews, and friends who will all miss her heart of gold and infectious smile. Pam's family will hold a private gathering to spread both her ashes and her mother's ashes. Because Pam fully supported medical research and bravely took part in clinical trials, it is encouraged that donations be made in honor of her to The American Cancer Society.
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Stephen & Brenda Lakios
March 6, 2025
Bren and I had lots of fun, with Pan. I was an original hippie, from 65 to 80. We knew Hanna-lie, well. We talked about the old hippie days and nature a lot. I lived in Alaska and many other places, and traveled the World. She loved that I back packed through all of Europe, and the then, Soviet Union. And my wife's singing. Both of us are now almost 80? where did the time go. Yep, Pam loved helping others.
C Harman
April 7, 2024
My memories and love for Pam continues to this day. I miss her so much. We had some good moments and laughter.
M.Lightwell
April 5, 2024
(PHOTO: Taken by Pamela Gusland)
Remembering a very special woman on a very significant day. Time has allowed for deep reflection and growth to where I can confidently say that while time continues to move forward, the love never fades. Pam´s presence feels just as strong as it felt when I last saw her several years ago. Much love to all of Pam´s friends and family. I hope you´ve continued to experience her loving spirit in your own special ways.
Pamela Galloway
July 15, 2023
So many times, even today, I think to myself, "I want to talk with Pam about this". I know you must be having wonderous adventures! Someday, we will "chat" about it.
Robert (Goose) Gosswiller
August 21, 2022
Was saddened to find Pam had passed. She did more for me in the two plus years I saw her than all the therapy before and since. She was the driving force behind my book, "Vietnam: A Distant Memory" (pen name Paco Jones). Smooth sailing Pam ... the world was a better place with you in it. Thank you!!
Condolences to the family.
Goose
April 9, 2020
I've felt your presence all week, Pam, and know that you live on in the hearts of all of us who love you. Until we meet again. Kay
Pamela Galloway
December 6, 2018
Pam, I am sitting here thinking of you.
I miss our "chats" more than I can describe. Your impact on my life was so powerful in so many ways, and always for the good. You helped me become a stronger, better woman. What is a more powerful testament to someone's life, than to be a blessing to everyone around you?! You were always my "touch stone", my reality check, and you will always be missed.
My children and I in Utah 2017- Thank you
Elizabeth Gray
November 24, 2018
Oh my dear Pam...I just found this looking you up to say Hi again. Lead by example and you are the example I'm still trying to be. You changed my life and the lives of my children and they are doing incredible and I inserted a photo of us doing our favorite family time...hiking 20 years later. Yes you were right that it would take three years to the day, I miss you and will never forget your beauty inside and out. John and Colin and family I couldn't imagine how hard this is for you and have you all in my thoughts.
Joyce E
April 5, 2018
On the 1 year anniversary of your passing, I remember the unique friendship we shared and I truly I miss that. I've been missing a friend like you - will there ever be another person like you in my life???? I will always remember what you once said - "there will never be another me". Amen to that:-)
December 19, 2017
I just found out about Pam and I'm heartbroken. I sent her a Xmas card, and it came back. I was her aide when she was a special ed teacher and she talked me into going back to grad school to get my own teaching certificate. She always told me how smart I was...and I believed her. She was always so sweet, never in a bad mood, and enjoyed being with kids so much. She will be in my heart forever. I love you Pam...Sally
Brynn
November 29, 2017
Never forgotten... still thinking about you and missing you!
Diane Arnold
October 24, 2017
My sincere and heartfelt condolences to Pam's husband, family, clients and friends.
As a client of Pam's until she closed her practice last Fall, I will be forever be thankful to her for all of the life skills she taught me in therapy. I so miss Pam, but I carry the memories of her voice, words, laughter, life skills and sincere spirit with me as an example of how to deal with life's challenges and how to enjoy it's blessings.
For me, Pam was a living example of how to be kind when others were unkind, how to be strong when feeling weak, how to face reality when denial seemed easier, how maintaining a sense of humor provided a break from emotional and physical pain and how love of self and others conquers all. I am forever changed, thankful and blessed for having known Pam.
Thank you to Pam's family for sharing her love, talent and care.
Christine Spurrell
September 19, 2017
I was Dr Gusland's patient for many years. I feel so blessed to have found her at just the right time in my life. As I told her on many occasions, she saved me. She always knew the right thing to say in a loving, positive way. She felt more like a friend than my Doctor. My heart goes out to her family and friends, God Bless you.
Susan Espey
September 13, 2017
I am so sad to learn of Pam's passing. I was her patient for many years and she helped me through difficult times and shared my triumphs. She was such a strong and caring women. I was amazed that she continued to support her clients as she struggled with her own illness. I knew when she finally closed her practice that her cancer would take her soon. Pam was such an inspiring and positive force in my life. I miss her more than I can say. I am sure that she suffered although she never let it show and is at peace now. I never knew her family but I want them to know how loved she was.
Sharon H
August 26, 2017
i am so sad to hear of Pam's passing. I was her client for 17 years. She got me through a divorce and the death of my daughter. I don't think I would have survived the loss of my daughter without her. She was so compassionate and knew just what to say. And she gave the best hugs. I get comfort knowing that she is no longer suffering. God bless you John and the rest of her family and friends. She will be dearly missed.
Lorina S.
August 25, 2017
She was a very special soul that touched so many people. I know she used to experiment with gardening, so I will plant something special in the yard in memory of her. May you all feel her presence in your own special ways. She is still with us always and forever.
Bill
August 25, 2017
I just learned of Dr. Gusland's passing. My deepest condolences to everyone who was a part of her life either personally or professionally. The fact that she was with us for so many years while struggling with cancer was a miracle. I thank her for helping the medical research field by participating in clinical trials. Doing so has helped my own family's oncologists to make wiser decisions. You never know how far your personal journey will ripple out into others lives. I will definitely honor her through the American Cancer Society. May she rest in peace.
Joan
August 17, 2017
Pamela was such a gentle soul but powerful at the same time. She set a positive example and taught me how to balance my own emotions and reactions. I've been enjoying all of the entries here and seeing the impact she made. She taught great things to so many people and seemed to do everything out of a love for life and others. I'm happy that so many are able to recognize that and share it freely. It's really touching. Pamela definitely deserves it. God bless you all.
John Greding
August 16, 2017
Bentley was looking for the birthday girl yesterday. These dogs miss Pam as much as I do, but they seem to know when she's around. HAPPY BIRTHDAY from me and the dogs!
Colin Connor
August 16, 2017
Only moments after her last breath, I walked outside on the deck, crumpled to the floor, and could no longer hold in the sorrow and tears. As I tried to regain control, I looked up through my tears and found myself staring at a sign my mom has ha for many years in one of her many beautiful flower planters. It read "There is beauty in the sunlight, and the soft blue heaven above; oh, the world is full of beauty when the heart is full of love." I think that sign captured the essence of my mom - finding wonder and beauty in the world, a beauty of the world herself, and one with a heart full of love to give to any and all who crossed her path. I'm sad for John, for her friends, for our family, for my wife, for myself, and, most of all, I'm so sad that my children will never have the chance to grow up with her in their lives as they grow. She was an amazing mom and grandmother. I love you mom.
Jess
August 16, 2017
Happy Birthday Pam! I can hear the angels singing your name and of the good you brought to Earth! You are remembered today and always.
Sharon Smith
August 16, 2017
Sending you a birthday candle Pam. I celebrate the warm light you left within all of us. Your birth was such a gift to this world! Happy Birthday!
Pam and Colin
Jenna Connor
August 15, 2017
Pam with granddaughter Emerson
Jenna Connor
August 15, 2017
Pam and Colin
Jenna Connor
August 15, 2017
Pam with family
Jenna Connor
August 15, 2017
Pam with her son, Colin
Jenna Connor
August 15, 2017
Pam and John at granddaughter Cara's high school graduation.
Jenna Connor
August 15, 2017
Pam with in-laws at Emerson's ballet recital.
Jenna Connor
August 15, 2017
Pam with grandson Beckham
Jenna Connor
August 15, 2017
Pam with granddaughter Emerson
Jenna Connor
August 15, 2017
Pam and John with granddaughter Cara
Jenna Connor
August 15, 2017
Jenna Connor
August 15, 2017
Pam was a unique soul. Someone who almost seemed to good to be true. From the moment you knew her, she was easy, comfortable and welcoming. Not at all suspicious or guarded. Never negative. She was kind, understanding, brave and strong (so so strong). She fought for so long, defying the odds and continuing to cultivate a life full of depth and love. Pam was so open to what life wanted to show her. She was curious and interested. She wanted to know. Pam genuinely was interested in knowing people. She accepted and loved them all. She gave her full self to everyone and had a gift for knowing how to be exactly what people needed. She filled a void. We miss her immensely. Every single day, my heart aches for all of us but especially our children and the memories that should have been. She was a loving and proud mom. She was an amazing grandmother, celebrating and enjoying every moment with her grandchildren. Pam taught me many lessons about patience and understanding that I will forever carry with me. 70 years was not long enough, but she filled it to the brim and we will carry those memories with us forever. You were an incredible person, Pam, and your spirit will continue to grow through all who were lucky enough to know you.
August 13, 2017
I miss you, Pam! I think about you everyday. Your wisdom and guidance made a huge impact on my life. I'm a better person from it. I'll see you in heaven :)
Love,
BV
The Stevens'
August 11, 2017
To Dr. Gusland's family, friends, and clients: Although you don't know us, we send you our deepest condolences and are keeping you in prayer. Dr. Gusland was certainly special, and we're so glad we had the opportunity to know her. May she rest in peace, and may peace be with you all.
Sharon Smith
August 11, 2017
Pamela Gusland was a unique individual. She was an amazing balance between power and grace. Even with her health struggles, she seemed to love each day. Her departure has left a large hole in this world, but at least she left behind a warm light to where the hole doesn't feel as dark. Such a loss to so many people. My heart goes out to all who are missing this extraordinary lady. May she rest in peace.
Linda R.
August 10, 2017
There are not enough words to describe how thankful I am to have known Pamela. She was a gift to all, and I miss her greatly. My deepest condolences.
"Maggie"
August 8, 2017
Oh, Pam, your dogs & little goat are so sweet! I love their messages to you. They're too cute just like you. I wish we had a chance to spend more time together. In another lifetime I hope.
Marissa Challender
August 7, 2017
I admired Pamela, the way she walked, dressed, and spoke. She presented herself like someone who could take on anything. And she did. She was so inspiring. I will remember her always.
Cassie
August 7, 2017
Pam was a very nice lady and smart too. She helped me focus more and helped me like school. I miss her and will remember her forever.
Peter & Alison
August 7, 2017
We are forever grateful for Pam's wisdom. We learned so much from her. Thank you, Pam, for everything.
Anne
August 7, 2017
Pam was an amazing friend, wonderful sister-in-law, and beautiful person. She was a good listener who had empathy for all! She was the "balance" for her family, her friends, and in her professional life- her clients. Her strength battling cancer for so many years was an incredible thing to witness. Her smile and courage will be what I remember most of my "kindred spirit". You are truly missed!
Jess
August 6, 2017
When I see a flower, I will think of your joyful smile. When I feel the sun, I will think of the warmth you gave. Thank you, Pam, for being you! Rest in peace.
c g
August 5, 2017
I miss my big sister. She was my protector and teacher when I was young, she was my counselor and moral touchstone when I was older. I miss her laugh and the way she scrunched her nose when she was reading.
And how she read, so many books I borrowed from her over the years.
She taught me to snow ski, how to study and how to organize myself when life was becoming overwhelming.
She always saw the best in people and could defuse or make rational almost any situation or offense.
As a psychologist she was exactly where her skills lied, helping people deal with stress and trauma and clearing the mist to reveal the clarity in all of our lives.
She was the linchpin in our family, keeping all the egos and different personalities in balance. She cared for all of us, organized all of us, loved all of us.
I hated seeing the wear and erosion of her body over the years of struggling with cancer, yet despite those changes her smile and compassion and tolerance always dominated the room. She loved her life and the people in it. She loved the water and the lakes and her "tree house" that she and John shared. Every time I would drive down the road from her home after a visit, seeing her on the deck and wondering if it was the last time I would see her.
Finally she can rest; we'll carry on with parts of her always in our hearts and souls, all of us far better for having known and loved her.
Annaleesa Hein
August 3, 2017
I light this candle for you, Pam, because you will always be remembered and loved so much! You left a warmth and brightness within all of us... within the world.
Aaron
August 3, 2017
Revelation 14:13 Then I heard a voice from heaven say, "Write this: Blessed are the dead who die in the Lord from now on," "Yes," says the Spirit, "they will rest from their labor, for their deeds will follow them."
Aaron
August 3, 2017
Pam always gave so much more than she had to. She could always see the little child in everyone and became like a mother to many. I admired her ability to care so deeply for others while still staying professional. It's a beautiful gift, but I'm sure it was also quite exhausting with her various illnesses. She truly deserves a rest and tons of heavenly healing. R.I.P.
Brynn
August 3, 2017
I still can't believe you're gone. You fought this battle for so long. I guess I just always thought you would stay ahead of it. You were so, so strong. Your attitude and strength was a site to see. I miss you so much, Pam. I'm so thankful for the time we shared. I think about you all the time. I miss your sweet smile and your laugh. Thank you for being such a sweet friend to all of us. We love and miss you!
Karen Greding
July 31, 2017
I always loved Pam, and we shared much because we were married to brothers--we seemed to always have something to talk about! I last visited with her on the phone not too long before she passed away. I could almost see her smile through the phone. She was always upbeat, even then, even though she was having problems breathing. When visiting John after she passed away, he gave me lots of her shoes. We had just about the same size foot. As I wear her shoes, it makes me happy because I think of her every day now. We miss you Pam, and John, most of all. We felt it a privilege to know you over many, many years when you and John first met. You will always be in our hearts.
Barb Despo
July 31, 2017
Pamela is a strong bright soul whom I wish I had the opportunity to get to know better. May you feel surrounded by love as you remember this beautiful woman. My deepest sympathy to all of you who knew her.
"Bernie"
July 31, 2017
Even though she is gone from this world, Pamela still inspires me to be a better person... to have patience... to have compassion... to be grateful. She was and still is a great teacher.
Rynda Norsell
July 31, 2017
Pam, I didn't know you, but respected you very much as a colleague. I know you had a positive effect on the lives of those you encountered throughout your career. Thank you.
Dr. Pamela F. Gusland, Clinical Psychologist
John Greding
July 31, 2017
Pam & John's Old English Sheepdogs: 3 year old Bentley & 2 year old Holly.
Bentley & Holly
July 31, 2017
We really miss our other person, but we keep on waggin' our tails and havin' fun with John because we know that one day we'll all see Pam again at the entrance of Rainbow Bridge!
Pam & John's 10 year old pygmy goat Gracie.
Gracie The Goat
July 31, 2017
I enjoyed watching Pam water her plants & read under the gazebo. She'd talk to me & call me The Great Gracie! She loved all of us creatures & our ability to love and heal. I'm happy she made me a therapy animal while growing up.
Randall Shooke
July 29, 2017
Very sad to learn of Pamela's passing. I know how difficult it is to overcome grief, especially when it revolves around such a loving individual. Trust that the sadness will pass and that the joyful memories will forever support you as you keep moving forward in life. (For I know the plans I have for you... declares the Lord ...plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.) - Jeremiah 29:11
K.L.
July 28, 2017
What a beautiful tribute! Even her childhood photos have that unique glow. I always knew Pam had a lot of people looking up to her and sometimes that can make someone feel small in a big sea of other's needs. But Pam knew how to make you feel special and heard. She always gave her undivided attention and truly cared about each individual's story no matter how big or small. God truly equipped her to be a therapist and she followed that calling and made such a positive impact. We're all so lucky to have benefitted from her God given gift.
Christening Day. (1947)
John Greding
July 27, 2017
Cutie pie Pam with her snowman. (1951)
John Greding
July 27, 2017
An animal lover from the start. (1952)
John Greding
July 27, 2017
So magical inside and out. (1959)
John Greding
July 27, 2017
To all her high school friends.
John Greding
July 27, 2017
Pamela Faith Gusland (1965)
John Greding
July 27, 2017
Enjoying the beach with Lockie. (1967)
John Greding
July 27, 2017
Loved taking road trips. (1967)
John Greding
July 27, 2017
Touched the hearts of many.
John Greding
July 27, 2017
Such a contagious smile.
John Greding
July 27, 2017
Linda Golding
July 27, 2017
Pamela was a warm, sweet person who cared deeply for her friends, family and patients. People trusted and depended on her kindness, compassion and friendship. She always showed a brave face all through her illness and treatments. She was an amazing and loving person. I admired her very much. We will miss her very much.
Benjamin
July 26, 2017
Pam often talked about loving the country & the beautiful house her husband built for her. What a blessing it was for her to be able to enjoy her final days at home, especially with those great dogs around. They look so therapeutic in her photo ~ My deepest condolences.
Janie Nesfield
July 26, 2017
So much love here! How could I not take a break from my busy life to say a few words about this great individual. I, too, didn't know Pamela very well but was touched by a few kind things she said to my family. When that happened, I started to look at life differently and started appreciating the little things, like a wave or hello from a complete stranger. It can truly brighten someone's day & even change their whole outlook on life. She was a ball of sunshine spreading warmth where ever she happened to be. Some people come into our lives, leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never the same. God bless!
Cindy Harman
July 26, 2017
Oh dear sweet Pam.....I miss you so much. Things will not be the same without you. You are my hero.....so brave & loving. RIP. See you in paradise!
Graham A. Nesfield
July 26, 2017
A memorable woman I am glad to have met at least once. I did not know Pamela well, but I recognized her photo right away and remember how intriguing she was to me. Her words of kindness still linger in my life. My heartfelt condolences go out to all who are grieving this loss.
Kevin O'Connell
July 26, 2017
Pam Gusland was a rare person. She took her cancer in stride and continued to live life. Her courage was something inside and not worn on her sleeve. John and Connor are blessed to be, always, her husband and her son.
Marcia Craig-Smith
July 26, 2017
Although I never met Pam I was well aware of her outstanding reputation in our shared profession. Pam followed her calling in an exemplary fashion. I am saddened for the community she served as her absence will ripple out far beyond the lives of her family and friends. May you rest in peace Pam, may your family be comforted by the memories of your loving ways, and may we, who continue to serve, be inspired by your example.
Dr. Marcia Craig-Smith
Erin L.
July 26, 2017
When I think of Pam, I immediately think of her professional style... coolest classiest person ever... even in those jeans and pink socks. R.I.P.
Mickey Johnson
July 25, 2017
I met Pam when we were both 16 years old so I couldn't even begin to describe the many great memories I have of her and our times together. Even though we had some years apart, when we would talk on the phone or see each other it was as wonderful as ever. If you looked in the dictionary for a definition of the kindest BEST friend anyone could ask for, you'd see Pam. I can't imagine how incomplete my life would have been without her having been in it as a college roommate, cross-country travel companion, maid of honor, ski instructor,advisor, always receptive ear, support system, etc., etc., etc. She was everything to me because she was such a loving soul. I won't say I'll miss her because she will always be there in my head and heart. I'll just pretend that we live away from each other again. Love you, Pam!
Lucy L.
July 25, 2017
Lovely Lovely Pam... You will be remembered always as the family lady to me... taking care of your own and then taking many others under your big welcoming wing... and so natural at it. I bet you're still working away keeping an eye on everyone. That's you, but I hope you're getting the pampering you deserve... you gave so much to this world. Rest peacefully lovely lady.
July 24, 2017
This woman had the best laugh! We miss her sense of humor & down to earth nature. Been awhile since we last saw Pam but we've never forgotten her or her positive impact. Therapy is ROUGH! Never fun to face your own faults but she made the process so much nicer. Never judged us or labeled us. A great doctor that always put us at ease & brought out the best in people. She always had the greatest stories too that helped us relate to whatever was going on in the moment. Her passing is a big loss to the community. Nice to see another one of her viewpoints through her photography. The sky/lake photo is gorgeous! We appreciate the different sides of her being shared. She truly deserves to be remembered & celebrated. Our hearts go out to her loved ones. May you find comfort in knowing that she is free from all the physical illness & now guiding & watching you grow from Heaven. God bless!
July 24, 2017
I am sorry for your loss. May prayer comfort you.
1 Thessalonians 5:17 "Pray constantly."
A beautiful morning with her buddies.
John Greding
July 23, 2017
Doing her favorite thing at her favorite lake.
John Greding
July 23, 2017
Daniele Gusland
July 23, 2017
It's a beautiful glimpse of a life well-lived. Every year she beat the odds seemed like a gift. She was so very loved.
Ph.D. from Univ. of Denver
John Greding
July 23, 2017
July 23, 2017
My heart is sad for the loss of this amazing woman. She was a blessing to me and for 5 years as she struggled through her own health challenges she never stopped giving to others. There aren't enough words to say about this wonderful woman. I grew to love her and not a day passes that I don't use and think of her wise words. "Now remember what Pam told you". I will remember and miss her forever.
Sharon H.
BB
July 23, 2017
Truly heartbroken. Such a beautiful soul. Thank you for being you.
I miss you dearly, Pam. You are and will always be missed.
Kay Black
July 22, 2017
Everyone who knew Pam loved her contagious smile. To me, that represented not only a warm heart, but her undying hope, resilience, and strength. Over the course of her last illness, I witnessed her ability to keep living and loving every day. I miss her daily, and will always be grateful for having had her in my life. Thank you Pam, for everything.
Best friends from the start.
John Greding
July 22, 2017
Beautiful throughout all these years.
John Greding
July 22, 2017
Created wonderful memories together.
John Greding
July 22, 2017
My wife, my best friend. She was the kindest sweetest person one could possibly know. She was well liked and left a lasting impression on everyone she met- Me probably the most. I was lucky enough to marry her twice; the second time it stuck with eighteen years of happiness. She is truly missed and will be forever loved.
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