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Lil Benter
February 15, 2012
Valentines Day came and went and I missed you and should have written you a message. You do know how much I miss you and that I love you even more than I ever have, I know you know this. It still is hard for me to have this empty house without you in the other room watching tv with the volume up so loud.....I would give anything for this to be going on right now. You were my home.....you always will be my home. I love you my Babe.....me
Lil Benter
September 13, 2011
Happy Birthday, Babe. I love you. Me
Lil Benter
September 13, 2011
My Babe, before I go to sleep tonight, I want to wish you a Happy Birthday. Another one without you here with us, but you are still so much of our memories. Missing you has no words to put down on paper, just that my heart still has pain and it will always belong to you. I will see you in my dreams and when it is our time to be reunited. I love you. Me
Lil Benter
July 16, 2011
I have been missing you so much, I just loved having you in the living room watching tv and me yelling at you to turn it down....our lives together and the family we created has been the best thing that ever happened to me. You were everything to me, to us. You made us a family and I miss that. I love you my Babe and until God lets me know it is time to see you again, I can wait, but I will be so happy to be with you and Paul. Love, Me
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Lillian Benter
December 18, 2010
Another wedding anniversary is here...today would be our 41st...I still have the love for you and it just gets stronger and stronger. You are my life to this day, Babe, I love you. I don't know what we would be doing for today, probably nothing but we would be together. I miss you more than there are words.....I love you, Babe, Me
Lil Benter
September 14, 2010
My Babe, another birthday comes around and we are left here to celebrate you alone. Sammy and I are making your favorite meal tonight with a carrot cake to end the day. I love you more today than I did the first day I fell in love with you, more than 40 years ago. I know you did not want to leave, as you tried to prepare me of what you knew was coming, I still was in denial. You worried about if I was going to be alright, well, I am. But the truth is I would rather have you in on the couch watching your tv shows. We all still miss you so very much, I miss all the chaos of our family life, the noise, the laughter and most of all just, you. My love for you will be there when I meet you again. Love, Me
Lil Benter
May 18, 2010
My Babe, it is now going to be four years that I have not seen you. Four very long years.....my spirit is not the same as it once was. I think I will never be the same, well, I know that I won't. Since your passing and then our son Paul's passing, I do have a hard time just trying to stay focused and just feel alive. It is too hard somedays, but I do know that we will see each other once again for always. I love you still, you, the love of my life. Yours always. Me
Lil Benter
December 18, 2009
Our 40th Wedding Anniversary....wish we were here together, but, for now I think of you daily, miss you more than I can explain. We sure had a great time in our over forty years of being together. Our ups were great and even our downs became our glue to keep going and never giving up. You gave me everything, Babe, my life, my kids, my laughs, my sorrow, and most of all you gave me myself and let me keep my spirit. For that.....that is the reason I have always loved you and will for the rest of my life. Love, Me
Lil Benter
September 13, 2009
Another birthday tomorrow, just thinking about you and missing you like crazy. I hate when these days come up because I really feel the emptiness around me. I do know you are still around me, but still just to have you for one more day....I would settle for just one more hour. My love, My Babe, I love you still and will for the rest of my life and will miss you always. Love, Me
Crystal Betzler
July 19, 2009
Dear Dad,this is Crystal your daughter you never knew.You would of realy like me,And pround that I was your daughter.Iam a realy good person.I have a good soul and Iam funny.My heart tells me that I have alot of you in me.I don't know the other part of me cuase I don,t know you.I wish you could of been in my life.I aways thought of you and I've cryed for you.I needed you. I never knew what you looked like intell now.your a handsom man. I love you. I will get to know you throw Lil and Sammy.I think good start.
Lil Benter
July 14, 2009
I want to acknowlage a daughter of Paul's that was born to him in San Bernardino, CA. Her name is Crystal Pauline Betzler-Benter. Her dad loved her and his one regret was that he did not ever have the chance to see her but a few times after she was born, before her mother moved away. He wanted to be a dad to her and for Crystal to know him and her brothers. I should have added her in his obituary and I do apologize for the oversite and the hurt it has caused her. We do comunicate now and I hope we will from now on so she can meet her brother Sammy and her nephews. Paul did love his daughter and she needs to know that.
Lil Benter
June 21, 2009
Babe, I wish you had more Father's Days with us....you are here with us in spirit though. It is a rough day for all of us because of you and because of Paul not being here in body. You were the best dad to our kids. You did not like when I had to do the disaplening (?) because you did not want them hurt or crying. Still they were more afraid of you than me, did not make sense to me. I miss you, God, more than I can put down in words. I will just have to wait to be with you. Loving you forever......Me
Lil Benter
May 21, 2009
Yesterday was your three year anniversary of your passing. Did not know what to do, I just knew if I stayed at home, my thoughts would have gotten me into a really bad place. So Sammy and I went to the last place you got to go while you were sick. It was when your sister and brother-in-law were in town and we took you to Edibles in Pt. Richmond. It was just Sam and I. It was hard to even talk about you because we were both just ready to break down. Sammy, I think, misses you still the most. It is still hard for him, and then to lose his brother, the two biggest forces in his life sometimes gets to overwhelming for him. You are still so missed and so very much loved. You are my heart, Babe, always were and always will be. I love you.
Lil Benter
April 24, 2009
Hello, my Babe. If I ever needed you it is now. I feel so lost and so alone. You would give me a hug and tell me "it's going to be alright" and I would believe you. I miss you so badly and you are still the love of my life.
Lil Benter
February 14, 2009
My heart still belongs to you. You are my life and the love of my life. You gave me the world. I miss you and will see you when the time is right. Give our son a hug from me and from all of us, we send you our love and we still share memories. Love, Me
Mary Richmond
January 1, 2009
Hi Benter,
It's been several years since you left us and we all miss you very, very much.
I have a favor to ask you. Would you wrap your arms around my sister---your wife and keep her safe. Let her know that even if you are in a different world now that she isn't alone and you and little Paul are still with her and all around her. She needs both of you so badly. I love my sister a lot and she is in so much pain these days because of you and little Paul leaving her. So please wrap your arms around her and let her know you are both still there with her.
Love always,
Mimo
Lillian Benter
December 31, 2008
Babe, here it is the last day of 2008. I feel like the days are just going by so fast, but I relish the very thought of us being together some day. I am going to run up to you and give you the biggest hug and the best kiss ever. Like when we first began our life together. And don't try and get away from me saying "ok that's enoungh,Richmond" Just like you always did. Wait for me. I love you and hand down some good days for us in the new year. Stay around me so I can still feel your love. I love you still and that will go on for eternity. You are the love of my life. Me
Lil Benter
September 14, 2008
Happy Birthday, Babe. Miss you still so much, can't be helped. I will miss you until I see you again. You and my Paul have a celebration together and just know that there is no celebration here except that we here remember "your day" and keep our memories of you close. We always have a good time when we talk of you and ALWAYS have to laugh at some of the stuff that you made funny. We all do that just remembering you. We did that last night. I know you are around us but it still is not the same as having you with us. I miss you and love you still. Forever yours, Me
Lil Benter
September 1, 2008
Babe, still loving you as like the beginning of "us" and missing you more than you can imagine. You and Paul keep staying close to us, especially my little guys. Their hurt and confusion is still so very new to them and their understanding is much less. They know in their minds that you and their dada are in heaven, but in their hearts, the pain gets to them in very simple forms. Paul, Jr. will burst out in tears for really no reason and Patrick still thinks that his dada will wake up and be home on Sunday. Now, today Adena had to have Thai Girl put down. Just more pain and confusion on all of us. The good thing is that Paul loved this dog and I am sure he was right there to greet her. What a sweet, gentle loving dog Thai Girl is. She will be happy there with all of you just as she was happy here with the boys, Adena and Jay. Give her a love rub from me, would you? I will talk to you in awhile, my love. Until then, love from me and all of us. Lil
Lil Benter
July 20, 2008
Oh, my Babe, it hurts me to just put down in words that we lost our son. I almost feel that when I write this to you that it makes it true, not a bad dream but a REALITY. I also know that you are with him and are just sharing the best of all that heaven has. I keep this thought in my heart, and it gets me through some very bad days. You two are watching all of us and wanting us not to hurt, but that is just impossible, Babe. The hurt goes way beyond anything I could describe to anyone. Please stay very close to Patrick and Paul because this is so confusing and painful for them, of course, but I worry about them the most. Do not let any more hurt come their way and that in time things will get back a little bit "normal" for them. When I look at them I see their dad vividly and then I see you--the way they run, the faces they sometimes make, just so much of the two of you. They are true Benter's. I love you and miss you still so very much and now a way different pain has come into my life. Until I see you, Babe, stay around me like you have been doing. Love, Me
Mary Richmond
July 17, 2008
Hi Benter,
It's been awhile since I've spoken to you but trust me when I say "I miss you everyday" and now we've lost your son Paul. I don't think any of us down here can begin to tell you how much we hurt with this latest loss but just know that we do. Please visit your wife (my sister) in her dreams and give her an update on how you and Paul are doing and one last request from me please tell my brother I miss him and that I love him, too.
Love always,
Mimo
Christine Hudson
July 12, 2008
Hey Pop, I miss you! Take real good care of Paul, I know he is a new comer, but I am sure he is trying to run things. He takes after you.
I LOVE YOU BOTH SOO MUCH!! It is not easy down here with out the two of you, but we will make you proud. I also know we have juice there, being as our men are there to save a place for us. With the most LOVE & RESPECT you know you have coming!! Your other daughter, Christine
Moe Benter
June 9, 2008
I miss you so much. You are always in my thoughts. Sara misses you. You'd be so proud of her; she's grown into a beautiful young lady. Amanda also misses you. She's growing up to love football just like you. I wish that I had known that the last time I saw you was the last time I would ever see you. I would have made sure that you know how much I love you. I don't know what else to write, but I love you Dad. Love Moe
Samuel Benter
May 20, 2008
Dad,
It's been two long years without you here in person, But I feel your soul everyday. I hope you are proud about the career choice that I have made. I know you helped me get this job, Only I wish you still worked there. I know you will help me when I need it. I never got to tell you That I want to be just like you Dad.... But I hope to prove it to you and everyone. I love and miss you.
Your Son,
Sammy
Lil Benter
June 17, 2007
Happy Father's Day, Babe. This is the second one without you and the pain is still so fresh for us. The kids would have gifts for you and maybe we would be BBQing for you or you would have wanted your favorite food with all of us together and just having a good day. Believe me, we would give anything for this day to be exactly that if you were only here. You are in spirit but God to just have you in sight would be the only way to get through today. I cannot put into words my love for you, only you know. And I will miss you everyday until we all meet again. Love, Lil
Mary Richmond
October 2, 2006
At "Peace" at Last! We will miss you Benter!
Mimo
Lil Benter
September 14, 2006
Happy birthday, Babe. It has been almost four months since you left us, but to me it seems a lifetime. You are so missed, not just by us, but so many of the people you knew. We still enjoy talking and remembering stories about you. I would have cooked your favorite foods today...corned bread, black eyed peas, fried okra and salmon patties. Then a piece of carrot cake. My selfishness wants you here back with us so badly, but in my heart I do know that you are in the happiest and most special place. I also still feel you around me as do the rest of us. I find alot of comfort knowing this. I know that my pain will never go away until we see each other again. You are the love of my life and always will be. I miss you, Babe. The kids miss their Dad and Paul and Patrick miss Grandpa.
Tony Clark
July 12, 2006
To Lil, Paul, Sammy, Sherrie, and Moe.
My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. I would like to thank you for all your support and memories. I will never forget the camping trips that Paul took us on.
Hugs,
Tony Clark
Shannon, Big John, James, Johnny and Casey Tompkins
June 16, 2006
To Aunty Lil' and the Boys,
We all love you very much and really miss Unlce Paul immensely! I wish I could have took Uncle Paul fishing but, I know that I will be fishing with him up in Heaven one day.
Love you guys always and forever,
Big John, Shannon, James, Johnny and Casey
P.S. Call us if you need anything at all...OK?
Shannon (Richmond) and Big John, James , Johnny and Casey Tompkins
June 16, 2006
To Uncle Paul,
Sorry I couldn't take you fishing before you left us But, I will fish with you again in Heaven. Shannon the boys and I will miss you immensely!!!
To Aunty Lil' and Boys,
Please don't hesitate to call if you all need anything at all, we love you guys immensely too, and always!!!
Love you always,
Big John, Shannon, James, Johnny and Casey......
Art Richmond
June 14, 2006
To my Uncle Paul I am so sad he is gone, but I know he is with my dad. They were best friends and even went out close together. I pray they both can find some joy looking over our big family together. Lil, Paul Jr, Sam, Sherrie and Maureen please let me know if I can do anything for you or if you just want to talk.
Love Always,
Art, Tara, Arthur, Amber and Tommy
Betsy McWilliams
June 12, 2006
Aunt Lil, Paul & Sammy, I am so sorry for your loss. I loved Uncle Paul very much, he was a wonderful man. You are all in my prayers. Love, Betsy
Rick & Heidi Koranda
June 12, 2006
Lil, Sam, Paul, Dean & boys: We wish you God's comforts during this time & always. Hold tight to each other...
Laurie Cheney
June 12, 2006
Lil and family I know this is a hard thing to go through. If you ever need anything I am here. I love ya.
Brad DiNunzio
June 11, 2006
To a man and family that let me live with them while living on the street as a young kid away from home for a few days. Paul always asked me "How's the good life refering to my work and travel. The truth was that the "Good life" was having the Benter family in my life. Great job Paul you raised a fantastic brilliant family. I will miss you friend.
Brad DiNunzio
Carlie Alvis
June 10, 2006
Lil, Paul & Sam - I am so sorry for your loss. You guys have a long road ahead of you but I know all of you will make it, as you are blessed with many loving friends and family members. As always, I am here for you if ever you need me for anything! Your family was always there for me during my "rough roads" and I am more than happy to return the kindness. Love to all of you - Carlie Girl
Lorene & Arthur Word
June 7, 2006
Dear Lil & Family, We are very sorry about Paul. God will give you the strength to carry on. Love, Lorene & Arthur Word
Robert Word
May 28, 2006
My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.
Love,
Robert
Joy smith
May 26, 2006
TO my Benter family,
I will always remember the open-hearted way that you all allowed me into your life.
Benter will still make me laugh when I think about his unusual character.Whenever I think of him I smile.
Love,
Lil Benter
May 26, 2006
The Benter family want to send you all love, respect and so much gratitude for all the help you have shown to us in these sad days. Your respect for Paul, he would have loved and probably said "far out" I think he really did not realize how much he was loved. So my love and his love go back to every one of you. Lil, Sam, Paul, Adena, Paul, Jr. and Patrick. Also from Sherrie and Paulie.
My Most Unforgettable Character and Wonderful Brother-in-Law!!
May 24, 2006
val stokes
May 24, 2006
Dear Benter Family:
On behalf of Stokes Dental Care, we wanted to let you know that our thoughts are with you. He has a caring family and his love for each one of you is everlasting!
Warmly,
Friends at Stokes Dental Care
Richard Grimes
May 24, 2006
From Richard & the Grimes family to the Benter family.....
We Feel
Mary Richmond
May 24, 2006
To my wonderful "Brother-in-Law" as one of my most "unforgetable characters". He was full of life and lived it to the fullest.
He lives on in the lives of those who loved him.
Lovingly,
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