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Matthew Gately Obituary
Matthew E. Gately, formerly of Riverside, CT, passed away January 30, 2013 in Noblesville, IN. He was born in Buenos Aires, Argentina July 28, 1924 and lived most of his life in the United States. He was preceded in death by his wife of 40 years, Jacqueline T. Gately, whom he faithfully loved through her difficult battle with Alzheimer's disease. He worked for 36 years as a trust and estate attorney for The Bank of New York while living in Riverside, Connecticut. He spent his later years in Indiana near his immediate family. He is survived by his son, Malcolm Gately, daughter-in-law, Marilyn Gately, and granddaughter, Alexis Gately. A memorial calling will take place from 4 pm to 8 pm, Monday, February 4, at Randall and Roberts Funeral Home, 12010 Allisonville Rd, Fishers, Indiana, 46038. There will be no funeral service. A private memorialization will take place in Riverside, Connecticut at a future date. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions can be made to Riverdale Country School, 5250 Fieldston Road, Bronx, NY 10471-2999. Online condolences can be made at www.randallroberts.com.
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Memories and Condolences
for Matthew Gately
Doug Wesney
January 25, 2024
Hard to believe it's been almost 11 years, Malcolm & Marilyn. I saw the email from Legacy, and thought I'd add another favorite memory. I remember several times being invited over for dinner or to stay overnight when we were in High School. What always blew me away was eating dinner on an Argentine schedule...dinner and supper, and a very late night to eat. My favorite recollection was of a MASSIVE paella your Mom made for us. I was confused that we were eating at 9pm, but I couldn't stop eating all of that crazy deliciousness! I hope you and Marilyn are carrying on those fun traditions, Malcolm!
Debra
January 25, 2023
Hi Matt,
It's your old assistant Debbie.
I set a reminder because you were a remarkable person. It's been awhile now since you went home.
Always missed and thought of in my memories of working and knowing you.
I hope we do meet again in Heaven.
My condolences to your family and I hope their doing well.
I just lost my Mom recently Matt if possible I love for you to meet her.
Bye for now forever Debra
Michael Heath
October 24, 2021
Malcolm.
Sorry to hear of your dad's passing.
Hope you are thriving and enjoying life.
Best regards,
Mike Heath
(KBN)
Debra McLaughlin
January 25, 2019
Matt I just received a message reminding me of your passing. There is not a day nor a time that I do not think of you. God only made one Matt and I hope your at peace and with the Lord. Debra McLaughlin
Paul Diouri
May 3, 2013
We were Matt neighbours in Riverside CT. He was a very kind and gentle men who never missed a chance to come by for a quick chat. Rest in peace Matt.
Paul and Janane Diouri
Debra Mclaughlin
March 22, 2013
March 22, 2013
I was so sorry you hear of Matt's passing. I was his secretary at The Bank of New York for a long time. He was a person one only meets once in a life time. I have a book he gave me signed and I have treasured it for years. God Bless You Matt and my sincere condolences too your family.
February 4, 2013
,Dearest Malcolm, Marilyn and Alexis,
Matt will be missed so much by us. When we first knew him and Jacqueline, we visited them @ their home. His servant's heart quickly became apparent during dinner as he attended to our every need :).When he moved to Indiana, he became such an integral part of our family and seemed to enjoy our gatherings.He enjoyed eating out with us and would comment that it really "made my day".The whole family looked forward to him being with us and enjoyed our visits with him even when his health started slipping. He always received us with much enthusiasm and was attentive to the person to whom he was talking - you never got the feeling he was thinking about something else, but was really listening and paying attention to you. Matt had such interesting life experiences that visiting him was a pleasure. I could write many more remembrances, but will close by saying that our lives are richer for having known this kind and gentle man whom we loved dearly.
David M. Day
Jeff and Amy Asher
February 3, 2013
Malcolm, Marilyn, and Alexis,
Know that you are in our hearts and prayers at this time. May the Lord surround you with his constant love and comfort. Much love.
Doug, Hillary, Peter, Betty & Bekah Wesney
February 3, 2013
Malcolm, Marilyn & Alexis, your Dad was easily one of the most amazing, kind and gentle men I have ever met. It was a privilege getting to know him when you and I met in high school, Malcolm; both your parents always reminded me of royalty. But their "regal" stature was of nature and character, never imposed (or imposing!). I just always sensed I was in the presence of greatness. What made it even more incredible was that it was accompanied by the deepest humility and character. Your Dad is (not was) a great, great man, and I know we will all miss him. We're sorry it has been such a long time since we had seen him, but we have such fond memories we will cherish. We lift you and your family up in prayer, and are sad with you at the loss.
Gloria Meyering
February 2, 2013
Dear Malcolm and Marilyn,
My deepest sympathy to you and your family for the loss of a wonderful man. Matt enjoyed his life and was loyal to his friends. He'll be remembered for his dignity and noble bearing. May all our prayers bring him to a heavenly rest. You are blessed to have him as your father.
Tom and Dana Huckstep
February 2, 2013
Malcolm,Marilyn, and Alexis. Dana and I send our sympathy. Know that we are praying for you as you come to terms with this change in life.
February 1, 2013
Dear Malcolm and family, Your Dad was an exceptional and extraodinarily kind gentelman.He will be greatly missed and lovingly remembered. Sarel & Tim.
Minnie Breaux
February 1, 2013
Malcom,
My deepest sympathy to you and your family. May God comfort and bless you all.
Elen Hinckley
February 1, 2013
My deepest sympathy to you and your family. Your dad was such a gentle, kind and generous man. We all have very fond memories of him at St. Paul's.
Sam and Arlee Leo
February 1, 2013
Malcolm,
So sorry to hear about your Dad. We pray for God's comfort and peace to surround your family.
February 1, 2013
Dear Malcolm and Family,
I am so sorry to hear about your father. My deep condolences for you. I will keep praying for you and your family. I am sure God is with you to touch your hearts. Prayers for you!
Caroline Min
February 1, 2013
Malcolm and Marilyn,
We are so sad to hear that your dad has passed away. We were remembering how kind and generous he was. We miss and love you guys and will pray for comfort as you adjust to this new reality.
Beth and Dave Crimmins
Allisonville Road - Fishers
February 1, 2013
Offering our deepest condolences during this time.
David Rousseau
January 31, 2013
Dear Malcolm,
So sorry to hear about Dad. We're praying for you and love you very much.
Sincerely,
David, Kristin, Elisabeth and Quinn
Ed Mooney
January 31, 2013
My condolences for your loss. I worked Matt for a decade and found him always to be generous with his time and his company always made for a better day for me and my and our colleagues. He and you are in my prayers.
Todd Denkmann
January 31, 2013
Malcolm, very sorry to hear of your less. My family will pray for yours.
Kim Neuffer
January 31, 2013
I was so sorry to hear about your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Maria Heffner Weber
January 31, 2013
My memories of your dad span four decades. I have always referred to him as the nicest man I have ever known and will always remember how utterly selfless, kind and gentle he was. I am sorry for your loss, Malcolm, Marilyn and Alexis. He will be missed.
January 31, 2013
My condolences on your loss. Matt was so generous with his memories and documents as we searched family history together. A gentle, elegant, loving man. I shall miss him. - love, cousin Martha
Stephen Clark
January 31, 2013
I will greatly miss Matt's cheerful presence in our lives. He was such a joy to be with and his servant heart was an amazing example to me of selfless love. He would always light up when he saw me and he would always ask how my mother was doing. He only knew her a short time but he never neglected to ask about her. We will miss him at all of our family gatherings. I am so glad we got to share these years with him.
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