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Lori
March 8, 2023
I will always treasure Tom and Shelley and their children, Ian and Jessica. I had the great honor to be their babysitter when I attended high school in Winsted, CT. Tom and Shelley were so important to me as a teen. Their children, Ian and Jessica were so smart and fun. They were like family to me. I learned so much taking care of them and will always treasure the memories. I hope to connect with them soon!
Eileen Rizo-Patron
November 18, 2019
May Tom's poetic flame keep on shining on his family, friends, and students everywhere.
Marlene Rosenfield
November 17, 2019
Rarely a day does by that I don't think of Tom, an extraordinary mentor, an engaging conversationalist, and the best professor I ever had. Plus a loving husband to Shelly and father to his. kids.
Marlene Rosenfield-Crawford
October 11, 2014
No one ignited my passion for literature more than Tom. In the classroom, he was simply electric. I am so glad I got to see him and his beloved Shelly a few years ago (I am a '71 graduate). I will never forget this total "original' and his laughing eyes.
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Janet O'Connell
August 2, 2014
I am so sorry to have just learned about the loss of Tom. He was absolutely the best teacher I ever had at University of Hartford. Always passionate, kind and thoughtful. And such an infectious smile. I remember his dedication to swimming at the outdoor pool at the University. And how much he loved and appreciated music, the arts...and especially his family.
Crin Krouse
January 6, 2014
When I was a new student to MHS in my junior year, Tom was one of the first classmates to reach out and befriend me. I have been forever grateful for that kindness. In later years, whenever we met, he was always his steady, kind, and GOOD self. He had the gift of friendship.
Kit Ryan
January 6, 2014
What a guy! Rest in peace, dear Smitty, til we all meet again under the street light to play cards like we did when we were kids. And thank you for a million good memories from Hollister days on. Kit
Joe Curry
January 6, 2014
Dear Shelly and family. We all share your loss.Tom was one of the few true gentlemen I have Known. Please accept our condolence.
Joan Kuhlman
January 6, 2014
Knowing Tom from 7th grade on when he came to Hollister, he was always friendly, always kind. May your memories sustain you now and forever.
Michael Escavich
January 6, 2014
My condolences to the entire family of Tom Smith..
My memories of Tom Smith go back to the 4th grade at Robertson school.
Being the new kid in our class I was bullied on the first day . Tom came to my aid . he has been my hero ever since.
Always an excellent student and excellent athlete.. I will never forget Tom receiving the Thom McAn
trophy for being the most outstanding football player class of 55. Both of us being from the North end this made me very proud..
If their was any man who could achieve what ever goal no matter how high that man would be our own Tom Smith class of 55.
classmate and friend , Mike Escavich.
Prescott Wadsworth
January 6, 2014
What a great friend in High School. Thanks for the wonderful time at Tom Flaherty's home in September 2005 @ our 50th Class Reunion MHS. My wife, Linda, said you are one wonderful human being. I also agree.
Bill Saimond
January 6, 2014
I am so sorry to hear of Tom's passing. We were in the same graduating class at MHS and were on the track team together. I have many fond memories of Tom. His sense of humor was unbounded. He will be missed dearly by those who had the good fortune to know him.
Ed Stiles
January 6, 2014
Shelly and family
I was sorry to hear of Tom's passing. He was an athlete, scholar and gentleman. I have so many fond memories from Hollister and Manchester High School. I especially remember the wonderful evening of reminiscing at Tom Flaherty's home during the 50th Reunion Weekend.
Tom was greatly appreciated and will be equally missed.
Ed Stiles
Rod Goldberg
November 29, 2013
I attended UofH from 68-72 as an English major. I have forgotton alot about those days, But I have never forgotton Tom. What a great and genuine teacher he was. I took every class he taught. He was animated, engaging, funny, casual, insightful and he always really knew what he was talking about. He lit up the classroom. Everyone wanted to get into his classes, he was that guy.
On a personal level, he was always sincerely interested in what I, and all his students, had to say. He was kind and a good listener. A good story teller too. And he was a lot of fun to be around. In balance, he took the serious times in which we lived seriously. A great laugh,a great smile and a twinkle in his eye. And most of all,love in his heart.
My best memory, a story I still tell: Each May first he would read aloud to the class and anyone who dropped by, with drama and sadness and hope and love, James Dickey's long epic poem "May Day." It was mesmerizing, powerful and poinant. It was a standing room only event.
My sincere condolences to Tom's family.
Rod Goldberg
Troy Hoelzen
November 27, 2013
I did not know Tom well, but I was always fond of his wit and humor. When our paths crossed, it was most likely at one of Ian's October parties near the refreshments. Ever the raconteur he was always a delight. My sympathies and kind thoughts are with you. Sla'inte.
Marvin Harris
November 27, 2013
I will always remember his humor, his love of music, his compassion and of course the great love he had for his family and friends.
Ted Silverman
November 25, 2013
“Death leaves a heartache no one can heal,
love leaves a memory no one can steal.
From an Irish headstone”
Condolences on the passing of a truly nice man!
Bruce Anderson
November 25, 2013
With deep sorrow I learned of Tom's passing. Our friendship began as classmates in Hollister school and continued through our years at Manchester High School where we were team mates on the MHS swimming team. Time passes and we lose contact with our school friendships as we go our separate ways in life but there are folks we never forget, Tom was one of them. I will always remember Tom's smile and good humor. God Bless you Tom and may your spirit be with our Lord.
Sheila Marks
November 24, 2013
Dear Shelly and family,
Although it was many years ago, I remember Tom as a good, kind and intelligent man. You and he deserved a much gentler ending to such a well lived life.
May his memory forever be a blessing.
Denise and Bob Brucker
November 23, 2013
Our thoughts are with you during this difficult time.
Classmate Dick Jenkins
November 23, 2013
Dear Shelly and family,
There's a special place in our hearts for classmates, kids we grew up with, socialized with, competed with as fellow team members. The words that typically come to mind when we think of these kids are, popular, well-liked, friendly and more, but in Tom's case we would all agree he was LOVED. He was one in a million and he will be sorely missed. My deepest sympathy is extended to you, Shelly, and to all of your family.
Sincerely,
Dick Jenkins

Tom's 8th Grade Yearbook photo from 1951
Classmate Dick Jenkins
November 23, 2013

Tom's high school yearbook photo from June 1955
Classmate Dick Jenkins
November 23, 2013
Frank Bausola
November 23, 2013
Loved to swim against Tommy in HS. A great guy and a gentleman through and through. Best regards to Tommy's family.
Maureen Girard
November 22, 2013
With great sympathy to you. I am deeply sorry for your loss.
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