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Walter Jack Stelmach, MD, 86, Kansas City, Missouri, died Sunday, July 22, 2012, after a short illness. Born in Kansas City, KS, he spent all of his life in the Kansas City area. A memorial service will be held on Saturday, July 28, at 2:00 PM, in the sanctuary at Unity Temple on the Plaza, 707 West 47th Street. Starting at 1:00 PM, the family will receive visitors in the Narthex of the church. Jack is survived by his wife of 64 years, Patricia; three children and six grandchildren: son Christopher and children Rachel and Anna; daughter Cheryl Beaver (David) and children Sarah York (Jason), Tyler, Kathryn, and Thomas; son Jeffrey (Dan). He is survived by one great-grandchild, Harper York. He is also survived by his sister, Tania Powell (Richard), and numerous nieces and nephews. He was preceded in death by his parents Jacob and Stella Stelmach (who emigrated from Russia); his brother, Jacob, and four sisters, Mary Goodrick, Nadine Quisenberry, Ann Andrews, and Olga Walker. In his youth, Jack was a serious violinist, and his love of music continued throughout his life. Jack served in the Navy during World War II as a pharmacist's mate. After the war, he received his bachelor's degree from the University of Kansas City and his Doctor of Medicine from the University of Kansas. Jack will be remembered for his leadership in creating the Baptist Medical Center Family Practice Residency Program (Goppert Family Care). The original purpose of the program continues today, focused on the training of new family physicians. Jack will also be remembered for the kindness and compassion he shared with the many patients he treated in his career that included both private and clinical practices. In addition to being a well-known area physician and education administrator, he was past President of the American Academy of Family Physicians as well as the Academy's local and Missouri organizations. He also served as President of the AAFP Foundation and the American Board of Family Practice. He was passionate about medical boards and associations. This started with his participation in the Ditchley Park Conference on Development of Health Services and Medical Care (Britain, Canada, US) in 1972. Following that, he served as President of Family Health Foundation of America and Council of Medical Specialty Societies; Chairman of the Graduate Medical Educational National Advisory Committee, Shepherd's Centers of America; Associate Dean of UMKC-School of Medicine; and was a member of many medical organizations including the Jackson County Medical Society, Southwest Clinical Society and the Alpha Omega Alpha Honorary Medical Society. After retirement, he facilitated the American Board of Family Practice Partners in Health Program in cooperation with the Shepherd's Centers of America and was on the Board of Trustees of the Baptist Trinity Lutheran Legacy Foundation. During his lifetime, he received many honors including the UMKC Alumni Award, John G. Walsh Award, Max Cheplove Award, AAFP Award of Merit, ABFP Award of Merit, Metropolitan Medical Society Merit Award, Shepherd's Centers of America Samuel Curtis Reaves Award, and Ingram's Magazine Class of 2005 Heroes in Health Care. He was the author of numerous publications and presentations. He was also a private pilot. His early love of the violin extended throughout his life in his support of UMKC Conservatory of Music and Dance and his friendship with its students. Jack was also an Honorary Warrior in the Tribe of Mic-O-Say and served Camp Bartle in its health lodge. In lieu of flowers, the family asks that donations be made to W. Jack Stelmach Resident Education Fund, established in his honor at Baptist Medical Center and later incorporated into the Baptist Trinity Lutheran Legacy Foundation, AAFP Family Health Foundation, or Women's Committee for the Conservatory of Music and Dance at UMKC for Walter J. and Patricia Stelmach Violin Scholarship. Condolences may be offered at www.mtmoriah-freeman.com. M

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Published by Kansas City Star on Jul. 25, 2012.

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July 30, 2012

Dear Pat:

It has been 32 years since I left Kansas city and I have yet to find a doctor to replace Jack. He has always been the standard to which I compare them all.
From the time my I thought my son had polio and he came to the house to see him to the time my daughter took too many pills and ended up in the hospital. From treating all my kids problems to sewing my husbands finger tip on; and so on to so many times of physical and emotional pain he was always who we turned to. We all looked up to him as the one we always relied on and he never let us down.

My daughter (Beth) called me the day the obituary was in the paper and i have been thinking of you ever since. Even though we are not close I still feel a connection to you. I'm so sorry that it takes something like this to make a person say these things. I am truly sorry you and your children have suffered this loss. I know you are all aware of the terrific doctor and person he was, but I hope it helps to know how many other people admire him greatly.

Jill (Lauderdale/Jackman) Campbell

Marla Tobin, MD

July 29, 2012

Dear Pat and family,
Jack was a great friend and role model- he was one of my heroes and a great friend through the Academy. I know you have had a wonderful 64 years and will miss him, but I hope you take confort in knowing we will be thinking of you and missing him with you. He was a truly great family physician and leader, as well as husband, father, and grandfather.

With Sympathy,

July 28, 2012

To the Family of Dr. Jack Stelmach, MD
My prayers and condolences are with you at this difficult time. His legacy of accomplishments affected so many lives. May his joyful spirit comfort you during this time.

Jackie Powell, Kansas City, Missouri Baptist Trinity Lutheran Legacy Foundation/ KC Medicine Cabinet

July 27, 2012

Jeff, Stephen and I are so sorry for your loss. We send our love and prayers.
George Sotelo and Stephen McElroy.

Metro Med

July 27, 2012

Dear Stelmach family, Kansas City's medical community mourns your loss. Dr. Stelmach trained many of our family physicians who continue to practice and teach today. His legacy will live on for a very long time. He was beloved by his physician colleagues.

Jill Watson
Metropolitan Medical Society of Greater Kansas City

Judy (Schulz) Bielby

July 27, 2012

Dr. Stelmach was a great mentor not only to physicians but also nonphysicians as well. I benefited greatly from having the opportunity to report to him when he was my boss in the mid-1990's. This was during his time as Senior VP Medical Affairs at Baptist Medical Center. May his family find comfort in knowing that he has touched many lives in a positive way.

Dee Suddarth

July 26, 2012

Pat and Family. I remember how Lloyd Felter was telling me very often about the wonderful medical abilities of Dr Stelmach. My sympathy is with all of you. I remember the children from Unity Sunday School and serving on the Board with you, Pat. I bless each of you and know that your wonderful memories will give you comfort. Dee

Donna Downham

July 26, 2012

Thinking about you and your family during this difficult time.

Richard Kisling

July 26, 2012

Jeff, all of your colleagues here at Chevron are holding you and your family in our hearts during this sorrowful time. Best wishes as you grieve the loss of your father. We will look forward to seeing when you return to the West Coast.

July 25, 2012

Pat, My deepest sympathies to you. May your wonderful, happy memories and the love of others help you to heal. Dotty Spreitzer

July 25, 2012

To the Stelmach Family.
My prayers are with you. Jack was a wondeful man. May God give you peace in this time of sorrow.

Sheila Wilson
Sigma Kappa

Bob

July 25, 2012

I am grateful for the life of Dr. Stelmach. Thanks to his service and to the service of others in our armed forces, my family and I have been able to lead our lives in freedom and peace.

Jan Carter

July 25, 2012

I first met Dr Stelmach in the middle 1980's. I'd recently gone to work at the AAFP, and he was in a focus group I ran. I was very confused by the group, because every time I posed a question to the group of half a dozen physicians, they looked to one man and waited for him to answer. I tried everything I knew to get others to respond, to no avail. I took a break and asked other staff what was going on. "Oh," they said, "That's Jack Stelmach. Everyone waits to see what he says before they answer." Out of the hundreds of focus groups I ran among family physicians, that was the only time I saw that behavior. And, although I got to know Dr Stelmach and respect and like him, I never had him in another small group....the other doctors thought too much of him for me to get any discussion going!

Barb Kelly DeMoss

July 25, 2012

Dear Stelmach Family,
One of your family members called me the night of Monday, July 23 to tell me of the passing of Dr. Stelmach. I am so sorry for your loss of this loving, caring, kind human being and superb, awesome physician, diagnostician and humanitarian. I stayed up until after midnight because I knew the KC STAR would have gone to press and I would be able to look up the obituary. At that time, it was the partial obituary but it did offer the opportunity to write in the Guest Book. I would have been the first entry but I needed time to put my words together. What I have to say is a bit lengthy but you may not know of the actual impact this wonderful man had on the families he treated, specifically the Kelly family, my family. I first saw Dr. Stelmach when I was 4. His office was at Somerset and State Line. I never was afraid of him, although I wasn't real thrilled with the needle that usually accompanied those early visits! He had 2 wonderful nurses working with him, sisters named Barbara and Joann. It was a loving office that even a little girl could recognize. As the years went by, I was very impressed with the small kids table and chairs in his waiting room and the well stocked selection of Highlight magazines. My dad's name was also Jack and he and Dr Stelmach became friends, sometimes meeting for drinks or a bite to eat. I did some calculating yesterday and figured out that when Dr. Stelmach was a young, 33 year old physician he had to break the news to my 36 year old dad, a man with a wife and 3 kids under 9 years of age, that dad had Hodgkins Disease and had approximately 5 years to live. I can only imagine how difficult that had do be. We actually had 6 years with dad. The day dad died, Dr Stelmach tried so hard to get to Reseach Hospital in time but he missed dad by about 10 minutes. I remember mom sitting in a chair in the hallway outside dad's room and Dr. Stelmach was kneeling in front of her...he too was crying. I took this opportunity to sneak back into dad's room. I had been able to say goodbye to him about 15 minutes before he passed but I had a strong urge to get back into that room to give him a final hug. It was at that moment that I understood what my dad had taught me, that the body is just a machine but the spirit goes on forever. The body I hugged was no longer my daddy. My dad had asked Dr. Stelmach to keep an eye on “Dot and the kids” and Dr. Stelmach was good to his word. About 2 years later I had an awful, awful time with what was probably depression. Mom set up an appointment for me to see Dr. Stelmach. After a physical to rule out anything physical, Dr. Stelmach took the time to speak with me for quite a while. Mom told me that when I came out of the office, I had the most euphoric, peaceful look on my face and said, “Dr. Stelmach cussed just like daddy.” Nothing offensive, just a few well placed “damns” and “hells” in a very comforting conversation. It felt like "home", a home that had been taken away 2 years before. Dr. Stelmach saved my life that day, giving me courage to keep going...and I remembered my dad's words of "Kelly's aren't quitters" and I did not quit. I know Dr. Stelmach was proud when my sister became a nurse, then went on to Medical School and then became a brilliant surgeon. A few years after her residency, Barbara, Dr. Stelmach's nurse for so many years, told me that if my sister had chosen to practice in KC, she would have been the first woman surgeon in KC...my sister had never told me that...I know she couldn't have had a better example than Dr. Stelmach. And one more thing. Many, many, many years later, I was in need of finding a certain type of practitioner. As I looked at a list of names, I found someone with the last name of “Stelmach” and knew I had found the right person to work with to unburden emotions that had been stuffed down for years. Even though this person was a Stelmach by marriage, there was still that love, care and kindness that was so familiar. She too has saved my life. Rachel and Anna you have a phenomenal mom. Stelmach Family, thank you so very much for sharing such a WONDERFUL GIFT that was Dr. W. Jack Stelmach. May the abundant love he showered on you wrap around you and be with you as you journey on. I do believe the Spirit lives on and you will see him again. In fact, I bet he's already shook hands with my dad and said to him something like, “Hey Kelly, you're looking really good!!” God Bless all of you. Sincerely and with much love, Barb Kelly DeMoss.

Charlotte Krebs

July 25, 2012

My thoughts and prayers are with you and the family, Pat. Jack was the consummate family doctor -- he made us all proud to work on behalf of the specialty for the AAFP. What's more, both you and he were so generous in sharing your friendship and humor -- it was a pleasure to be in your company both professionally and personally. I wish I could be there Saturday -- but I'll be on a plane on my way to (what else) an annual convention. I'll carry with me warm memories of one of my favorite people of all time. Hugs to you all!

July 25, 2012

Dear Pat, I am so sorry. What a Wonderful life for both of you.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and
your family. Dodie Murphy

Allison Hinton

July 25, 2012

Dr. Stelmach was remarkably accomplished...and remarkably kind and remarkably generous and remarkably good-spirited and remarkably good. From a distant past, my condolences to Mrs. Stelmach, Chris and his sister and brother, and all other family: personal. professional, and philanthropic. You will be greatly missed and dearly remembered.

July 25, 2012

Pat, I am so sorry. I have many happy memories of you and Jack. My prayers are with you and your family.

Love,
Kathryn Casady Smith

Dan French

July 25, 2012

To Dr. Jack's Family:

I served with him on the Baptist Foundation Board during the time of the Trinity merger. Simply stated, he was a stellar gentleman and always a joy to work with, we know his reward is great! God Bless You and Keep You during this tough transition in life, his smile will remain to remind us all to enjoy this life and each other.

Dan & Dee

July 25, 2012

I too am 86, and served with Jack on many of the beginning efforts of the Family Practice movement. I have always looked up to him and respected him highly. My feelings are with his family now. Lewis Barnett 4734 Talleybrook Dr., NW Kennesaw, GA 30152
[Retired from Univ. of Virginia Dept. of Family Medicine.]

July 25, 2012

Pat, I am sorry to learn of your loss.
May you and your family be blessed by God.
Charlotte Brown

Charlotte McCarty

July 25, 2012

I am so sorry for your loss. I will never forget Dr. Stelmach ! It was about fifty years ago and my husband was seriously ill. I was home with two babies and he came to our house to doctor my husband. You are in my prayers.-Charlotte McCarty

Cheryl Anderson

July 25, 2012

Dr.Stelmach was a special kind of person... a gentleman and a scholar. In working with him at Goppert Family Care Center for many years and later serving with him on the Baptist Trinity Lutheran Foundation board, his zest for life and love of people will be forever etched in my memory. He will be sorely missed. My prayers and condolences to Mrs. Stelmach and family.
Cheryl Anderson

Tim Thomas

July 25, 2012

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

Tom Volek

July 25, 2012

Dr. Stelmach was our family physician in the 50s and 60s. My parents (and I) though he was the greatest, friendliest and most compassionate doctor ever. His funeral truly will be a celebration of his great service to those in Kansas City who knew him.

July 25, 2012

Pat, I am sorry for your loss. Having lost LeRoy recently I would tell you that it helps a lot to remember the happy times! You are blessed to have had each other for such a long life. Sincerely, Carolyn Pogemiller

Monique Griffin

July 24, 2012

Jeff - So sorry to hear about your loss. I am praying that your memories will bring you some peace during this time. My prayers are with you and your family.

Heidi Massie

July 24, 2012

Jeff - so very sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts. From what you told me about your dad, he sounded like a great man, doctor and dad. Memories of him will keep him close to you.

Helen Moore

July 24, 2012

Dear Jeff: My heart goes out to you and your family on the loss of your Dad. Love, H.

Toni Dotson

July 24, 2012

Jeff - I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my prayers.

Jerri Flynn

July 24, 2012

Jeffrey, I wish I had an opportunity to meet your Dad. I'll never forget the stories that you have shared with me. I know that he was very proud of you and loved you very much. I hope that your family will take some time to cherish your memories and begin the healing together. We miss you back at home where there are hugs waiting for you. Much love, Jer

Jerri Flynn

July 24, 2012

Jeffrey - your Dad was so fortunate to have you as his son. He must have been very proud of you. I hope that you and your family will take some time to cherish the memories and understand that you were always there for him. We miss you back here at home. There are hugs waiting for you. In loving support, Jerri and Jim

Tamra Melgoza

July 24, 2012

Jeff - my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Please let me know if there is anything that I can do for you.

Pamela Buller

July 24, 2012

"Jeff - I am so sorry for your loss! My heart felt sympathy goes out to you and your family during this very difficult time. Take Care."

Donna Mello

July 24, 2012

Jeff - You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers, and I am so sorry for your loss. I'm here for you if you need anything.

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