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for CAROL KOEHLER
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Charles Donohoe
December 12, 2020
To the Koehler family: We will always remember Carol. She was a wonderful person and living in this neighborhood hasn’t been the same since she left. She was a tremendous role model for both the parents and the children. May perpetual light always shine upon her beautiful spirit.
Holly and Charlie Donohoe
Damon Bryant
December 12, 2020
The Carol I knew as a student in the early 80s at UMKC was supportive and a breath of fresh air. She was different from other professors, more like a mother hen, and you could feel the love behind those big glass she wore and that she was sincerely rooting for you. She was a pusher, and she got on me a time or two, mostly exhorting me to go for it and try new things. She is a primary reason I ended up working in television at WDAF, after setting up an unusual 2 Semester internship that led to my first job there and eventually a long career in broadcasting. I still feel the warmth, love and pride when I see her photo all these years later. She was special, and to the family I know you miss her but a whole wave of people who learned from her at UMKC can tell you what a tremendous gift she was to each of us, and how much she loved her family. Blessings and encouragement from one of the lucky ones she touched.
KC Broadcaster's Award 1998
Kathleen (Wolfe) Brandes
December 12, 2019
Dr. Koehler showed a loving support of her students. She encouraged me to apply for a scholarship not generally gained by part-time students, which helped me afford an international student experience I never would've imagined being financially possible. She also gave me advice I needed to deal with a post-graduation transition.
I hope her family knows how much she meant to her students. Other educators can't compare, and she's greatly missed!
Jeff Hume
June 9, 2013
I was a student of Dr. Koehler's ('87). She made a real difference in my life by showing confidence in my abilities and offering me a couple of opportunities that changed the direction of my life. My world is so much better for having known her.
Nadia Curren
May 2, 2012
Dr. Koehler, Oh what a pleasure! I am so sad to here about your passing. I remembered the intense debates we had in your Com 483 class. You said, "The ability to communicate is an art and it is needed in everything you do." I am paraphrasing, but it changed my life. Thank you for having faith in me. Thank you for pushing me and requiring more of me.
Erin McFadden
April 7, 2012
I was so sad to hear of Dr. Koehler's passing. She meant a lot to me when I was a student (class of '05) and helped me a great deal. She was all around an awesome person and will be missed.
David Cordill
April 4, 2012
Thank you Dr. Koehler for the genuine concern you showed others and the intense passion you displayed in your work. May God bless all of us as he blessed you.
Linda Breytspraak (Sociology Dept.)
April 4, 2012
All the words in the world would not be enough to say how sorry I am for your loss. I still miss Carol's presence in the halls at UMKC where we often met and at the chairs meetings, where she was such a lively spirit. We are so blessed to have had her in our midst, and my thoughts are with you all.
Jill Schleiden
March 17, 2012
Please accept my condolences about Carol's passing. It's hard to believe someone so good, caring and vibrant could be gone. She must be somewhere brilliant; she deserves no less.
Dr. Koehler was more than a teacher to me. She was a friend with whom I could discuss literature and romance-era symphonies. She was a mentor who looked out for me at all times. And she was a confidant who never judged and always helped. She cared for all her students deeply, and looked after me as though I were her own child. I needed that. She was like a second mother to me, and I loved her.
All I can think to do now is pray and thank God she was in my life. And I will dedicate my first novel, which she proof-read despite her busy schedule, to her. I can't squander the value she put on my life with her faith in me; I dedicate myself so that I can fulfill her faith. Caringly yours,
Scott Anderson
March 12, 2012
I am so sorry to hear this news. Dr. Koehler was a kind and supportive presence during my graduate studies. I was grateful for her compassion and advice, both of which she offered quite generously. I offer my most sincere sympathy to her loved ones.
Charlotte and Ed Mehrer
March 12, 2012
We were shocked to learn of Carol's death. She was such fun, interesting person and we have some very fond memories of times sent with the two of you. Hugs to everyone and know that she is at peace. Much love,
Mary Jo Maguire
March 12, 2012
Sean and I were shocked and saddened to learn about Carol. She was such a caring, interesting and delightful person. We enjoyed our time with you both so much, and certainly shared lots of laughs. I know that this is a huge loss for you and your family; and we send love and sympathy to all.
Carmen Jaramillo
March 12, 2012
I am so deeply sorry to hear of the passing of Carol. She was a lovely person. I so enjoyed being her dental hygienist. I felt like I knew each one of her kids like I"ve met them and have known you all for years. Carol gave me one of your Christmas cards last Christmas (2010); so I got to see the people she's been talking about. I absolutely adored Carol. I will miss her greatly; truly, she was a beautiful gift from God. My deepest sympathy to you all.
Sue Meagher
March 12, 2012
I just heard the sad news about Carol's death. I attended Trinity High School with Carol and we enjoyed many good times. I remember our first meeting - freshman year, in home room. She was magnetic. Our class had many students - you remember several; but only a few make a lasting impression, and Carol was one of the few. She was always special with a charming personality. I often thought of getting in touch with Carol, especially when the Trinity High School news for alumnae came in the mail, but regretfully did not. You are in my prayers; I am so sorry.
Katy Wolfe Brandes
March 12, 2012
Dr. Koehler was such a caring, cheerful person, and I send my belated condolences to her family. She was one of my favorite professors at UMKC, where I know she will be greatly missed. Although I graduated back in 2002, Carol and I had recently corresponded by email. She was as supportive and inspirational as ever. Dr. Koehler sincerely cared about her students regardless of whether or not they were currently enrolled. She saw them as individuals and wished them well in their lives. I was so saddened to learn only yesterday of her passing.
January 26, 2012
"I have not cried again since Margaret's passing in March. I cried today. I want to share a note received from our classmate, Pat Bennison. 'I offer no advice, no magic, no special words that will ease your pain nor add comfort. I know none. But I can offer you my concern and my prayers to give you strength, courage and a stronger love to face what you must. I pray to the Lord. Your friend,"
Jack Frank (Georgetown '60/Fribourg '58-'59)
12/18/2011 e-mail
January 23, 2012
"I am so sorry to hear of Carol's death. Although I hadn't known her long, she struck me as an extraordinarily vibrant, delightful lady. My prayers and sympathy are with you during this very difficult time. Very sincerely,"
Steve Owens (Leawood, KS)
12/30/2011 note to Koehler family
Doctors Muehlebach and Owens were Carol's attending physicians at the University of Kansas Medical Center; each sent these handwritten personal notes
January 23, 2012
"I was so saddened to hear of your wife's death. It is never easy as a surgeon to hear this news, but even harder when the patient was as great as your wife. She was so kind to me during her stay here, more worried about my hours and compression stockings than her own pain and recovery. Even in my short encounter with her, it was easy to see what a great person she was. I can only imagine if she left such an impresion on me, how many lives she affected as an educator. I pray for you and your family in the days to come. Peace."
Greg Muehlebach (Prairie Village, KS)
12/20/2011 note to Koehler family
January 23, 2012
"Yvette and I join with the entire UMKC family to express our deepest sympathies on Carol's passing. No matter the cause, we are never fully ready to let a loved one go. Our sincerest hope is that you will find comfort and strength in your family and friends as you work to make sense of this loss.
Carol was a scholar of great kindness who was committed to the true mission of our university; she embraced her work as an educator and community member and went out of her way to include others in her love of learning. The high regard with which her students and colleagues held her is a testament to her dedication to education and to their personal growth. There is indeed a sadness among our alumni and university community who join us in mourning her passing.
As your family faces the coming weeks and months, please know that our university family joins you in your loss as well as in the celebration of all the wonderful things Carol was to each of us. Our thoughts and hearts remain with you. With deepest sympathies,"
Leo E. Morton (Chancellor UMKC)
12/20/2011 letter to Koehler family
January 23, 2012
"Sue and I were both truly saddened to hear of Carol's sudden passing. We both considered Carol to be much more than a friend. She was also clearly much admired by so many other people; a fact that is confirmed by the tributes left on her Facebook page in recent days.
She was always so kind and considerate and we welcomed seeing her at every opportunity. We have a constant reminder of her, as there is a painting in our hall that comes from a photograph taken of the three of us when we first met in Snowmass just after Erica and James had met one another.
Her passing will not only leave a void in your life, and the lives of the rest of your family, but also in the hearts of everyone who knew her. We shall both (and I know I speak for Anabell and Duncan as well) hold onto the memories of the times we spent with Carol. I know we are far away, but if there is anything we can do please do not hesitate to call.
Our sincere thoughts and prayers are with you and also with Jerry, Kristin, Gretchen, Mo and Erica and all the other members of the family. With deepest sympathies and kindest regards,"
Maurice and Sue Young (Chermesina, England)
12/21/2011 letter to Koehler family
January 23, 2012
"I am one of Carol's "Bookies" and I simply wanted you to know what a wonderful, kind and charming person I thought she was. I will miss her at our monthly gatherings very much. When my husband died last April, who was at my front door with her arms full, but Carol. I only learned at her service that you met in Freiburg. Somehow we never exchanged the information that my husband and I lived there from '69-'83. We would indeed have had lots of things to share. With warm regards."
Rhoda Payne (Fairway, KS)
12/29/2011 note to Koehler family
January 23, 2012
"This comes to let you know of my deep and special thoughts for each of you as Carol's life has abruptly ended. We all know there are no words for empty, hollow and shattered hearts. But I do clearly see Carol's smile and hear her vibrant and upbeat voice in my heart - where it will remain always.
Carol was the true "favorite" of our group of "Bookies." She helped us laugh and learn and stretch our hearts and minds. We didn't know you personally, but we came to through her great stories of family and the fabulous collection of photographs.
It is the Christmas season and soon would have been her birthday - there is nothing easy in that; you have one another and would be Carol's greatest comfort. A small personal donation has been made to Harvesters in memory of Carol. It seems so little, but bigger things are done with many hands. Deep peace & comfort to each of you."
Jodi Johnson (The Last Tuesday Book Group - Lenexa, KS)
12/20/2011 note to Koehler family
January 23, 2012
"My dear friend - As I passed Wakeeney, Kansas I was flooded with loving memories of Carol and skiing. She was so warm and with a great sense of humor. I will miss her so much. Jerry, you have always been so special to me and I regret not being there; but I will make it up. Love to you and the family."
Jim Howell (Highlands Ranch, CO)
12/24/2011 note to Koehler family
January 23, 2012
"I want to extend my condolences to you, and your family, on Carol's passing. I really enjoyed working with Carol -- for her honesty, her humor and for her total devotion to her students. She was one of the best and will be greatly missed."
Gregory Black (New Port Richey, FL)
12/20/2011 note to Koehler family
January 23, 2012
"Because of school, work, etc., Carol and I only got together 2 or 3 times a year (over a 40+ year friendship.) Those were cherished times. We spent hours filling each other in on our families and what we were doing with out lives at the time. (I got the whole scoop!) She was honest and open, warm, funny, exceptionally smart, a creative thinker, and on and on. Most of all, she was a caring and good friend to me and to many. I will miss our times together; but memories will sustain and I hope they will for you. She will never be forgotton. Love from my heart to all of you."
Sharon Brown (Prairie Village, KS)
12/27/2011 note to Koehler family
January 23, 2012
"My heart is breaking as I know yours are also. I can't imagine not having Carol's quips and wisdom in my everyday life. A better friend could not be had! Our friendship spanned 35 years and all that life could throw at us."
Michele LaPointe (Kansas City, MO)
12/27/2011 note to Koehler family
January 22, 2012
"I had the pleasure of being in the Book Club with Carol for 7 years. She always had such wonderful insights into each book. It was obvious that she was a caring, generous, bright woman. Without question, she was one of my favorite ladies. I will miss her."
Beth Winter (Shawnee, KS)
12/21/2011 note to Koehler family
January 22, 2012
"Our very deepest sympathies to a wonderful woman who was taken too soon. It was our privilege to have worked with her."
Chris & Bryan LeBeau (Kansas City, MO)
12/21/2011 note to Koehler family
January 22, 2012
"I didn't know Carol long, but in the short time we worked together, she enriched my life and welcomed me to UMKC."
Miguel Carranza (Latino/Chicano Studies UMKC)
12/30/2011 note to Koehler family
January 22, 2012
"Carol was a dear colleague and I'm so sad to know she will no longer be the always positive, lovely presence at UMKC. I will miss her very much. Please know how sorry I am and that I am thinking of you all."
Ginny Blanton (English, UMKC)
12/29/2011 note to Koehler family
January 22, 2012
"I won't be able to make it to Carol's service today, but want you to know that I loved Carol & will miss her so. I will miss her sense of humor, her great intellect, her liberalism, but most of all, her sparkle! She walked into a room and it came alive! And oh, how she loved all of you. With much sadness and love, and yet happiness that I had the opportunity to know this wonderful woman."
Corva Murphy (Kansas City, MO)
12/21/2011 note to Koehler family
January 22, 2012
"I want you to know how absolutely devastated we all are to hear about Carol. She was our fantastic colleague, friend and neighbor, and we grieve for her, your family and the large community she strongly touched with her awesome spirit. We are so sad. With love,"
Tom Mardikes & Family (UMKC)
12/20/2011 note to Koehler family
January 22, 2012
"Tom called me this afternoon & told me about Carol ... I was stunned, as I'm sure everyone was. She was such a life force ... and I can' imagine the loss you feel. Yet, Carol touched so many lives - mine own included, that you must feel honored to have been among her closest loved ones. Peace,"
Mary Ann Wynkoop (UMKC)
January 22, 2012
"Carol was one of a kind - an all time wonderful special person - we are so saddened. With love,"
Judy & Rober Stanton (Prairie Village, KS)
12/29/2011 note to Koehler family
January 22, 2012
"I wanted to send this brief note to let you know how touched I was by yesterday's service. It was truly beautiful and absolutely reflective of Carol and her infectious personality. It was a true honor to be in attendance.
As my earlier note expressed, I was honored to work with Carol over these many years. Thank you for generously sharing her with us. She was a GIFT in every sense of the word. I will always treasure my time with her. Warmly,"
Curt Crespino
Vice Chancellor- University Advancement
12/22/2011 note to Koehler family
January 22, 2012
"I was devastated to hear the news of Carol's passing. Dean Vaught was kind enough to call me over the weekend knowing of my close working relationship with her over the years. Your strength as a family will undoubtedly be put to the test as you work to make sense of this tremendous loss.
Please know that many of us at the University stand ready with open arms to support you and your family in this journey. Carol's legacy of service and kind, compassionate demeanor will never be forgotten by those of us who were blessed to know and work closely with her. With deepest sympathies,"
Curtis J. Crespino
Vice Chancellor
UMKC Office of the Vice Chancellor - University Advancement
12/20/2011 letter to Koehler family
January 22, 2012
"It is with great sadness that I write to inform you of the loss of Carol Koehler, Chair of the Department of Communication Studies and one of our most dear and devoted faculty members. She had been in the hospital for surgery, but her death was unexpected and is a devastating loss for her family, the College, and the UMKC community. She was a wonderful colleague and an enthusiastic professor. An alumna of UMKC, Carol had a long and steadfast commitment to our academic mission, to our students, and to the faculty with whom she worked. While deeply saddened by her loss, I hope that we may forever feel the spirit of who she was and what she stood for. Carol will be greatly missed."
Wayne Vaught, Ph.D.
Interim Dean, College of Arts and Sciences
Professor of Philosophy, Medicine and Bioethics
University of Missouri-Kansas City
12/19/2011 e-mail to UMKC A&S College
January 22, 2012
"This is a very hard letter for me to write. Since I got the saddest news about Carol's death, she has constantly been on my mind. I have this lovely book called 'The Family of Man' and when I am in doubt about how to express myself, I tend to look at that book. I saw some lovely quotes in it, and of course your wonderful & alive Carol comes to mind right away. So these quotes make me think of her, my beautiful, loving friend!
Behold, this dreamer cometh.
Genesis 37:19
... Clap the hands and know the thoughts of men in other lands ...
John Masefield
I am my husband's life as fully as he is mine.
Charlotte Bronte
I still believe that people are really good at heart.
Anne Frank 'Diary' 14 years old
... The mind is restless, turbulent, strong and unyielding ... as difficult to subdue as the wind.
Bhagavad - Gita
Behold this and always love it. It's very sacred and must be treated as such
Sioux Indian
O wonderful,
Wonderful,
2nd most wonderful wonderful!
2nd yet again wonderful ...
William Shakespeare
As the generations of leaves, so is that of men.
Homer
Before me peaceful,
Behind me peaceful,
Under me peaceful,
All around me peaceful ...
Navajo Indian
With that, my last embrace to you my powerful friend - Carol - You have given us all such love and joy. Peace. Lovingly,"
Terry & Anne Vitte Morse (Moab,UT)
12/27/2011 note to Koehler family
January 22, 2012
"I am an adjust instructor in Communication Studies at UMKC & Rockhurst University. Carol always made a point of saying, 'We couldn't do it without you." My husband met her at the speech contest. I will miss her."
Connie & David Bridges (UMKC)
12/27/2011 note to Koehler family
January 22, 2012
"You are all to be credited with creating one of the most memorable and dear people, your beloved Carol. She took such pride in your inspired clan. I'm sorry she left us. I feel so lucky to have known Carol these past nine years, though it seems I've known her my entire life. Of course, you know that she made huge impressions on people. Still does. I promise to help keep her light alive - giving, teaching, loving life, loving others and always being ready for adventure. In peace, love and sorrow,"
Daven Gee (Berkeley, CA)
12/27/2011 note to Koehler family
January 21, 2012
"Gram, I loved you so much. You were the best. I loved every minute, with all the stories and drives. You made everything have a story. It will not be the same without you. I will always have you in my heart. I miss you so much already and will miss you forever; but like you told me, you don't want to live with regrets. You want to live with memories in your heart and move on. I will always miss you and you will always be within me. Love, Ellie your granddaughter"
Ellie Gorham, age 11, (Ketchum, ID)
12/19/2011 gift wrapped letter to Carol
January 21, 2012
"In our lives we are touched by those who can truly teach us and show us so much about ourselves. But so few of these same people find a permanent place in our hearts as Carol.
I met Carol over 29 years ago (August 1982) when she was completing her graduate study at UMKC and I was starting as an assistant professor in the department. I knew as soon as we were introduced to one another that Carol would become one of my closest friends (fortunately, for me Carol reciprocated) and one of those few people to have an everlasting impact on my life. You all know so well her love of life - - she lived every day and every moment to the fullest. I know of only a handful of other people whose life can serve as an example for how the rest of us should live. And yes, you are "spectacular" and "wonderful" children and grandchildren because you have two spectacular and wonderful parents.
Carol's office was next to mine. We spent countless hours contemplating life in general and several research project that we planned and completed. When I retired a year ago, I knew Carol and I would continue our friendship. Now, I am glad I retired. I don't know how I could bear to unlock my office door and not hear Carol say 'Hi, Michael.' And then, I would either walk into her office or she into mine. I will forever cherish all of our moments and I am already recalling several of them as I write this letter to you.
I will always feel Carol's presence -- her intellectual curiosity, her emotional expressiveness, and her spiritual center. I don't know where Carol generated such energy for life; it certainly came from deep within her soul, her love for others and especially you, her loving family.
I know my words are of no consolation for your loss and your pain. Carol is irreplaceable. And that is why a copy of this letter and a picture of Carol are going into my family album. I will often open my family album to Carol's page. May you always know Carol has a cherished place alongside my family.
Carol and I were always close friends, but with the recent passing of both my parents, Carol became even a closer friend to me. She cried when I told her about my mother over the phone. And Carol made certain that Kristin call me (my mother lived about 20' from Kristin.) I was never more moved with Carol's display of concern for me. I too am deeply saddened by Carol's passing; but I am also saddened by those who will never have the opportunity to know her as we all did. Thank God for Carol."
Dr. Michael Neer (Lees Summit, MO)
12/19/2011 note to Koehler family
January 21, 2012
"You have my deepest sympathy for your loss. Dr. Koehler was a truly amazing woman who shared her greatest treasure with me. Her heart of gold will continue to shine through the many lives she has touched, including mine. She was responsible for me getting the Williams-Crispin Scholarship & the Vice Chancellor's Honor Recipient Award just last week. I am honored to have had her in my life. My prayers are with you all during this time."
Ramanda Hicks (Kansas City, MO)
12/22/2011 note to Koehler family
January 21, 2012
"You do not know me, but I knew and admired your mom/wife, and I was shocked and saddened to hear of her death. If I could have found you at her services I would have, to honor her energetic spirit and to meet you all. Short of that, please know you are in my thoughts and prayers as you navigate this Christmas together. I was a returning (read that as "old lady, with 3 children in their teens") student who thought the world of your mom - she was real, intelligent, charming, beautiful, funny and accessible. I thought the world of her and enjoyed our "extra conversations" that were not curriculum related. A memory of Carol that I have never forgotten - the details may be in error, and forgive me, but the essence of the story endures: "When a young (newlywed possibly?) wife; times were tough living away (Alaska, maybe?) from her family. She received a $100 gift from her mother and spent it on a hat for herself that she had greatly admired, but could not afford . . . ignoring the more pressing financial need in front of her and Jerry. Upon returning home, Jerry was shown the hat (was it red?) by an enthusiastic Carol. He smiled and responded, 'well, you must have really needed that hat!'" I love this story for so many reasons, but feel it speaks to her genuine nature. You all were lucky to have her . . . and she, you. Every warm wish,
Kathleen M. Glynn (Kansas City, MO)
12/22/2011 note to Koehler family
January 21, 2012
"A light has gone out. Carol was the light that illumined everyone's world. Her presence made us feel brighter and wiser. I admired her brilliance and dedication to her work - she was an inspiration to me to return to college and get my masters degree! I will always recall her intellect, her sense of humor, and that engaging smile. Blessings to you and your wonderful family."
Annette Thomas (Prairie Village, KS)
12/22/2011 note to Koehler family
Jennifer Cisneros
January 12, 2012
No one communicated passion as well as Dr. Koehler. My life was enriched by by her teaching and now my heart is saddened by her passing.
Carol, as I will forever remember her: cheerful, energetic, supportive, and inclusive.
Kati Toivanen
January 1, 2012
Mona Simons
December 29, 2011
Hello Koehler Family,
What a gifted and fun family you all are! I have happy memories of spending the night with Gretchen in grade school and enjoying the spunk of all the Koehlers. I pray you all feel God's loving peace and grace at this time. Mona Redlingshafer Simons
Brandi Bruns
December 29, 2011
Dr. Koehler was by far my favorite instructor at UMKC. She served as a wonderful mentor and was quick to look after me after an internship that I held went terribly wrong. I will always remember her as a strong vibrant woman. My deepest sympathy to her family and friends.
December 25, 2011
hI, Jerry, I came to the mass and couldn't stay to visit. But blessings andlove to you and the family.
Tom Powell
Jim Millerschultz
December 24, 2011
Dr. K, your students of the mid 80's loved you like our own Mothers. You, Tom, and McGyver took the old TV equipment that no one wanted and made it work. You hold a special place in our hearts. Godspeed Carol.
Allyson Blackwell
December 23, 2011
I am so sorry to hear about Carol's passing. It was my pleasure to have been one of her students at UMKC. In one particular class many videos were viewed. As the students watched the videos, she watched us and our reactions. I have never forgotten that.
December 22, 2011
Carol will be greatly missed by those of us who were privileged to know and to work with her. With our deepest sympathy, Lynda Payne and Bill Everett
Caitlin Horsmon
December 21, 2011
My love and sympathy to Carol's family, and to all of the rest of us who will miss her desperately and remember her tenderly. Carol gave me wise counsel so often as I learned the ropes of academe and was an outstanding mentor and dear friend. I do suspect though that I won her vote for my hire when I ordered a Manhattan after dinner during my interview - 'God I love a women who drinks a Manhattan' she said, and then ordered one herself. Here's to you Carol.
Terry Guignon
December 21, 2011
Our love and support go out to all of you. Carol was an amazing woman-smart, creative and funny, loving wife and mother. Our hearts break with her passing but we will always smile when we remember her and all of you. Terry and Jim Guignon
December 21, 2011
Carol's door was always open.
December 21, 2011
Carol was a dedicated teacher and a treasured colleague. She always had a smile and words of encouragement and wisdom when you needed support. She will be greatly missed, Jack Ward
December 21, 2011
Carol was a woman of good will, with good ideas who did good work. She will be missed.
Dale Neuman, UMKC
Ye Wang
December 21, 2011
Carol was such a nice colleague. As a mentor, she encouraged me and offered generous help to me. She taught me about respect and hard work. I wish I could have known her earlier and learned more from her, but suddenly she left us. I would like to express my sincere condolence to her family.
Christian Heaton
December 21, 2011
Dr. Koehler was so much more than a professor to her students. She was a mentor and recognized the value of real world experience being just as important as the classroom. Were it not for Dr. K, many a student, including myself, may not have realized all the opportunities available to them in the communications industry & community. Always encouraging & challenging her students, she was a guardian to those around her. The halls of UMKC will not be the same without her, but her influence will no doubt be felt for years to come. My heart goes out to all her many friends and especially her family.
Larry G. Ehrlich
December 21, 2011
Jerry, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. The world was a better place because of Carol. She will be missed deeply. She was the model of a true and faithful friend and colleague.
Al Duffy
December 21, 2011
Dr. Koehler was so much more than a Professor. She was a friend, a mother, a loving critic....she was sharp, caring, hilarious, tough... She never suffered fools. She was as passionate about talking film as she was talking family...she will be greatly missed.
Heather Laird
December 21, 2011
I am deeply saddened to hear of Carol's passing. I can't imagine the Communications Department without her. She has been an amazing mentor to so many students. Over the years, I have been fortunate to be a part of her internship program, which has launched countless careers. I feel so blessed to have known her and will miss her very much. My heart goes out to her family.
Katy Valentine
December 21, 2011
Such a force! And still is because she lives on in all of us who were blessed enough to have known her. That was the kind of woman she was. If she spoke you listened because she had so much wisdom and chances are she was the most interesting person in the room. She had a way of making you feel calm and that everything was ok, even when it wasn't. I wish I could share everything I learned from your mother but to put it in words is simply impossible to do. I will miss her and think of her everyday. Love you Erica.
P.S. I will never forget to buy the red hat :)
December 21, 2011
Jerome and family,
Carol was one of the most gentle, genteel, pragmatic ladies I ever met. When she walked into a room her inner beauty radiated to everyone in the room. She was truly a wonderful women.
Murray Rhodes (Kansas City, Kansas)
Rachel and Marvin Mahlik Grilliot
December 20, 2011
We send our deepest sympathy for your loss. We will keep your family in our prayers.
Ruby Watson
December 20, 2011
Dr. Koehler was one of my favorite professors. She was also an inspiration to me. She was a very warm and caring person. This is a great loss for the family as well as UMKC. I will miss her and miss talking to her.
Damon Bryant
December 20, 2011
I would like the family to know that the entire UMKC family including all of her UMKC "kids" who were taught by her are deeply saddened by the news. Carol was like a mother to us, and she encouraged us and delighted in our successes. Personally I will never forget her kindness, warmth and ability to motivate me to be the best. I didn't want to disappoint her. She was my favorite teacher, and I loved her. She will be missed.
Damon Bryant A&S '88
Tony B
December 20, 2011
Dr. Koehler was a brilliant professor. She was not only one of the most knowledgeable professionals I encountered at UMKC but also one of the kindest. My deepest condolences to her family and friends.
Nicole English
December 20, 2011
Dr. Koehler....
You will be so missed by your friends, colleagues, and students.....
:(
Always encouraging, she make you believe in yourself.... which is a priceless gift to a student. She will be so missed....!
Nicole English
Amy (Cowherd) Glynn
December 20, 2011
Mr. Koehler, Jerry, Kristin, Gretchen, Moira and Erica... I am so sorry to hear about your mom, Mrs. Koehler. My heart aches for you and i so wish i was there to give you all big hugs! Please accept my heartfelt sympathy. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Jie Chen
December 20, 2011
I express my sincere condolence to Carol's husband, children, grandchildren, and relatives. Carol is such a dear colleague, friend, and mentor to me. Her love has cheered up all people around her. I am so lucky to be one of her colleagues. She will be deeply remembered in my heart.
Blue McNiel
December 20, 2011
Carol always pushed me to do more and show more--to take one more step than I wanted and breach my comfort zone. I'm lucky to have known her. She is missed.
Damion Alexander
December 20, 2011
Dr. Carol Koehler was always encouraging and enthusiastic. She would not allow one (me) to simply settle for mediocracy. She was very honest as well, always seeking the best opportunity for students like myself. She will be missed and definitely remembered as on of the more influential people in my life. I am praying for your family and sending my condolences in this time of loss.
Killeen Koontz
December 20, 2011
My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Andrew Bergerson
December 20, 2011
To Carol's family -- I am so sorry to hear the news. Carol was a sweet and wonderful person, and a dear colleague who was always ready to help others. I will miss her.
Miguel Carranza
December 20, 2011
Jerry and family,
I just arrived this past September but Carol's voice (over the phone) was the first I heard from the UMKC 'family' as she was Chair of the Search Committee that hired me. It was her enthusiasm, sincerity and commitment which made UMKC feel like the place to be ... so I came here when offered the position. In a short time she became a colleague and good friend - I will miss her dearly. My prayers and thoughts go out to you and your family.
Karen Vorst
December 20, 2011
Words cannot express the depth of our sorrow for the loss of our dear Carol. We had her in our UMKC family for over 25 years and she inspired and shaped us in countless ways. She was everything you would want in a professor, a colleague and a friend. It is truly incredible that we will no longer see her shining smile in the halls and elsewhere. She was smart, kind, caring, feisty and endearing. Personally, she was like a sister to me in so many ways and I will miss her tremendously. I extend my profound sympathy to her family at this time of great loss.
December 20, 2011
Carol Koehler was a tremendous colleague and friend. She will be missed.
Donald Shields, Ph.D.
Professor Emeritus, UMSL
Jennifer Martin
December 20, 2011
Salute to a giving teacher and respected colleague. She was a model of both and her loss leaves a big hole at UMKC. My condolences to all her rfriends and family.
Jean Dufresne
December 20, 2011
Carol was the best; I was privileged to have known her. Most of all she was my friend and I will miss her very much. You are all in my prayers.
Toshie Kitamura
December 20, 2011
Dr. Koehler was my mentor and inspired me in a lot of different ways when I first came to the US. I feel grateful that I met her and have learned from her. She will be missed. My thoughts go to her family.
Rita Cain
December 20, 2011
My sympathies to the family and friends. Carol was a fine colleague and such a warm person. My prayers are with you at this difficult time.
Edwrd Boyle
December 20, 2011
Such sad news. Our prayers are with you and your family. Ed and Terri Boyle
Kathryn Houston
December 20, 2011
Carol was one of the greatest teachers I ever had the honor of knowing. She pushed me to go beyond the walls of the classroom to do everything possible to prepare for the male-dominated field I was heading for after college. She challenged our classes to learn the fundamentals, but then to expand on that and always break through the boundaries. I am blessed to have remained in contact with her, and to have been able to call her a friend when I came back to work for UMKC. With Carol, every conversation was lively, fun, and meaningful. There are tears now, but complete joy that she was in my life. God bless you Carol! Because He certainly blessed us with you.
December 20, 2011
Jerry, my heart goes out to you and the family. Blessings and prayers from the Powells, Tom Powell
December 20, 2011
What a great colleague. What a great person. I only had the opportunity to know Carol for a short time, but she will be greatly missed. Peace and blessings to the family.
Clovis E. Semmes, Black Studies Program, UMKC
Mark Corey
December 19, 2011
I agree with the sentiments of so many here. Carol was special and she changed the way I viewed my work and myself. She could inspire me in simple but meaningful ways, and I have always felt grateful for her influence on me. My heart goes out to her family.
Linda Breytspraak, UMKC Sociology Dept.
December 19, 2011
Carol was such a fine colleague and friend who always seemed to make the good of the group and others her first priority. The halls of UMKC won't be the same without her, but it is a much better place for having had her in our midst.
Adam C. Diskin
December 19, 2011
It is with such sadness that I am writing my condolences during this time of unfortunate loss to the Koehler family and the UMKC community. Dr. K was my favorite professor at the University level. Her passion and love for the students and their well-being was her greatest attribute. She was a great mentor to many that were fortunate enough to have known her. In celebration of Dr. K's life, "don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened." - Dr. Seuss.
Stacey Long
December 19, 2011
I like to give my encouraging words to the family. I can imagine how heavy your hearts are at this time, this to will pass. Dr. Koeler made a great impression on my life. She never allowed me to just get by. Just as everyone has said she was a light that shined bright you couldn't help but do what she requested. I am greatly saddened but she will always remain in my heart. Many blessings through this transition.
Rhiannon
December 19, 2011
Carol was always generous with her time, and supportive of her colleagues. Carol had a unique ability to transform an ordinary conversation into something meaningful and connective just be her presence. UMKC will not be the same without you.
Ted Anderson
December 19, 2011
Blessings to her family, especially Pat McSteen, a long-time friend. ted
Scott Baker
December 19, 2011
I so enjoyed working with Carol recently, and was looking forward to spending more time with her. She will be sadly missed, and my condolences to all family, friends, students, and fellow colleagues.
Mary Alani
December 19, 2011
Dear Koehler Family, On behalf of all the Allegris we're truly sorry for your loss. I have so many wonderful memories of your mom while growing up but my most vivid is her huge smile and her simple grace.
May her memory comfort you during this sad time and her spirit full your hearts.
Many thoughts and prayers for your family.
Fondly, Mary Allegri-Alani
Wendy Lawrence
December 19, 2011
To Carol's family – I am deeply sorry for your loss. Your wife, mother and grandmother really made life better and richer. The impact she had on me was profound. She always had the wisest, most confident response to any question I posed to her. One of my favorite memories is when I asked if she ever saw being petite as a deficit (of course, I am petite, too)? She responded, “I have always felt like the most powerful person in the room.” She was – in so many ways.
Deb & Paul Churchill
December 19, 2011
Jerry and Gretchen, this comes from very old friends from grade school days; the Churchill family. Paul and I still think of you often and when we came across this our hearts went out to you both. We just want you to know that you and your family are in our families thoughts and prayers. May memories of your mom live on in your heart always and bring a smile to you when you least expect it. With love, Deb and Paul Churchill
John Couture
December 19, 2011
As a UMKC communications student and later staff member at the university, I often interacted with Carol. I echo what everyone else has said here. She was always positive, caring, helpful, and a great listener. I was shocked and saddened to hear this news and my thoughts go out to her family.
Judy Ancel
December 19, 2011
Whenever I ran into Carol in the halls at UMKC or in meetings I'd pick up some of her positive energy and commitment to making the world a better place. She radiated concern and generosity. I will miss her very much.
Judy Ancel, Director of The Institue for Labor Studies, UMKC
Terrill Petri
December 19, 2011
I am saddened by this news. I was in class with Carol in the mid 80s and we kept in touch over the years. She was a bright light wherever she went and will be missed. My heart goes out to her family.
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