MARY KRISTINE CHEATUM

MARY KRISTINE CHEATUM

MARY CHEATUM Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Jun. 9, 2010.
Mary Kristine Cheatum died peacefully at Research Medical Center on June 6. Kris was born May 1, 1937, in El Dorado, Kan., to Ethyl and W.C. Lange. "Kris" attended El Dorado Public Schools, graduating in 1955, and graduated cum laude from Southwestern College in 1959 with a major in sociology. Kris was a case manager at the Kansas Department of Social Rehabilitation Services for 36 years, where she worked in the Department of Children and Family Services, specializing in welfare and social work. Her sons recall accompanying her on the long drive to the Osawatomie State Hospital, where she met with some of her most difficult clients. Remarkably, Kris maintained her social work license until the day she died. Kris married Raymond Lehr in 1961; they had two sons, John and Steven. Kris and Raymond divorced in 1987, but remained friends, proud parents and grandparents. In 1989, Kris married Lynn Cheatum, whom she met at a Nuclear Freeze group meeting. Kris, with her husband Lynn, had a remarkable career as an activist and advocate for a wide range of progressive issues, from the Cesar Chavez grape boycott to ending the war in Afghanistan. Most recently, she added the cause of Alzheimer's to her long list of causes, as the disease struck her husband, Lynn, for whom she assumed all care. Over her 50-year career as a human rights and social justice activist, Kris campaigned, published numerous letters in the KC Star, protested, lobbied, volunteered and marched (including carrying her newborn son Steven at a civil rights rally in the 60s). Kris was arrested five times for anti- nuclear civil disobedience at the Mercury and Los Alamos nuclear sites. Her sons often bragged she had an FBI file an inch thick. Kris was a member of PeaceWorks, where she served as a board member, secretary, UNplaza Art Fair coordinator, and was the editor of the newsletter when she died. Kris received numerous awards for her work including The Peace Action Lifetime Achievement Award, The 2009 Prairie Star District Social Justice award, The 2009 Social Responsibility Award, The Charles E. Bebb Peace Merit Award, The KC Interfaith Peace Alliance Award and others. She is survived by her husband, Lynn; sons John of Los Angeles and Steve of Las Vegas; her daughters-in-law Jennifer Lehr of Los Angeles and Grace Prasad of San Francisco; her grandchildren Jules and Hudson Lehr of Los Angeles; her stepson Max Cheatum; her stepdaughter Gayle Shurig of Orlando; her stepson-in-law Mike Shurig of Orlando, and step-grandchildren Allison of Orlando, Zachary, Logan and Keagan. She will be remembered by her family and friends as a tireless, joyful, hilarious, energetic woman with an indomitable spirit who added far more to this world than she took. A true humanist, Kris Cheatum focused on helping others, tolerance and, above all, peace. Memorial services will be held at All Souls Unitarian Church, 4501 Walnut, Kansas City, at 10 a.m. Saturday, June 12. Arrangements by Marts Memorial Funeral Home. The family suggests donations to All Souls Unitarian and PeaceWorks, www.peaceworkskc.org or 4509 Walnut, Kansas City, MO 64111.

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December 30, 2010

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December 30, 2010

I too worked with Kris, and Sara, in KC,Ks. Kris and I had our boys at the same time. I left in 1972 but Kris kept in contact at least once a year, especially when she told us John would be on TV. She will be missed by all who knew her and worked with her. All my sympathies to John and Steven and their families.
Pat Weisrock, Sheboygan, WI

Sara

December 30, 2010

Kris and I along with several others were great friends in those early days as young social workers in Kansas City, Kansas. John, I knew you before you were born and as a baby. Steven, I knew you before you were born. I left K.C. in 1967 but Kris and I stayed in touch. She has left us much too soon, but her good works will live on. My deepest sympathy to all who love her.

June 21, 2010

A beacon for diversity goes dark, but her light lives on

By LEWIS W. DIUGUID
The Kansas City Star

http://www.kansascity.com/2010/06/20/2031633/a-beacon-for-diversity-goes-dark.html

Bob Jacobi

June 15, 2010

I had the pleasure of spending many hours with Kris, and Lynn, in meetings, at events, etc. She was a truly kind, creative, intelligent and selfless leader who not only made a difference but did so while making all around her enjoy it. I am honored to have known her. She will be greatly missed.

William Oakes

June 14, 2010

John and Steven,
I am sorry about the loss of your Mom and your Dad. A difficult twelve months. I think back to times when life was simple on Farley Lane - fun we had as kids even though the age spread we had. Fond memories of Raincloud your dog and your mellow tabby cat (Lee-t?). The times your cousins visited from Eldorado, Kansas; fun we all had together. We lost our mom, Ruth Oakes last October. I saw in pictures Kris had attended her visitation. How I wish I knew and gone up to say hello and give her a hug. Not a six month time of my life goes by I think about our younger days.

Sincerely
Bill Oakes

Phyllis DuBois

June 14, 2010

To Kris's family,

I am Lynn's cousin, and he has always been very special to me. When I first met Kris, I knew she was the right person for him, and I have long admired her spirit, her commitment to peace, and her love for her family. My sincere sympathies to you: all of us are all diminished by her death.

Pamela Smith

June 12, 2010

The world has lost a true hero. Kris was such a committed activist for peace and a beautiful person. My thoughts and prayers go out to Kris' family and friends.

June 12, 2010

It seems more appropriate to celebrate Kris's life, and the many ways in which she touched our own lives, than to mourn her passing. I believe we can best honor and remember her by keeping alive within ourselves her spirit of love and caring, and to continue walking the road we shared with her: the path of peace.

Mario Galván
Peace Action National Board Member
Sacramento, CA

Devin

June 11, 2010

I had the pleasure of helping Kris and Lynn with their banking needs over the last 3 years. I will always remember her warmth and positive spirit. My condolences to her family

Julie Milner

June 11, 2010

An important presence for peace at the J.C. Nichols fountain will really be missed! Julie Milner

Bob Ehler

June 11, 2010

Kris's smile will always be with me.

June 11, 2010

Pat Kaufman

June 10, 2010

I met your Mom when we were young social workers. Then I met her again through the unPlaza Art Fair. Chris made this world a better place. She truly was one of those people who had "a life well lived".
I'm so sorry for your loss.

Mark Crawford

June 10, 2010

Only Met Kris once, and thought to myself what a sweet wonderful person. My prayers and thoughts go out to her family and friends.

Tony Mesa

June 10, 2010

Kris, Kris, I want you to hear this.
You are one of the very few I greatly admire.
Always so upbeat that I would wonder if it was for real, thus there were times when I would tease you about it.
So proud of your boys,John and Steve. They brought you great joy.
Mi Amiga de Alma, Vaya con Dios

Becky Robinson

June 10, 2010

To John, Steve and family: Kris was like no other. Her spirit, devotion, love and fight for peace, justice and social change were beyond measure. And, will live forever. She influenced thousands and is greatly missed. Fondly, her longtime friend and admirer, FeralBecky

Ernie Henderson

June 10, 2010

While some live their lives in quiet desparation, there are those like Kris who stand up and make a difference. This world is lesser place without her.

My thoughts and prayers go out to the family and friends of this beautiful woman.

Kris Cheatum

Steve Lehr

June 9, 2010

June 9, 2010

If UU's had saints, Kris would be one of them. She is greatly missed.

Sue Wells

June 9, 2010

Dear John, Steve, Lynn and family: We are deeply saddened to hear about the passing of Chris. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers! John...I was remembering when we took the wagon and walked way too far away from the house as kids and got into trouble. I also remember the awesome koolaid glasses (the metalic ones) and the peanut butter and honey sandwiches she always made us. Fondly, Sue (Rodina) Wells , Dave, Josh, Joe, and Amanda Wells

Terry Cushman

June 9, 2010

She certainly did add more to this world than she took, by far. May her spirit rest in the peace she fought so hard to achieve.

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