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David McDowell Obituary

McDOWELL, DR. DAVID Dr. David McDowell, 51, of New York, NY, died Wednesday June 4, 2014, at his home. He was born in Middletown, Connecticut, the son of Jacqueline (Larson) McDowell of Middletown and the late Dr. Arthur McDowell, Jr. Dr. McDowell was a graduate of Xavier High School in 1981 and went on to attend The College of the Holy Cross, where he graduated as valedictorian of the class of 1985. He then graduated from Columbia University’s College of Physicians and Surgeons in 1989. While in medical school, he served as the president of his class and began publishing scientific papers. After a medical internship at The Presbyterian Hospital in New York City, Dr. McDowell completed a residency in psychiatry at the New York State Psychiatric Institute/Columbia University. He later completed a fellowship in Substance Abuse at Bellevue Hospital/NYU Medical Center in 1995. At that time, he began a private practice in psychiatry in New York City. Dr. McDowell joined the faculty of Columbia University’s Division on Substance Abuse in the Department of Psychiatry in 1995. Along with his mentor, Herbert D. Kleber, MD, the former Assistant Drug Czar under the first Bush administration, he founded STARS, the Substance Treatment and Research Service. He acted as the medical director until 2004, after which he served as the senior medical advisor of STARS. In 2004, he founded the Buprenorphine Program at Columbia University, the first such opiate treatment program in the nation. Dr. McDowell was the author of numerous scholarly articles and chapters, in addition to the well-regarded book, Substance Abuse: From Principles to Practice (Brunner-Mazel, 2001). His scholarly work focused on co-occurring psychiatric disorders and substance abuse problems. In particular, his academic expertise focused on club drugs, such as MDMA and marijuana. He wrote widely on issues of sex and sexuality and was a regular guest and contributor to talk shows, magazines, newspapers, and national news organizations. Dr. McDowell served in a wide variety of positions. He was the longest serving member of the American Psychiatric Scientific Program Committee, and served as the Vice-Chair and Acting Chair from 2005-2007. He was named Distinguished Fellow from the American Psychiatric Association and was named one of the Best Doctors in America. He consulted widely on a variety of topics and was involved with a number of highly successful plays and films, including the Pulitzer Prize-winning musical Next to Normal. In 2008, he joined the faculty of Mt. Sinai Medical Center, where he expanded the teaching and clinical services for those with substance abuse issues and the dual-diagnosed. At Mt. Sinai, Dr. McDowell was honored for his transcendent teaching work. He won the Teacher of the Year Award (voted on by all residents) in both 2013 and 2014 as well as the Excellence in Residency Education Award (voted on by graduating residents) in 2014. Also in 2014, Dr. McDowell was honored at his 25 year Columbia Class of 1989 reunion with 2 Chairs in the new Graduate and Medical Education Building. One in his name and one for “Dave’s Friend (because he always has one with him)”. David was the consummate physician and personality who brightened every room he entered. In addition to his mother, he is survived by his brothers, Dr. Arthur “Bud” McDowell, III and his wife Gail of Higganum, Steven McDowell and his wife Vicki of Portland, Thomas McDowell of Middletown; his sister, Elizabeth McDowell-Smith of East Hampton; his life partner, Carlos Moreira of NY; also several nieces, nephews, cousins and many friends. Funeral services will be held Tuesday (June 10th) at 9:45 a.m. from Biega Funeral Home, 3 Silver St., Middletown, followed by a 10:30 a.m. Funeral Liturgy at St. Francis of Assisi Church, Middletown. Burial will be at the convenience of the family. Friends may call on Monday (June 9th) from 4 to 7 p.m. at Biega Funeral Home3 Silver St., Middletown. In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to The David M. McDowell, M.D. Fund, made payable to Columbia University, Attn: Faye Farese, Columbia University Medical Center, 100 Haven Ave., Suite 26C, New York, NY, 10032 or Middlesex Hospital, c/o Dept. of Philanthropy, Middletown, CT 06457. To share memories or express condolences online, please visit www.biegafuneralhome.com

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Published by middletownpress from Jun. 6 to Jun. 7, 2014.

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Deborah Engert

March 14, 2022

Dr.McDowell, you are very much missed. Everyday what u have taught me lives within me. U reside in my soul. U cared about me & not by telling me anything but by being you. You taught me without words but love that nothing matters more than to be truly loved & cared for. With that, u have all that is important & with that u can then start your true journey in life. I see u everywhere. Walking up Madison Avenue getting in the elevator on 57th st. Sitting in your office talking to me about art literature books & at the same time behind all that simple talking u taught me the true meaning of love, caring & true validation. I’ll always miss u & I look forward to seeing you in the next chapter of our lives. I see u swinging on a swing over a pond looking down at the fishes or under a tree reading a wonderful book. U r my light out of my darkness. I want to also say a word to your parents. They must have been wonderful caring people for you can’t give what you did not get. You will always remain in my minds eye & heart & u will never be forgotten.

Debbie E.

Alan Weitz

July 23, 2020

The reason I can't believe how many years have passed since you, Dave, passed is that your spirit is with me every day. Your light never goes out. I was your patient....I still am.

Sara Wiedt

February 19, 2015

This is my second message regarding Dr. David McDowell. I miss him more and more every day as a patient of many many years. It's been almost a year now. I have yet to find a new therapist ; there simply isn't anyone out there with his intelligence and empathy not to mention his physical charm and sense of humor. I missed the service at St. Barts as my own mother was ill but if anyone would care to share anything more about Dr Dave's tribute please contact me at [email protected]
Sincerely,
SaraWiedt

October 19, 2014

To Carlos: You are the hero, the unsung hero, the loving life partner for the past six years, Dave's happiest. I saw you take care of him every day through his illness and passing. Because of you, he could spend every one of those last days at home. You encouraged him, nursed him, fed him, loved him, accompanied him each step of the way. Your wonderful mother, Rosa, tenderly and quietly cared for him in ways he could accept from few. Dave and many of his friends and colleagues would want you to be acknowledged and honored for this and for all you were to him. Carlos, we salute and thank you. Dave, we miss you. The world is not the same without you.
Joanne

October 8, 2014

Just read about Dave's passing. He was always a kind thoughtful person who never missed a beat throughout my psychiatric training and my years at Columbia. My condolences and warm wishes to his family and friends.
Dan Schechter, Geneva, Switzerland

Liam F

September 30, 2014

To The McDowell Family,

My sincerest condolences for your loss.

David Wilson

September 2, 2014

To Carlos Moreira

Carlos, sincere condolences on the loss of your wonderful partner, David. You were there for him when he needed you most.

Robin James Storer

August 28, 2014

My sincere condolences for your loss..

Jane-Bailey Enquist

June 28, 2014

Dearest Jacqie---I called a cousin in Conn last week to get your phone number and she told me about reading of a death in your family.I asked her to send me the article. Well today it has arrived.
What a fabulous young man you have raised.I am so sorry your beautiful family has this sadness . I am so surprised that you had all those boys!!!! So successful and doing such great things for this crazy world. I am using Becks computer for today. So send me your phone number or URl and I will contact you. Lots of memories from l943....You are in my prayers. Jane Bailey Enquist

Sara Wiedt

June 15, 2014

Dear McDowell Family,
I saw David once a week for the last 18 or so years. He taught me more about life and love, Music,( I was in the Met Chorus and I knew immediately he was a beautiful tenor) writing a good letter ,being the best me I could be than anyone else. He met my family. Though private he was my family in NYC after a divorce. Helped save my
pension through contacts he shared and He saw me through
amazing life challenges. He was my rock. Most weeks I would bring him a soy latte from Starbucks and we would share stories. None of this tells the whole story of one of the kindest human beings I have ever known. Please know his goodness is all around us in all he touched. I will miss him unimaginably so. Heaven is surely enhanced with his sweet smile.
Feel free to contact me for any reason. Sincerely, Sara Wiedt

Ted Herrmann

June 12, 2014

To the McDowell Family - too many years have passed, but memories remain as if they were yesterday. I remember some great times with your family and some of the antics David did as a toddler/youngster - Reconnecting with him on Facebook allowed me to catch up with him after 45 or more years - it was amazing to see who David had become. My deepest sympathies to you all - David was truly a remarkable man.

June 10, 2014

We extend our deepest condolences to the entire McDowell Family. With sincere sympathy the Oppenheimer family.

June 10, 2014

Dear Jackie and family. I'm so very sorry to hear about your David. I remember with a smile the times he devoured spaghetti at our house and kept the crowd in stiches. My prayers are with you.
Loretta Cavanaugh McAlpin

Juliet Cavanaugh

June 10, 2014

I am so very sorry to hear of David's passing. May you find comfort in your memories of him...I myself remember many funny, crazy, musical times during our high school days...he was one of a kind.

Ara Peters

June 9, 2014

Dave was my doctor on and off for the last 20 years....he became more like a friend in my mind. He was not only so smart, witty, charming and insightful but more important Dave was KIND. He was an extraordinary Doctor and I will miss him in my life. To his family and loved ones, I send my thoughts and condolences...Ara Peters

Kim & Garth Colegrove

June 9, 2014

We extend our deepest condolences to all of the McDowells on the loss of David. May you embrace all the time that you did have with him and be comforted in knowing that his life had such a positive impact on so many friends, family and clients. He leaves this world light, as he left a lot behind. We will remember David for being compassionate and for making others around him happy by virtue of his smile.

Jolene Mastrio

June 9, 2014

I'm so sorry to hear of David's passing. What a great loss for your family and the world. I shared a seat with David so many times on our bus ride to school. (Mercy/Xavier). And was very fortunate to see him perform on stage. He obviously went on to do great things and will be forever in our thoughts. God Bless his soul.
Jolene Dube Mastrio

June 9, 2014

Our prayers and condolences to the McDowell Family

The Mylchreest/ Boehme Families

June 9, 2014

Tom and family,

Very sorry for the loss of your brother. May you have many fond memories.

Janet Heizman

Laurie Quinn

June 9, 2014

Steve and Family-
My deepest condolences to you all during this difficult time...

Jenner Libby McAteer

June 9, 2014

Dear McDowell family,

Tommy and I are holding you all close in our hearts and prayers. Our deepest sympathy.

The McAteers

Theresa (Sienkiewicz) Krauth

June 9, 2014

To All in the McDowell Family, I am saddened to hear of David's passing. Although I hadn't been in touch with him in many years, I considered him a wonderful friend. I had the delightful experience of being in Mercy-Xavier's Production of "Oliver" when David played "the Artful Dodger." His sense of humor and fun loving nature made the production and multiple cast parties so memorable! My deepest sympathy goes to all of you, he was one of my favorite people in our high school years!

LeAnn Murphy Cassidy

June 9, 2014

I had the honor of meeting David when we were mere high school students. He was a talented, compassionate, and loving human being. Anyone who crossed his path was blessed for having known him. May his memory be eternal.

Judy Dawe

June 9, 2014

Dear Jackie, Carlos, Bud, Gail, Steve, Vicki, Tommy, Liz, and the entire McDowell clan, I am so sorry to hear of Dave's passing. That was so fast. They say only the good die young. They also say, God only gives us as much sorrow as we can handle. I agree with the first, but still grapple with the second. May the wonderful memories of a life well lived and shared so joyfully, help to ease the pain of your loss over time. Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers. RIP David. Love, Judy Dawe Stankewicz

June 9, 2014

To the McDowell family,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you in this time of your great loss.
George and Millie Hunter

Laura Zawisa

June 9, 2014

To the McDowell Family - we were shocked and saddened to hear of David's passing. Too soon to lose such a brilliant mind and effervescent personality. We all have many happy memories of David's younger years when we all played together in everyone's backyards. We send our deepest sympathy and please know you are all in our thoughts and prayers.

Walt, Chris, Laura Zawisa and Donna Zawisa Hensler

Dean Fredericks

June 9, 2014

To the entire McDowell Family,
Our prayers are with you in this difficult time.
Your family has always been very special to all of us.

The Fredericks Family

Adele Myers

June 9, 2014

To the McDowell Family, I am so sorry to hear about David's passing. I have been a patient of his for many years and he helped me so much. I just can't believe he's gone. The guidance he gave me will be with me always and I am so thankful to have known him.

Jack & Lynda Herrmann

June 9, 2014

May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived.

Elaine Jackson

June 9, 2014

Thoughts and prayers to the McDowell families. David will always be in our hearts and he is watching over all of us. He has always been a shining star since we were in elementary school in Higganum. He is helping people in heaven now. He is at peace with no pain and suffering. Godspeed David!
Elaine and Seth Jackson

June 8, 2014

To the McDowell family,
Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with now more than they usually are.
Ed Kerrigan

J ames Ferrara

June 8, 2014

Dear Mrs McDowell and Family,
I can't tell you how sorry I am to hear about David. I am so blessed to have the opportunity to share many conversations while he was in school. I will always remember him as a true gentleman. Sincerely, James Ferrara and Family

Wendy & Terry O'Rourke

June 8, 2014

Very sorry to read this. may god hold you tightly in this time of sorrow

Evelyn & Jim McIntyre

June 7, 2014

Buddy and family,
So sorry to hear about David, our thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.

Sharon Godwin Purzycki

June 7, 2014

Dear Mrs. McDowell and family,
I am sorry for your loss. His memories will live on in your hearts. Thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.

Sharon Godwin Purzycki

June 7, 2014

I will always remember how proud Aunt Kay and Uncle Bill Trimble were of David when you would appear on the Montell Williams show. They were retired and living in Florida. They always made sure that all of their friends watched.
Judith Henry Brown

June 7, 2014

Tom and family,
God bless.
Paul & Carol Peloquin
River Valley Landscape
Haddam

Michael Lake

June 7, 2014

I was a patient of Dr. McDowell's for the last couple years. Such a tragic loss in such a short period of time - I'm still in shock. He was a caring and trusted physician who was clearly passionate about his work and always maintained a high sense of humor. The help he provided to me through our short time together was invaluable in getting me over some of life's obstacles and making me a better person, and I will always remember that. I can only hope he knew, and that it brings some solace, what a positive impact he made on so many people, just as he did with me. It is such an overused phrase, but he was truly someone who made this world such a better place because he was in it. My deepest sympathies to his friends and family.

June 7, 2014

Dear Buddie and Gail, we were so sorry to read of the passing of your dear brother. Our prayers are with you and your entire family at this very sad time. We are visiting our daughter ,Theresa in Portland, Oregon ,when my family called us about your dear brother. God Bless you all at this very sad time.
Very sincerely, Patty and Tom Inglis and family

June 7, 2014

David's Family I am so sorry far your loss Remember God only takes the best. your family is in my prayers Liz,Vicki and Steve you all know time will help and I know you will be there for Jackie to go on. I love your family and sometimes life is so unfair Paulette Evans

June 7, 2014

To the McDowell family, I'm shocked to hear of the passing of David , such a loss, he had such a brilliant mind , I remember when you all lived next door to us on lake pocotopaug in east hampton, big Red Sox fans , I enjoyed reading about David on all his web sites, please call if theirs anything I can do for you Jackie, Robin Hood Boyce, Greenville, sc

June 7, 2014

McDowell's,

David possessed a wonderful mind, an excellent heart, and an indestructible spirit. This is truth.

"A great soul serves everyone all the time. A great soul never dies. It brings us together again and again."
- Maya Angelou

Love, comfort and peace to the family and his partner.

Ken

June 7, 2014

Dear Jackie,
I am so sorry for your loss. Deepest sympathy to you and the family.
Susi Delldonna

June 6, 2014

As the days and weeks pass, and as you return to life's routine, may you continue to feel comforted by the love and support of family and friends.

Alan Weitz

June 6, 2014

You once suggested I put flowers around my apartment. I still do. I will never forget you, nor your wisdom, humor, brightness; your unique gifts for healing; your sarcasm. Today I will buy a flower for you. Love. Farewell.

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