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Norman Sidebottom Obituary

Norman Sidebottom
~ 2011 ~

MONTEREY - Norman Sidebottom died Saturday evening, June 11, 2011 at his New Monterey home. He was 67. Mr. Sidebottom was born in Rhode Island. While still a child, he moved with his family to Alabama, and then on to Hollywood, California, where his uncle worked in the film industry. It was in California that he began what would be a lifelong interest in and devotion to birds; birds of all kinds - chickens, jungle fowl, pheasants, cochins, peacocks, peahens, ravens, blue jays, and crows. He housed them, studied them, tended them, and occasionally ate them. They were a delight and sometimes an irritation to neighbors, indicated by a 2002 citation from the City of Monterey. Undaunted, he enlarged his collection.
Mr. Sidebottom lived in London during the mid-1960s, returning in 1968 to take a job at the Museum of Natural History in New York. He worked in the Hall of the Ages of Man, under the direction of anthropologist Margaret Mead. His correspondence with Dr. Mead is contained within the Margaret Mead Papers in the Manuscript Division of the Library of Congress. A man of letters throughout his life, in general he preferred reading to writing, though he did take time to write and produce two radio plays, "Kingdom Come," and "Life After Bing," which were both presented on KAZU radio.
Returning to California in the 1970s, Mr. Sidebottom settled in New Monterey. His house had been built as an artist's studio back in the days when John Steinbeck and Bruce Ariss roamed the neighborhood. It became the center of social gatherings for many years. A wonderful chef, he loved to cook for friends and to host parties, frequently lasting through the weekend. The voices of Ella Fitzgerald, Blossom Dearie, Susannah McCorkle, and the sounds of salsa, samba, laughter, and the popping of corks would drift down the street toward Prescott Avenue. Sidebottom had a unique ability to maintain dignity and self-containment in the midst of unrestrained revelry.
During the week, he worked as a mail carrier for the Pacific Grove Post Office. In addition to the mail, Mr. Sidebottom was in the habit of delivering birdseed throughout his route. For years, Pacific Grove residents would see him walking along the street pushing his mail cart, escorted from above by eager corvids swooping in anticipation. Residents would, from time to time, bring him injured birds, which he would tuck into his home incubator and nurture, in most cases, back to health.
In recent years, Mr. Sidebottom was afflicted with leukemia. He went through his treatments with grace and patience. There were fewer parties and more reading, gardening, and watching old movies. His house with filled with back and current issues of the London and the New York Review of Books, The Oldie, Anthony Trollop novels, biographies of obscure and notorious people, bird anthologies, and seed catalogs.
Mr. Sidebottom was preceded in death by his close friend, Miguel Benitez Pe–aloza. He is survived by brother, William Sidebottom; sister, Barbara Sidebottom; and friends on both sides of the Atlantic, too numerous to mention, who grieve their loss of a treasured friend, and the end of an era. A memorial gathering will be held later in the summer.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by Monterey Herald on Jun. 21, 2011.

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Joann Sason

May 18, 2023

I met Norman while working at the Museum of Natural History in New York City. It´s wonderful to find out more about him so many years later.
Joann Sason

Bill Turner

June 15, 2012

Still remembering and missing my Uncle Norman.

Norman and Chico Gloomy Acres, 2010

Marylee Stadler

October 25, 2011

Alix and Norman, laughing, of course 2004

Marylee Stadler

October 25, 2011

Norman, Alix and Marylee Thanksgiving 2008 at Gloomy Acres

Marylee Stadler

October 25, 2011

brice Rivé

July 16, 2011

Thank you Norman, for bringing so much light and taste to all lives around yours. Twenty years ago, I saw you prove that things that should be, can be. I never forgot it. There is no better place in the world for a rainy Sunday than Gloomy Acres.

Liz Maines

July 11, 2011

Oh my good friend...you'll be missed by so many! Thanks for helping me become the "Queer Activist" I am today, for the love of drag queens, roller derby queens and drag kings, Cole Porter and old Hollywood movies. I'll always love you Uncle Norman! Now you are in heaven with Tom Myer, Alice, and so many that left us during the AIDS pandemic. Rest in peace my love.

Irene

July 9, 2011

I only met Norman in this century, which wasn't his century, really, but he's a timeless treasure. He carried his illness with grace and humor that most of us can only hope to emulate. Mostly, we are left to admire him, and are lucky at that.

Rich Nethaway

June 29, 2011

While I was at Ft Ord, I spent some weekends at Normans, and I will always remember him as a kind person, and will always remember his upside down Christmas Tree.

Allan Lee

June 29, 2011

I'll miss you Norman, and those wonderful Grand Marnier soufflés.

Jenny Capelle

June 23, 2011

My memories of uncle Norman are somewhat limited. I have't seen him in 35 years.One important memory I have is him coming to our house for a visit when I was 7. He was so kind and patient. He was the first man I had ever known that I wasn't afraid of. I wish I had thanked him for that.

Brenda Long

June 22, 2011

He sounds like a person you would have been lucky to know, and have in your life...

Bill Turner

June 22, 2011

My favorite uncle. He was so well read and had so many interesting stories it was a joy to be around him. On his last visit I enjoyed taking him to the Hollywood Bowl and the Griffith Observatory. I also enjoyed visiting him. I would wake with to his records playing in the next room and it added a nice soundtrack to the day. He is missed.

Uncle Norman in the Outer Banks N.C. 1977....

Jackie Sidebottom-Allen

June 21, 2011

Uncle Norman and Jeanette along the McKenzie River in the late 1960's

Jackie Sidebottom-Allen

June 21, 2011

Uncle Norman when he came to visit us in North Carolina along the Outer Banks in Kitty hawk 1977....

Jackie Sidebottom-Allen

June 21, 2011

Eric Bowman

June 21, 2011

When I met Norman I was instantly drawn to him and shared his interest in birds, especially corvids. My partner and I sat with him discussing crows, ravens, and life as he sipped ginger ale until he became too weary. He said he felt like he'd exceed the doctor's "Ten weeks left to live" but sadly, he was gone in four days. We are sad that you had to leave us and hope you are flying free with your beloved birds, Norman.
Eric Bowman and Larry Foard

Jackie Sidebottom-Allen

June 21, 2011

As a young child Uncle Norman would teach me how to make french toast like the french people did with a dash of vanilla extract and a pinch of cinnamon.... I still make it the very same way, and have taught many others as well.... Uncle Norman would call me or send me post cards from his place of travels, he was a person who loved visiting other countries through the years..... He would Tell me about his adventures in the world, and enjoyed describing of all the things, places and people who he met along the way..... He would teach us games the kids in London played like London bridges falling down he'd taught my sister and I the song Fara Shaka and interpreted and translated to the american Version ,,,,, I remember so many road trips we would take up the highway to see the chipmunks or to the coast to play in the sand,,,, I remember a time going to see the Nutcracker and I would sit on his shoulders so I could watch the program...... He liked swimming in Yvonne Di Carlos pool on a few occasions with my family. But you know there is one thing I will never forget, how made me feel loved in so many ways and he made feel worthy.... So many more memories,,,,

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