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Dorothy McEwen Obituary

Dorothy McEwen, 61, passed away on January 31st, 2005 at her home with her family by her side after a long battle with brain cancer. She was born on March 3rd, 1943, in Seattle, Washington, the daughter of Marion Strout and Gene McEwen. In 1963, she married her high school sweetheart, Gary Kildall. She attended the University of Washington after high school. After a few years, she stopped and for the next several years, she worked to support her husband as he went to the same university. In 1969, Gary and Dorothy moved to the Monterey Peninsula. She gave birth to her son, Scott, in 1969 and to her daughter, Kristin, in 1971. She was very active in her children's lives as well as in the community. She served in the Board of Directors for the Pacific Grove Heritage Society and Intersea Research. She also volunteered at the Pacific Grove Art Center, the Suicide Prevention Center, the Boy Scouts and Girl Scouts, the Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals and the Pacific Grove Unified School District. In 1976, she co-founded Digital Research, Inc., with her husband, Gary Kildall. Her husband had spent years developing CP/M, the first commercial operating system for personal computers and Dorothy was instrumental in bringing it to market. Their company sold and promoted the software, which gave life to a fledgling computer industry. With Dorothy in charge of the marketing and Gary working on the software code, Digital Research quickly grew in size. With her knack for creating a welcoming community, the employees of Digital Research were treated as an extended family. Gary and Dorothy's efforts were critical in bringing computers to the home and widespread business use. In 1983, she and Gary permanently separated and later were divorced. In 1989, she bought the then dilapidated Holman Ranch on a 400-acre plot of land and relocated to Carmel Valley. Over the course of 20 years, she rebuilt the Holman Ranch, transforming it into a beautiful site for weddings, corporate parties, photo shoots and charity events. She also built a state-of-the-art equestrian center with facilities for training, riding and boarding. With gorgeous landscaping and restored Spanish-style architecture, she dubbed the Holman Ranch a “heaven on earth� for many to enjoy. She continued her community work in Carmel Valley. In response to the 1995 Carmel Valley floods, she co-founded the Carmel Valley Angel Project and the Community Thanksgiving. That same year, she received the Good Egg award by the Carmel Valley Chamber. She served on the boards of the Carmel Red Cross, Carmel Valley Recreation and Park District, Carmel Valley Chamber of Commerce and Animal Welfare Information and Assistance. She has also volunteered with the Carmel Valley Village Improvement Committee and the Carmel Valley Women's Club. At the Holman Ranch, she hosted numerous fundraisers, including the “Great Bowls of Fire� Chili Cook-Off and the Carmel Valley Mother's Day Brunch. In 1998 she was honored as Woman of the Year of the Monterey Peninsula by Quota International. In 1999, she started the Senior's Program, further spreading joy to her community. Dorothy was an avid traveler, a collector of antiques and a proud mother. She always maintained a good sense of humor even in adverse circumstances. She was well-loved by family and many friends. She is survived by her son, Scott Kildall, her daughter, Kristin Kildall, her brother, Richard Strout, and her mother, Marion Strout. Remembrances can be sent to Holman Ranch, P.O. Box 149, Carmel Valley, CA 93923. A memorial service will be held from 2-4pm on Saturday, February 5th at The Holman Ranch, 60 Holman Rd., Carmel Valley, CA 93923.

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Published by Monterey Herald on Feb. 2, 2005.

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Michael Mattauch

January 28, 2006

Kristy ~ I was hoping that we could stay in touch. I know we have not spoken in a while, but would love to meet for some coffee and catch up and talk about the old times, next time you are in the area. By the way I am getting married this year. Anyway, Hope all is well for you and yours! All my Love and all the best!

Michael Mattauch

May 30, 2005

Dear Kristi and Scott,



I am very sorry to hear that your mom has passed.



Kristi~ It has been many years since we last saw each other. In fact I think the last time we spoke you were working at a stained glass shop. As you may recall we spent many a day spent together on the jumpers circuit and at the the Pebble Beach Equestrian Center. What I would give to be back in those times once again. I know I had some great times! I will always treasure the great memories I had with you and the gang there.



Again, my deepest sincere sympathies to you both.

Your friend always,

Michael Mattauch

Judy Mervis

February 22, 2005

Dear Mrs. Strout, Scott, Kristin, and Dick,



As Michael observed in his entry, Dorothy was interested in others, and shared her enthusiasm for life with many friends. I first met Dorothy in 1982, working for her at DRI, and continued our friendship for 23 years. My most favorite memory of Dorothy is the time she invited my mother, who was visiting me from Ohio, to see the Holman Ranch. Since my mother was "up in years" and it was difficult for her to walk the terrain of the ranch, Dorothy simply walked over to a golf cart, and off we went for a tour of the property. As we toured, it came time to move some of the animals from the lower pasture to the upper barn. From the golf cart, Dorothy whistled and called, and all the animals ran up to the barn. All except Corizon, the stubborn burro. Dorothy whistled. Corizon would not budge. Dorothy called Corizon's name...still no response. Finally, in one swift move, Dorothy jumped out of the golf cart, pulled up a tall weed, tapped Corizon on the flank, and up the hill ran that stubborn burro! We laughed and rode up the hill--another victory for Dorothy! The picture of Dorothy, tanned, smiling, the sun glinting off her curly black hair, is the one I will hold in my heart forever. What a joy to have known her!

Pauline and Bob Herlien

February 17, 2005

Dear Scott and Kristi,



We are so sorry to hear that your mother is no longer with us. Bob and I were out of town and did not know of the memorial service until our return. Your mother was an exceptional businesswoman who believed in the strength and intelligence of women. Dorothy empowered us with the ability to embrace challenge and overcome adversity though her example. For those of us fortunate enough to work with her in the 80's, she opened the golden door of opportunity in a male dominated computer industry. Due to her leadership, countless women became outstanding, professional leaders in the field of business. We owe her a great debt of gratitude. Working with both your parents was one of the best experiences of my life; and were it not for them, Bob and I might not have met and fell in love, Thank you Dorothy and Gary. You made a difference in this world.



Bob and Pauline Herlien

Daniel Davis

February 14, 2005

Dear Kristi and Scott,



My sincere sympathies to you on the loss of your mother. I was in Europe the two weeks this happened so was unable to attend the memorial service and extend my sympathies personally. If you remmeber me you know I knew your mother and father from the time Scott was a baby. I remember when you Kristi were born and your parents lived in Seaside. Gary and I learned to fly together. I have many fond memories of a time when we were all pretty young and poor, and working hard to make it in the world. Dorothy was a very strong person who worked hard and made her own way in the world. She shared her good nature and was generous to many people. I know you must be proud of both of your parents.



My best regards to you both.

Mike Mervis

February 14, 2005

Dear Mrs. Strout, Scott, Kristin, and Dick,

Years ago, Dorothy, and my wife, Judy, and I attended a house-warming for a young couple who worked at the Holman Ranch. Although the couple's first home was a typical tract home in a working class Salinas neighborhood, you wouldn't have known it from Dorothy's reactions to it. She asked the couple for a tour and I'll always remember Dorothy's genuine interest in every room as evidenced by her questions and praise. The husband and wife were beaming! Dorothy was an extraordinary, fun-loving woman filled with generosity, humility and a can-do spirit. I am deeply saddened by her loss but truly blessed to have had her friendship.

Bennett Gold

February 12, 2005

Kristi & Scott:

Although I hadn't seen your mother in over 25 years, I remember her vividly. My wife, Sheila, and I were good friends of your parents while I was on the faculty at the Naval Postgraduate School. We had lots of good times together - Gary and I taking you two to lunch along with our two kids, Jennifer and Josh, while Dorothy and Sheila went shopping.



We will always have fond memories of Dorothy and have lots of funny stories we still tell about some of the things she did.



Sincerely,

Ben & Sheila Gold

Greg Gibbons

February 10, 2005

I was so sorry to hear of Dorothy's passing. My former wife Maureen and I were friends of the Kildalls from about 1970; after my divorce in 1983 I moved to Silicon Valley and soon lost track of both of them. I had no idea what a wonderful life Dorothy had lived after that time, and often wondered what she was doing. She will be missed.

Leif Enger

February 9, 2005

Dear Kristy and Scott,

I have not met you but your Mom. I am from Sweden and I met Dorothy in Carmel a couple of times - both in a resturant (together with her friend Tootie) and in her home. She was a remarkable woman.

Sincerely,

Leif Enger

Uppsala

Sweden

Jennifer, Mark, Mikey & Jesse Ross

February 7, 2005

Dear Kristi and Scott,

I am so sorry to hear about your Mom's passing. She was such a wild and strong woman and gave so much of her heart and soul to the community. I was very proud to have known her and to have been able to spend time with her during many Thanksgiving's and Christmas's. I hope we can all stay in touch and know that you will always be in my heart!!



Love and friendship ALWAYS,

Adam and Donna Messer

February 5, 2005

I never actually met Dorothy, but I heard a great deal about her. She was a wonderful woman. Dorothy and Gary's efforts at DRI changed the course of computing forever. We all owe her a debt of gratitude.



I had always wished I could have met her in person. She will be missed.



Adam

Dorothy on "top" of the Holman Ranch with her beloved dogs Bear and Annie. May 2004.

February 5, 2005

Don DeVitt

February 4, 2005

This is very sad news.

The first week I worked for DRI I flew to Carmel from Boston. The Hotels were filled in the area. Dorthy and Gary offered this new employee(me) their guest house. I will never forget this gracious act. The company they built together was very special. I miss them and that time.

Patie McCracken

February 4, 2005

Scott and Kristi,

You have brought much love and joy to your mother. She was such a kick-in-the-pants. She loved showing off her red "dorothy shoes" tatoo on her back shoulder. What a great birthday present you gave her!

Thinking of you at this sad time. Take care, Love Patie

Eric and Michelle Bull

February 3, 2005

Wow. What a shock. We are saddened and send our warmest regards to Dorothy's family. Just recently we sent an email to the Ranch asking about accomodations to celebrate our 15th anniversary. You see, we were the first to be married at the Holman Ranch under Dorothy's ownership. It was a glorious day, April 7 1990, with the gazebo recently relocated to the lawn. We hired a hammered dulcimer and had bubbles blowing throughout the ceremony. Dorothy allowed us the run of the place and we made wonderful memories. Dorothy was gracious to allow us back the following year to enjoy our first anniversary picnic on the lawn - dining on a piece of our wedding cake. We had hoped to visit again for our 15th and were curious why we hadn't heard back. God bless, and thanks for being a part of our lives!

Anne Holliday

February 3, 2005

I'm so grateful for the photograph for it captures her wit, character, intelligence, compassion and beauty of mind and spirit.

Lore Lingner

February 2, 2005

Dear Kristi,



My deepest sympathies to you and your family on the passing of your Mom.



Would love to see you again and hear about your work and travels.



Best regard,

Lore

(Linda Kotzmann's Aunt)

S. Berta

February 2, 2005

My family sends our most sincere

heartfelt sorrow to Dorothy's

family and extended family who are

part of Holman Ranch; especially to

Kristy. I was priviledged to be

Dorothy's neighbor below her water

tower down on Valle Vista when she

first became part of the valley...

making friends with Dorothy, as we

all know, is a lifelong event. My

horse became a first boarder at the

old red barn stable. Years later,

Dorothy hosted my wedding party at

her home when I married 'the boy

next door', as she loved to say.

She was honoured guest at family

brandings; branding her own steer

calf from our herd, bottle raised

for her delight. To lose such a

treasured friend is beyond words;

royalty and equestrians alike were

humbled by her sterling presence.

With much love, my family bids her

Adieu and happy trails.

Sincerely, the Timothy Berta family

Meryle Sachs

February 2, 2005

Dear Kristy and Scott,

My heart goes out to you. Your mother was a queen.

With sincere sympathy,

Meryle Sachs

Jim Jenkins

February 2, 2005

I remember fondly Dorothy back in the old CPM days ... she are Gary most certainly we early and significant pioneers in the personal computer revolution. Since I have moved from Carmel to Tempe AZ many years ago ... lost contact as to what transired in her life ... the Holman ranch .. also is another unique development by a most unique woman.



My best to her family and friends

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