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Ursula Pawel

1926 - 2015

Ursula Pawel obituary, 1926-2015, 89, Maplewood

BORN

1926

DIED

2015

Ursula Pawel Obituary

Ursula Pawel

AGE: 89 • Maplewood

Ursula Pawel, age 89, of Bedminster and formerly of Maplewood, NJ, who survived three years in Holocaust concentration camps, and dedicated her life to fostering the ideals of tolerance and humanity, died on May 30 after a short illness. Born in Germany in 1926 to a Christian mother and a Jewish father, Ursula had an uneventful, happy childhood. However, with the ascension of the Nazi regime Ursula and her family soon felt the full weight of the anti-Semitism sweeping the country. Forced out of her school at the age of seven, she found that her former playmates were no longer her friends. As the Nazi noose tightened her father was compelled to sell his business and the family was subjected to harsher and harsher living conditions, culminating in deportation to the "model" concentration camp of Theresienstadt in 1942. Only her mother was left behind.

In 1944 Ursula, her father and younger brother were transported via cattle car to the extermination camp of Auschwitz-Birkenau. Immediately separated, she never saw her father or brother again. Paraded with hundreds of other Jewish women through a gauntlet of snarling German shepherds and screaming SS guards, she found herself facing the infamous SS officer responsible for "selection". As each prisoner approached, fate would be decided by whether he pointed to the right (barracks) or to the left (gas chambers). When Ursula approached, he pointed to the right. As she later wrote in her memoirs, on the first evening at Auschwitz "….we saw flames about 600 feet into the blood-red sky, the chimneys were spewing their burning cinders…..we would stare at the sky, unable to comprehend that the burning sky reflected the burnt particles of our people and we were the potential fodder for this inferno".

She endured Auschwitz for three months and was then chosen for slave labor at another camp. On arrival there, she and five of her closest comrades were rejected for work and placed in a train bound back to Auschwitz and the gas chambers. Knowing that certain death awaited, they vowed suicide, not caring if their conversations were overheard. In one of the inexplicable vagaries of war, fate intervened, as the two German soldiers guarding them were not SS but regular infantry. Showing compassion and respect, and visibly upset and ashamed about the actions of their countrymen, the two soldiers managed to divert these women from Auschwitz, and instead arranged to send them to a smaller labor camp, possibly at great risk to themselves.

Ursula was liberated in 1945 and made her way back to her mother's village. Determined to leave Germany, she and her mother emigrated to the United States in 1947. Both enthusiastically embraced their new country; proud to call themselves Americans, and grateful for the freedoms their new homeland bestowed upon them. Denied any higher education in Germany, Ursula and her mother did odd jobs in New York and then in Boston, before Ursula met Dr. Alice Ettinger, who at that time was the chief radiologist at Pratt Diagnostic Hospital. Impressed with Ursula's work ethic and intelligence, Dr. Ettinger managed to place Ursula into a radiology technician training program, despite her lack of the usual prerequisites. Ursula married Hans Pawel in 1948. A refugee from Nazi Germany who had lost his own family in the Holocaust, Hans became a professor of mechanical engineering. The two were happily married for 49 years. Although there was little time or money for much vacation at first, they managed to travel extensively together, to the American west, Europe, Asia, and the Caribbean, with one of their favorite spots being the island of Virgin Gorda, BVI. Lovers of opera and classical music, they were regular visitors to Lincoln Center.

Hans died in 1999. That same year, Ursula published her memoirs "My Child is Back!" in the Library of Holocaust Testimonies. She became a much sought after lecturer and touched thousands of children and adults in middle schools, high schools, colleges, churches, synagogues, community centers, and libraries. Speaking without notes or visual aids, she was able to transfix her audiences within minutes, regardless of their age or background. In particular teenagers, many skeptical that anything this small elderly lady could say would be of even remote interest, soon became lost in rapt attention as Ursula related her own teenage experiences. She felt it was her calling not just to relay the horrors of the Holocaust, but to also teach the evils and consequences of racism and intolerance, and to summon her young audiences to have the courage to fight bigotry in any of its forms. She challenged them to face adversity with spirit, to remember the past, and most importantly showed them the power of hope, showing by her own example that life can emerge with meaning and enjoyment even after the most terrible of trevails. In recognition of this, in 2007 she received a Certificate of Leadership in Holocaust and Genocide Studies from Raritan Valley Community College.

As she became older, Ursula cut back on her traveling. One of her last overseas trips was to France and to the Normandy beaches, where she paid homage to the many servicemen who fought and died for her freedom. Ursula leaves behind two loving sons, David and Bruce, their wives Mayumi and Barbara, and granddaughter Laura. In lieu of a funeral, a celebration of Ursula's life will be held in the fall. Contributions in her memory may be made to United States Holocaust Memorial Museum or to the Saint Barnabas Burn Foundation.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by Courier News on Jun. 3, 2015.

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Chris Moule

January 27, 2023

I was privileged to hear Ursula Pawel speak at Raritan Valley Community College where I was a 'mature' student from England. What an inspirational lady. My condolences to her family and friends. ~RIP~

Paul C

July 1, 2015

Ursula (and Hans) were our neighbors when I was growing up in New Jersey. Ursula was such a kind, generous, interesting, and intelligent person. She will be sorely missed.

Ursula with Dr. John & Mary Jean McLaughlin on our trip to DC to do the video.

Nancy Webster

June 18, 2015

There are no words to express my sadness over her passing and my gratitude for having her in my life. There is only one way to honor her past and that is to continue her mission-and I will.

Dr. John J. McLaughlin

June 15, 2015

My wife Mary Jean and I first met Ursula sometime in late 2010 when we heard her lecture at St. Elizabeth's College. We were greatly impressed by her story and I immediately booked her to give a lecture to the World War II Book Club which she presented in May of 2011 to a large audience of about 100 at the Millburn Library. We made a video of her lecture.We became close friends and saw her socially often during the next 4 years.

In the summer of 2013 we went with her to the Holocaust Museum in Washington along with Nancy Webster who made prior arrangements with the Curators of the museum, for us to have a special tour prior to the admission of the general public, and we were also admitted to a portion of the museum completely off limits except to staff and special guests where Ursula was very much surprised when she was shown the diary she had written many years ago and donated to the Holocaust museum at least 20 years previously. Ursula was truly emotional when she again was temporarily united with this precious document, and we were all close to tears as she picked it up with special gloves and carefully turned some of the pages and relived some of the moments she had gone through in those dark years so many years ago.

We are saddened to have learned of her passing, but we have been honored to have known her, even if it was for such a short time. She was a very special person.

Dr. John J. McLaughlin

sharon austin

June 12, 2015

Dear Family,
I am so saddened to hear of your loss. My heartfelt condolences. I am among those that enjoyed knowing and talking with Ursula through the NJWW2BookClub, and some subsequent times together. As you know, Ursula changed many of our lives, through her warm and positive personality. I will forever be influenced by all that she shared with the world, as will all who were fortunate to have crossed her path. May you find peace in knowing how much her life meant to everyone.

June 8, 2015

Dear David and Bruce,
Knowing your mother and dad added much to our lives. We mourn the passing of such a wonderful woman.
Sincerely,
Charlie and Liz Wilson

Valerie Davia

June 4, 2015

I had the honor of interviewing Ursula for an article for Matters Magazine in 2001. She deeply touched not only my life but also that of my husband and son, as well as the members of Harmonium Choral Society, with whom I sang at the time. She spoke at a concert we prepared which included several pieces composed on poetry written by children at the camp of Terezin/Theresienstadt. We stayed in touch and it was my profound joy to visit with her whenever I got back to NJ. My deepest condolences to Bruce and David and your families. She was a bright light in so many lives.

carl dubovy

June 4, 2015

our deepest sympathy to you all

Paul Winkler

June 4, 2015

The New Jersey Commission on Holocaust Education was saddened to hear of the passing of Ursula. She was a wonderful person who whenever called upon, spoke to students about her experience during the Holocaust. She always ended by telling the students to be good people and not let evil win. We know you are proud of her and we thank you for sharing Ursula with the state and join with you at this sad time.

Robin Stakoff

June 3, 2015

Rest in Peace

Peppy Margoilis

June 3, 2015

The Institute of Holocaust and Genocide Studies at Raritan Valley Community College (RVCC) is very grateful to Ursula's participation as a member of The Holocaust and Genocide Institute Committee for 30 years. She spoke to thousands of students at various RVCC educational programs. Ursula's passing is a true loss to the college community and to all those who had the privilege to know her. She made a difference in this world by having the courage to tell her story of survival with emphasis on resilience and hope for a better future for all people. We will miss her. We extend our condolences to her family: David and Bruce, their wives, Mayumi and Barbara, and granddaughter, Laura. Peppy Margolis Dir. Community
Programs Raritan Valley Community Collge

Robert Dakelman

June 3, 2015

Dear Bruce,
It saddens me to learn of the passing of your mother. I remember her back from the days of Jefferson School, your father walking the dog, and you, of course. We worked on a project together. My most sincere condolences to you and your family.

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