Photo courtesy of Bezanilla-McGraw Funeral Home - Carthage
Carthage, New York
Feb 12, 1982 – Oct 30, 2025
Tobias Joseph Houppert
February 12, 1982 – October 30, 2025
Tobias “Toby” Houppert, 43, passed away on October 30, 2025, after a brief stay at Strong Memorial Hospital in Rochester, NY, surrounded by his devoted family.
Born on February 12, 1982, Toby was the beloved son of John and Darlene (Bishop) Houppert. He grew up in Carthage, NY, alongside his loving siblings-Jon Houppert (Valerie); Dustin Houppert (Jonell); and Bethany Houppert-Logsdon (Erik). He was a proud uncle to his nephews Jackson, Kaiden, Finn, and was eagerly anticipating the arrival of his soon-to-be niece. He is also survived by his cherised Grandmother, Ann Bishop, whose love, patience, and guidance helped shape the person he became, along with numerous Aunts, Uncles, and cousins who loved him dearly.
Known for his quick wit, his signature “Oh my God!”, and his love for calling and FaceTiming family and friends, Toby had a gift for connection and a heart that naturally saw the good in everyone. He cared deeply about others, always taking the time to make people feel seen and loved.
Though his life held many challenges, nothing ever dimmed his spirit. No matter what he was facing, he greeted everyone with a genuine smile-often followed by a laugh that could fill a room. His energy, kindness, and childlike joy lifted those around him and made every moment brighter. As a natural comedian, he brought humor and comfort when we needed it most, always reminding us not to take life too seriously. His memory will live on in the joy and love he shared so freely.
He was a member of Calvary Assembly of God in Carthage, where his faith, laughter, and genuine warmth touched those who worshiped beside him.
Toby was predeceased by his Grandparents, Stanley and Mary Sue Houppert; Grandfather, Robert Bishop; and Aunt, Kelly Todd.
A funeral service will be held on Saturday, November 8, 2025, at 12 p.m. at Calvary Assembly of God in Carthage, NY. A Celebration of Life will immediately follow at 1:30pm at Elks Lodge in Carthage.
In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made to the Disabled Persons Action Organization (DPAO) or The ARC, in honor of Toby’s beautiful spirit and the joy he brought to so many.
To know toby, was to love him- wholly, easily, and without hesitation. His laughter and light will echo in the hearts of all who were lucky enough to call him family or friend.
RIP Toby. You made this world a better place.
Kathleen Chevier
November 04, 2025 | Crossville, TN | Acquaintance
Oh Toby I will truly miss you, and all the what did you say, all your hey Tonya I found a picture of you, and it would be a donkey or something funny, the oh Tonya ugh I miss you already, and will hold you in my heart and mind forever! Rest in peace tobe
Tonya Hulbert
November 04, 2025 | Carthage, NY | Friend
In my 33 years as a Speech Therapist, Toby was by far one of my favorite students. He brought a smile to my face every time I saw him. I was truly blessed to have had him on my caseload. My condolences to his family.
Christy Jones
November 04, 2025 | Carthage, NY | Teacher
My sincere condolences, thoughts and prayers for the family. I remember Toby growing up and the pure joy he brought to everyone.
Peggy McKenna
November 04, 2025 | Norwich, NY | Acquaintance
He was a very kind young man . I had met him while working with Arc . So sorry for your loss he will be missed .
Bridgett Platt
November 04, 2025 | 1051 SW 418 P, MO | Friend
Toby was my friend. He suggested that I wear my wedding dress every Sunday. Such a precious memory. Miss you, buddy.
Canice McGovern
November 04, 2025 | Huntsville | Friend
I did not know Toby, but I remember Jonell speaking fondly of him. It is obvious he was loved, and loved others well. My prayer is that you all feel God’s peace in this time of sorrow as you adjust to life without Toby’s light shining each day in your lives. May joyful memories of him bring you solace.
Lori Ball
November 04, 2025
John, Dar and family, This breaks my heart. Toby was always such a ray of sunshine in our class. He was compassionate, funny and, definitely one of a kind. Please accept my sincere condolences and know that he made a positive impact on all the lives he touched.
Sue Hunt
November 04, 2025 | Watertown, NY | Teacher
I'm sending love and prayers to all of you and a big hug to me lovely friend Jonelle and her family.
Barbara Rennie
November 04, 2025 | Carthage, NY | Coworker
