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Matthew Abrams Obituary

Was born at Goleta Valley Hospital on December 15, 1982. He attended Hollister Elementary School, La Colina Junior High School, San Marcos High School, and graduated from UC Berkeley. Matt loved baseball and said he was only half alive during the off-season. As much as he loved baseball, cycling was his real passion. Matthew was a competitive cyclist with the Echelon Junior team and won a State Championship and medaled at the US Cycling Junior National Championships. Matthew was an intelligent athlete who was familiar with sports history and strategy as well. His analytical gifts were even more apparent when discussing politics or history. Though he denied following the news, he knew the details, the subtleties, and the background of both national and international politics and events. Matthew was a truly sweet and gentle man. He had a brilliant and genuine smile that lit up his face. In the words of his brother, "Matthew was extremely considerate." He was especially thoughtful when relating to young children or older adults. In recent years, Matthew became deeply committed to a spiritual path. He loved prayer and meditation, and searched out quiet chapels that were filled with deep silence. Matthew disappeared from the monastery where he was living and working in Big Sur on May 14. There wasn't a trace of his whereabouts for three-and-a-half months until his car was discovered over a cliff last weekend. Matthew was pre-deceased by his grandparents, Judy and Arnie Miller; and he is survived by his parents, Bev and Richard Abrams; brother, Adam Abrams; grandparents, Mary and Don Zeidler; aunts and uncles, Wendi Abrams, Brian and Eileen Abrams, Seth and Lisa Hochberg-Miller, Roger and Robin Miller; and cousins Mara, Elisheva, and Hannah Hochberg-Miller, Chase, Jenna, and Chloe Abrams; and Griffin McMannis. Family and friends are invited to attend Funeral Services to be held on Tuesday, September 13, 2016 at 12 Noon in Congregation B'nai B'rith, 1000 San Antonio Creek Road, Santa Barbara, followed immediately by interment in Goleta Cemetery. Arrangements are under the direction of the JOSEPH P. REARDON FUNERAL HOME, 757 E. Main Street Ventura. In lieu of flowers, please send donations to Congregation B'nai B'rith for the Refugee Action Project, Transition House, or the Poor Claires.

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Published by Santa Barbara News-Press from Sep. 11 to Sep. 15, 2016.

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William R Colbert

September 5, 2025

My wife, Mary Annette Stockey-Colbert, and I got to know Matthew very well as we were teachers of Catechism Classes during Mathew's period of inquiry and study at Old Mission, Santa Barbara. Matthew was a quiet, prayerful, contemplative young man who deeply loved and sought to do God's will. I had the honor and privilege to sponsor Matthew at his Baptism and Confirmation as he entered the Church. (Picture below)
I continue to pray for Matthew and request his prayers for all of us who continue to love and pray for him.

Matthew & Bill Colbert the day that Matthew entered the Church.

William Colbert

September 5, 2020

I had the great privilege of being Matthew's sponsor when he entered the Church.
Matthew was a gentle, loving, soft-spoken soul that was loved by everyone that knew him.
I remember him in my prayers as I ask him to pray for all of us here at Mission Santa Barbara.

The day that Matthew entered the Church.

William Colbert

September 5, 2020

I had the great privilege of being Matthew's sponsor when he entered the Church.
Matthew was a gentle, loving, soft-spoken soul that was loved by everyone that knew him.
I remember him in my prayers as I ask him to pray for all of us here at Mission Santa Barbara.

Richard Abrams

October 11, 2016

To all our friends and family. Thank you so much for your support, wishes, and memories of Matt. We are thankful for everything.
The Abrams family

Leticia Jimenez

September 25, 2016

So sorry to hear about Matt. We remember your family from Hollister School and Little League days. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all at this terrible time.

Dale Shores

September 20, 2016

For your loss.May God provide tender comfort through his word the Bible during this most difficult time 2 Cor 1:3-7

Ruth & Gurion Hyman

September 16, 2016

Dear Mary & Don, Marcia, and the whole family.

Our deepest condolences on the loss of Matthew. We knew from our kids that Matthew was such a good nushuma. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.

- Ruth & Gurion Hyman, Toronto

Lisa

September 15, 2016

Please accept my heartfelt condolences on the loss of your loved one, Mr. Abrams. May God give you strength and comfort during this difficult time Ps 46:1

September 15, 2016

May the family keep themselves in God's love at this time of deep sorrow. Jude 21....JJ, ATL. GA

David Welton

September 13, 2016

I am so sad to hear of this. I will always remember Matt in the Peloton, as I rode beside his proud father.

linda melsher

September 13, 2016

He was a good person all his life. Perhaps, in time, that will be enough to bring you peace. There are no words to express the depth of the sorrow at losing one's child. I am so sorry for your--OUR--loss. He is someone who would have made a difference in our troubled world.

Jim Hopperstad

September 13, 2016

There are NO words to say except That we all are praying for your strength as a Family. Matt was a very bright lite in my life . He will be eternally honored as much
he is missed in the Santa Barbara cycling community .

Nancy & Rick Durflinger

September 12, 2016

We lose track of family due to distance and time and this is not the way we'd want to re-connect. Please know Rick, Beverly & Adam that we are keeping you and your entire family in our hearts and prayers during this difficult time and hope you find peace in knowing that Matthew is looking over you. With much love always.

Carol DeCanio

September 12, 2016

Dear Bev, Richard, and Adam,
Matt's goodness, sweetness, and special bright smile are with me indelibly and will be with me always.
Sending you my truest, heartfelt feelings of love, and sympathy,

September 12, 2016

My Sympathies go out to the family and friends. Please know God is our refuge and strength. Psalms 46

Jo Beth Kendall

September 12, 2016

Bev & Richard
My heart breaks for you. Please know that you are in my prayers and that you can call anytime you need.
Love JoBeth

September 12, 2016

We have been praying for Matthew and his family since he went missing. This is a tragic loss for all who knew and loved him. He was beautifully, deeply spiritual. May God embrace and hold him in eternal joy. We love and miss you, Matthew! Bill and Annette Colbert.

September 12, 2016

I am sorry for your loss. May the God of comfort and peace be with you and your family. 2 Corinthans 1: 3 & 4

Robin Sweeney

September 11, 2016

The greatest gift we can give is time. Matthew gave his time and attention to those he spent time with. A graduate of UCBerkeley. Matthew gave his time and attention on the evening of my wedding to his Uncle Roger. Matthew shared his experiences working with youth, views on religion and the continual love and support of his parents. Matthew was a blessing to all who spent time with him. He will be missed and remembered fondly by all.

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