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THOMAS WHITE Obituary

WHITE--Thomas Patrick, Jr. 1918-2012. of Fairfield, Palm Beach and New Canaan at 94. He lived his life to the fullest, playing golf, dining out, being an avid reader and movie goer until he finally succumbed to complications from a three month courageous battle with cancer. He grew up in Queens and Point Lookout, NY. He attended Bucknell and graduated St. John's College, NY. He served in WWII as a Captain in the US Army, stationed in Europe for five years, first in Reconnaissance, then as Provost Marshall investigating war crimes in Germany. He was honored with other WWII Veterans for his service by the Intrepid Museum in 2008 and on home plate thanks to the Wounded Warrior Project and the Yankees at Yankee Stadium 2012. As a young man he was an advertising model and had a reputation for dapper attire throughout his life. He later worked as a creative ad rep in New York, then switched careers to become a very successful restaurateur. He opened several restaurants, including the well known Giraffe on 58th St (receiving high ratings from the Times), then in 1966 he established the Beach Cafe, a popular upper East side restaurant still going strong both of which he owned with his brother Bill White, and his son, Thomas III never really retiring. Thomas is one of the original members of the Country Club of Darien. An avid golfer, his passion for the sport has taken him all over the world and has a record for having sunk six holes-in-one. He has cherished his friendships with his golfing partners. He was a true lover of people, lived an active social life, sharing his opinions on politics, books, sports, movies, architecture, food and fashion. He is survived by his devoted wife of 60 years; Tecla; son Tommy and Marilena White, son Conrad and Alison White, daughter Nicole White Kennedy and her husband and fellow restaurateur Parker Kennedy of Raleigh, NC; brother Bill and Patricia White, and nephew Bill White, and his life partner Bryan Eure, many great cousins, family and friends. In lieu of flowers, please consider supporting the Intrepid Fallen Heroes Fund or the Wounded Warrior Project, causes important to Tom helping our returning war heroes and their families. Visit fallenheroesfund.org or woundedwarriorproject.org. St. Thomas in Fairfield, CT at 1pm, Friday, October 19th.

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Published by New York Times on Oct. 17, 2012.

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October 21, 2012

Thanks everyone we had a heck of a send off party for Tom ... Best Wishes from All The Whites xoxoxoxox

October 19, 2012

Tommy...Your Dad was in a Class of His Own...What a Life Force...Generous, Capable, Charming and Intelligent...Living Life Full Measure !...Exemplary...Missed...In Sympathy...Colter

Donald Cummings

October 18, 2012

Dear Tommy,
My deepest sympathies on the passing of your Dad. He certainly lived an exceptionally full life, and I was happy to have meet him. All my best to your Wife, and your entire family.
Sincerely.
Don Cummings and Family

Rocky Alexander

October 18, 2012

Dear Nic and family, so sorry to hear of this dapper man's passing. Having met him a few times, I was inspired by his youthfulness, energetic and jolly attitude. May you all find some solace during this difficult time.

Laura Herhold

October 17, 2012

Oh my...I am sorry to hear of Tom's passing. It was a pleasure to read his story in the Times..what amazing experiences he had in his life.
Growing up across the street from the White family... I have many happy memories of New Canaan life in the 60's and the 70's...and of course Tom and Tecla (or Mr.and Mrs. White, as we called them) were elegant and urbane in striking contrast to our lovely but very mid western and suburban parents! My mother was always so fond of Tecla...she just adored her!

The sight of your Tom's dark blue Continental with it's impeccable white walls coming down our little dead end road is a wonderful memory! His double breasted suits and sophisticated accessories..made a very strong impression on me! A Real New Yorker!

As a kid, I didn't have much of any interaction with him....years later at Karen's wedding in the back yard I was able to visit with him quite a bit...how charming, humorous, and warm he was that day. Some years later in NYC Karen and I had a morning with no plan...we were in Bloomingdale's where they had concierge of sorts and we asked him to locate the Beach Restaurant! We wanted to head over and see who might be there...but unfortunately we weren't able to put it together.
We sold my parent's house a few years ago...what a sweet place to grow up, running in the woods, paddling in the pond...the amazing star filled sky.

On this bittersweet occasion..the Herhold's send their very kindest wishes to you all; Tom, Conrad, Nicole, and Tecla, of course. We will all fondly remember Tom. Blessing to all.

Anita English

October 17, 2012

We all grew up across the street from each other...Fun times on Parting Brook... we have fond memories of you dad and your entire family. Tom will be missed. Anita Herhold English

Dennis Quinn

October 17, 2012

Tecla, Tommy, Conrad and Nicky, we are so sad to hear of the passing of Tom.......what a nice long and full life. He was a very lucky man to have had such a WONDERFUL wife and great kids (even you Conrad !!! :)) He was well loved by all and will be sorely missed.
Our deep felt sympathy from Dennis, Kevin, Karen, Ginny and Gina (and Agnes who is 97!) and all the rest of the Quinn Family.

Much love to all,

Dennis

Wyn Easton

October 17, 2012

I'm sorry for your loss Nicole. Your Dad had a very full life. We never have enough time to do everything we want to do. It sounds like your Dad loved life and did many of the things he loved to do.
We should all be so lucky. Take care. You are in my thoughts.

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