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Memories and Condolences
for KENNETH CAFFREY
Sponsored by Tom Caffrey ([email protected]) - Ken's brother.
am
February 3, 2023
I think about you all the time, and you are certainly missed everyday.
Keith Conger
February 4, 2020
Ken, I started the year out right - at Smuggs! And, reminiscing about you. I was telling my Ultimate Frisbee playing cousin about how I met you on the chair lift at the hiring clinic, way back when. I'm still searching for the perfect turn. Someday we'll carve again together. Miss you!!
Anne Marie DiMatteo
February 6, 2017
Miss you so much!
Love, am
November 17, 2016
So we had a little election last week ... and you could've never guessed who our new President is .. its Donald Trump!! No Joke -- your buddy Bernie Sanders made a good run but big time politics brushed him aside .. Hilary Clinton failed (the election was very close) but here's the point -- your daughter has been protesting the election outcome and she has been marching in the streets of NYC - she couldn't be more like you!! She was extremely upset but she's getting over it slowly -- You'd be so proud! Miss you as always ... Tom
Anne Marie DiMatteo
February 6, 2016
Miss you.
Love, am
Tom Caffrey
June 21, 2015
Hey Kenny-- another year has gone by and missing you never changes. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! You'll be proud to know how great your daughter is doing -- she's in South Africa working for an environmental group and getting her Masters -- she's having a blast -- she's so much like you :) I talk/text everyday ... Saw Dad today for Father's day -- pictures of you are everywhere in his house. We all miss you too much-- Tom
Kevin Uehlinger
March 4, 2015
Hey, buddy. I saw that they are tearing down the Roseland Ballroom... thought of you. The only constant is change. I will never forget when we scored free tickets to see the GD reunion there... front and center. So many good memories, man. I miss you. Eternal Love - K
Anne Marie DiMatteo
February 6, 2015
Miss you~
Love, am
June 22, 2014
Happy Birthday Kenny!!! I was up at Lindsay's graduation this month in Binghamton -- she did great! You'd be so proud of her-- we all went -and we were all there for you too. Hope you're ok ... I'm sure you're listening to the Dead and at some celestial concert somewhere. We all miss too much. Happy Bday! Tom
Diane Desmond
July 14, 2013
I thought of you on June 21.... what would have been birthday #52 for you. I think of you often, Ken, and I'm glad that we were friends.
Tom
June 21, 2013
Kenny - its your Bday again and you're missed everyday. The Heat won the Championship last night and I'm pretty sure that would aggravate you a little bit but the Knicks are finally lookin' better. Its tough to put into words the hole that exists since you left.
Tom
Ian P
January 26, 2013
Ken sent me a card once when we hadn't talked in a while. It stated in full:
"Dude --
[entire page of blank space]
-- Dude"
That one time in history he was a man of few words.
I still think about you all the time, friend.
Linds
December 26, 2012
Missed you a lot this Christmas dad. All my love, forever and always.
Diane Desmond
June 22, 2012
Yesterday I remembered that it was your birthday, Ken. In 2007 I lost another friend who was born on June 21. I sure wish that you could have stuck around longer.....especially for your family.
Linds
June 21, 2012
Happy birthday dad! You're always the warmth in my heart and a guide in my mind. Love and miss you always.
Tom
June 21, 2012
Happy Birthday Kenny!!! We miss you all the time.
Diane Desmond
April 20, 2012
Thank you, Tom, for keeping this guest book . I just re-connected w another friend of Ken's who wants to read it and contribute
Diane Desmond
April 13, 2012
Ken recruited me to volunteer at The Brautigan Library, and I'm really glad that he did, because I truly enjoyed the time that I spent there. It was a very interesting place. And I had nearly forgotten the Allen Ginsberg story. Thank you, Todd, for reviving these long ago memories. ~
The Brautigan Library, Burlington VT (now in Vancouver, WA)
Todd R. Lockwood
April 9, 2012
I'm so sorry to hear of Ken's passing. Though I hadn't seem him in many years, our connection was a memorable one: we served on the Board of Trustees of the Brautigan Library in Burlington, Vermont. For those not familiar, the Brautigan Library was America's only public library devoted exclusively to unpublished writing. The idea for it came from a Richard Brautigan novel.
Since our board was tasked with doing something that had never been done before, we required trustees that could imagine the impossible. Ken fit the bill perfectly. His ideas helped shape the little library that came to be known across America in the early 1990's.
Ken had many great stories to share. One classic story which has stuck with me was about his day-long encounter with poet Allen Ginsburg. Ginsburg came to speak at St. Michaels College and Ken was assigned to be his chauffeur and personal assistant. At one point, Ginsberg asked Ken to shine his shoes for him. Ken hesitated, but went ahead with the task, figuring it would make a great story — which it does.
Andy Wanning
March 30, 2012
Wagon:
I hate to introduce any negativity into such a heartfelt online document, but frankly, I'm still totally pissed that of all the people around, fate or whatever had to pick YOU to leave us way earlier than expected. I only knew you for like 4 months but it felt like years, and the beginning of a real friendship, a bit of a rarity in this nutty town. Your presence at parties and especially the ultimate field is so sorely missed. And despite your ridiculous antics, you had your head screwed on very straight so I'm sure you're philosophizing with So-Krates and the Buddha up there, and having a good laugh at *our* ridiculous human antics - though not as heartily as the Buddha viewed us 2 1/2 years ago, because you're not around anymore to keep things ridiculous and real, where they should be. Miss you a lot, brother, and make sure you keep your throwing arm in practice for when the rest of us join you. And keep your Cat in the Hat hat on too...http://s134.photobucket.com/albums/q95/wandog/?action=view¤t=IMG_0049.jpg
Diane Desmond
February 7, 2012
I will never forget Ken. He's definitely still around us. I just wish that he wouldn't have passed through the veil so soon.
Tom
February 6, 2012
Kenny -
Two years ago today you left ... no one has forgotten you and we all miss you alot. Although you always liked the Jets better - I'm sure you'd still be happy that the Giants beat the Patriots!
James (Jim) Zoltak
January 29, 2012
Ken lived in the apartment below mine on the north end of Burlington. We became friends and had some good times together ... skiing at Smugglers, paddling a canoe on Lake Champlain and camping on Woods Island (we got a case of the giggles as we turned in for the night in my two-man tent and laughed until we couldn't breathe), partying at his house in Winooski, playing guitar together. We lost touch after he became a dad and I moved out west, but I can still hear his laugh. See you in the by and by my brother.
Leigh Fellner
July 30, 2011
I first met Ken at the Chickenbone Cafe in Burlington, VT the St. Patrick's Day he was a junior in college. He said something outlandish which made it impossible for me not to give him my phone number, and he called, and we had a wild ride of a romance for the next year and a half. I remember the first night he spent at my place, talking, talking - a more open, heart-on-his-sleeve person I've never met. And his words! I remember him reading to me something he called "Under the Mallomar," dedicated to for his kid brother, and how he absolutely adored his sister. He was everywhere all at once and filled every room he entered. That nearly 30 years after we parted I googled his name just to see what he was up to shows, I think, just what an impression he made. I knew he was teaching skiing at one point; I knew he did something on radio and something Buddhist but to learn that he ultimately was able to share his passion for words, and for life, with so many makes me so happy for him, and for the world. I'm stunned by his death, but I can still hear him laugh.
Tom
June 21, 2011
Kenny-
Its your Bday today and you would've been 50! That's scary and ridiculous. I'm not sure you're paying attention or how you mark time where you are but you're really, truly missed here.
Your friends and family put up a memorial to you last month in Astoria Park where you used to play ultimate. It was a really cool/touching ceremony. A ton of people showed up to remember you -it was an amazing turnout.
Lindsay is doing well and you'd be proud of her. I'm doing my best to keep an eye on her for you ...
WE ALL MISS YOU -
anne marie
March 25, 2011
I miss you-
Bianca
February 10, 2011
I cant believe its been a year. It feels like yesterday. Your knowledge will be forever with me. You are missed Mr. Caffrey.
Lindsay O'Neill-Caffrey
February 6, 2011
And on the one year anniversary... I cannot believe the death of my best friend, my father, the most important man in my life, still feels like yesterday.
Mary Grace
February 6, 2011
Rest peacefully
Diane Desmond
July 7, 2010
The first time I "met" Ken, it was only his voice that I heard....on the radio, as a weekend DJ on a Burlington classic rock station. I called him at the station and requested a tune. We also had a great conversation, during which I told him that I was a novice disc jockey,working at two college stations. Ken invited me to sit in on his show, which is when I met him in person. We became friends, and, he also became a mentor of sorts for me. He encouraged me to get over my reluctance to send an air check tape to the program director. "Just send it," he said. Well, I did. And, I got the job! Here I am, 23 years later...have worked at a number of Burlington radio stations...and still carrying on as a disc jockey. True. I had the perseverence. But it was Ken that gave me the encouragement I needed at the beginning of this career.
The last time that I saw Ken, we got together for lunch and he proudly showed me photos of his baby girl. I will always remember him fondly. The world is not quite as bright without him....Ken Caffrey was a truly good person. He loved to dance. And he always made me laugh!
Edward Monette
July 4, 2010
Kenny Caffrey
I am just shocked to hear that Ken has passed. We Lived together in Alumni Hall at St. Michael's and I heard of his passing via the Alumni Newsletter. What is most remarkable is that I just found out he was an NYU English Professor-Much Beloved, it would appear. I also took Poetry 101 with Dr. Engels with Ken and I will never forget the first time Ken read one of his poems about the danger of conformity, the class reacted almost violently, and nearly booed him! Well, isn't it wonderful and remarkable that
he became a writing professor - it just goes to show about dreams and how we can will them into reality....Ken was always a sensitive soul and I am so very happy to see how many lives this truly unique and expressive individual touched...
"It all rolls into one
and nothing comes for free
There's nothing you can hold
For very long...."
Tom Caffrey
June 21, 2010
Since I can't call you and tease you about your age and since I can't send a card or present ... I thought I'd try this:
Happy Birthday Kenny!!
We all miss you! (more than you can imagine)
Love,
Tom
Dad and I on roadtrip in Vermont. August 2009.
Lindsay O'Neill - Caffrey
May 27, 2010
My dad and I in 2008.
Lindsay O'Neill - Caffrey
May 27, 2010
My dad when he was teaching me to drive.
Lindsay O'Neill - Caffrey
May 27, 2010
My dad and I in 1992/1993.
Lindsay O'Neill - Caffrey
May 27, 2010
My father took refuge at the Shambala Meditation Center in Burlington VT.
Lindsay O'Neill - Caffrey
May 27, 2010
Dad in Jackson Hole Wyoming where he went to ski Grand Targhee.
Lindsay O'Neill - Caffrey
May 27, 2010
My dad and I at Christmas 2009.
Lindsay O'Neill - Caffrey
May 27, 2010
My dad in New Paltz at the start of our August roadtrip.
Lindsay O'Neill - Caffrey
May 27, 2010
My dad at Mountain Jam 2009!
Lindsay O'Neill - Caffrey
May 27, 2010
Jessica Vasquez
April 30, 2010
I had the honor to be in Professor Caffrey's class my freshman year at NYU in 2001. He was such a good person. Always came into class with such passion and excitement. He really enlightened us and motivated us to love the issues we chose to write about. God bless him and his family.
Faye Malonas
April 26, 2010
Ken Caffrey was one of the most memorable people I ever met, and hands-down the most caring and brilliant professor I ever had.
I remember I was struggling with one of his classes for a while. A good professor would meet with you in their office for a few to discuss what's happening. Caffrey, however, asked me one day if I liked tea and if I wanted to grab a quick one with him after class. He then turned that tea into a very casual two and a half hour tutoring session, bringing me up to speed. Not because he had to, but because he wanted to. What I learned that afternoon, sitting on a small little table outside of a coffee shop on a beautiful and sunny afternoon were not only the fundamentals I needed for that class, but the fact that there are people out there who care for no particular reason. And Caffrey was a person who cared about everyone, willing to go above and beyond for anyone who simply asked. Or, sometimes, didn't even ask...
I kept it touch with him throughout my future classes while I was at NYU and whenever I needed help, or someone to proofread my work, he always did - as if he didn't have 300 other papers to grade at any given moment. In addition to being generous, he was also one of the funniest people around - sometimes a sarcastic, dry kind of funny, always delivered with a straight face, that wouldn't hit you until hours later while you are absentmindedly doing something and you go into hysterics.
Brilliant professor. Caring soul. Wonderful friend to anyone who needed one. Amazing person. And, from hearing him speak, amazing father. It's simply not fair that someone who definitely had so much more to give would go so soon. But, knowing him, he's having a ball somewhere, making new friends and watching over his old ones.
You will be greatly missed by all Ken Caffrey.
Crilhien Francisco
April 26, 2010
Prof. Caffrey was my first professor at NYU and he was by far one of the best. I remember his lively personality and his funny jokes. I could always count on Prof Caffrey making me laugh despite whatever I was going through.
Prof. Caffrey will truly be missed, I was fortunate to have met him and he always inspired me to do my best. Not too mention he challenged me as a writer and is intrumental in my success at NYU.
My condolences go out to the Caffrey family and Lindsay, who was his pride and joy. Despite never having met Lindsay, Prof. Caffrey would light up anytime he discussed her in class. God bless you.
Nwan Holder
April 25, 2010
Mr. Caffrey was one in a million. He taught me the fundamentals of writing. He will never be forgotten. He played a profound part in my first year at NYU. Lindsay, your father spoke of you every day to the class. He truly loved you- continue to carry forward his legacy.
Danielle D
April 25, 2010
I was lucky to have Mr. Caffrey as a teacher in my Freshman year at NYU. He was hilarious and a wonderful story teller.
One class always stayed in my mind in particular where after 9-11 and all the racial profiling nonsense he did one of his sit & brainstorm. When I had to read what I wrote out loud, it meant so much to me that he really listened and understood what I had to say. Mr. Caffrey could teach you so much whether or not he was telling a story or really listening. He also taught me that writing is more than rules, grammar and citing.
It's awful that he is gone, but great that we all got to know him, even if it was just for a short time.
Tiffany Vasquez
April 25, 2010
I had the privilege of having Mr. Caffrey as my teacher during my freshman year at NYU. He always convinced my peers and I that our voices were important. There were times when I was visibly uncomfortable participating but he constantly encouraged me to challenge myself. I definitely learned so much from him and wish I could have thanked him for helping shape the outspoken person I am today. He will truly be missed but never forgotten. May God bless you and keep you in His care Mr. Caffrey. I know your daughter Lindsay will continue your legacy.
Natalie Whittingham
April 25, 2010
I had the pleasure of taking Mr. Caffrey's writing class during my freshman year at NYU. He was an excellent and challenging professor. His daughter was obviously the apple of his eye, he talked about her with such fondness. He will be greatly missed.
Keith Conger
March 7, 2010
Lindsay, your father and I showed up on the same day for the ski instructor hiring clinic at Smuggler's Notch in 1987. Kharma wasted no time in having our paths cross. We rode the lift together early on that day. Some people you just know, even before you meet them. That is the case with your father. There are only a few people in the whole world that I have met and been best of friends with on the first meeting.
I have many fond memories of skiing the Birthday Bowls, crazy dancing at Phish, and playing Ultimate with the Cookie Monsters, hanging out at his house in Burlington discussing buddhism and philosophy. In your father I found one of the most amazing people I have ever met.
Being about as far apart in the United States as two people can be since our Vermont days, I have not been able to meet with your father for a long time. I have however, enjoyed the great phone conversations we have had over the years. He spoke so highly of you. Every day that he and I spoke I was left with the feeling of warmth and the urge to dance.
Lindsay, Thank you for calling today. Today I will dance so hard in tribute to your amazing father!!!!!!!
April 2009 with Dad and Goddaughter
March 5, 2010
July 2009 with Goddaughters
March 5, 2010
July 2009 Beach
March 5, 2010
Liz Bickford
March 3, 2010
I am so sad to hear of Ken's passing. He was a vibrant, fiery, youthful, fun person. I am glad for knowing him the short time I did. And for knowing Lindsay. She is a wonderful young woman and much of her fiery vibrant personality was Ken's gift to her. Liz B
Zelena Khan
February 17, 2010
Caffrey was the most thought provoking, influential professor I ever came across at NYU. He challenged me as a writer and as a person in society. I'm not sure how I could sum up how he helped me my first semester at NYU, but his presence was so valued that I had to make sure I had him the semester after. It was truly a privilege to have been in such great company.
Tishana N
February 15, 2010
My heart felt condolences go out to the family of Mr. Caffrey. I went to NYU and was a student of his during my freshman year. He had an unmatched sense of humor and a deep love for literature and Lindsay. There was never a class when her name went unspoken.
Griselle Baret
February 13, 2010
I never had the opportunity to be a student in Mr. Caffrey's class, but he taught some of my friends at NYU and was very popular. His reputation was as a tough but fair teacher, and some of my best friends say they learned so much from him! I am sad to hear of his passing, but am glad he was able to offer so much as an educator. I was fond of all the teachers of the Opportunity Program at NYU. He will be missed.
Jill Povol
February 13, 2010
My thoughts and condolences to Lindsay and the Caffrey family. Ken was a wonderful thoughtful friend who will be missed. Watching these winter Olympic games will not be the same, but will bring back the good memories of enjoying them with him in Salt Lake in 2002.
Lili Gu
February 12, 2010
What a wonderful man...Ken showed new ultimate players like me what it was to play with enthusiasm for old opponents, a welcoming smile for new friends, and an unfailing embrace of the Spirit of the Game.
Steven Schwab
February 12, 2010
I am so sorry to learn of Ken's passing. Ken and I wrestled together through high school. While not the most talented wrestler he always gave it his all and was very enthusiastic even against top competition. I will always remeber Ken's great attitude and zest for life.
My condolences to the Caffrey family.
February 11, 2010
Oh My! I was saddened to hear the news of Ken's passing. I met him when he came to the Higher Education Opportunity Program at Long Island University (Brooklyn, NY)and tutored our students in English and Writing. I enjoyed his "out-of-the-box" personality as well as his off-the- cuff ideas in motivating students to push themselves towards academic excellence. Ken Caffrey was a nice guy who cared a great deal about students.
Sharlene Hartwell
Long Island University, Brooklyn, NY
Krystle Moya
February 11, 2010
Back in 2004, Professor Caffrey was one of my first professors at NYU and I can honestly say he shaped the type of student and person I became. He was refreshing and intense, and nothing like any teacher I had ever had before. You rarely see professors with this much enthusiasm and charisma. He quickly became much more than my freshman writing professor. Throughout my entire college experience he was our biggest advocate, mentor and friend.
Caffrey was passionate about teaching, and wanted nothing more than to have his students be the best they could be. He taught me much more than how to become a better writer; he made me a better thinker. He inspired me to question everything, look deeper, speak up, ask why, express myself, disagree, debate, fight, make my own conclusions, and be proactive.
I remember once when I was having a bad day, he came up to me after class and said, “You like pizza right? Great, meet me at my office during lunch and we’ll sit and talk” before I could even get a word in. I always knew if I needed anything, he would be there.
He was a brilliant and dedicated educator whom I respect and admire. Caffrey, thank you for helping shape me into the strong, intelligent, and freethinking woman I am today. It was an extreme privilege and blessing to have had such an amazing teacher in my life.
I send my sincerest condolences to his beloved daughter Lindsay, family and friends. Please know his students love him and he will be deeply missed.
Kate Gibson
February 11, 2010
I played ultimate with Ken, and though I didn't know him very well, I will miss his ready smile and open spirit. My thoughts go out to Lindsay and the rest of his family
Jeff Clarke
February 11, 2010
Loud, funny, infectious, cheeky, a twinkle in his eyes, lovable, unfiltered, heckler, safety, relentless, skier, teacher, hucker, friend, adventurer, a Dad, and so much more.....
Lindsay, please look me up if you come to UVM.
Ken visited me while you were camping this summer at N. Beach.
www.jclarke.com
Isssam Hassan
February 11, 2010
I cant believe Ken Caffrey is gone. I remember first day I walked into his class, he grilled me and shouted at me for being late and after class he tells me sorry I was on your back, I have to give the class a strong impression of me.. Caffrey Rest in Peace, you truly left a mark on your students and I'm proud to call you my older friend.
Henry Lee
February 11, 2010
"Hi I'm Ken, but call me Wagon. Good to meet you and welcome to Hellgate!". With a big smile, eyes lit, eyebrows arched, and his signature voice booming heartily for everyone to hear, this complete stranger grabbed my hand and shook it briskly. That was how I met Wagon when I first joined Hellgate Ultimate in June 2009, and I remember thinking to myself, "Wow, what a friendly, outgoing, ENTHUSIASTIC guy!".
For the next 5 months of playing and getting to know him, I came to appreciate his fun, jovial, encouraging personality mixed with a healthy dose of crazy humor. Even though we had just met, he always greeted me like we were old friends and always made everyone feel welcome and included. His contagious spirit inspires me to be as passionate for others as Wagon was.
From reading other entries, it's not surprising Wagon has touched and impacted the lives of countless others and I will truly miss his laughter on & off the field. Rest in peace my friend.
Ken was always the life of the party, here having a blast at one of my performances at Crash Mansion, June 27, 2009
Dre Pilette
February 11, 2010
I knew Ken for the past 2 years from Ultimate with Hellgate. Although not the swiftest of foot, he had a hell of a forehand and would still hustle to make plays on the field, even laying out sacrificing his body. Then you'd hear about the bruises for the next few weeks while he rehabbed on the sidelines, but he would still show up to be part of the team. That's what Ken was all about... the team, the community, the friendships.
He was a great friend, who else lets you borrow their car to go to a Phish concert?! He went the night before with me and a couple other frisbee friends, and when we couldn't figure out how to get back for the 2nd night, he said "Take mine, just park it out front when you get back." That's a fond memory of Ken: him in his safari hat used as rain gear, dancing like a fool in the downpour at Jones Beach for Phish (June 4, 2009).
Ken loved music, loved life, loved teaching, loved frisbee, loved skiing, and most of all loved his daughter. Among many other stories, he loved talking about his trip with Lindsey to Gathering Of The Vibes. He was so proud of you Lindsey, and you meant the world to him. And though the world is a slightly dimmer place without him in it, I'm sure he would want all of us to keep dancing to the music and enjoying life to the fullest.
RIP Wagon.
Michael Pearlman
February 11, 2010
I first met my dear friend Ken in the fall of 1995, when I was fresh out of college and unsure what direction my life would take. I spent the winter of 1995-1996 working alongside Ken in the ski shop of Paragon Sports, where his sharp intellect, excitable personality and good heart were all in evidence. His encouragement helped shape my decision to move to Wyoming to pursue my love of skiing. I spent my first winter in Jackson Hole plowing through powder on the skis he sold me that spring, wearing the boots he had doctored and custom-fit for me.
Over the years, Ken was always willing to put me up at his apartment whenever I was in New York, and was always passionate about whatever was going on in his life at the time. I was happy to return the favor and host him at my home in Jackson Hole two years ago. I will never forget the glow in his eyes after we skied deep powder together, and the excitement with which he described teaching and his relationship with his daughter. He was one of a kind, and he will be missed
Steve Cohen
February 11, 2010
I worked with Ken in the ski industry. A very fun, upbeat, always-thinking guy. I will miss him greatly.
Linda Voorsanger
February 11, 2010
Ken was a very dear colleague spreading a message of peace, love and justice for all. He was one of the finest teachers I have had the privilege to know and a great person to work with. We all loved him because he really was a loving person. But he could get very worked up about injustice and passed the message on to his many devoted students. Gone too young. He will be sorely missed.
James Kim
February 11, 2010
Ken and I played ultimate together in Astoria. I knew him for less than a year - and yet, his heart towards me was as if we knew each other for many, many years. I'm a new father, and the sense I got was that he saw being a father as the highest privilege and joy in the entire world. He spoke lovingly about Lindsay. And he always asked about my daughter. And let me know that if I ever had anything I needed or wanted to know about fatherhood, he was there for me. I will miss him.
Julianna Bacchus
February 10, 2010
Prof. Caffrey was a passionate, intelligent, and humble man who genuinely cared about work and his students. In the very first class I had with Professor Caffrey, he connected the bible to The Matrix, and every class after that continued to be as thought provoking. I’m always nervous about telling others about the life of someone who has passed on, because people’s greatness can’t ever be accurately measured by enough brilliant words.
I wanted to leave this message here, for Professor Caffrey’s daughter Lindsey. We heard stories of you, and your life every single class. Caffrey loved you so very much, and my heartfelt sympathies go out to you. Your dad was an amazing individual, an awesome professor and debate coach at NYU, and an inspiration to so many.
Annette Rodriguez
February 10, 2010
Caffrey was awesome. There was no one else who I would've rather had as my Prose Writing professor coming in to NYU. He had a tough exterior but a heart of gold and was underappreciated by the HEOP staff daily. His outspoken personality and honesty are qualities that I came to value and emulate throughout my college career. Lindsey, you're dad was a rockstar in my book and I pray that any and all positive memories you have of him may remain in your heart forever. We'll miss you Caffrey.
Kimo Shotz
February 10, 2010
What a sad shock. My ole Burlington nutty playmate has crossed over. I regret never keeping in touch with him after I left B-town in 1989. He will forever be in my memory, unbashedly playing Peter Gabriel's In Your Eyes on guitar and singing his heart out (very well, I must add), trying to show me how easy it is to just SING! without a care what people think? It's all about us, having Fun FUN FUN, and expressing ourselves. He approached every activity this way, and with incredible energy, totally JAZZED. The greater Burlington area and mountains were our playground for a couple years. Life was a playground for Ken. I'll remember his kind heart and belly laugh. Journey on, Ken.
Jonathan Milman
February 10, 2010
Teacher,brother,father,mentor,helper,monk,student and friend, for a guy who spoke about identity and discovering "one's self" it sure is difficult labeling all the great things that this man is. I remember first walking into this man's classroom over four years ago and among the complex rhetoric and hilarious rantings he explained his grading system (naturally as a pre-med student I was all ears!), "I don't really give A's, B's are great, C's you better pick up the work, but I don't fail people. I won't let you give up, if I have to drag you across the finish line kicking and screaming I will, I will never give up on you!" As a result even when the cave grew darkest I never gave up, and am currently on my way to medical school.
This man was my greatest mentor, the best professor, and I owe everything to him. Cheers Caffrey, to the beer we never got to share, you will live in my heart forever!
Farhana S
February 10, 2010
He was such a fun guy and teacher. He always talked about his daughter. Just bear this difficult time with patience. I am happy I had the opportunity to be his student.
Janine Joseph
February 10, 2010
I found today a wonderful gem, something that so well reflects who I understood Ken Caffrey to be as a teacher and human being. In an email from 2006, he wrote to his students (who were assigned group work in the library):
"The idea here is for you to have someone to work with, in the same way that you almost always get a better workout at the gym with a partner. Help each other, push a little, ask questions."
Lindsay, my thoughts go out to you. I worked with your father for two years at the Opportunity Programs and every day he told me how much he loved you and how proud he was of you. Of course, with all the gusto of his Caffrey voice, he would tell me this while we were in his office so that everyone could hear how brilliant he believed you to be:)
Caffrey, I'm going to miss you.
Stewart Cohen
February 10, 2010
Went up to Smuggler’s Notch and skied today; thought about Ken a bunch. He used to ski those glades on 210’s back in the eighties when my 180’s felt long to me in the woods. Some sad moments for sure: the first time I skied at Smugg's was with Ken. I dragged Ken into the Ultimate Frisbee scene while we shared a house in Winooski, and it's great to know he took it as far as the stories here show. He's one of the few players I've known that would take a timeout for a rainbow. I will always be indebted to him for the night he woke me up at 1:30 to see the Northern Lights. We lay on a log in the yard for a couple of hours till they faded, and shared about 100 mosquito bites. I’ve never seen the Northern Lights since without thinking about that night. Ken knew how to make a roller coaster ride out of any ordinary event, and to paraphrase an old UVM ultimate saying, he “overplayed” most of his life. Therefore, I’m sure he got more quality time by his age in than most of us can pack in.
Matt St. D
February 10, 2010
Mr Caffrey was my teacher, friend, older brother and at times a second father. Since the first class with him way back in July of 06 I was taught to open my eyes in way no teacher ever asked me to.It did not stop there we stayed in touch way past freshmen year and I can only say that he was one of the few people that have changed my life
Dan W
February 10, 2010
I knew Ken from his Vermont days. He was an amazing person to have known - full of life and enthusiasm and passion. He helped introduce me to the great game of ultimate, and I'm glad to hear that amazing spirit carried on to impact people in a positive way through his teaching. The world will miss you Ken Caffrey - you were one of a kind, a special soul who I'm glad touched my life. We're all lucky to have known you.
Wagon at Ultimate Masters Regionals '09 w/ friend
Andy Wanning
February 10, 2010
From a fellow Ultimate Frisbee player: In reflecting about my brief but intense experience of hanging out with Wagon, I remember not so much the fact that he was talkative and hilarious – though he was definitely those things – but that he used his talents to create an entirely different atmosphere out of whole cloth. Social mores be damned, he walked into the room (or onto the field) and immediately transformed it into Wagon’s Playhouse. And that’s where you (or at least, I) wanted to be – to enjoy yourself, to forget whatever stupid issues & worries were in your head, to tap into your own creativity, and to go play Ultimate to the max. Most people get ridiculed enough for this kind of stuff as “childish” or whatever, and eventually stop; not this guy. All out, all the time.
He was starting a new Ultimate team called Slowhand. I already miss him a lot, as much for the lost potential future as the past. I hope to help continue the team as part of his apparently vast legacy.
My heart goes out to his family, especially his daughter, who he talked about a lot and obviously loved so much.
Albert Lee
February 10, 2010
Ken Caffrey was like the uncle I never knew. The brief time I spent with him was too brief. He was a ruggedly tough man angry at times but always loving to Karie Ehrlich as a brother would to a sister. Karie was like a mother to me (if she had me at 13). I only had him once or twice as a sub, he was silly, crazy, and scary because he wanted to be. I wish I knew you better Ken. Those who knew you, Loved you.
Maria Cerra
February 10, 2010
Mr. Caffrey dared his students to challenge the conformity of literature and society by asking "why." More than being a brilliant professor, though, he was someone there for me during rough times, lending a hug for each and every frown. My memories of Caffrey will always bring a smile to my face. Especially when he complimented me in my orange sweater, claiming he would look like a pumpkin if he wore one.
Rest in peace Caffrey.
Kimberly V.
February 10, 2010
I was so shocked when I first heard about this tragedy. I could not believe how someone with such a passion for life, learning, and enlightening others lives could disappear so suddenly. Prof. Caffrey, you did not only teach us writing, you taught us valuable lessons...you changed our outlook on life in general. Thank you for everything. You will be truly missed.
Cassandra Schaffa
February 10, 2010
Ken, better known to me as Wagon, and I played ultimate frisbee together. A big part of this sport is something known as Spirit of the Game, and Wagon truly embodied the spirit in Spirit of the Game. There was never a dull moment with Wagon on and off the field. He strove to make himself and every one else the best player they could be.
My heart goes out to his daughter, Lindsay, who he spoke of literally every time we were together. She was truly his world. He may have complained about having to watch Gossip Girl, but he always said things like "But she's my daughter, and I want to spend as much time with her as I can, even if that means doing girly things."
Wagon will be greatly missed by myself, the entire NYC Ultimate Frisbee community, and so man more.
Devin Manning
February 10, 2010
I can still hear him ranting in Freshman Writing Class and see him throwing his hands up in the air when we refused to think for ourselves, which was followed quickly by provoking thoughts and questions. I know Ken's having a good time on the other side like he did here. Peace, love, enjoyment, respect, and especially self respect. That's what he was all about. That's a fraction of the things I'll remember about him. I'm still having a hard time believing this is true, that this is happening, but I know he did a lot of good in his life and never stopped living life on his own terms. He lived ferociously and ferociously loved everyone that came into his life, classroom, general line of sight. I can still hear him say "I'm the kind of writer that sweats the commas." He's inspired so many good things in my life that I never got to fully express while he was here. To his family, I'm truly sorry for your loss. And I know nothing i can say will ease the pain, but try to remember the good times while you grieve and cry. Lindsy, remember as you grow up to continue being a person he respects and would be proud to call his daughter. His love and commitment to you is something that I wish all men, all fathers, could have in this world. A truly great man has died, but he will live on in us and our memories. We must all continue living with his inspiration in our hearts.
MaryAnn Lasorsa
February 10, 2010
Dear Caffrey's,
Sending our love to your family in this time of great sorrow. Thinking about how precious life really is...
Tom, MaryAnn, Hannah and Luke Lasorsa
Shamard Charles
February 10, 2010
Mr. Ken Caffrey not only opened our (both faculty and students) worlds through writing but opened our eyes to social consciousness in all aspects of our lives. For this reason and more Ken touched the lives of hundreds, no thousands, wait... an infinite amount of people through his influence and dedication to having those around him strive to be better than they were before he met them. My condolences to Mr. Caffrey's family and daughter who were and still are his heart. Ken you will be missed but your influence will continue to affect the lives of many and live on.
Chris James
February 10, 2010
I am in shock over the sudden passing of Ken Caffrey.
He was literally the first professor I was ever exposed to at NYU, and I remember thinking: "Wow, are all college professors this animated and hyper?" Caffrey immediately made all of the students in our class rearrange the desks into a circle in order to create a more interactive and comfortable feel. He didn't want to be that traditional college professor that sits atop a perch at a distance, teaching with a degree of removal from the students themselves.
Caffrey was personally invested in each and every student he taught. He had an emotional connection to the students. He really cared. This is something that I have yet to experience since leaving his class in May of 2008. I was a student of Caffrey's from July of 2007 through May of 2008 — basically for three semesters. By the end of my time with Caffrey, I knew that I'd been extremely lucky to have the privilege of being taught by such a unique and dynamic person.
Caffrey truly did wear his heart on his sleeve. I mean, what other professor would come into class kicking into chairs and stomping around with a heartbreaking look on his face — literally on the verge of tears — after a Mets loss? But in all honesty, this character trait made him unique. It made him special.
I truly regret the fact that I never made the effort to keep in touch with Caffrey after he left NYU.
When I heard about his passing, I immediately thought of Caffrey's daughter. He talked about you ALL the time, and literally lit up every single time he mentioned your name (which was often). It was obvious to me and everyone that he loved you more than anything in his entire life. I just want to say I am so deeply sorry for your loss.
Rest in peace, Ken Caffrey. You will be missed, but your wise and oftentimes hilarious ideas and wisdom will live on in the hundreds of students and people you have touched during your life.
Ian P
February 10, 2010
Too many memories of Ken, on and off the ski run and Ultimate field, most of them funny, musical and loud. As genuine and unfiltered as a person can get, passionate about everything and everyone. RIP my friend.
molly pearson
February 10, 2010
We are so sorry for the loss of such an amazing person. Our deepest condolences to Ken's family. Ken was a co-worker at Patagonia as well as a good friend. We have so many great memories with Ken including camping, hiking & just good times. He will be truly missed. Our hearts go out to Lindsay who we are thinking of so much right now. You are very much in our thoughts & prayers.
Joanne Israel
February 10, 2010
RIP Professor Caffrey. He was both my writing & MAP teacher here at NYU when I first started in 2004. I remember how he kept us entertained and we learned so much from him. He would always tease me about patting my head all the time in class. He wanted us all to strive and would encourage us to learn as much as we can in every area. You will truly be missed. Your death has shocked us all.
Karie Ehrlich
February 10, 2010
Ken was one of the first people I met working at NYU and definitely the most memorable. While we didn't always see eye to eye on certain issues, there was never any doubt about his deep commitment to his students. He had a great sense of humor and even though we lost touch after I left NYU, I still find myself telling stories about our conversations and experiences as adjuncts. Whether it was his class walking into mine to issue an in person debating challenging or just walking around the park discussing how to best reach our students, he always continued to surprise me and challenge me to develop new ways of trying to teach. He touched and changed so many lives for the better, and I can only hope to continue on in his spirit.
My condolences go to his daughter and his family. He will be deeply missed by all who knew him.
JP Borum
February 10, 2010
My deepest condolences to the Caffrey family. Ken was brilliant, kind, and fearless. I loved teaching with him--he helped me so much!!!! He was deeply loved and admired by his students, to whom he was dedicated. His daughter was his life, and when he talked about her, his eyes lit up. I feel so lucky to have known him.
Cindy Encalada
February 10, 2010
Mr. Caffrey was my first professor, and as the first, the one who helped me open up through the process of writing and expressing myself. Being as great as he was, he inspired not only myself but many of my fellow classmates to dream high and helped us achieve the goals we have merited till today. To his daughter and loving family, my sincere and most heart warming condolences. Mr. Caffrey, may you always be in peace.
Jennifer Cariño
February 10, 2010
Such vivacity and energy. Always challenging and daring us to question, reach higher, settle for nothing. We all knew he was of a different strain despite being first year students. More than an educator- a guide, a mentor. A friend.
Those heated, at times discomforting, discussions during summer session and English classes forcing us to reconsider our conceptions of the world and ourselves. And Plato’s Allegory of the Cave with which you shed light into ours. These philosopher kings have taken the challenge.
Lobbying to ensure HEOP & CSTEP funding at NYU Albany Day and always encouraging us to be proactive about our education and rights (pocket constitutions included.)And equally important, starting the change with oneself- actions, attitude, compassion. Red, blue, green yellow prayer flags at your desk. In our hearts and actions you live on.
Alex Rosario
February 9, 2010
Oh, Caffrey. Where do I begin? I won't lie, when I first encountered you as a timid just graduated senior, you intimidated me. So loud! So intense! So full of life! So unlike any teacher I had ever had. A wonderful teacher, one who was so passionate about getting through to students. I will never forget you coaching me through reading my prose piece aloud for the Freshman Writing Contest. How was I supposed to know that I needed to mark where to stop and take a breath? How was I to know that I needed to read this piece aloud time and time again to not trip over words? Had it not been for you, sitting in front of me while I was practicing at the podium, I don't know how well I would have done on the day of the reading. Such a simple memory, pure, but his essence, his true spirit came through in such actions. I credit him with affirming my own passion of writing and to exploring different faiths. (I remember one day in class he told us he was a Buddhist...and I thought to myself, how funny for a small white man from Queens to be a Buddhist! I want to learn more about it!)
Nevertheless, Professor Caffrey will always hold a special place in my heart as one of my favorite teachers who was truly inspiring in what he did everyday. God bless him, and God bless his family.
Chris Rzonca
February 9, 2010
I got to know Ken through his work with the adjunct faculty union at NYU. He was as passionate about the union and the rights of adjunct professors as he was about everything else. It was a pleasure and a privilege to know and work with him. My condolences to his family.
Chris Rzonca, NYU Unit Chair, ACT-UAW, Local 7902
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