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Bonnie Bluh Obituary

BLUH--Bonnie, age 82, died suddenly in New York City on October 2, 2008. The cause was an aortic dissection. Noted Feminist Author, playwright, actor, teacher, lecturer and performer. Bluh's sharp, insightful nonfiction narrative of the emergence of the European feminist movement, "Woman to Woman" (1974), is a landmark account of the second wave of feminism and her book is used in classrooms across the world. Her popular, comic novel "Banana" (1976) is considered by some the first truly feminist novel ever to be published. Bluh (pronounced blue), as friends and family knew her, was brought up in Sunnyside Queens, had lived in cities from coast to coast as well as Israel and Spain, but always called New York City her home. Since 1985 Bluh had lived at the Westbeth Artists Community in the West Village. In a building filled with interesting artists of all stripes she was known as one of the more outgoing, colorful characters. She was as devoted to her family as she was to her writing. And she never stopped fighting for the great causes of her time. The world will be a poorer, paler place without her. Bluh is survived by her sons, Craig, Kenn, and Brian Lowy, Brian's wife Karen Ilardi-Lowy whom Bluh considered a daughter, two granddaughters, Allee and Mariah, and her devoted friend Mordechai. Instead of flowers please plant a tree in Israel with JNF (www.jnf.org/ trees) or make a donation in Bluh's name to ArtsConnection, 520 Eighth Avenue, Suite 321, New York, NY 10018.

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Published by New York Times from Oct. 7 to Oct. 8, 2008.

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Myra Klahr

November 1, 2008

a unique personality has left us. I feel confident that Mort, her sons and her grandchildren will keep her memory alive

Caryn Levinson

October 24, 2008

Deepest condolences to the entire Bluh family and extended families.

Robert Bluh

October 17, 2008

Dear Brian, Ken and Craig-
I am so sorry to hear about Aunt Bonnie. I wish I could be there to celebrate her life with all of you, however, I am in Maui with my Family. I will be thinking of all of you and your families during your Mothers celebration party.
God Bless all of you and your families,
Your Cousin,
Robert Bluh (and family)

Fern Merenstein

October 15, 2008

Brian, what a beautiful tribute to an incredible woman. My sincerest condolences to you and your family. ---Fern Merenstein

cathy baker

October 13, 2008

dear brian, ken and craig,
i am truly sorry for the loss of your mother, my aunt bonnie. i know how close you all were with her and i can only imagine your sorrow. we can only pray that she is with grammy looking down on us all with a smile.
hugs to all of you
cousin cathy in florida

Vanessa Teitelbaum

October 12, 2008

I remember Bluh fondly from the days that I swam with Kenn. I remember her cheering for Kenn during his solo swim around Manhattan from various points on the Island. She was also a great fan and never seemed to miss a performance. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Michele Mondello

October 9, 2008

Dear Brian, Karen and Family,

I want to extend my deepest condolences for your loss. Her amazing and interesting life has left a significant mark in history that will be remembered and admired for generations, and is cherished most by the ones who loved her.

Sincerely,
Michele

Joseph Surace

October 8, 2008

Dear Brian, Kenn, and Craig,

Heartfelt condolence...'Bluh' will be missed, needless to say.

Siew Tsay

October 8, 2008

Dear Prof Brian and family- I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. May you find peace and comfort in cherished memories of her.
With deepest Sympathy,
Siew H Tsay

Jack Hart

October 8, 2008

Although I never had the opportunity to meet Bonnie, I've seen the result of what being a great mother is in her son Kenn. My deepest sympathies go out to Kenn and his family and all who were close to Bonnie.

Judy Hurwitz

October 8, 2008

Dear Brian, Karen, and family,

I was saddened to hear of your loss. Losing a parent is hard at any time, but your mom seemed like such an amazing person, it would seem as though you lost a friend, too. I'm sorry I never had the chance to meet her, but you all are so blessed for having her in your lives.

May her memory be a blessing.

Myra Klahr

October 8, 2008

Dear Mordechai and members of Bonnie's family
I feel so sad that we are now deprived of the vibrant, funny, serious person you loved and cherished and who we came to know and admire. My wishes are with you

Helene Aylon

October 8, 2008

Dear Carig,
Was it two weeks ago when I was about to mail a grant proposal and your Mom who was with you saw me in the lobby suggested that I go to
the Post Office and insisted on asking you to concur with her suggestion?
I listened to her, as she always meant what she said, and her observations
came from a deep caring. I was always eager to hear her comments on the election
and her news of her wonderful family and her serious take on her own work.I'd get snippets when we crossed paths in the elevator or walking outside. (She always walked so fast!)
I will miss her vibrant , very real presence. My love and blessings to you
and your brothers. Helene Aylon

Katerina Delgado de Herrera

October 8, 2008

Dear Brian, Karen and family,
We are very sorry for your terrible loss. Your mom was one of the most amazing women in our time. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Love,
Steve, Katerina and Paula Herrera

Paige Covell

October 8, 2008

Brian, Karen, Allie, Mariah and other family... Your loss is felt over here on the left coast. A woman as dymanic as Bonnie is the kind who encourages her offspring to spread their wings to taste all life has to offer. Your lives and those of others lucky enough to know her have been enriched by her presence and influence. May the sands of time aid you in the acceptance of her passing.

Amy, Dan and Mia Kamensky

October 7, 2008

Dear Brian, Karen and Family,
We are so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Please send our condolences to your entire family.
With love,

Joel Blumenfeld

October 7, 2008

Brian: Your mom lives on through her children and grandchildren. May her memory always be for a blessing. Take comfort in the fact that she had lots of nachas from all of you. Honor her memory by acts of kindness, yet celebrate her fascinating life. Please extend condolences from Vicki and me to your entire family.

Claudia Chernoff

October 7, 2008

Brian, I was very sorry to hear of your mother's passing. She certainly led a very active and interesting life.
With Sincere Sympathy,
Claudia Chernoff
(one of your students)

Michelle and Josh Blumenfeld

October 7, 2008

Brian, Karen, and family,
We're so sorry to hear of the passing of such a talented and cultured person. May her memory be for a blessing.

Vanessa Merton

October 7, 2008

Plainly every moment of her life was richly, fully lived. Her contribution to this world continues through her works as well as through Brian, his brothers, and their familes. A reminder, too, to cherish each day that we are given.

Baruch Atah Adonai, Eloheynu Melech Ha'olam, She'hechayanu,
V'ki-emanu, V'hi-giyanu, La'zman, Ha-zeh.

May we all do as well. Peace and freedom,

Anna Boudakova

October 7, 2008

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

Lilian Bohorquez

October 7, 2008

I'm so sorry. She was an inspiration to me during my teens and treated me like family. I've always had and will continue to have fond memories of Bonnie.

Mordechai (Morton B.) Cohen

October 7, 2008

Bluh's life was a beacon of honesty, responsibility, accountability and humanity. She would not let issues slide and spoke up immediately, confronting some bur empathizing with others.
Her writing, while funny, struggled to resolve contentious issues between her characters...just as she did in her every day life!
My life was changed by knowing and loving her.

VICKIE SALZANO

October 7, 2008

Brian and family - what an interesting and talented mother. my sincere sympathies - her legend will live on in her works. Vickie Salzano ( a student of Brian's)

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