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MONSERRATE--Carey. The friends and family of Carey Monserrate are grieving for him, with love and sorrow. Carey was born in New York City on October 28, 1970, and died there on December 28, 2011. He grew up largely in Providence, Rhode Island, graduating from the Wheeler School in 1988, and then cum laude from Harvard, where he studied English and American Literature as a member of the class of 1992. He formed many close friendships in his school years-and everywhere he went-which endured throughout his life. Carey was a writer, editor, poet, and musician. He lived with an openness to the world and to the experiences of others: born Catholic, he considered himself culturally Jewish and spiritually Zen Buddhist. In Red Hook, Brooklyn, he was well known as a community activist, engaged with his neighbors on issues ranging from helicopter-noise pollution to economic justice; he was also the founding manager of the Red Hook Wobblies softball team. He would cook for friends and loved ones or gather them for expeditions to Chinatown restaurants, and talk with them for hours around the table. His conversation, like his correspondence and his kindness, could lighten their darkest moments. Carey took his own life. His mother, Rose Monserrate, mourns the loss of her beloved son. Carey is also survived by his paternal grandmother and a loving circle of uncles, aunts, cousins, and step- and half-siblings. A memorial in New York is being planned. In Carey's memory, donations may be made to Added Value, www.added-value.org, or to the Buddhist Peace Fellowship: www.bpf.org.

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Published by New York Times on Jan. 8, 2012.

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Andrew Carras

December 28, 2013

Two years gone today but not forgotten, only sorely missed and warmly remembered.

Nika Baby

July 4, 2013

I'm sorry Carey- I've thought about you so many times. I failed. I can't believe I was not there to mourn you. I'm sorry. I love you too.

December 28, 2012

Gone but not forgotten. RIP, my man. -AC

June 13, 2012

We worked together at a non profit in NYC. I am shocked and saddened to learn the news of his demise. I totally enjoyed knowing him, and remember him with fondness. Maxime (NYC)

Francesca

May 10, 2012

Carey ,il mio primo fantastico ragazzo,
la mia fantastica incredibile magica storia d'amore,
nessuno può' sognare una storia così bella, bellissima
a 17 anni.
Grazie , grazie grazie per essere stato il mio indimenticabile Amore!
mi manchi tantissimo, i miss you terribly, my first Love.
Why did i have to find this devastating news?
I know Carey had lots of friends , i'd love to be in contact with them. Love to Mamma Rose and Nonna.
Peace

Shirley Marshall (Thompson)

May 1, 2012

Condolences to Carey's family and friends from a college classmate.

Anonymous

April 6, 2012

There are no words to speak, no comfort to give or wisdom to express the loss of such an amazing soul. May we meet again and somehow acknowledge the time we shared here.

Marta Martinez

January 28, 2012

Carey my sweet cousin. If we could only turn back time. Your sweet smile, laugh will always be in my heart. As I see pictures and read all the comments from all your friends YOU WERE ONE SPECIAL YOUNG MAN, who was loved by MANY!!!!! I have not seen you in many years but I will always remember you. Love you Cuz!!!

Charles Swartz

January 26, 2012

Carey and I worked together about 10 years ago and he left a lasting impression on me. He was smart and witty and had a great sense of humor. One day when we went out for lunch together he was carrying a coat hanger - when we got to the restaurant he used it to hang up his coat. I thought this was both hilarious and dapper! We often played pool with our friend Ben and always had a great time.

I've thought of Carey often since his passing, often wondering if there was anything I could have done to help his pain, angry that he took his life away from us. I have not seen him in many years, but he's someone I will always remember fondly. I will miss him.

Ralph Monserrate

January 14, 2012

Carey my dear nephew was born the first son of my brother Frank, I was eleven years of age when he was born and
from that moment on
that beutiful baby became the pride and joy of our household, he became so attached to me thoughout his growing years that I couldnt even go out as a teen, on any given Saturday until we stayed up and watched SNL together! Then for the next week he had the ability to recant any one of the scetches verbatim, he could impersonate several of the players on the show, Steve Martin being his favorite! I mis him terribly his humor, his affectionate ways and most of all the sadness I feel that my little boy will never get to know him!

Carrie Laureno

January 10, 2012

I am totally heartbroken by this news, a worst nightmare I had hoped would never come to pass. My most sincere and heartfelt condolences go out to his Mom, his family and all his loved ones and friends. It is no exaggeration to say that Carey was one of the finest, most gifted people I ever had the privilege to meet, let alone call a true friend. Carey, you have always been one of my favorite people in the whole world - you knew that - and I will miss you terribly, always. Rest in peace knowing you are truly loved by so many.

Sarah Bryer

January 9, 2012

I worked with Carey years ago in New York City. I so appreciated his great sense of humor and his unique perspective that he brought to all of his work and projects. His passing is a great loss for us all.

January 9, 2012

My deep sympathy to Megan, and also to those in Carey Monserrate's family circle who did their best to hold close and hold up their extraordinary son/grandson/brother/cousin.

Todd Muller

January 9, 2012

I will miss Carey, who always had an ability to lighten burdens with his quick wit and astute humor - often with a poignant movie or song line. We worked together years ago, and I haven't seen him since then, but somehow always thought I would, and I looked forward to it. I guess it will have to be in my fond memories. Rest in peace, Comrade. Todd Muller (Iowa, NYC, Oakland, Parts Unknown)

My beloved, Carey. Love is eternal...

Megan Greenlee

January 8, 2012

Carey was my boyfriend last year and I was there with him through his final days of his life. I kissed him on his death bed and whispered love to him from all. He showed me the meaning of love and forgiveness. I only wish he had been able to forgive himself. He was more than a man and gave gifts to all from his heart and spirit unconditionally. He is in a place of peace and he will always be in my heart and soul and many others that loved him dearly. I love you forever, Carey.

Kevin Evans

January 8, 2012

I wish I could get more information on Mr. Monserrate as he sounds wonderful yet this is so tragic. Rest in Peace, Mr. Monserrate.

Gigi Guerra

January 8, 2012

Carey was an incredible person - I have many great memories exploring NYC with our group of friends in the post-collegiate years (he was always the ringleader, enthusiastically introducing us to new spots). My deepest sympathies are with his family.

Derek Sikes

January 8, 2012

I graduated from Wheeler in 1987 and remember Carey. I didn't know many in the class of 1988 but Carey had a wisdom and humor that stood out. He and I took Asian Philosophy together which might have been the start of both of our interests in Zen. I'm sorry to hear of his loss.

My beloved, Carey. Love Forever...

Megan Greenlee

January 8, 2012

Carey was my boyfriend last year and I was there with him through his final days of his life. I kissed him on his death bed and whispered love to him from all. He showed me the meaning of love and forgiveness. I only wish he had been able to forgive himself. He was more than a man and gave gifts to all from his heart and spirit unconditionally. He is in a place of peace and he will always be in my heart and soul and many others that loved him dearly. I love you forever, Carey.

Gabrielle Burton

January 8, 2012

Thinking of Carey and all those into whose life he brought light... I knew him from college and will organize a memorial for him at the reunion. My deepest sympathy to his mom and the rest of family.

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